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InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

lovediehatelive:
Jesus is Lord.

The great great grand parents and ancestors were into deity worship like most families before Christianity came to them.


It was spiritually revealed that the ancestors had a strong covenant with the deity of the time, and the agreement is that even generation unborn will worship the deity and pay homage.

Now, Christianity has come and the family are Christians.

The deity is now ferociously angry that they offspring has left them, not keeping their part of the covenant.

The deity is roaming around, making life miserable. Once it takes a life, it will continue till the family is wiped out.





From the revelation, serious prayers has kept the family members alive.

Now, how can this covenant be broken?

It seems the deity has a legal ground hence still disturbing the family.

Heard of case like this, once one member of the family died, the rest started dying mysteriously within short span.

Penguin2:
Having seen the resignation letter of Peter Obi from PDP which confirmed his exit from the party and withdrawal from the party’s presidential race, I’m tempted to question the rationale behind that decision.

I’m an ardent supporter of Peter Obi but I think that if he has truly resigned from the PDP, then he has goofed; it’s a complete faux pax for him.

Because I do not see any other platform that can possibly grant him victory in the general election.

Remaining in PDP would have guaranteed either the presidential ticket or vice presidential ticket which would have brought him closer to the presidency.

As we wait to confirm if this is fake or true, and to know Obi’s next move, I make bold to say that this decision, if confirmed, was a miscalculation.

Realist12:
If them tell you day he easy na set up , it saddens me to see educated Nigerians gathering their resources to travel out of the country only to do menial jobs they can't do in Nigeria.
To those mentioning me , everything isn't about money .

Ilamina:

AntiChristian:
Of cos he didn't know before and he later knew.

Why don't you quote that verse?

Where did Jesus say he's preparing a place for his followers?

Jesus actually said he can of himself do nothing!

So in essence, he follows whatever God plans!

NonsoNna:
Hello,pls can u explain in full details about the Electronic integrated circuit Technology and it’s importance Thank you!

WriterNig:
My advice to Taiwan. Make peace with China. Learn from the mistakes of Ukraine.

Like for China, share for USA

Nancy2020:
It is a free world.

There are many western analysts who have condemn nato moving towards Russia border but the evil globalization cult USA government has failed to listen to their opinion.

HolinessForever:
https://www.thesun.co.uk/health/18646557/monkeypox-outbreak-europe-cases-island-festival/amp/

Many known patients are gay men who were tested after going to STI clinics, the WHO said.

Health chiefs warned gay and bisexual men to be on the lookout for new unexplained rashes.

Igbo:
You condemn ‘the murder’ in Sokoto but you don’t have the courage and the conscience to condemn the murderous activities of Gunmen and unknown Gunmen in your area (shokoto),including the slaughter of a legislator; that is hypocrisy and cowardice.

https://twitter.com/ShehuSani/status/1528650122799742978

Benite:
Kano explosion: Police confirm it’s IED, arrest 2, impound vehicle with bombs.


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/kano-explosion-police-confirm-its-ied-arrest-2-impound-vehicle-with-bombs/

Gottiii:
I still can’t believe my elder brother is planning to send me a Es330 (2006) from the United States.

I have told him several times i can’t drive such car, I am already imagining the look of people when they see me. I mean people wey dey my area. People for area know say I be big boy.

I don tell am several times say I no need car wey dey less than yr 2017. The money dey but very stingy. I sure say na the wife dey give am wrong advice.

The car clean sha, full option but below my level. I go just sell am.

Abeg, make una advice me.

Robertgreene1:
Interesting but not suprised...
Core English girls(not the mixed race ones o) re kinda bland
nd boring...
Now...come to think of this Ukraine war sef...dt comedian of their president has shattered and is still shattering the lives of millions of his people..those 8 million nd counting Ukrainians dt av fled Ukraine have lost homes...relatives...friends...infact..their once peaceful nd amazing pre_war Lives in general have all being shattered all thanks to one short Jewish comedian like that...
Worse part of it all is that...the fool even campaigned
nd won on the promise of "making peace with Russia and ending the Donbass crisis"...then after he won..he reneged on his promises just like APC nd their scam "change" mantle...
I saw on Aljazeera news...clips of Ukrainian civilians...beautiful girls..women..even kids sef that av lost limbs in this senseless war...some with arms..legs...or both limbs cut off...hence becoming disabled for life all thanks to a political novices' miscalculations nd ego..
Just forget power plays...just forget all the bravado and hypes that comes with being a brave leader defending his homeland...pictures of ur innocent citizens...esp kids dieing..loosing loved ones...ND worse still being disabled for life(I do rather die at once than loose precious arms/legs in a senseless avoidable war) are the pictures that should come first ND foremost in the mind of a leader about to make a decision that may lead to war...the love of ur citizens that voted for u should be the utmost reason why a "sane" Leader must avoid war *AT ALL COSTS*...even if it means..making a big U-turn about a decision (like joining NATO or whatever) or even personally apologizing to ur enemy(Putin in this case).... do it..swallow ur pride...but just do it to save the lives and limbs(arms/legs) of ur lovely citizens that overwhelmingly voted for you out of love....
Mtcheew..humans and their senseless Power plays at the expense of other people's lives...
It's so damn ironic that all the western leaders praising the comedian for his "bravery" for fighting Russia ren't so brave enough themselves to fight that same Russia...

ebukamen:
Bla bla bla.....
Yeah, Ukraine is winning and making fun of Putin

Over 80% of the Ukrainian natural resources is located at the side being held by Putin

The same side holds most of Ukrainian industries

donaldking10:
keep making a fool of yourself & keep allowing biased reporting from the western media fool you into believing that Ukraine actually stands a chance in this war.
Even B.B.C yesterday finally admitted that the western media was being one sided with their reports...
Read below...

Western officials have highlighted significant Russian losses, but they have been less willing to give estimates of Ukrainian casualties.
IMAGE SOURCE, YASUYOSHI CHIBA
Image caption,
Ukraine remains outgunned, despite military support from the West

Stormtrooper11:
My elder sister converted to Christianity due to her getting married to a Christian but she wasn't killed. Please get your facts right. There are alotta negative stereotypes propagated by people that hate Muslims. Islamic extremism is the issue not the religion.

I'm definitely not a terrorist. I don't support the killing of Deborah. I see it as a mixture of religious extremism, jungle justice and illiteracy. I want those people responsible for her death to be hanged.

You should understand something. Muslims revere Prophet Muhammad (SAW), they believe he is the last Prophet. Christians believe Our Lord Jesus is the Son of God.

Muslims think Jesus(PBUH) is a Prophet.
You see?! Both religions are blasphemous to each other. We need to respect and tolerate each other and also remove the extremists from our midst.

You can't go to Isreal which is a Jewish country, and talk ill of Moses or Joshua.
I think if we respect each other opinions, online and offline, we'll have no problems.

alfarouq:
Christians often ask what miracles the prophet Muhammad performed; many of them even make the claim that the Quran and the hadiths record no miracles done by the prophet. However so, it seems that I am reading a different Quran and hadith then, because you would have to be blind, or a big liar to claim that there are no recorded miracles of the prophet found in Islamic sources.

I wont label these Christians who make this claim as liars, no, after all most of these Christians do not do the research themselves, rather it’s their own Christian scholars who deceive them with their lies against Islam, such as Answering-Islam, prophet of doom, faith freedom etc. It is these sites and Christian scholars out there who make some of the biggest lies against Islam, deceiving their Christian people into having wrong ideas about Islam, so when you have normal Christians coming up to you with arguments, you must know that this person is simply arguing from what he saw and heard from Christian polemic against Islam.

For instance, most of you are most likely familiar with Christians always coming up with quotes from Tabari, Ibn Ishaq, and some other works. They often quote these works and think they are making big arguments, yet they always seem to quote specific quotes from these books, and when you ask for a context, they can never provide it, the reason being is because they are ALL quoting from that goon Craig Winn’s book.
So this argument put forth by Christians, that the prophet Muhammad performed no miracles according to Islamic sources is another example of Christians getting bad information from Christian apologists.

For this article, I shall show some miracles the prophet Muhammad performed, ending this sad lie that there are no miracles recorded in Islamic sources. Now whether Christians will agree with the sources I quote is IRRELEVENT, I am not asking any Christian to believe in these miracles, what I am doing is showing you that there are miracles recorded in Islamic sources, so therefore you should stop saying there aren’t any, and you should stop asking Muslims to show you miracles performed by the prophet Muhammad with the pre-conceived notion that he did none. As the saying goes, you cant have your cake and eat it, you cant claim the prophet performed no miracles, and then when I show you the miracles you say ‘oh well those sources are forged and lies’. You can’t have it both ways, you say the prophet Muhammad performed no miracles according to Islam, I shall show you that this claim is FALSE.

Now if a Christian said yes there are miracles recorded in Islamic sources, but I don’t believe them, then that’s a different case, and is a fair argument. But in this article I am addressing the Christians who make the claim that the Islamic sources contain NO miracles of the prophet Muhammad, often asking Muslims to show them a miracle performed by the prophet.

With all that said, we can now show some of the miracles the prophet Muhammad performed:

Sahih Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 55:

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

Once in the lifetime of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) the people were afflicted with drought (famine). While the Prophet was delivering the Khutba on a Friday, a Bedouin stood up and said, "O, Allah's Apostle! Our possessions are being destroyed and the children are hungry; Please invoke Allah (for rain)". So the Prophet raised his hands. At that time there was not a trace of cloud in the sky. By Him in Whose Hands my soul is as soon as he lowered his hands, clouds gathered like mountains, and before he got down from the pulpit, I saw the rain falling on the beard of the Prophet. It rained that day, the next day, the third day, the fourth day till the next Friday. The same Bedouin or another man stood up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! The houses have collapsed, our possessions and livestock have been drowned; Please invoke Allah (to protect us)". So the Prophet I raised both his hands and said, "O Allah! Round about us and not on us". So, in whatever direction he pointed with his hands, the clouds dispersed and cleared away, and Medina's (sky) became clear as a hole in between the clouds. The valley of Qanat remained flooded, for one month, none came from outside but talked about the abundant rain.

From ‘Ibn Kathirs The Life of the Prophet Muhammad, Al-sira Al-Nabawiyya, volume 2’ :

HOW THE PROPHET (SAAS) REPLACED QATADA’S EYE:

Al-Bayhaqi stated, in the Dalail (The Signs), “Abu Sad al-Malini informed us quoting Abu Ahmed b. Adi, quoting Abu Yala, quoting Yahya al-Himmant, quoting Abd al-Aziz b. Sulayman b. al-Ghasil, from Asim b. Umar b. Qatada, from his father, from his grandfather Qatada b. al-Numan, that his eye was wounded at Badr and that its pupil came down on his cheekbone. They were about to slice it off, but asked the Messenger of God (SAAS) who said they should not do this. He then said a prayer for him, covering his cheek with his palm. And later you could not tell which of his eyes had been struck!”

According to one account, this became the better eye.
An account came down to us from the Commander of the Believers, Umar b. Abd al- Aziz that when he was told this account by Asim b. Umar b. Qatada, he also recited:

“I am the son of him on whose cheek his eye descended,
which was replaced so well by the hand of the Chosen-One.”
Upon hearing this, Umar b. Abd al-Aziz, God bless him, quoted very appropriately the verse of Umayya b. Abd al-Salt of Ibn Dhu Yazin,

“These fine qualities are not like two bowls with milk
merely whitening the water that soon becomes urine.” (Pg 298)

Section: Concerning the Splitting of the Moon in the time of the Prophet (SAAS)
God did provide the Messenger of God (SAAS) with a sign to prove the veracity of the guidance and religion of truth he brought, and that was at the time of his pointing (to the moon).

God Almighty spoke the following in his noble book, “The hour has drawn near and the moon has split asunder. And if they see a sign they turn away, saying, ‘Just more trickery!’ They call it deceit and follow their fancies, while all things are pre-determined.” (surat al-Qamar, LIV, v.1-3)


Muslims agreed that this did occur in the time of the Messenger of God (SAAS), traditions with complete lines of transmissions, through numerous paths, provide decisive proof for those who examine it and comprehend it.

…….That is related from Anas b. Malik, Jubayr b. Mutim, Hudhayfa, Abd Allah b. Abbas, Abd Allah b. Umar, and Abd Allah b. Masud, God be pleased with all.

Regarding the hadith of Anas, Imam Ahmad stated, “Abd al-Raziq related to us that Mamar related to him, from Qatada, from Anas b. Malik, who said, ‘ The people of Mecca asked the prophet (SAAS) for a sign, And so the moon over Mecca was split twice. And he spoke the words, “ The house has drawn near and the moon has split asunder”” (surat al-Qamar, LIV, v-1)

And Muslim related this, from Muhammad b. Rafi from from Abd al-Razzaq.

This is one of the texts known as the mursalat al-sahaba. And it is plain that he received it from a large mass of the Companions, or from the Prophet (SAAS), or from everyone.

Both al-Bukhari and Muslim related this hadith on a path through Shayban. In his line of transmission al-Bukhari added Said b. Abu Urba. Muslim added Shuba to his. All three (sic) of them drew from Qatada, from Anas. The tradition states that the people of Mecca asked the Messenger of God (SAAS) to show them a sign, He showed them the moon in two parts, so that they could see Mt. Hira between them both.

……. The Hafiz Abu Nuaym stated, “Sulayman b. Ahmad related to us, quoting Bakr b. Suhayl, quoting Abd al-Ghani b. Said, quoting Musa b. Abd al-Rahman, from Ibn Jurayj, from Ata, from Ibn Abbas- also, it came from Muqatil, from al- Dahhak, from Ibn Abbas- with reference to God’s words, ‘The hour has drawn near and the moon has been split asunder’, as follows, ‘The polytheists gathered around the Messenger of God (SAAS); they included al-Walid b. al-Mughira, Abu Jahl b. Hisham, al-As b. Wail, al-As b. Hisham, al-Aswad b. Abd Yaghuth, al-Aswad b. Muttalib b. Asad b. Abd al-Uzza, Zama b. al-Aswad and al-Nadr b. al-Harith, along with many other such men.

“They said to the Prophet (SAAS), “If you are telling the truth, then split the moon for us into two parts, one half over Mt. Abu Qubays, the other over Mt. Quayquan. The Prophet (SAAS) asked them, “If I did so, would you believe?” “Yes, we would,” they replied. It was a night of full moon, and so he asked God the Almighty and Glorious to grant him what they requested. That evening the moon did have one half removed and placed over Mt. Abu Abu Qubays, the other being above Mt. Quayquan, while the Messenger of God (SAAS) called out, “O Abu Salama b. Abd al-Asad, and al-Aqram b. al-Aqram, be a witness (to this event).”

…..The Hafiz Abu al-Qasim al- Tabarni said, “Ahmad b. al-Amr al-Razzaz related to us, quoting Muhammad b. Yahya al-Qital, quoting Muhammad b. Bakr quoting Ibn Jurayj quoting Amr b. Dinar, from Ikrima, from Ibn Abbas, who said, ‘ In the time of the Messenger of God (SAAS), the moon was eclipsed and people said, “The moon is bewitched!” And so the words were revealed, “The hour has drawn near and the moon has split asunder. And if they see a sign they turn away saying, “Just more trickery!”’”(surat al-Qamar, LIV, v. 1-3).

This has a fine chain of authorities; it states that the moon was eclipsed that night; perhaps its splitting occurred on the night of its eclipse and this is why what happened to it was hidden from most of the earths inhabitants. However, this was in fact witnessed in parts of the world. It is said that in some parts of India that became a point dating, and that a building was constructed that night which was dated by the night the moon was split. (Pg 76-79)

A Miraculous event:

Section: Concerning the isra, the night journey, of the Messenger of God (SAAS) from Mecca to Jerusalem, his ascent from there to heaven and the signs he saw there.

We will give here the gist of the words of Ibn Ishaq, God bless him. Having recounted the earlier sections, he went on, “Then the Messenger of God (SAAS) was taken by night from the masjid-al haram to the masjid al-aqsa, the latter being the holy temple of Aelia. By then Islam had spread in Mecca into Quraysh and all the Arab tribes.”

He continued, “Concerning the night journey of the Messenger of God (SAAS), I learned what follows from a hadith that came down from Ibn Musud, Abu Said, Aisha, Muawiya, Umm Hani, daughter of Abu Talib, God bless them all, and al-Hasan b. Abu al-Hasan, Ibn Hisham al-Zuhri, Qatada and other scholars. Individually that combines in this account.

“The night journey of the Messenger of God (SAAS) was filled with trials and tribulations and (instances) of God’s power and authority; it provides a lesson for men of intelligence, a guidance, a mercy and an affirmation for those with faith and belief. It was certainly an act of God.

“He carried him on his journey as and how He wished, to show him those of His signs He desired. He thus surveyed some of the Might of God, His will, power and authority by which he accomplishes His purposes.

“Abd Allah b. Masud would say, as I have been informed, the Messenger of God (SAAS), was brought al-Buraq, that being the name of a mount on which previous prophets were carried; its stride was such that it could place its hooves as far as it could see. He was borne away on it.

“His companion (Gabriel) then took him off to see signs between heaven and earth. Eventually he reached Jerusalem, where he found Abraham, Moses and Jesus, in a company of prophets assembled for him. He led them in prayer. “Then he was brought three vessels, containing milk, wine and water. He said that he drank the vessel of milk and was told by Gabriel, ‘You have been given guidance, and so has your nation.’”

…..Ibn Ishaq related, quoting Umm Hani as his source, that she said, “It was from nowhere but my home that the Messenger of God (SAAS) made his night journey. He slept that night after having made the final evening prayer. When it was just before dawn he woke up and when it was morning we prayed together and he said, ‘O Umm Hani, last evening I prayed with you in this valley, then I went to Jerusalem and prayed there. And now here I am having said the morning prayer with you, as you see.’

“He then arose to leave, but I took hold of the hem of his cloak and said, ‘O Messenger of God, do not make that statement to the people; they will surely disbelieve you and do you harm.’

“But he replied, ‘By God, I will certainly tell it to them!’ And he did tell them and they did disbelieve.”

Ibn Ishaq went on (and the Prophet (SAAS) told the sceptical, tr.) “And the proof of this is that I passed by the caravan of such-and-such a tribe in such-and-such a valley, and the sound of (al-buraq) startled them and so one of their camels ran away. I led them to it, being then on my way to al-Sham. Then I continued on until I reached Dajanan, where I passed a caravan of such-and-such tribe. I found the people asleep. They had a vessel with water in it that they had covered it with something. I took off the cover and drank the water and replaced its cover. And the proof of this is that their caravan is now making its way down from the pass at al-Tanim al-Bayda. Leading it is an ash-coloured camel on which are two sacks, one of which is black, the other black and white.

“On hearing this, people hurried to the pass. The first camel, which was as he described to them, was insufficient proof for them, so they asked about the vessel and the camel, and those in the caravan did tell them just as the Prophet (SAAS) had recounted.”

Yunus b. bukayr related, from Asbat, from Ismail al-Suddi, that the sun had almost set before that caravan arrived and so he prayed to God, Almighty and Glorious is He, who slowed it down until they came, just as he had described it to them.

He stated, “And the sun was never slowed down for anyone except on that day for him, and also for Yusha (Joshua) b. Nun.

Al-Bayhaqi related this account. ( Pg 62-64)

So as we can see, the prophet Muhammad performed several miracles, and also went through a miraculous event when he was taken from Mecca to Jerusalem, where he saw all the other prophets and was taken into heaven.

So the claim that the prophet Muhammad had no miracles is a lie.

boxer022:
Jesus Christ is not God but the Son of God. If you say he is God then who spoke from heaven during his baptism according to the Bible saying "this is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased. "

Gozac:
Having covered 31states as at today, Chibuike Amaechi remains the leading aspirant
That's by the wày Amaechi is the most experienced, energetic, qualified and prepared to lead Nigeria at this time
As a detribalised man, he remains the national and unity candidate for one, strong united Nigeria
We urge the delegates to vote an Amaechi for a secured, united and prosperous Nigeria
Forward with courage, Victoria Ascerta!

Dorwadora:
Which I highlighted at the beginning of my post sir... Read it again

The law is bad because

No man has the right to tell a woman what to do with her body...... It's a "My body, my Fuccking choice" world now

And the law is bad because

The Earth is already overpopulated with it's 8 billion.....

Dorwadora:
Well.... The law is not totally bad in my opinion.... There are some few immunities here and there for women with incest pregnancy, rape and medical emergencies.


The law is bad because

No man has the right to tell a woman what to do with her body...... It's a "My body, my Fuccking choice" world now

And the law is bad because

The Earth is already overpopulated with it's 8 billion.....

Thank you

Tbbt8:
A man has no right to tell a woman what to do with her body...

Alao046:
Please point out the four corners of a circle for me. A circle only has points and not corners.

Una go School at all

Speaklove:
Rightly spoken

wirinet:
And you think you are knowledgeable about religious matters?

AntiChristian:
So did those who burnt the lady ascribed their actions to Islam?

This is the reason why I say most Christians are of the devil. They claim to be lead by the Holy spirit yet they demonise without proper judgement!

wirinet:
Circular reasoning.
1. God cursed man to die
2. God came to earth as human to die to save man from dying.
Or
1. God has already condemned all humanity.

2. God came as human to save humanity from eternal damnation.

The most crazy circular reasoning is God sacrificed himself to save humanity from himself.

Alao046:
The Bible teaches a flat earth, which leads also to the conclusion that the christain god in nonsense. How will your god not know the shape of the earth it created, that god must be a dull god.

In general, both Islam and Christainity are absolutely rubbish, and their god is vacuum.

Currentblog:
.. I don't know if i'm the only one, But i hate it, When people say " By The Grace of God" in a Serious business deal.. My point is, you can't be Religious and be Smart at the same time, That's my belief.. Does it Really mean, they want God to come down, And do the Job for them? Please Christian in the House, should throw more Light on this, Please?..

Uglybwoi:
Wearing the jersey doesn't necessarily mean you believe in it. Sometimes, standing rigid on your beliefs isn't always the right move.