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MLS12: Am married(Got married last year) buh I dnt just like puttn on my weddin ring cos I normally dnt like anytin jewelries .I can only manage ear rings.my hubby always puts his ring on,and has not really complained abt my ring absence,buh my sister inlaw won't let me be.she tinks am cheatn,and am sure other pple might tink dat way,hw do I convince dem,as my hubby's trust 4me is so high.

tnk God ur hubby trust u n understands,but my advice is dat u learn to wear ur ring so ur sis inlaw dosnt poison ur hubby mind into beleiving y myt b cheating on him or u want to cheat on him. I wear my own rings 24/7 so i dont forget to wear it out. U could try dat so u can get used to it.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]OP go get pregnant from another man. . . it worked well for this This Poster

According to some of the posters on that thread, it is okay to have a baby with someone who isn't you spouse, especially if you have waited for a long time. Oh don't worry if you husband comes here to complain, he will be told it is his fault for neglecting his husbandly duties. We will even tell him he is lucky you are not bringing the new baby daddy home to live with you people. Of course we won't forget the obligatory prayer and fasting to solve your problem replies.

Best of Luck!![/quote]OMG dis is crazy n ad better be a joke pls.

chaircover: A 46 year old shouldn't have problems having and holding an erecttion.

What you need is a full medical workout. Your descision on whether to stay or leave is based on his inability to make love and get you pregnant. I note that you are happy with the other aspects of your relationship and understadably wary of just walking out just like that.Therefore you need to make an informed decision. You need all the facts and all the options available to you regarding this issue before making any decisions.

Sit him down and tell him exactly what you have told us here. Tell him that you love him but you cant give him your best if you are so unfulfilled. Tell him that you intend to stand by him, but only if he makes the effort to do something about the situation. Tell him that he has to trust you and co-operate with you. From the little I know about men, their sexuall prowess is what makes them beat their chests and say I am a man, so it must be very difficult or your husband but he cant continue to bury his head in the sand and you both have to be proactive in getting him the help that he needs/fertility treatment etc

very gud advice ma.

jennykadry: Rokiatu

I am not God that gives children but my advise will be one of you finish school, get a good job and then start a family my reasons are as follows

1. Financially it might be too hard for you both seeing that he works part time.
2. You will have to stop working and stay home until that baby is old enough to start school or you pay for daycare which is like a 100 dollars per day here in western australia, I don't know about sydney.
3. My husband could afford taking care of me, so I did not have qualms conceiving whilst in school BUT he was very supportive especially during my exams, at some point he had to take the baby and they spent a night in a hotel just to allow me study.
4. You might miss a few semesters if you are not getting enough support.
5. The reason why I asked where you both live is to know if you both pay your rent or live with a family member, renting in australia is expensive can you both handle that?
6. Huggies nappy cost heaps and I am seriously telling you both that you have to be ready for that.
7. One of you need to be done with school atleast and have a good job, I know how much pharmacist assistants get per hour hence my point. A good career earning job gives so much security
8. I know if you are a PR or citizen center link helps very well for low income earners, so maybe you guys might be able to get by financially.

If he wants kids, he needs to be sure of himself and I don't think he is yet neither do i think he is mentally ready for kids. You know why? cos he is more concerned about having kids early, being the youngest dad, working on your body now than later, than having kids for really wanting them because you think it is time. I think he is in a phase right now that MIGHT fizzle out

I don't know what you both wanno do but I love kids and would advise every woman to taste what motherhood is all about.

verry gud advice jenny.
@rokiatu,after reading d responce u av given jenny to her questions,i see reasons with with her advice. U both are still young n u need to realy prepare for kids.u still av a long way to go. Hope ur hubby understands n i also hope he isnt under pressure from his family.

rokiatu:



When all failed, I said even worst then that. And he called me too superficial. He also said, is better for a woman to born young, so she can later work on her body and still look better, instead of leaving it when you are a bit older.

This seem to be a lose case for me, I really need more defense on my side. No matter what I say, he have an answer to it. LOL

ur husband is very right,i think u should av ur baby now as ur hubby wnts.isnt it better u obey thier wish rather than they looking out for someone who would obey them. Since u av tried ur best n he as objected then pls av ur child,it wunt disturb ur studies.

peaceheartt: hghrrrrrrrrr, i developed goose pimples after reading thru, and tears immediately came to my eyes

this is very sad and WICKED, how the hell did ur hubby get involved with this girl without ur knowledge!

I feel for u! Honestly u need a lot of wisdom here, my first instinct was "FIGHT! who the hell does he think he is.................." but that wont solve anything, it will only aggravate and worsen the situation.

U need to be patient and prayerful,my take is:

: Let ur husband rent another apartment for his new pregnant girl, she mustnt move into ur house, reason is, u need a healing period, which may not
be possible if u share ur home with her!

: Let go of the anger against ur husband, forgive him and let God have His way, so u can conceive, dwelling too much on unforgiveness, would only
delay ur own conception!

I pray God will help u in this o, I know its not ez sha!

i agree completely with u.

meetmeonline: Can you use a hired wedding gown on that day?

Can you use an old bouquet for it?

Will you accept to have your wedding reception in the premises of an old government school?

Will you say “yes I do” to a guy of only 26yrs who believes in early marriage but earns only N50,000 at the moment?

If he plans a “family-only” traditional wedding and a low-key church wedding (just to start this journey on time) will you go on with him?

Hi ladies, please air ONLY your “SINCERE VIEWS” on this…put your current condition and experience in finance, education, exposure, age and belief to test on the above and tell every one what you think

Hello guys, let the girls say their mind shhhhhhhh don’t blast anyone back please!

capital YES to all d questions, as long as there is mutal love n understaning btwn d couples.eventhough d parents dont agree,d couples can convince then dats wot dey want. Lots of bride use rented gowns n grooms rent suit for thier wedding, personally i dont like church weddings cos i see it as waist of money spending so much on weding gown that would b worn only once.

Mine was registery,with d both parents n my sis(my hubby n i wore ankara). D traditional wedding took place 2months atfer n reception folllowed imediately after our traditional wedding. It was all fun n i av never n will never regret it. Its all about mutal understanding btwn couples.

[quote author=rose~75]Chaircover I hail thee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've never read a thread where you wrote nonsense, infact i always scroll down any thread I want to read fast so as to read your comments.
You indeed are gifted,I admire your wisdom.
Keep up your good counsel[/quote]very true

ronkebp: @ Poster, are your parents living with their own parents (whether educated or not)? If, No!!! then that is your answer.

GBAM!!! ododo oro

OMG!!! Is dis for real....

ronkebp: Freshera...thank you...All your post is EOD (END OF DISCUSSION). God bless you.

madam ronke very true,it is indeed EOD.
@freshera,God bless u real good,

ogugua88: No, they're not equal, as in, they're not the same. One does need the other and vice versa, however. Keys and locks are not equal, but the key has no purpose if there is no lock. A lock will remain closed and without purpose if there is no key. Tada.

ur point is also noted

sweetcocoa: WTF is this poster saying?

Talking about submission and head,what the bible i read said is "wife submit to your OWN husband" so what's this rubbish about men and woman not being equal? Make we hear word jare.

ur point is very well noted. Tnx for ur comment

queensmith: I should have known ,the poster is a bloody fool.

i am not suprised at all,its obvious u lack manners,dats y u can talk to a maried woman like dat,am sure u av elder sisters os brothers at home n am sure u woukdnt tok to dem as such or even ur parents d way u are toking to me. I gues u should b btwn 18 - 20yrs. Every oda woman has come here acting maturely with their own opinion and thier point was noted. I would advice u go back home n learn ur manners or betterstill face ur studies.

ebose09: Thank you all for your comment once again,most esp @dk thank you so much.
I reffered to ds guy as my HUBBY because b4 I discovered he was married I see him as my husband not so one else husband not until I discover he was married.
The greatest mistake ve made so far was not cutting off the relationship when I discovered he was married,I took the wrong advice.
I appreciate all the insult and I regret my actions I accept the fact that am the most shameless lady and I totally lack self respect,if I wanted to complicate the issue on ground or if I was not sober I would ve agreed to be his wife but I didn't want to break his home.
So for the sack of my innocent child will some aleast come out an giv advice on what legal action I can take,
(Have already start looking for job)

its good u are lookin for a job but i doubt if dat will work as no company will employ a 7months pregnant woman and even if u get employed u are almost due for maternity leave. Its easy to carry pregnancy but its not so easy to raise d child. Now that u av realised ur mistakes,pls go back to ur parents n beg for thier forgivnes expecialy ur mum cos its now u realy need her. U stii need to find a means to talk to dat man to set u up in a biznes so u can have enuf time for ur baby n at d same time raise money for d upkeep,but if he refuses u leave him to God. Hope fully ur mum will listen to u so she can takare of ur baby while u job hunt n if eventualy u get a job. Goodluck

odeexpress: I don shut my mouth with padlock sef. lol

Lol

talina: It doesnt have to be a competition.A man and woman are 2 sides to the same coin.I think if each brings their strengths to a relationship, and recognizes their own weaknesses, they could make a great team with mutual respect.

very very well said.

Richvkunt: If what you are saying is true,your type of woman is rare.
You are the true epitome of a submissive African woman who knows her role in the marriage unlike all these fake feminist wannabes.
I believe your husband cherishes you and loves the way you have instilled the true African culture of the place of men ,women and boys and girls in the minds of your children.
May you and your husband have a long lasting marriage.

a very big AMEN to that. Tnk u

Richvkunt: OP,
Very nice theory,though I doubt if any woman puts it to practice in any relationship.
Of course I know that women can never be equal to men,and I am sure that deep down in their hearts even the most rabid feminist knows this,however the question is do women who post theories like this actually practice what they preach?
OP,in your house are you really totally submissive to your husband in body and soul?
Do you actually run to your husband for decisions on every problem in your household like a good submissive wife should and accept these decisions without any input.
Finally,on a personal note,what if Daddy decides to bring in a second wife today,will you accept this decision and welcome this woman into your home because your husband is the head of the home?

am glad my hubby is also a member on naira land so he knows all abt me.
i was raised to b submissive to my husband just as my mother was to my father n my grandma to my grandfather and dat is why dey remain in thier husbands house till date. So it will be unwise of me not to follow their steps.

On d issue of a sencond wife, no woman would ever be happy to allow such,so God helping me i will not give my husband any reason wosover to look outside not to talk of bringing in a second wife. I am legally married n av kid for my husband so for dat reason alone we are stuck togeder till death do us part. No woman prays to share her husband with other women. But if dats d way God wnts it den who am i? Althoug it will realy hurt me to my bones.

Richvkunt: OP,
Very nice theory,though I doubt if any woman puts it to practice in any relationship.
Of course I know that women can never be equal to men,and I am sure that deep down in their hearts even the most rabid feminist knows this,however the question is do women who post theories like this actually practice what they preach?
OP,in your house are you really totally submissive to your husband in body and soul?
Do you actually run to your husband for decisions on every problem in your household like a good submissive wife should and accept these decisions without any input.
Finally,on a personal note,what if Daddy decides to bring in a second wife today,will you accept this decision and welcome this woman into your home because your husband is the head of the home?

i was raised to b submissive to my husband just as my mother was to my father n my grandma to my grandfather and dat is why dey remain in thier husbands house till date. So it will be unwise of me not to follow their steps.

On d issue of a sencond wife, no woman would ever be happy to allow such,so God helping me i will not give my husband any reason wosover to look outside not to talk of bringing in a second wife. I am legally married n av kid for my husband so for dat reason alone we are stuck togeder till death do us part. No woman prays to share her husband with other women. But if dats d way God wnts it den who am i? Althoug it will realy hurt me to my bones.

neyostica: @poster you are wrong, lets break it down
in the classroom: men and women are equal
in the office: men and women are equal
in politics: men and women are equal
in the society: men and women are equal
in marriage: man is head while woman is helpmate, so not equal

hmmm, i hear u

[quote author=tpia@]wow, all this explanation is for who exactly?

myself?


sweetie, concentrate on fooling the others, not me.

yall are gaining something from it, no doubt.[/quote]God help u ooo

maclatunji: tpia@, what is happening this evening ehn? Oya can you spare Taryour the harassment and provide superior argument. This thread should not degenerate to a fight between you and taryour.

dnt mind tipia@,i dont intead fighting him even if he or she wants a fight.

[quote author=tpia@]yes, you're a rabble rouser just like i thought.



explain this:



(I have a ) Stubborn girlfriend



https://www.nairaland.com/276584/sturborn-girlfriend#3925417


are you seun by any chance, or just one of his the usual touts around here.

silly question, i know. Isnt the answer obvious.[/quote]u realy got me laffing here. Let me explain to u well, this account by d name taryour was formerly used by my cousin who is male since i ad a little problem opening a new account for myself i decided to use his snc he was no longer intrested in d account,all i did was change d sex from M to F. As u would av noticed dat post as been there snc years back,so y not check d recent post from ,my fear of dilevery n downwards. But if u still think oderwise dat am male den goodluck to u ooo.

[quote author=tpia@]^are you female or male? [/quote]i should b asking u dat question cos i indicated i am female but avnt indicated.

[quote author=tpia@]@ topic

why not save this drama for your boyfriend?

do your personal preferences really concern anyone else?




as per equality- equality in being considered fair prey for any female the opposite gender to work their wiles on, to me, isnt necessarily something to be envied or attained for that matter.

learn the meaning of apples and oranges. Both are not the same even if they're fruit.[/quote]i dont av a boyfriend cos i am married with kids,but i doubt if u are married urself cos if u are u would av acted as one and not come out here to insult me.

[quote author=tpia@]can you explain this part because i dont get what you're trying to say.




and you repeated it here:





were you raised in the village by any chance? Just curious.

or is it your method of communication which is suspect.[/quote]well tpi@ if d only reason u av cone on this thread is to correct my english mistakes den goodluck to u cos odas av read n understood so i dont know how or y its difficult for u to understand. I wasnt raised in a village and even if i was,do u av a problem with that?