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agree completely with desgiezed very very true commitment and scarifice is the only price to pay,

@ eiregirl

Hell yeah id stand by my man but just make sure u got his credit card b4 he goes in and get that vibrator working properly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oooooooooooops maybe its the credit card that got him there Will u nigerian boys ever learn to do an honest days work

OH MY LORD will you boyz ever mature into men at all u have nightmares no no no no lt me let uz all in on a secret you boyz are the nightmares,

@whitelexi
your post had me falling off my chair laughing PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE can i be a fly on the wall for your wedding day!!!!!!!

Im a 27 year old female and have still yet to find my true love i have been in love many times but my true love is the guy i will spend the rest of my life with and right now i am single so i have still to find him,

for me it cant buy love that needs to come from the heart, it can buy happiness but once the money is gone the happiness is gone with it so learn to be happy without it

@ poster

Why do u seek advice? U were man enough and bold enough to get urself into this mess so now be man enough and bold enough to get urself out of it,

Good luck with the break ups i can feel ur gonna need it dear,

@ kenechi22
I totally agree!!!

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Leave the guy where he is if was unhappy he would not be there as one person already said men know what side there bread is buttered on they want fun on the side and will do everything to keep there fun happy. Why "snatch" this guy do u think he can be faithful to you then If he can a relationship for u he can leave ur relationship for another woman, Find ur own sincere and honest man,

@bjigun

u said a GOOD HANDSOME nigerian man dear u bettr start making some carbon copies of yourself coz we need alot of you to go round!!!!!!!!!! Dublin (Ireland) has NO good nigerian men loads of handsome ones but no good handsome ones,

It depends on how intense your relationship was wih him/her if you really loved him/her it will be hard to see them as just friends you will always want them on another level but if it was something that wasnt so serious of course you can be friends, why not??

@ osereka

Ur comment made me laugh "a mink in their closet, a tiger on their bed and a jackass to apy for it all"!!!!!!!!!!!! SO have you been a jackass then ?? What about the independant lady who can put her own mink in her closet what do you think they want ? A man that is sincere and honest but guys like that are damn hard to find,

Totally agree with Radiant a nigerian man is only good if you can believe his lies, Those boys are confound liars they even believe their own lies but unfortunately you cant help loving them, Is there ANY GOOD nigerian men out there

Hey, whats the point in checking his/her phone coz if u see something u dont like what are yu gonna do about it Are you gonna confront them and then they will know u are checking it or just keep it to yourself and let what you saw eat you up, I have a friend who constantly checked her mans fone, email etc and she never confronted him so she was only annoying herself. I agree totally with what shockreaction wrote a relationship requires trust if you are suspicious of anything u dont trust him so it aint gonna and if ur checking up you are insecure in urself, No it aint good people privacy everyone is entitled to it. Id leave my fone lying around my ex would take it when he wanted to look through it use it and it never bothered me there was nothing in it but his fone was under lock and key hmm very suspicious but it never crossed my mind to check it as my conscience is clear his is clearly guilty so im the better party here and its only the guilty that accuse anyway ,

We all want that guy that treats us good and proper and when we find them we dont want them and get bored bcoz of all those good looking bad boys out there but that is all those guys are "good looking badboys" they will never give you all the happiness and contentment you have with your boyf now. It our out natural instinct to window shop but make sure that is all it is coz if you cheat and loose this guy i bet u come with your tail between your legs begging for forgiveness. Familiar with the saying "we dont know what we have till we loose it", Good luck

Of course both genders cheat women can hide it alot better as men like to brag about what they had lastnight and they seem to think they can achieve some kind of better image for been known as a player, My ex cheated and thought nothing wrong with it but when he heard a male FRIEND call me he got so annoyed and caused an arguement and when i reminded him of what he did he replied its not good for a woman to cheat on her man but it is fine for the man as it is [b][/b]A MANS WORLD , what cock n bull is this Relationships arent as valued as b4 there is far too much infidelity goin on these days ,

How old is the guy in question ? If he is a mature man and knows what love is he should not have to even ask this question, I have a child from a previous relationship but i hope that doesnt stop a guy wanting to marry me. Absolutely everyone deserves a second chance anyway but as i said if he knows wht love is he himself should be able to answer this without needing help. Anyway good luck to him

@sista

Thanks for your well thoughtout and put together reply. Firstly i described my daughter as STUNNING because it is exactly what she is and i highlighted black and white as it is the mix of the two races that has her so STUNNING looking, Its your government that has made Nigeria what it is as they are greedy and corrupt so dont be trying to point the finger of blame elsewhere. You mentioned why did the Nigerian guy not marry me what makes you think i want to be married cant you co habit and live a good family life without been married ? MY personal preference is Black thats why i did not mention other races but i have family and friends that have married white and there is no problem i have friends that date indians and there is no problem and then others that dat Black so therefore Love see no colour. If your partner treats you good regardless of the colour of his skin well then what the hell is the problem dating outside of your own race. I have had silly taunts thrown at me for dating black men but as i said it comes from uneducated and ignorant people (balck and white people, ) But why should i change the perference of what i like bcoz it bothers others NEVER, You also said that balck men will prefer black women maybe but not all of them alot of my male black friends said the could never go back to a black woman after experiencing relationships with a white lady so as it is a matter of PERSONAL PREFERENCE,   Have a nice day now,

SIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINGLE very very much single enjoying it but also ready for that right guy to come but i think that will be a long time coming its hard to find a good honest genuine black guy, Well at least in Dublin (Ireland) it is too many 419's,

Hey guys lie to get what they want out of a girl and unfirtunately us girls are to foolish and fall for it. I dated a Nigerian guy for 3 years things where fine between us i gave 100% constantly put everything i had in to the relationship he told me all the things i wanted to hear. Thought at last i have found a great guy but to cut a long story short he was ur average guy told more lies than he could remember it took me a long time to see through them as he constantly kept me sweet if i got anyway suspicious of him he always did something realy good to divert my mind anyway we broke up and spoke afterwards about it and his excuse for his actions and lie was "ITS A MANS WORLD WE CAN DO THESE THINGS". Ladies its time we cop on and see trough these losers they are not worth shit !!!!

I also agree with the comment that it is not a gender thing women cn do it they hide it alot better than men but men you are the ones who taught the ladies how to lie,

Hey, Dont be emabarassed or shy to speak it coz u can write it damn well, Do u feel inferior to ur boyf as he speaks it fluently ? Well speak to him tell him you want to be able to speak it more confidently and i'm sure he will be only too happy to help you out. Do you have English speaking friends if not maybe you should try mix more with English speaking people or make a rule with ur boyf that you can only speak English for so many hours a day when u are together and se if that helps it improve. I've been there b4 my daughters dad is from Angola so he had terrible English when we firt met and it caused so much friction and misunderstandings with us. After some time it improved as he worked with English people so he used it more than Portugeuse so you will get there just be confident about urself. Good luck

Have you learnt the facts of life yet?? Well usually when you have UNPROTECTED sex you stand a chance of getting a girl pregnant so these people are obviously having alot of unproteceted sex b4 they get married. It seems to be the only olution i can come up with,

Been a european woman i would prefer a Nigerian that has been raised abroad as they are more sincere and loyal. Most Nigerians that were raised at home are full of these lame excuses well its in my culture to cheat, its in my culture to be a 419 rather than work and this shit man they ar just bad guys with no morals or respect so yeah definitely Nigerians raised ABROAD or partially abroad,

Marriage is not to do with age, It is about been ready to commit to this person you are meant to love through all the stresses and strains that life throws at you. I am 27 im not married and I have a 6 year old daughter and I'm not in a hurry to wed just coz I'm getting old. I have not found the man i want to spend the reat of my life with and therefore im not goin to marry for the sake of it. Its a big commitment and marriage should be for life so age aside if you love ur partner and know you want to be together for life go ahead and do it. Forget what white people think or black people think its what you think and fell ready for. I'm white and im older than you and im not thinking of marriage so it clearly depends on the person not an age bracket, Good luck

Hey lads just be honest you know you could not survive life without the ladies touch. You know the saying "behind every good man lies a BETTER woman". We rule the roost, we nag and moan, we have monthly strops but lads u love us really !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey tell him b4 its too late co the more he buys and does for you the more you will stay there out of pity. There is clearly somebody else out there for him so let him go find her. Love isnt possible after 4 days it is more infatuation or lust. Just be upfront and set him straight.

It is very very possible to love 2 people at the same time. People have different characters so you will love them for different reasons but it is a dangerous game to play somebosy will get hurt,

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hmmmmmm you sound so similiar to someone i know , ME. I had been dating my guy for over 3 wasa 8 months pregnant and discovered that he also was very friendly with a girl from work. Late texts and missed calls comin to his phone aroused my suspicion thought nothing of it but it continud for sometime so i confronted him to be told shes a friend from work who is a lesbian (yes i know lame excuse but i swallowed it. Gave birth to my baby he was the perfect boyfriend and father could not show me anymore love and we were the most important people to him but guess what this girl was still around and i overheard a secret phonecall and it ended my suspicion and that guy is gone. He not only lost me but a stunning daughter too, Girl get to the end of it you dont want to marry a cheat!

Firstly it takes two to tango what makes you think it is all the girls fault men make great liars, They charm the girl take her out make her feel special forgetting to mention that they are married and b4 they know it the girl is hooked these men purely go for young gilrs as they are naiive, When the girl finds out they are married thay are sillier than i thought they too will be one day be married do they want their husband doin the same? If the men went for a mature lady i guarantee they would stand no chance of anything happening some young girls like to take the risk of been caught and if they have the idea they will leave their wife for me think again, Men respect your wife, young girls cop on,

Hey if your guy/girl slaps you just remember they can do it again so if you decide to stay with them be very weary of the next arguement make sure your legs work and be ready to run you dont want no second slap,