TonyeBarcanista:

Papa wey de toil night and day for family to move forward na who you expect to play video game? Na wa for you o

How do you expect him to emotionally invest in his kids? I am very sure most fathers spend time with kids whenever they are at home no matter how little the time is.

Abeg, make una spare all these sissy crap

bigpicture001:


Honestly it's not Tru... If he invested those times in education, though for him, no sponsorship, but if he had.. He mayb b working at access bank by now at 23...

Alot of ppl finish service by 22...

Fhemmmy:


I think it is better we confirm what time of the day the youngman was still sleeping - Remember it was during lockdown and that means he could have been sleeping by noon time.

Racoon:
Whao! This is great though Asaba & Akanu Ibiam Airports are just a stone throw.Dredging of the Niger will also be done in the long run.Ala Igbo ya dinma.

Georgekyrian:


When you say raise hell, don't you think his brother is weak already and they want to separate him from his brother. If he fights them, they will manipulate the weak man to go against his brother, no settlement, no house renting

TiglathPILESER:
The Origin, Initiator of marriage said so, the Holy Bible documented it and a silly head can't take that. What stop the wife from petitioning heaven? Oh her mind is filthy already so that's not in her option. Quote me and mention how judgemental I am, let me remind you, if you are a judge anyway! Smh

Uniquekriss:
really?

Jacqueline22:


God bless you for that my aunt found one also. And she has been on ttc for so so long..very cute baby boy her child now is in primary school.

Carchoice:
in this same reality some women single handedly raise more than 5 kids and they did well against all odds. Extraordinary things still happen in this same world whether bible or not.

Carchoice:
are you a Christian? If yes try to locate where Jesus resurrected the dead in the Bible.


Table has turned now for a woman to provide for the family, her only escape is to leave? Is it safe to say most married women are not better than this man because they are in the same boat. They don’t do anything but wait for the man to provide.

This your response is disheartening. OP, get me in touch with this man. He needs help.

Carchoice:
Sad story.

God works in miraculous ways. I don’t know what to advise but that man can get back on his feet one day and start doing great things, then this woman will come crying for forgiveness.

Women with all the shakara. It is when your penls stop functioning you’ll find out they always want sex and if they don’t get it, they might die

Geminita1:
We all know where this mindset of showing of your super intelligence and wisdom before your man leads to. It never ends well for the woman. So many depressed and tired women around, trying to prove what? That they are capable like men. Men are wired to provide and protect so its natural for them to be more intelligent and wiser. If they want to provide, then they would also desire to be the more intelligent ones.

Even if you are the more capable one deep down your man would appreciate if you keep it to yourself so he doesn't feel emasculated. Flexing your intelligence is a masculine thing to do. Women should rest and let men take the lead. Most times, the ancient paths are the right paths.

merahki:



Achi is something my people don’t (didn’t) traditionally eat (even though the trees are many in my hometown). Children would pick these and use them to play games. My cousin had more than 1000 seeds once, lol. The seeds would also be sold to ndi mbana (people from outside our place).
I learnt about eating achi as a soup type from my Imo and Abia friends.
But of course everybody eats everything now, with tradition mixups (for example ndi obodo ayi traditionally don’t eat nni akpu, instead they eat nniji and nniede, even a combination of the two, but of course I know many people now eat the akpu, one can buy okpa in places far away from Agbaja land now, etc)
Back to achi, it is also cheaper than ede or egusi, and this places it automatically on the menus of many Igbo families, whether they would traditionally eat it or not. I have never eaten it but the seeds are beautiful. They look like ukpaka, but are very much smaller.
Ogili is for ede and abacha in my place, but I think there is a slightly different ogili for each. Hardened/mature oha leaves or oha’s sibling, utulukpa would be used to make ji “agwol’agwo” (my grandma used to do this).
Ogili is a must for ede and abacha in the food gospel of agbaja people.
But there are cheap seeds that my people traditionally eat- akpalata and okobo. Not many people would know these I guess. The former look like trebor sweets and the latter like black ping pong balls. I never tasted them though but I know them as home food. I have only ever eaten and do eat okra plus ogbono with ugu, and egusi with either ugu or onugbu. No other soup have I known.
My people also would cook a pounded cocoyam leaf, or mpoto ede soup. It is a very, very old, almost extinct soup type- ofhe mpoto. Maybe for ndi ozo, like something called ighu. I cant describe this one well, it somehow looks like corn flakes but I don’t know the crop it is made from. It used to be prepared like abacha but with more basic ingredients- akanwu, salt, pepper, palm oil. It was a special food, revered by ozos. Not sure if mpoto was revered by ndi ozo though.
(I know quite some traditional stuff o ).

@OP, I am sorry for derailing some, and then more, but your food is beautiful. I enjoy your food threads. I especially love that they are traditional foods . You would make a killing owning a restaurant outside Nigeria! I have read two, will look out for more.
Like you I think I onions don’t go with soup. I would not eat soup with onions at all (even if only used to season the meat).

DeckXavier:
no wonder she's ignoring you, you're just being irrational.
Just kindly note that anambra state isn't in your league.

pocohantas:


Honestly Sassy, your people are one of the reasons I will never support Biafra. It is going to be like frying pan to fire.

Anambra people will choke the rest of SE states with their oversabi and supremacist mindset. Always acting like their way is the perfect and only way. Everywhere they enter, you must know they are there!! Jeez!

Bruno3000:
something is telling me the woman initiated d move. The guy follow useless sha. In any infidelity case, always hold ur woman responsible. No man, no matter hw randy would dare near a faithful, virtuous woman. Trust me.

0neal:
saw a video of the procedure on youtube, the whole thing is damn scary with or without scalpel.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXkZELQYJ3U&t=405s

BlueRayDick:
Dinner: Noodles sprinkled with Ugwu leaves and dried prawns + chicken

Klass99:


Dr. Tererai was sold off into marriage at age 11, by her father for a cow. In her case, she wasn't eager to marry at all, she really wanted to go to school and be able to raise her hand up in class. Her first husband was like the man in this original post, threatened by her success and constantly beating her up, for wanting to make something of her life. Her story is an inspiring one, you should check it out.

I don't know about most women, I can only speak for myself. I have never felt pressured by the women in my life to get married, not even by my mom. I think because I am surrounded by women who are married and who realize, that being hitched isn't that great or fantastic after all, when it's all said and done.

A few have been candid enough to say, there's nothing special about marriage, take your time and enjoy your single-hood because once you marry, your life is over as you know it. You'll pretty much neglect yourself and put the well being of your hubby/kids, ahead of yourself.

One even said, I am sick and tired of just being a wife and a mother, I keep wondering when I will put my degree to use. If I knew marriage was this way I would have waited a few more years to marry (she married in our 4th year at uni) Another said, don't stress and don't rush into this, I am in it right now and I would gladly trade places with you, to be single again.

As for being eager, I think it's a case of the grass always looking greener on the other side. But the grass on the other side has often felt like a cage and a loss of my freedom to me. 6 of my classmates are divorced and none of us is 40 yet, when you hear some of their stories to marry no go sweet you, sef.

When you meet married women who are candid, they don't mince words about the reality of marriage. They don't try to bullshit you either with that whole phrase of ''no marriage is perfect..........etc'' They are real about the severe stress of it, what they've had to give up, endure or suffer.

TemiOwo:

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bukatyne:


There was a caveat in the opening post.

If you a NOT a Christian, the thread would not make sense to you.

It would have made sense if you avoided the thread than post nonsense here.