WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as 2 fastest way of making money. Thanks.

The only error in your thinking is comparing yourself to those that got admission before you or those that graduated before you.

Everyone is on his or her own pace.... And let me tell it to you, nobody is interested in your story.... All you need is to stand your ground and push it till you succeed.

They say the country is hot, not friendly, not business conducive, uncle don't dull yourself people (especially guys below 30's) are making it big.... Not everyone is into internet scam, look around and get things rolling

Tips:

Simply look around for a bankable skill and start from there.

Life's Formular: Work/Hustle as if God does not exist and at the same time PRAY to God as if you know nothing.

Finally, I wish you well and will be glad to hear your success story in few months/years from now.

Shalom!!

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??

Uncle, I don't just get you.. But you saw all this before pushing forward with the relationship, to make matters worst you've been sleeping with her unprotected.

Well, no story sir. Plan to either manage her in marriage or take your baby and just move on.

I need a level 2 Nigerian account for sale.... If you have 1, kindly send an email to tideal20@gmail.com

BabaIbo:


My intentions are pure, as I am not the promiscuous type.
I'm only asking for advice from people.

Who start something without planning?

Bro, you are sounding like you a Pro or perfect human.

Bros don't fall for the trap, although its a risk anyway, what if she still bleeps her baby daddy once in a while.

Just clear your eyes off her and go for a clean sheet lady

I just wonder why people are screaming everywhere. If I decide to do DNA test on my children, so be it. There's no crime knowing

DortmundGirl:
Im residing in western Germany.

Most people around believe that Nigerians are only scammmers 419 etc. Even other African people keep distance. Its nothing to brag with.

My colleagues believe we are still living in huts, its not easy.

Like seriously

Good one there, I pray she gets a better scholarship to study abroad asap.... Naija is not a good platform for her, her dream might be killed if she stays in this country. My opinion thou!!

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Bros.... Some people might had such experience and got away with it.

But will you listen to my advice??

Go straight to twitter, check out for diamond twitter handle and also add central bank handle and tweet at them. It will be followed up and documented.

EFCC might come for you later but to be on a safer side, document all your report.

Don't ever! Don't ever!! Don't ever!!! Involve Nigerian Police.....

Oshiomole is in trouble this week

This Ize-Iyamu should just return to his church and forget politics.... Oshiomole destroys his gubernetorial ambition

tegrianonigltd:


Lagos is a shithole, come abroad, Lagos is a dustbin, smelling, dirty, bad roads, bad air. Irritating holdup, suffering and smiling, Dubai built Dubai under 20 years , Tinubu have been in Lagos since 1999, 21 years

Please tell him..... The man just typed total rubbish!!

ThatFairGuy1:
People that call Ambode coward today were the same people that supported and hailed El Rufai when he said he knows how to remove godfather in Lagos. But when Rufai recently opened his cancerous mouth to say 2023 will go to SW these people blasted him and called him all names.
Their true enemy is Tinubu. Any that refuses to oppose Tinubu is in their black book. Anyone that blasts Tinubu is in their good book.
I look all around Nigeria, my people are in every state. Igbo has been in Northern Nigeria much much earlier before we knew Western Nigeria. Yet there has not been any single record of an Igbo man being elected into political office or even nominated into a cabinet in North. In Lagos on the other hand we have continued to enjoy the benefits of democracy under same Tinubu, and our losses in some areas is result of our own irresponsibility and not because the system or Lagos godfather hates us.
If godfatherism in Lagos has benefited us in the most wealthy and most economically advanced state in West Africa, doesnt it make sense to support what advances our entrepreneurship and political ascent? I was born in Lagos and in the Igbo circle in Lagos, there are people who are fed up and disgusted with our style of political culture. I support them and im in that mold myself.
There is no president of Nigeria who has been as democratic and favorable to Igbo as Obasanjo did. Obasanjo is a godfather. Obasanjo made people like NOI, Soludo, Ihejirika, Ekwezisili and many more. Yet we are the loudest anti-godfatherism.
Even in North, where we have never gained any political benefit but have suffered the greatest social and cultural calamity, nobody even becomes a commissioner without godfatherism. My people love Kwankwaso but forget the man is a godfather. We love Atiku but forget Atiku is a godfather.
So my brother, those hating on Ambode are venting that he failed to fight against Tinubu when he had the chance. Obasanjo fought Tinubu, yet we still hate Obasanjo. The same Obaseki we are hailing, he went to Lagos to seek godfather support. He didnt get it. Akeredolu in Ondo, our inlaw, he fought Tinubu to become governor but has returned to Tinubu and godfather to seek reelection.
No Igboman living can swear on his chi and claim godfatherism in Yoruba people, particularly Obasanjo and Tinubu has not earned us advancement in Yprubaland and in Nigeria generally.
I want my people to know that the example of our progress and inclusion in Lagos and Yorubaland is a model that the Hausa/Fulani has copied and used to integrate our brothers in North. When was last time we hear of riot against Igbo in North? They have seen how our inclusion in Yorubaland pays off economically and they are modelling that to improve their local economy as well.
Godfatherism helps Igbo business and politics. My people should open their eyes and learn. Let Edo carry their load and fight Tinubu themselves. Edo no be Lagos no concern us. Lagos na our bread and butter, we must not ruin it. End to godfatherism will destroy business for us, let us condemn those that oppose godfatherism in Lagos.
Our leaders in Lagos have seen the light and theyve been drumming the beat, if you cant beat Tinubu in Lagos, join Tinubu to bring dividends of godfatherism to Igbo commerce and politics.
Share this.

You typed this gibberish to make what point exactly Godfatherism will not stand the test of time in any state in Nigeria especially when the entire people in that state has enjoyed nothing but to be as spectator to the so called Godfather aquiring as many edifice and state resources to himself and his unborn generation. Maybe you failed to realize that Tinubu used his influence as governor to aquire as many assets in Lagos.

Godfatherism must end in Nigeria if we must have a major development in Nigeria.

dasparrow:


Just admit you struggle with an inferiority complex. Seek help. You know nothing about Europe. As a western European born myself, I have traveled Europe extensively and I am here to tell you that your assertion that " no single country in the Continent of Africa can compare to the less developed country in Europe" is totally false.

For starters, you have not traveled extensively to every single African country on the Continent of Africa. There are 54 countries in Africa and I can bet my last dime that you haven't been to even 30 of them to come to this fallacious conclusion of yours. Secondly, there are 44 countries in the Continent of Europe. I can equally bet you haven't visited even half of those either. In fact, I doubt you have ever been outside Nigeria or West Africa.

You have chosen to form your opinion based on what you have been fed by the western media who is in the business of always portraying African nations in the worst possible way while portraying European or predominantly white nations as heaven on earth. I have traveled extensively so I can't buy into the lies that the partial western media chooses to feed gullible minds like you.

You judge Europe based on images you see of western Europe. However, western Europe alone does not consist of the entire Continent of Europe. There are Eastern European countries as well and the poverty there is sad. Let me share with you some pictures of Europe that you don't see on television:

The reason why so many Nigerians are stranded in all these European countries. They have always believed those places are heaven on earth. God help our desperate Nigerian youth.

Ninobraw:
I am a guy of 29 years old and she's 24 years old. She is a nurse and she is working and earning good salary. We have been dating for the past 3 years, ever since she came into my life things have been moving forward. Between the space of three years I was able to buy a land and build two flat (almost completed) and also buy a nice car. All this was possible because she was in my life. She assisted me with the money she accumulated before she met me, (2 million naira) gave it to me to add it to the money I was using to build the house, she has really been the best thing that has happened to me. We both have never cheated on each other, I'm very happy having her in my life. During the period of covid 19 my business was shut down totally she was the one that sustained me Althrough and never complained.

She later resigned from her nursing work and started her own chemist shop, I supported her with 300k she rejected it and asked me to add it to the money for house project. She is making some good money from her store any way.

Now we plan to do our marriage by December and I budgeted more than 1 million naira.
the problem is that she insisted that it is too much that I should not spend more than 500k that's been a problem to us but later settle it. because she won't just listen to me she wants me to spend less than that the reason why I wanted to spend more than 1 million Naira was because she deserves it.

So because of that we adjusted the marriage to three months time since it's just 500k I am spending now my question is can I spend 500k for a moderate marriage? And I wanted to do something tangible for her because she deserve more than everything I have, please what other things can I do for her that will be equivalent to everything she has done for me.

Since we have been dating she has never asked me for big money and also when ever I give her she always tells me that she gat money that no need to give her, in fact she love me so much that she don't even accept money from me unless gift. Now I want to do something tangible for her because since I have been dating her she doesn't allow me spent on her that much, and she doesn't complain.

Mr. Man..... God looked you so closely and blessed you with a virtuous, wise and hardworking lady who supported you to be a real man.... soon, you will be a proud landlord and a father as well.

Now answer this question.... What exactly is the colour of your problem I guess you are so over joyous to have acheived this height but be very careful where you post beautiful things like this.... God has blessed you, stay low key and enjoy this. Avoid exposing stuffs like this on social media.... This street is risky.

Crazy woman..... I guess her hook caught the wrong target. Dbanj should follow up on the libel case to later. It reminds me of the Lady who also accused Davido of same rape, right now she's smelling a bumbum.

Nasa28:
Most times, I wonder the kind of senseless leaders we have. They don't care about how the citizens feel.

If truly the government trust the so called repented boko haram terrorists, they should integrate them into Aso rock security, let's wait and see how it plays out.

Buhari should be bold to hire just 10 to personally guide his apartment in Aso Villa.

Honestly..... Buhari is just so clueless as always suspected. How I wish we can turn back the hands of time....

arazanbal:
dat man go die for una neck ooo if una nor leave am alone because nor be him chop money ooo

If he eventually dies (God forbid) then he died serving his mother land. I can imagine what he will be thinking right now on his hospital bed. I think NASS has woken up to her responsibilities. Before you take national appointment, look deeply within yourself. What is my motive? Is it to steal public funds or to do the job??

dynicks:
Pondei right now....

What have I put myself into;...which Kain wahala be this for heaven's sake;...
Should i just simply confess or keep up with the absurd acts?......how old man like me to just dey act like chicken wey cold dey catch for national television...

My kids are watching for heaven's sake!..how I want take manouveur these panel again....oh! blood of zacchaeus!

Guy I beg I have laughed and hit my leg on my table...... Honestly the guy na comedian

This guys won't stop to disappoint me. How can he be declared an ex-president? He wasn't announced winner let alone being declared. So he's never an ex-president

I'm not surprised after all we only have crazy set of people in government who only think through their anus. There's nothing wrong allowing this guys to play the game with likes of DSTV and co.

FG's yearly intake from DSTV confirms their blatant refusal for TSTV to survive in the Nigerian market.

So sad...

Guys that are complaining here, what exactly is the color of your problem

They both got married, he paid her bride price and married her legally.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Babes, I will assume you left because he lacks future ambition not because he's stingy. You don't need to have any regret taking this decision. First try and concentrate more on yourself and ensure you are financially independent.

No time to check time my dear, you will be fine.

Carchoice:
If you have been with a lady that is so good and faithful and at a point in her life she tells you she's going for NYSC, send her a termination letter.

What you should know is that, no matter how faithful that your woman is, there's one OG that will bring her to her knees.

It's a pity a very good girl I admired so much suddenly gone bad, the way she carries her self; She's actually a lost corper I found in the streets of Lagos. Her man calls her on video everyday while I'm on the other side of the bed.

This morning I told her I will not touch her again. I'm done, I feel bad for my brother on the other end.

There's nothing like good girl or bad girl, it's all about home training and self respect. But konji is never part of the home training and self respect will be put aside for few minutes reboot.

Mr. OP you are talking in the nonsense

OgbanjeProphet:
So one can build a house with 2million naira in this country

Op, congrats in advance.

As in you just spoke my mind

GOFRONT:
I hope this pandemic last till 2023....

Are you fucking kidding me What kind of prayer is this?

youngvikthor:



she is 19
did you mean I should mind my business and leave them?

Bros.... You don't handle this of this nature with too much patience.

Blow hot on them both or better still try to be sure they are actively doing the nonsense to have concrete evidence.

Set a camera or video recording for them to have concrete proof.

Don't laugh or be calm over it because if you don't do something now and your aunty or mum discover from a third party, they will never trust you again.

light099:
Never mind hanty.

Corona sef dey fear to catch you.
You look scary, like something used to scare babies at night.

Brother, this is too much na. Did she create herself?

seankafor:
May what we dont know never locate us

I say a big AMEN to this....

Madam OP.... There's no point throwing abuses or scolding you cos the deed has been done already. My concern now is your parent, tell them the whole truth now or else the sudden discovery especially if it's from a third party might bring up strong or sudden death on either of them.

frankmoney:
they would have even placed bans

I think we too should place ban on them na

This is really woooow!!