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<Actually i'd over look a guy i met in a club four nights in a row doesn't he have a life.>

I think this guy is the same as you.

Anyway, from religious or non religious point of view finding a good wife is no joke o.  You can always find a wife, but a good wife - na God's gift to men.

be safe!

Seriously, I am not trying to bash the women but I go tell my version of this issue.

Some of us guys adopted the players rules after many of these ladies treated us like shit. So, wetin man go do.
And it worked so well; but then, please use these rules to boost your egos, approach, understanding of some women, and lastly teach the females in your lives how to recognized good men.

Well said Doc.

<Ask any woman her ideal kind of man,and her response will almost inevitably include a man who is nice and gentle towards her.Yet you can't help but notice that women are attracted to men who treat them badly.It seems that the more rough you are with women the more your are likely to get laid.If you are nice,you heven't got a chance in hell.>

Some men do not appear to be bastards or whatever from the beginning.

The girls-ladies-women: they want the most popular guy, very very handsome, very tall, built and handsome, very rich, a baller,
if a guy has a fine girl, other girls what da same guy, lousy guy, talk of the town guy, guy wey don baller all the girls, smooth mouth guy, sexy and irresponsible guy (hoping to change him later). In short, the more popular a guy is the more he is wanted by many girls - they just want to be with you.

Why - b/c many women want to look good publicly.
Least I forget, the influences of some mothers (with all sincerity, they want them to have a good home).
Sometimes, cus of sentimental reasons & up/down emotions.
And other times, only God knows what is going on in the head of some these ladies.

@ poster

For her own sake, hopefully she is a true virgin cus she will be so hated if after marriage she appears to be not.
On the other hand, you are not really interested in the girl nor settling down with her - you are after tiwatiwa only.
Make you jawo ni be and turn a new leaf.

Anyway, I agree that individual responsibility is very important. But you know how nijas are, as one person is pulling it up, you have hundreds of hands pulling it down - It is very frustrating.

Then you are part of those few. But most females are still influenced directly or indirectly.

Yall like to look good in the eyes of other females.

<If your friend's wife comes to you as the husband's best friend to actually confirm if her husband cheats on her, peradventure she has been hearing the rumour but just wanted to confirm from you as the husband's right hand man What would you tell her? putting in mind that if you tell her the truth outrightly(i.e being honest) you might end up breaking up thier home and remember that you shouldnt put as under what god has joined together. In this kind of scenario i strongly suggest that you desist from telling her the truth instead you should go and caution your friend, but you would end up being dishonest by lying to her. Please follow nairalanders whats your take on this one. >

Honesty is still the best policy. But telling on others is called snitching. Honesty does not require you to confess on behalf of other pple.
But to be honest about your own actions or deeds is very important cus nature will still reveal the hidden stuff anyway.

This isn't generalization, I think we should all give ourselves opportunities to find out some whys.
Tell me, do yall ladies not often chose a guy based on the influences of ya pack of friends?

Only few females go out of their ways and choose a man without any consultation from their friends. Proof me wrong please!

Your reflections on things plus your recent response indeed revealed that all you got is mouth. Tell me, what has insulting words got to do with this issue.

Yes, you are just looking for a way to talk down Christianity and spark unnecessary argument. good luck!

@ poster

Word! It is one of the discovery I found out in my own research, women are terrible at making the right choices when it comes to men.
Some women who are sincere even wrote about it that yall ladies like rough guys and hope to change him later in the future.

Result of my research,
One of the major reason is the influence of their friends, most females hardly stand firm on their personal decisions without the contributions of their female gangs.

< i have told my fiancee a million times that the day i find out you screwing with another woman, no matter how long we have been married, that is the end. I wish all the married folks in here a very happy married life.
Cheerio. >

What if you are caught cheating or flirting with another man/woman?

Further opinion
Whatever the cases are, I observed from my little research that women generally makes hell of wrong decisions when it comes to choosing a man.  Most women ended up with the man of their choice (choices based on emotions, feelings, sight, untamed desires, and what have you!) rather than with the right man. 

Men - we make wrong decisions too but they are quite different from the way females view things.

It is public enough but with some privacy and freedom. When you bring a story here, you can analyze pples reaction easily.
The information gathered should be enough to help the bearer table the issue wisely before the real people.

Eni to ba mo pe ohun ma ku will probably prepare before the real death comes.

@ poster

Dating or Settling down with a woman who still has a living husband is a big no no.

Dating or Settling down with a young woman with three children or more for one or two guys already is another big no no.

But with a young woman who has one child and was never married - possible consideration.

@ Omolola

I think this is the best testing ground for any story before giving it to the general public.

@ poster

The insults on nairaland are very mild as compared to other real-time chatting sites like Yahoo, AOL, and others.
Moreover, something is true about Nigerians, we have a particular style of communication that appears different in the sight of others - Americans do, British people do.
My observation in Nairaland:
There are three - four particular females that likes to insult pple with regards to written / spoken english on nairaland.com.
To these females, their mode of insult is "you dont know how to speak/write good english".   Maybe there are some guys like that too (that must be their habitual way of chatting).


It is all about style.

<If am correct, according to the bible these people are created that way and there's nothing anyone can do to change their sexual orientation.>

You are completely and automatically incorrect about above statement.  Which bible did you get that from - You better read the book of Romans, Chapter one again.

Please eyin eniyanmi, make we no sleep under the house with fire.  Gay or 14 years old getting pregnant, bad thing na bad thing o. 
The moment we start giving excuses, we are in for big and uncontrollable trouble.  Abi, you want a gay male teacher dey teach your pikin for school mathematis + wetin you carry under your sokoto (or female gay teacher dey help your daughter message her bottom)?

God forbid bad thing!

intended not to be bashful, I can infer from you answer the reason behind your post - just personal thing.

So you are single, so what happened to your last relationship?

@ poster

I believed that your view will be very different if you are under the influence of poverty somewhere there in Africa.

Who is supposed to make provision to clean the environment, government or the pple. Since the pple in power refuses to do anything, what do you expect the commoners to do?

Would you lay down your life for the pple in Africa by forcing the governments do what they are appointed for?

no worry, everyone get the jitters and cold feet. Just make sure u two love each other true true.

@ poster

I wonder what you guys would teach your children with regards to the difference between right and wrong, absolute and relative truth.

And yet we complain that some of the younger ones are mindless.

ok let us forget it, just offer your opinion. U cool?

do away with the insult, no hard feeling was taken in the first place.

Just trying to offer something for the benefit of the poster and other readers.

The poster is about 10 Signs She's Not Interested In You.

True, it applies to all sexes (male / female): by observing body languages you can quickly determine where the heart is.

Igbo mumu  = smoking ganja

In that case, nija pple better pray hard hard cus the country should not allow this disease that is vastly destroying America, India, Asia, and Europe.

N besides, the nija we dey for abroad should not bring the disease back home to affect other children.

Well you need to observe your pupils (motions) again, especially when you react to different situations maybe you will learn one or two things.

By the way, we are referring to females, and such that are not into igbo mumu.

@ poster

Let him know that you like him. If he does not respond with mutual feelings, forget him and move on to better things.
But don't force yourself on him.

@ poster

Just as one of the writes said, you are a bit selfish about this issue.

I think you need to stay away from dating anyone for now cus you have issue to deal with and that issue is YOU. What do you want in a man - do you know?
Deal with yourself first, and settle any issues therein.

After that, you should have a better view of things.

The dream you had was not a sign but the imagination of your subconscious mind.