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@ Poster, You have missed the whole point of the suggestions we dey give una.

Just cus u got a good vibe does not answer the questions that led you hear. Maybe the good vibe could be to your advantage, well table the matter to him and let us know his response.

Am not satisfied with just a VIBE!

Kai Nwaka77 (f), u dey too edgy o. The guy want serious answer and you have him too serious answers.

@ Poster, oya tell us wetin u want in a good wife to be?

@ Poster

a Hot unforgettable sizzling sex-love, all day all night. Don't forget to pickup red bull and viagra for store!

@ vivaladiva

what are ya experience wiv yanshing everyday - yan us nau!

@ Poster

Omo, why u dey fear nau. Abi u wan wait till you see one fast pace bobo dey examine ya gf mouth with her tongue?
What is difficult in sending her a small note saying "I love you but just don't know how to say it - but i love you baby with all ma heart"?

Ok i don write am for you, copy and paste and wait for her response. Well what are you waiting for?

To be an idiot and get a peace of mind that will allows you to move on is better than wasting time wondering whether the fish you caught is dead or alive!
Communication is the order of the day, use it however it suits you but have such conversation with him that will shed light on the issue.
Only Immature boys and girls looks at their admires and call them stupid instead of walking on the moon.

fear = false experience appearing real - go ask him first and if the guy no wan like you, come back to nairaland and u go find fine bobo kiakia!

" Explain to her that a guy cannot have intimacy every single day of his life. Its really bad for the health. Some sendiments of your spermatozoa comes from your knee and albow joints. The more you do it, the more your bones weakens. I have a friend who does it everyday. he is only 28 and he now looks like 50 years old! "


I beg una, na where u get this info from and na from which medical journal - I wan read am too

Well that is an amazing story Eyah, moreover it would be much nicer for POSTER-GUY will find out if this girl is really concern about the age thing or some other factors are making the relationship go sour. Bobo, oya make u go find the truth of the matter - age or wetin?

Bobo @ poster, oya now answer Gabry (f) questions! Come since you got tested and cured for "wetin u call am-std", u don tell ya girl to go and get tested too?
Well make you answer and we go yan u more thereafter!

Ju-baby, i think say you should have ya bf introduce you to dis girl and then u can become her adviser.
Make you win back ya bf wisely - let me explain the game to play here.
Make up a story, and come home and tell your bf of a male friend that has an issue too.
Discuss that issue with ya bf and keep the game real like there is real male friend that constantly discuss with you and you are advising her.
Also leave suddenly one day while in the middle of a conversation with your bf, tell him you had to meet with ya friend about this discussion you told him about.
Ok, while doing these things, observe ya boyfriend's behavior. If he is smart enof and still interested, he will soon forget about the other girl and pay much attention to ya new behaviors.

@ I have a similar experience, Im 10 yrs older than my BF though I look younger than my age. The age gap is always the reason why I wanted to break out from the relationship. I always feel so insecure though my guy keeps on telling me that he truly loves me no matter what and he don't mind about the age issue.


Please make u tell us if you don marry dat ya bf or or still dating that ya bf.

@ Rosie

Maybe u need to borrow western world sets of mind at this point in time - dat is, you should find an opportunity to be alone with him and have a hearty talk.
A man only die once - why waste ya time guessing - playing ping pong? See, if u keep asking nairaland pple we go give you different tory, but u want the answers from the horse mouth - girl u are wasting precious moments! GO ASK HIM!

@ Poster
Kongratulation about ya duplex but u want to keep such info to yaself. And man mi, i think u need to observe ya girl from distant. Meaning you need to understand your girl's manner of conversing. See, if you will give yaself sometime and listen to her, watch her while talking to other pple (her characters too), such observation will let you in to the ques u need to know if she is faking it and when she is pulling your leg. So mr loverman, you get some work to do cus right now - you may never know if she don do quick one with the guy or no except u deliciously presented the issues to her without accusing her. Or tell her that you might be spending a night with an old girlfriend of yours (or just any female friend) and see wetin she go say.

So now, breath in and out and relax - time to play inspector gadget.

- i think u should use style style find out wetin she appreciates to see pple give girls during such occasions and what she personally appreciates.
Then if u can afford it without much wahala, get it for her but if ya want to cut ya coat according to the materials, then get her something close and worth appreciating.

No biggy!

@ Abeg o naira landers, is it ok 4 gal 2 ve intimacy wit her guy or spend a weekend wit him b4 marrage? Wat age should der be between d both of u? For how long ar u suppose to ve a relatnship/courtship wit your man before marrage?

Ma view:
Normally it is not right to hve any intimacy b4 marriage for several reasonable and logical reasons.
1. Your relationships may not work out
2. If you bang her/him b4 marriage, such don become a used package
3. You would not want anyone to bang your wife to be or husband to be b4 u actually get am
4. What if she get belle and u two broke up b4 the wedding
5. What if she/he get some kind of KONK diseases
6. you can fabricates other reasons as u like.

As per courtship, it should be between 6 mons to several years. But the shorter the better with reasonable plannings.

@ Poster.

Man mi, please hold on to your love for now and evaluate the situation well well. From a playa point of view, you should have slept with the girl. Not sleeping with her when u get dem chance don make u look like mumu. From a serious guys point of view, the girl dey give you wayo excuse. Pull back from her and from ya love and see what happens to her!

Which kind love blinds a man or woman to make u wan take up another man's or woman's property. She should evaluate the love once more cus today is sweet and what about tomorrow?

Thanks for the suggestion, I will pass.

In any case patience with one another is what we all need.
And time does the rest.

True dat, never wrong to have desires and traits that you wanted. But the big answer is that such traits are found in unusual men.
You are well aware of the saying that white pap or eeko is from the black pot. A rose is surrounded by thorns, and if you break the coconut, you get to drink the juice inside.
Once more, all I am saying are that the traits most women are searching for are usually hidden and found in unusual men.

well emphasized kachiside.

No be you make her sick, why worry about paying evil for evil.
oK, just send a get well card and be done with it.

@ poster and other comments

It is very interesting and intriguing to observe you and I on our conquest to find the right one.  
As one of the finest man on earth  , I ironically observed many women that were looking for one guy or the other and I am ashamed to say that majority of them were all blind.  They were blind cus they put out fancy words about the kind of men they wanted (wind chasers are they I say).  And when these men appears before them, not necessarily in the way they expected, they freaked out and cut them off.  Yet they kept complaining - where are my dogs at?  
To those women who are looking for significant fellow, would you be able to recognize such if he is standing in front of you?  I can bet you all the money in this world that the answer is cheesy - NO you can't.

Look conversation online does not necessarily reveals what some pple are in the real world.  Just exchanging emails with a stranger does not even reveals their true potentials or persons.  Online is just another means to let go of the steam without any restrictions or baggage.  You want to find good guys who are ready for marriage - are you ready yourself?  Do you know the kind of guys you want, or do you know your own persons?  Do you know the qualities that good guys are looking for in a female?  By the way, good guys come in different shapes and sizes, but one thing is true about them all - they are sincere, faithful, committed, some are shy, some are introvert, men of principles, some appears weak and hopeless, they don't fork around, and many more.  But these good guys are the pillars of the world!  

I bet you many gals most have rejected President Obama before he eventually finds Michelle.  What about Bill Gates, Steve Job, Even Tupac was rejected by most gals cus he was nothing from the beginning.  So you women out there that are looking for good men, yall be good first, and then learn how to identify a good marriageable men.  

if you think I am unrealistic,  look back at your female friends,  female relatives and siblings, and the society at large and picture me saying to find a good guys who are ready for marriage be true to yaself!

@ poster

I feel your pain man, and I feel the pain of the gal too if she is sincere with herself (if she is not secretly banging somewhere)
For having a body like hers according to your description, wow, the blood will be rushing to you know what of a man - what a rush!
But you know that she too will be going about with a burden cus most men will not want HER but her-body.

But if you really loved her, bring your love to the front and the passion will subside.
And she will give you the pie at her own time or when she is honey!
One other thing, tell her to cover up when she is with you cus a man responds to sightseeing.

Ojuelegba visa nko?

True dat Igwe, but the parties have to be sincere they are not in any shady stuff at the side.

Dude, except you are gifted with abilities to not be moved by sensual female, don't say sex is nothing.
It is marvelously sweeeeeeeeet!

@ poster:

True Love can never die; moreover, we often give the real love to the wrong person.
But a complete true love exists between two people, but incomplete love is the love that one has for another without any reciprocation.

Yeah, I know what true love is,
Love, what should I say about you?
That you flow from the heart that never dies,
that you nourishes yourself with the heartbeat of another,
that you cry day and night with unfulfilled expectations,
Love, how often you moved mountains on behalf of your beloved,
I saw you once walked through the river of fire to bring your beloved the finest wine in the lad,
remember last night love, as you drench yourself with the imagination of your lover's bosom,
Yes, I remember that love told me it is not about sex,
but the melding together of two hearts beats, that beats together with the tick of a second,
I am not blind she said, for I know all there is to know about my lover,
only that I love my lover unconditionally,
but love, what if you lover refuses you,
I continue to love till another finds me and complete my being!

By Taken - the loverman (copyrighted 09).

Cool, keep it that way. Your friends sure want you to become like them.

@ poster?

check your intentions!