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Guys telling the truth in a relationship matters a lot although many of us respond differently.

@ temi 4 reaL

First of all, are you a virgin? If you are not, you don't need to be educated about the implications.

@ zaragoza

cus of AB, What I am saying is that dishonesty almost caused the destruction of another man's life and house.
Dishonesty will never do a nation any good.

In that case, everyone should be careful.
Live free and die free.

Common guys, during the days of great revivals where were the atheists? Today, the atheists have more powerful voices and shouldn't we consider the reason why?

Yes the atheists are bad, but the majorities of the Christians appear to be much worse.

@ *** , have you forgotten the ‘No, she is my sister’ saga of our revered Abraham and Isaac his son? Some people will counter that in the case of AB, he did not lie but told half truth. But then, he imlied lied becos he DECEIVED the king into believing that Sarah was NOT his wife. ***

Yes AB did not tell the entire truth, but you did not finish the story.
Result of Abraham's lies in Genesis - "And God said unto him (the king) in a dream by night, and said him, behold, thou art but a dead man, for the woman which thou has Taken; for she is a man's wife. , 7. Now therefore restore the man his wife; , if thou restore her not, know thou that thou shalt surely die, thou, and all that are thine."

@*** Apostle Peter in which the church was built lied not only once or twice but three good times. He still went ahead to become chief of the apostles.***
You better provide the proof.

@*** Assuming I am in Bauchi and there is once again religious riots I am surrounded my hoodlums wielding petrol, clubs, machete and dagger. If I were asked if I am a Christian or muslim. Of course, I will say I am a muslim. Am I being a coward? No. Am I truthful? Of course not. I am being wise. Joy to the wise. Joy to me. I refuse to be foolish ***
No wonder Nigeria is just a religious country in word and not in deeds. We need to take a lessons from most non religious pple. Whether you like it or not, dishonesty is still dishonesty.

By the way, it is not what you taught your children that they responds to, but they are more influenced by subconscious stuff and by other things inside your own very heart.
Until you and I are ready to change, we should altogether forget about Nigeria becoming a better nation.

@ a modern christian man ---

So what is so special about it?

So what kind of guys are you gals dating presently or perhaps in the past that fitted the descriptions?
I should assume that the word "Bastard" is the extreme case, cus what is bad for A may be good for B.

Nevertheless, I think some of these so called bastards have a better sweet sides that some ladies can not resist. No one wants a dull guy/gal.

@ poster
No justification or else you go see trouble from the boys o. Go find your own omoge.

Well if she is playing hard to get, I can go two ways - be a player, or just ignore her.

But to a lover THAT i will invest my time in, will certainly observed her true nature.

Isn't it natural anymore for females to know everything about families b4 getting married?
What if she is a single mother, would she still eat outside all the time with the infant?

@ poster But what is your own opinion on the issue?

if the promises is for male child only (coming from bible point of view), females like Esther, Mary, and many others would not be heard off.
I think everyone has their parts to play in the program of God. Male or female, children na be children.

Logic dictates that correct marriage is between two pple with complete mutual interests:  I love her and she loves me too.

So ladies, what gives?

soulamanne, I hope your gf has her own mind.
I think many pple do not understand the reason behind being a virgin b4 marriage (to the right person).
There are psychological and spiritual implications.

Regardless, some typical 9ja parents will still be snobbish and this is very common in 9ja.

Parents should be more concerned about finding the right person rather than what is right on top of their noses.
A long time ago, great dreamers were called mad men/women cus they talk of things yet to come which they eventually achieved. Parents should never talked down anyone, it is outright wrong, but suggestions with reasons would help.

HeatFusion, why are you always so intense with your answers coupled with insults. I noticed that you and some other females that are dearly closed to you in this nairaland uses the same approach. Is that just your style of communication or there is something else, please educate me!

@ poster

Common my man, if she is older than you and she is all that - who cares. Even if her family jumps up and down doing chris-cross, as much she is into you be happy about it.
Yeah, make una dey tell each other the truth.

@ poster

Don't prolong the matter at all.  
It is time to confront him with all the truth,
confirm it all (look away from crocodile tears or stupid lies),
pour out your mind about the entire situation (leave nothing behind),
& it is time to move on without any regrets or remorse.

@--- hey,guess wat i am in the same situation right nw,if not worse,my girlfriend got a word in church dat i am truely her future husband,she belives so much dat we cant give birth to SS ---

She got the word from someone in church or from God himself? What about you, where do you get your word from? Well if both got the word from God with all sincerity without any self deceptions, well go for it. But you should remember that Moses did not take it easy when it comes to going back to Egypt - God magnificently assured him.

To be or not to be, that is the question!

***Honesty and transparency are regularly touted as cardinal principles but never practiced in Ngeria ***

I think we can see where the problem stem from - Us - based on our responses we have offered so far.
Well if we want Nigeria to change, we the pple better start such things as honesty otherwise, you know the rest.

Plant honesty - harvest peaceful nation.

Listen yall, it will be nice if we can all stay away from insulting one another for a while, who knows any of us here might be related.

On the other hand, back to the issue at hand - Sapphic and Poster, why did yall decides to become lesbians? I knew of one female that says she was never ask out by any guys while in school (maybe she was ugly then). But at the time of the interview, she was wow and amazingly gorgeous (face, front, back, with a pleasing xter) and the girl-lover was a very big somewhat ugly female. So what is your story(s)?

@ poster

bra, you have your answer already. Next thing is implementation.
Hope you will come back and tell us what happened. Good luck!

I confesses that I might not be able to recognise a good woman either. i go blame my testosterone .

I totally disagree with you! Why? Because it's common, it's about time we erase that perception or stereotyped idea off our brains. I have a lot of male friends, cus am attracted to great brains (intellectuals), i learn something good from such people. Besides life is not only about sex / romance, there's a lot to it that just that! Once you respect yourself, principled, set of rules for ya life, u know when to do this n with whom u do it. . . not all opposits attract!

Correct, this perception needs to be erased. We can all be friends without engaging in immoral thoughts.
But dawn it, if she is fine and all that - omo okurin will be omo jo.

See, this is another reason why most women will always choose the wrong man. It is not the beginning that matters but the end.
A man that is rich today can become poor within days, months, years - likewise a poor man can become rich (time and chance happens to all).

Na curse be that?? No be curse o, but a fact that hurts. I personally wish above all things that some of the women I have met have a very good husband but they just don't.

< A yoruba proverb says "Aya alailowo di Aya alaya" The wife of a broke man is someone else's wife. >


This is a description of a wife and not a "good wife". A good wife is not something you pick from anywhere - including the church.

nah, no be that kind book me dey talk about.

There are other info - well groomed and well defined info that will help some guys out.
It is not about messing around either but gives you insight to how some of yall ladies dey do yanga. Besides, many so called good girls carry around the "I want good guy mentality", but their actions sought out for the baddest of guys.

Whatever the case is anyway, guys still need to understand women to flow with them.
Lastly, some of yall ladies will never be able to identify a good man when he is right before your nose.