₦airaland Forum

Sincere 9gerian: The unrelenting attacks on GEJ by some people is all about me, myself and my tribe. Nothing more. Bloody tribal bigots.

selflessmaya: [b]Oh please!! his contract should be terminated ASAP for this sh'it... Nigerian celebrities dont know what it means to be a celebrity, there are certain standards to be maintained and certain things to say and not to say. That's why you see them in interviews making fools of themselves and stuttering unnecessarily.. That's why you see the females marry and blow up like puff puff, they dont know that certain standard have been set by society for everyone and even more for them. ra'pe jokes are extremely offensive and demeaning more so if the person is not of the targeted gender.. if a black man calls a black man "ni'gger" it's overlooked but if a white man does it's very insulting. don't make jokes about stuff you can never go thru or understand.
This joke makes it seem like it's ok to ra'pe a girl if you've spent on her. this joke makes it seem like some women deserve to be ra'ped cos they have enjoyed the dude's money. as brand ambassador you represent the image your endorsers stand for... if glo is ok with this demeaning joke, i'm flinging my glo sim no time for non'sense. yeah, he apologised but he cant take back what he's tweeted, so naturally there should be consequences, so other celebs realize how closely watched they are by media and social networks. RA'PE JOKES ARE NEVER OK. [/b]

mizzyboy007: OMG!!! Why do nigerians always want people to fall because they have nothing for themselves? The sincere truth is that av seen dat joke before( not from basket mouth), but now basket mouth said it...badbelle people have started looking for glo to terminate his contrat. This world is cold men!!! People are so wicked!!! Please be happy for someone that is successful abeg....HABA!!!

Etumgbe: You want me to 'GO AND DIE' there.

RoyPCain: @sunshine; your indecision shows your lack of logic. tell me which tribe in nigeria that allows a wife to have more than 1 husband. i will easily tell you no authentic african tribe frowns on a husband having more than 1 wife. abeg, park well into the bush.

RoyPCain: ^ so you ladies have not seen co wives who are like sisters? and their children are like children of each co wife?

i come such a home. and i have seen many in america.

and those who called their husbands dogs, wow is what i say.


you women are so selfish that you do not want the good that you have for your sister in womanhood.

tintingz: If you don't have any reasonable thing to post here kindly STFU

To your own biased thinking 'all' monogamous home are all in good state?

Baby mama: That was your first post
I was about to respond and offer my advice until you hit me with this


U
Then I am thinking,there is still some hope here
When I read




And just before I was fully recovered from the first posts you said this



And also



And then about your co wife you said


Then back to the situation you said



Then as I was getting a good grasp of the situation I said hmm
A Muslim woman with two kids for a tribalist polygamist who controls her every move including her associations with family members on the phone.
A man who gets angry ,with violent tendencies and doesn't care reconciling since there is a spare wife around
A man she knows in her heart she ought to leave
what did this wife say


Maybe I don't know the definition of good
Everything you described here is far from good my dear
Read the highlights
You better wake up
This time next year there could be two other wives
If you think it is hot now,wait till then
There is no advice anyone can give you regarding being happy in a polygamous home
You can never be happy married to a man that you will be lying in bed and hearing moans from your fellow woman across the hallway
No woman born of a woman would tell me she enjoys that
There is no incentive whatsoever for this man to be good to you
He doesn't miss you when you have a disagreement
There is a readily available alternative right under your roof
If he doesn't eat your food,he will eat hers
If both of you are in the dog house,he goes outside to the potential 3rd wife
A polygamous man can never be committed to you and can never be faithful
You can't demand or have all of him,bits of him are everywhere,
The mere fact that he couldn't stick with you as his one and only speaks of his unfaithfulness and lack of commitment
He is allowed to play you all,if he couldn't he will stick with you and work things out with you.
You have two and half options

1. Either stay and collect the little attention he gives you and spend 12 hours of your day begging for love like an Almajiri begging for alms

Or

2. You insist that you want to find you a proper job starting with going for NYSC

Or

2.5 get you a little "undercover lover" to "tidy sequences" when he is doing inyanga ( this is me speaking without the Holy Spirit)

No 2 advice is because ,when or if he meets your demand and divorces you ,he may also repossess the so called business he opened for you
So whatever you have with his name on it,is still his including the roof over your head.
He will keep the children and they will become boi boi for the other wives or you get custody but no money to take care of you or them. Islam may permit polygamy,it doesn't mandate polygamy so any man that tells you he is doing it because Islam permits him is using it as a cop out for his infidelity.

ileobatojo: When he fights you, he goes to her, when he fights her, he comes to you.

I'm having a hard time seeing the problem here.

When you fight, apologize once. Then start to plan how to occupy yourself for the next week till he comes around. Spa days, fun outings with the kids, girls night out, visit family etc.

Abi na wetin?

Les: he is right, I have a high libido but been celibate for long, on September during my birthday, I wanted to have that fun, the lady insisted on no. Condoms we should go raw, I refused and up till now, I'm,celibate. To say the pains from blue balls would have made me change my mind but it didn't. It's about mental orientation. Trust me, a naked girl don't excite me despite being celibate. It's all about mental orientation.

Mr Aboki: Men can do without sex... Dont be decieved.

Sex for most men is more of a thing of conquest and pride..

Infact, I am very guilty.. The sex is not what excites me, its the thrill of the chase and basking in the euphoria of my conquest..


Women on the other hand, actually enjoy the sex more.. Thats why na una dey display pass, shout pass and when una reach final bus stop, una go start to behave like who T.B Joshua dey commot evil spirit for ehn body


#Dr. Aboki said so..

Adaeze003: Hope girls can see this! We need to wise up and take responsibility for our bodies! Your body is yours until you're married so take care of it and do what is best for YOU. Yep, be selfish! Guys don't care even if you die in the process.

Paroman: U claim Obi has spent 8 years in office without doing anything, yet u spent 9 years with your girlfriend without marrying her(That is relatively more than two tenures in her 'political office'). Na God go judge u ooo.

A.jeez:
Nothing.
the only thing close enough would be driving a ferari above 80km/hr on a carlifonian interstate road close to the beach with the hatch open and you can feel the ocean breeze on your skin, and then right on the passenger seat is a beautiful blonde with the hair of that danish prime minister( dat got obama flirting), and the face of beyonce and with the body of kim kardashian, and you know in a few minutes time, you gonna be humping her

MarvellousGod: Soooo many things jare, why is sex so overrated sef
BEING AT PEACE WITH GOD
REST OF MIND
HAPPINESS
READING INTERESTING BOOKS
STAYING/GOING OUT WITH LOVED ONES
MONEY
PEACE
HAPPY FAMILY
CHICKEN/SUYA WITH HOLLANDIAN YOUGHURT/SMIRNOFF
WATCHING MOVIES/PLAYING GAMES
NICE FOOD
SLEEP
PARTIES
Eeeeeettttttccccc....I can go on and on..stop giving unnecessary attention to sex

Blackeard: Yup he asked for the things that are more "enjoyable" than sex. Tell me, have u ever slept on a water bed? No?..have u ever received a credit alert on ur mobile fone "One million has been paid into ur account? Yh?..have u ever, ever eaten a delicacy so nice u wished u were food? No? I tell u, things things are more enjoyable than sex

marleymcintosh: After the break up, she lied to our friends that I was Gay.

crackhaus: The answer to the question in bold is Yes!
Sex is over-rated, just as money is over-rated, just as falling in love is over-rated, just as death is over-rated...

I could go on and on about things that seem over-rated...
But it still won't change the fact that what men desire most out of a woman is sex, and what women desire most out of a man is protection & comfort.

They know it, we know it...and we all have found a way to co-exist with these truths.

blackprowler: You have made an unforgivable mistake. If Nigerian girls could be like Western girls, you will be in paradise here. When you talk prenups, I see YOU watch TV too much. It exists with SOME celebrities, virtually unknown in the real world. I've lived there and I follow their forums very well, not this yeye nairaland contributors (not all, but most)

bigfree: okay@op well done. I know someone that is not too good-looking, infact an average joe, but he manages to score with hot chicks. Why is that so? I have come to understand that points of attraction women look out for are hard to rationalize, they are aesthetic like a mona lisa painting. You ask your self sometimes, why is she with that guy? You don't understand. Ask her, why do you love that guy? She doesn't really know
attraction for women is embedded in the irrational or intuitive part of the brain which has been passed from mother to daughter for generations. That is the selection of the most suitable male mate with. I don't women go about with a checklist in their purse to select a male. If she digs you, she digs you.

Jensen_elizz: op imagine ur self dey eat beans and chicken lap for christmas



Lmao, beans & chicken lap

@mr olodo see ur versace singlet

ebenezer4o2: GEJ should be very benevolent else if he tries any shi.t with OBJ,then,we shall all revolt against him and make this govt ungovernable...u all know what dat means?

crackhaus: @bolded, our mentality is totally different from a woman's. A man can have a sexxual relationship with a 50yr old woman if she's still sexually attractive and really hot in bed, not because of money but just because of the sex...that's how we are.

This is not how a normal girl's mind works, the intelligent ones always try to weigh the benefits of a sexxual relationship; is she doing it for love, cash, emotional support, long term/short term benefits, mere attraction, or a sense of fulfillment.
This is what I meant, and I perfectly understood why you were asking.

sincerenigerian: Then Ibos should be happy with OBJ because Muritala killed many Ibos during the war. The last time I checked, Ibos hate Muritala. Someone has to question the sudden love of Ibos for Muritala. Ibos should never be taken serious.