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A woman will always be loyal to her emotions and not a man's sacrifice. Mr. Oga just move on jejely..

The only thing that can make her have a U turn is when her goods suddenly becomes unattractive again... If she's in her early 20's, uncle she's got a loooooong ride before her .....

Sope otilo

Edipet:
Fire don burn your community??

shey Lagos never full like this...

Jashub:
Women love men on the premise that they provide value , men on the other hand truly love women . Which is why as a man , never ever waste your resources chasing women , especially the ones flaunting on social media

Your last statement... "Especially the ones flaunting on social media"

SmartyPants:
Well for you I think it may be too late - you may need to adjust your dreams a little.

But I think this thread should be a warning to the unmarried - don't rush into marriage. Before you do, you need to work and build up to the stage where marriage will help you develop your dreams, not hinder them.

2 years ago, a colleague from the university who had gotten married looked me in the eye and said Smarty don't do it! - until you've accomplished your self development dreams otherwise marriage may become a trap.

Get that master's first. Build that side business first. Buy that car first. if within reach, build that house first. And not getting married early doesn't mean running around with women either.

Is it possible to like this comment 100 times?

You said it all... We are all wired differently, with different upbringing... So many advisers and pressure inducing persons everywhere... But just very few will be ready to help with that resources of life you need to climb up.

Tayorshd2:
U be mumu can u go to nassarawa and said it belongs to nobody ?

Or go to Kaduna and say d the same and Hausa people no go roast u sharo sharp ...

Besides victor is a Yoruba boy too but using LP as a party to face sanwo olu ....

So don't scatter things with ur small sense

Leave the madman let him keep saying jagoons.... I see the yorubas made a big mistake accommodating idiots like him for him to say such.

If Sanwolu gets re-elected the accommodating nature of the yorubas will dry up....

I wanted LP to win initially but the way its going the igbos felt they have the right to point fingers in a Yoruba territory

TimT:
Lol...The reason why I love listening to Ups and Downs in Mariage life is because every relationship has a unique problem.....
In this case, it's already obvious the man is running away from his problems/responsibility.....
How could you as a man lie to your wife about going to work and travel out OMG!!!!!!
Okay let's agree with the man that the wife is not a good person, how about the children? Why can't you take the kids and run to anywhere
Well naturally, Everyman can father a child but NOT EVERY MAN CAN BE A DAD TO A CHILD....
In my opinion, let him go forever.....
If he needs kids, he is still potent, and I'm sure there are women there; so he can conceive...

God bless you my brother.... Any man who entertain such thought is purely a COWARD!!

You must have seen all this red flags in this woman but you ignored. He just shot himself on the foot showcasing himself as a bad father to his kids

Lolz... Our ladies are going crazy and the smart ones among them ain't calling them to order... A time is coming when some ladies will walk along the streets with just pants on them.

ugodson:
If truly he said this, i have Never insulted buhari before but now he is a real Buffoon and a mad man

You should have waited till the end of his tenure na

Brendaniel:
And Tinubu is saying he wants to rescue Nigeria from your hands at the same time saying he wants to continue from where you stopped...

APC is the most confused party in this election

As in its just so funny and annoying

Sirseedorf:
I feel weak, terrible and hopeless. I lost my job today due to management change of system, I never saw it coming, in fact it came as a shock to me. Am just confused on what to do next, I have huge responsibility ahead of me, even now, I have to find something doing or else negative thought and depression will kill me faster than gunshots. I can't cry out physically but inside I feel pain as if a knife as pierce my heart, my self esteem is weak, my life is heading on a rock, I don't bet, never drink nor womanize, I just want a better life for myself, but it seems better life might never be achieved while still leaving with joblessness and failure status.
Help me nairalander, I don't know what might become of me in the next few days or weeks.

That's naija for you, a country with so many shockers.... Next time, always be prepared for an alternative in every engagement you find yourself.

That's what makes you a man, ability to stay strong in the mist of serious challenges. Try get another job and try grow your own side hustle.

Interesting.... If APC looses Osun State, they are in big trouble���

Kibbs:
I'm 22, currently in my 3rd year (first semester) of a 5year course - Elect Elect. The problem is it's a course I have no passion or likeness for.

A lot of days, since 20lvl to be exact, I'm in class and I'm like "What am I doing here?". I see how my coursemates faces light up when something new is being taught or when practicals are going on but it's the exact opposite for me. I'm unattentive in 80% of the classes and no matter how hard I try, I'm never as focused during practicals like the rest cus I just don't have any interest in going on.

The two solutions I'm considering :
The first is to change courses, although that will set me back a year which means I'll be 25 by the time I'm done, 26 if NYSC is calculated. I already lost 4yrs waiting for admission so the thought of being setback another year makes me cringe esp when I'll be just a few years from 30 when I'm eventually done. That is if the possibility of yet another ASUU strike isn't considered o. Time is precious.

The second is just dropping out and maybe going to one of the recognised IT institutions to study an industry course cus I still have interest in IT related stuff. Infact, it was once a discussion during the days I was still home struggling to get into school so I'm sure I'll be backed. If I were to change courses sef in school, it would've been computer science. Another advantage of this for me is I'll be in Lagos permanently where I'll have opportunities to do several other things I want to do by the side as opposed to being in Ogbomosho (which is dead) where my school is. I never wanted to leave lag in the first place bit unilag had other ideas.


Well that's it.

Inputs welcome.


Would appreciate if this was moved to fp.

See, one funny thing about life lately is that it has got too many distractions. Guy you are in 300 level at 22?

That's pretty cool if you ask me, Engineering courses will sharpen up your critical thinking big time. I suggest you hang on (less than 3years to go) and grab your certificate.

Tech sector is indeed the hottest now, but the truth is its really wide and you need a good degree to stand firm on to dive into tech, not as a requirement thou but you easily digest all based on the drilling from engineering background.

Finally, try and concentrate to finish this program even if you end up with 2-2. @ 25 you're good to go into the job market.

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Uncle, you should be smart enough to know that lady truly likes you and won't mind you bought start something serious.

Sit her down and open up completely to her every damn thing about you and I'm sure she will tell you hers as well.

Try get something doing, if possible get a bankable skills first maybe something in the area of ICT.

Finally, get close to her and together you guys can work things out with combined ideas. The truth here is SHE TRULY LOVES you and that alone is a big PLUS

Congrats Sis... Just ignore those bad belles jare. Try to keep your relationship and marriage life off social media because negative news go faster & sells faster for influencers/bloggers

Sonn:
hmmmmmm i hope and pray so every day and night, but' am afraid, because under this Apc, many things are possible.

Lolz.... If the youth based in Nigeria are determined....

Yes it will be BLOODY because these CRAZY guys have TOUTS scattered across Nigeria.

They (APC Govt) will be voted out live and direct..

But the question on ground is, which party has the best candidate apart from the USELESS ones from APC and PDP??

FreeStuffsNG:
It's too early in the year to be hating on your fellow human being but like most you, you don't learn to cut your loses and you're not ashamed losing all the time because of your bitterness. Sir, you always lose and will still lose again las las when,like the PMB most of you hold in contempt, Asiwaju Tinubu wins again. Hatred can't bring forth anything good.

I laugh when you concentrate your submission on HATRED....

For crying out loud, how the hell did we get to this level? All because of a POT OF PORRIDGE you can't see the truth and stand by it.

I dare you to say all the point stated above ain't TRUE about your USELESS leader TINUBU??

Surprisingly you kept on talking about HATRED.... I don't even know him personally, so what the hell will make me HATE him?

Finally uncle, you can do your election manipulations as usual to make him president but write it down today, because you have IGNORED the pain of the MASSES under BUHARI and accept to put in another USELESS person... God himself will deal with you and every other person contemplating same to DESTROY NIGERIA the more.

FreeStuffsNG:
Hahaha....You're either too young during the tenure of Asiwaju Tinubu or you are an outsider not from Lagos.
Happy New Year sir. It's too early in the year to start hating on your fellow human being. If Asiwaju Tinubu is not your candidate,find one but let those of us who love and admire him celebrate him..
On the mandate of Asiwaju Tinubu I stand. May God bless Asiwaju Tinubu and may God bless Nigeria.
Please if you are reading this post, I urge you to vote Asiwaju Tinubu. He is an experienced public administrator and a true Nigerian Patriot. He did wonders in Lagos and will do great wonders with other patriotic Nigerians when he becomes the President in 2023.
All the enemies of Nigeria will lose las las. They always lose. God bless Nigeria forever.

Lolz.... Why not invite him to rule over your entire lineage.

It's obvious you are part of those who benefited from the plastic-paint rice collectors from his burdillon home.

......Is it the same Tinubu that fix people into governorship position as if he owns Lagos..... No wonder Sanwoolu can't do more than instruction given to him. Ambode was removed using politics by same Tinubu due to the fact that he never danced to his turns.


......is it same Tinubu that already purchased the entire assets of Lagos to only himself. Google is your friend, do research on his entire assets in Lagos.

.....or is it same Tinubu who saw how youths were killed at tollgate and masterminded how the light was switched off for the whole world not to see what transpired. Till today justice has not been served alongside APOLOGY to the entire Lagos youth.

...... Is is the same TINUBU that allows too many TOUTS in Lagos in the name of Agberos because he will definitely use them when the time of election comes

Finally, if the millions your family are getting from him is what is not making you THINK straight, just know your children will CURSE you one day for bringing shame on them due to your GREEDINESS.

... Press all the button you and your goons want to press for TINUBU to emerge the next president.... God will fight for the entire Nigerians and save us from A TYRANNY as president

tife4eva:
Hello,
My mom is lovely but lately I'm getting fed up with her. She is someone that requires people to do every single thing for her without lifting a finger. Asides earning money to train her children, which I'm forever grateful for.

I can say that all my life, I can count how many times I've seen my mother cook or pick a broom, talkless of lay her bed.

Growing up, I thought it was very normal since our culture is one where you have to be very respectful and help your elders. I have many siblings so we all did everything for the house and for her. But lately, with the older ones settling down and moving out, I'm left with her.

It has gotten to the extent that my unmarried siblings also avoid the house because it's not easy living with her. We got her a maid to help around but it's not a permanent solution especially with expenses.

I'm a student and I came home this break while the maid travels back home for Christmas. The whole situation is quite tiring for me. I was baffled today when, while I was choked up cooking Christmas food for us and guests coming later, she called me to rub cream on her foot, like why can't she do it herself. The fact that she didn't even help with any of the cooking and arrangements was painful enough.

My siblings have given up on her as they believe she's used to it already and she can't change. I've been told that my late dad pampered her and got several maids for her so she has been doing this for so long already. My father died when I was little.

I've taken it as not a big deal but I'm beginning to think of moving to another state after graduation just because of this issue.

I don't know whether to confront her about her attitude. Or whether that would make me disrespectful or ungrateful to her.

Uncle this is so wrong..... You've got nothing to do than to manage the situation... Don't let her to curse you o

Tinubu needs to loose the presidency come 2023 while another party take over Lagos ... That's the only way these hoodlums can be dealt with

But why are some guys really bitter about this young lady?

Igbojihadist:
Good day nairalanders there is this very girl I love so much. I have expressed my feeling to her but she keeps telling me she is not ready yet. It has been four years now and am finding it difficult to move on or love any other girl.

Its ruining me as all i do each day is to think of her, atimes I might decide not to call her again within three days or what she would call me telling me is this the type of love I have for her. I am overwhelmed but she doesn't understand how i feel (please i need advice) plz anyone who would remind me of the present economy should stay off as ur problem is not mine.

Uncle.... It's obvious she knows you are so obsessed with her, reason why she kept tormenting you.

I am even sure she will be extorting money from you as well, damn it bro, 4 years is too much sir.... Focus and ensure you develop yourself to be successful.

Finally, if you had purchased your own house alongside 2 or 3 cars, you won't be saying all these.... My brother na them go rush you.

Aunty, that your new path of being born-again making you see other Christians inferior will do nothing than to make you a potential hypocrite. Don't be stupid to loose a man who loves you all because you didn't pray.

He that findeth a wife has got a good thing, this is what the bible says.... Its a 45 to 50 years contract, stay with your man and let go extremist way of life of being born again

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WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as 2 fastest way of making money. Thanks.

The only error in your thinking is comparing yourself to those that got admission before you or those that graduated before you.

Everyone is on his or her own pace.... And let me tell it to you, nobody is interested in your story.... All you need is to stand your ground and push it till you succeed.

They say the country is hot, not friendly, not business conducive, uncle don't dull yourself people (especially guys below 30's) are making it big.... Not everyone is into internet scam, look around and get things rolling

Tips:

Simply look around for a bankable skill and start from there.

Life's Formular: Work/Hustle as if God does not exist and at the same time PRAY to God as if you know nothing.

Finally, I wish you well and will be glad to hear your success story in few months/years from now.

Shalom!!

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??

Uncle, I don't just get you.. But you saw all this before pushing forward with the relationship, to make matters worst you've been sleeping with her unprotected.

Well, no story sir. Plan to either manage her in marriage or take your baby and just move on.

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BabaIbo:
My intentions are pure, as I am not the promiscuous type.
I'm only asking for advice from people.

Who start something without planning?

Bro, you are sounding like you a Pro or perfect human.

Bros don't fall for the trap, although its a risk anyway, what if she still bleeps her baby daddy once in a while.

Just clear your eyes off her and go for a clean sheet lady

I just wonder why people are screaming everywhere. If I decide to do DNA test on my children, so be it. There's no crime knowing

DortmundGirl:
Im residing in western Germany.

Most people around believe that Nigerians are only scammmers 419 etc. Even other African people keep distance. Its nothing to brag with.

My colleagues believe we are still living in huts, its not easy.

Like seriously

Good one there, I pray she gets a better scholarship to study abroad asap.... Naija is not a good platform for her, her dream might be killed if she stays in this country. My opinion thou!!

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Bros.... Some people might had such experience and got away with it.

But will you listen to my advice??

Go straight to twitter, check out for diamond twitter handle and also add central bank handle and tweet at them. It will be followed up and documented.

EFCC might come for you later but to be on a safer side, document all your report.

Don't ever! Don't ever!! Don't ever!!! Involve Nigerian Police.....