₦airaland Forum

beau49: Tanx 4 ur reply u made sum gud point....

Wat I meant abt nt feelin any of my toasters is dat d likeness n attraction is jes nt der n I dnt wanna force d feelings or date out of pressure...

I knw most guys wud ask 4 sex weda or nt he gives me money or gifts buh being financially independent wud giv me an hedge n I wud av a say unlike wen m overly dependent on him.

Me telling a guy let's b friend first b4 anytin else is lyk sayin'u don't knw me n I dnt knw u dat much,so let's take tinz slow n steady n if @ d long run we lyk wat we see den we can go ahead''...dis is after is has made his intensions of dating me known.

Thanks again 4 takin time 2 reply,u av really helped a lot...#cheers!

You welcome..

is it compulsory for u get ti get attracted on d first day to your potential bf before u can date him

pwettyolly: Thank you very much for your reply but I really dont understand the package you are talking about

wat he means by package is d conditions ur friend is offering u

Gifted scholar: Where is james and co?

hmmm broda james where u dai oo..

Sowi who are d co u talking abyt

beau49: Hello everyone....well I dnt knw wat 2 call my situation buh lemme explain....

M in my early twenties n currently doin my youth service,aldoh m single nt dat I mind cus I enjoy being single buh the issue is lots of guyz(some gud n odas nt so gud) have cum 2 ask me out buh I always turn dem dwn nt becus I don't want 2 date buh becus m nt jes feeling dem(i.e I dnt see dem as pple I can date,nt in a bad way doh) n I dnt want 2 go in2 any relationship out of pity or becus m getting old or sumtin....m a believer of being friends b4 goin in2 a relationship buh most guys seems 2 tink odawise.

So also i bliv in d 'no sex b4 marriage tin' buh my fear is dat d guy may nt agree n dis is also anoda issue dat is stoppin me 4rm considering any relationship,which is y I av decide 2 b financially independent b4 going in2 any relationship wat so ever.

My question nw is m I deceivin myself or jes postponing d inevitable(i.e sex)cus almost everywhere u luk,u hardly see a relationship without sex even friends r nt helpin matterz n abt being friends first b4 becuming partners is it possible or I shud jes agree n start one immediately m asked?

#Wud really appreciate ur response....Thankz

madam beau..

I like d fact dat that u av already laid down sum principle for ur self before u get into the dating game.

But wat m surprised abt is not feeling any of ur toasters.. Whats d prob with dem?? Are dai less than wat u wish ur kinda of man shld b or cos dai not following ur friends b4 dating rule..

Again, u said sumtin abt been financially independent which is a very great thing.. But weda u are financially independent or not a guy who wants sex b4 marriage would ask for it weda u r or u not. It doesnt matter u ask him for stuffs or not.. D probabilty is only higher when u do. Dere are guys who are willing to wait although very small.

To friendship b4 dating a lot of guys have been dere b4. One is when u try to b friends with a gal and u dont make ur intentions knwn frm d start dere is a high prob dat u might get friendzoned for life. And no one wants dat.

Lastly, ma advise to is
-ur principle are very great ones but try and b flexible in d sense dat no one is perfect. We just trying to attain dat.

-if u believe in no sex before marriage stick with it.. Ur faoth will work for u but b ready to face lot of challenges cos u goin against d status quo.

- if a guy ask u out, d fact dat he does not av ur desirable qualities at first galance dos not make him not ur dream man, if u want friendship first do tell him if he is urs he will stick around. But dont go friendzoning him.

- believe God and b prayerful

NB: not al relationship are meant to lead to marriage some are just to make us a better person and not b keept, some are just for us to av experience in dealing with human beings cos we complicated..

Choicegirl: Are you ready to sacrifice your friendship for some fizzling emotion? I always thought friendship was more important though.

when will d friendship not get strained abeg... he is gonna get tired if he cont lik dis

awon aye things... Ezeago things

dat is their job

[quote author=oche_ejemb]"The working conditions
are so poor that a seven months old baby was forced out of her mother's
womb prematurely (Her name is Fortune Longjohn)."

Calm the fûck down[/quote]the op is just trying to explain how bad it is...

May God have mercy...

Gifted scholar: Tnx so much to all does who hav contributed one way or d other to my story, am very grateful!!..ve been away a while naw nd jst got back, I listened to ur advices nd talked to him abt his attitude nd hw its kills me he said he ll address dat he was sorry....recently! I had bleeding for 5days constant I told him, he said I shuld go to check up my self...I asked wit which money?..he said ok oo!!..nd dat ends d matter he didn't even cum to see me all thru d periods I was seriously ill nd didn't cal frequently...nt even a txt msg nd he knew I had heavy bleeding nd was seriously sick bt he did nthing...I sent a msg to him dat if he knew hw sick I am nd he didn't try to cum see me den he didn't love nd I made a very big mistake gettin involve wit him!....

Speechless....

wat did u pls....

wow.. i can imagine..

Tgirl4real: I think an upgrade is being done. But I will still send it to the admin.

pls madam, its makin ma surfin on nairaland boren and difflicult.. Pls is dere a way i can follow dif section on nl.. Cos i find it difflicult navigate around dif sections..

Thanks in anticipation...

pls av bin a nairaland member for quite sometime.. pls how do i follow some sections on nairaland... thanks in anticipation

Pls, i was tinking of gettin tecno m7 b4 d end of year... But i want to knw if i get a better fone around d same price or if its gonna b a gud buy..

@op cos dai are prostitute and stay on d road dai are not law abiding... O ga gan oo

Pls mods...

I just found out av been unfollowed from all d sections m following on nl..

And d follow botton seems to av disappeared from d various boards it once existed..

Can u help me with it.. Thanks

ijebu ogbogbo in Ogun state and Ila ornagun in Osun state

dis child is gonna b born into a seperated home by default... So so speechless

Doing abortion weda she has a health condition or not is very bad and d bible is against it, she has an health condition so its even more dangerous to consider it except she dos not lik herself..
Pls help ask her where it is written dat baby mamas cant cont with dere lives ?
Ask her wat of if things go wrong doin d abortion wat will she do?
As she asked her parents y dai dont wont her guy and has she prayed abt it?
Has she weighed d pros and cons of dis decision and dos she feel it is d best decision?

I wish ur friend gud luck..

U can post dis in d family section for more matured input...

Av heard a couple of times that when u wake up in d morning u must av a rising.. How true is dat.. And must it b evry morning..

He is suffering from insecurity and mayb a chronic one dat.. And dere might a couple of reason for dat..

He might had a gal as gud as u b4 and left him for a better guy, oh he has the feeling within him telling him if u leave he might not get a gal as gud as u. Or he lacks self confidence

solution: i tink u shld b really open to him, calm is fears, dont giv him any reason to doubt ur luv, and also dont flaunt wat other pple especially guys do for u..

N.B.. Woman are emotional beings a sure guy nos dat u dont fllw wat dai say but wat dai do. So if ur guy cont lik dis ur r/ship might hit rocky waters soon and it will take ur patience on ur side for it to survive.. Except u r dif..

u are d person i question abi...

Y dont u paragragh ur work and make it more explanatory for we to read

shey na story abi na movie...

if its a literature abeg cont oo