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incogni2o:
Its just that none of them is trying to summon up the courage to make things work.

Emotions at play here , and Emotion is far greater than IQ.

Ask the divorced celebrities, professors and billonaires.

Don't mind them. Constituting nuisance on the cyberspace.

Seeing how emotionally bankrupt they are, I won't be surprised if they still go back to each other citing works of the devil as the reason for their initial break up.

What a data and time-wasting read enabled by two selfish and immature adults.

These supposedly intelligent and erroneously married adults forgot their kids will grow up to see and be taunted by this shameless embroglio as internet never forgets.

Selfish couple with zero IQ.

meetme01:
RN, Sacred Heart
B. Sc Lautech
According to her, a 3rd party assisted in hasting the process. Nursing Council sent the License which was rejected. The reason given by CGFNS, it was sent by a wrong body. The 3rd party affirmed, it was sent by Nursing Council hence, the confusion.

Your sister needs to pay and request for a new verification and it must be sent directly to them by nursing council . Any third party involvement in SENDING a verification to CGFNS will be detected and rejected by them. A third party can hasten but DO NOT SEND ON BEHALF OF THE INDIVIDUAL.

Mariangeles:
Move on then.
It seems your mind is already made up on whom you want to be with.
Maybe the purpose of this thread was just to unburden your heart.
Just make up your mind and get it over with.
You and your husband would be fine in the end without each other.

To me, I'd say if only you'd open up your heart to accept those children, you'd realize there's nothing much to it.
In this life, once you've decided that something is not an issue, it is not an issue.
We have the power to decide how things turn out.
In Igbo land, some women who cannot have children choose and marry wives for their husbands so that they can have children for them. I have witnessed such a situation. Believe me, it is not that big of a deal.

These days is people invest too much emotions in relationship.
Never make important decisions based on emotions.

At the emboldened, you forgot to put that in the olden days, most women don't even love their husbands and doesn't care who they have sex with. Nowadays, they go their separate ways or IVF.

Op, nobody should force you to accept a child that is not yours. Don't be blackmailed into accepting to be a nanny to your husband and his baby mama.
It is obvious that you loved him prior to this and you were pressured to agree to the dalliance which felt like a betrayal.
I'd say for the sake of your sanity, get the divorce and move on.
Unless you do not give a fvck about him or whomever he slept with anymore and also taking care of kids is your sole purpose in life then go back. You'd think your husband and his mother won't try it again and again, lol. They will because they are desperate for kids and since you have accepted the first, why not the second, third and so on.....

Donate your sperm if you must.

Maybe you have been doing her with condom, now she wants you guys to do without condom so that she can get pregnant. She is lonely and needs sex badly and using having more kids as an excuse to commit adultery.

Your uncle couldn't get her pregnant more that once because something was wrong with them. What made you think she will get pregnant? They had one 12 year old. Your uncle died at 51 about 3 years ago. They had 9 years to to have other kids, right? What went wrong?

Let her do artificial insemination in a good hospital. If you sleep with her, you may loose your wife, respect and your home. Those craps we called tradition is being frown on nowadays cos it always ends up messy. The kids grow up confused like their parents that birthed them.

Those days are gone. Be very careful. If you don't want a second wife and values stability in life, better steer clear.

Gforce2015:
Why? The guys are being wired to take the lead and protect from the time immemorial....the fact that ladies are known as a weaker vessel is enough for them to thread lifestyle with caution...

There are a lot of feminists ladies on this platform who believe men and women have equal rights in marriage. So, how will equal rights favor one gender more than the other?

Men have always had this idea to be magnanimous and chivalrous towards women, and women has allowed it and has let it fester from inception. Same men are crying against feminism even though feminism is working towards recognising gender equality for both sex which will even favour men more than women especially in family institution.

Regardless, using single mothers and widows as an example, they have shown that it is possible for a woman to juggle their career, give birth, and raise their kids single-handedly.

Can a man get pregnant, give birth, nurture and raise kids while holding a career or a job?....in that order.

I understand how you feel regarding your husband and his babies. I can't do it either. Your mother-in-law and husband took the easy way out and made you out like a soulless being without feelings who will have to go along with their plans. To them, because you can't have a child, you can take anything they dished out to you.
If the babies were motherless with no string attached, yeah but this, this is tricky you can be left hanging after showering all your loves on them.

The widower is obviously looking for a boomerang and rebound wife.

Leave both the husband and husband to be and run.

Find someone fresh please.

This is a sequel to your cry for help on the other thread, regarding your cousins maltreatments and brutalities.

At 17 years, you are too young to engage him physically especially when you are not surrounded by friends and family.
You need to leave that premises ASAP before he kills you.

Please kindly indicate the state you are residing in, so that nairalanders can rally round to help you out.

21cents:
@last paragraph. because he wants kids which can be gotten thru baby mama these days. otherwise women are nothing to men.

I've stayed alone 5yrs without any lady and I noticed I never longed for companionship or got wrecked with loneliness.

I fawking hate it when women overestimate their importance in a man's life.

lol. Women overestimates their importance, ugh? And you are still the person that needs a woman aka baby mama to nurture and take care of your babies, don't you ? Why not incubate them and nurture them yourself? What a laughable comment.

A woman just need a sperm from a sperm bank to have a child while you need both the eggs, the womb including the whole package to nurture and raise the babies.

Financially independent women are serious threat to patriarchy, take it or leave it.

Gforce2015:
It's a lie. That was before.
Our generation ladies don't get strip-up because of marriage. All your preference is still intact if you have let him know before you start the relationship. The only thing that will strip off is your flat tummy...because of pregnancy....
You can still pursue your dream career before and after marriage. You can still maintain your maiden name before and after marriage
Talking about preference, marriage affects both man and woman preference. So no excuse...
However, it depends on the kind of perception you have about marriage, probably you are the housewife type.

You know nothing John Snow.
A man speaking for a woman is what I detest the most. Stick with your men point of view and preferences please.

In the modern world, being financially independent devoid of marital hassles is the greatest thing ever for women. With it, you have the choice of having kids without any man tagging along. Women can always juggle their careers and kids without the baggages and dramas a man brings.

Marriage has never favoured women from time immemorial. It has always been a man that seek out or ask a woman to marry him never the other way round. Have you ever asked why?

After ranting, they will still end up getting married and will continue the rants.

Women gains nothing from marriage.


Marriage strips a woman everything she has... Her name, family, friends, preference even careers.

Next life, maybe a sperm bank will do the honors.

Good thinking sir.

Women has been doing it for aeons, walking on eggshells all over their husbands as whomever pays the Piper dictates the tune.

mrblessed:
You have finally shown your hands after failing to separate him from his family and create a wedge, now it is your imaginary savings that is your next weapon. When are you really going to get tired and peace a chance? See where your futile battle of nine years has taken you to. If you are a women who means well for your husband and his family, there is no way he would have ignored you all these years. I don't want to believe that your husband is a fool, who doesn't know what he is doing, why overwhelm yourself with anger. I surmise you are the type of woman that goes into marriage with screw driver, to loose/separate anyone whom you think is too close, or benefits from your husband. As it turns out now, there are some nuts that are very difficult to loose.

See the suckers and the dry cleaners you are talking about ma'am.
They see no wrong in depending and milking their siblings dry at the detriment of their families.

Never you tell him not to give them or you will become a witch. This is the survival of the fittest and a battle of conscience.
You are on a very long road and if you can't keep up, then it's time for you to devise a means to get back at them.

Just pack your loads, go and stay with his siblings one after the other. If that's not possible, start calling them for assistance: for house rents today, feeding tomorrow and school fees next tomorrow. Take the fight back to them. Start with pathetic cries and excuses of hardships if you must. Emphasize on how broke he is and how he borrow to keep everything together. Feign ignorance of him giving them shi-shi. Ensure you commence this ordeal with the most vocal of them and then progress to the ones that begged and milked him dry the most.

Make sure you are very vocal about it. Whenever you received the 2k for the one week feeding, call one of them in your husband's presence and beg for more to make up. Milk them as dry as possible.

Cunny man die, cunny man bury am.

You kept quiet for too long instead of shitting back on them hard and fast, now you are having impacted feacal matter high up your rectum. You need a quick action ma'am.

Watch war room, muscle up and dress sexily, sex her like a stallion, always cook nice meals for her and the kids, give her money always, ignore her tantrums and pray without ceasing.
It is your marriage and you should keep it or die keeping it... Lmao


Don't quote me please, that's the bullshits they preach to women when she is going through hell, so I'd think you also need it.

A kidney cost between 60,000-262,000 dollars in the black market. Do the maths. If he is buying, I'll consider selling. Pure business. The marriage is already over anyway.

1 month dating and you are already on call duty as a chef.

Climatology100:
With the latest developments today, I fear I might have to let her be till when the mother deem fit to tell her the actual truth.
My ex is a good woman and she deserve peace but one way or the other I will be involve in the girl life.
A lot sir, a lot but I might take her out of the country if the need arise to live with my sister or better still she's free to create a niche on her own.

You should read the laws well especially if the sole reason why you needed to be in the "child's" life is for her to live with your sister instead of enjoying her mum's love and guidance " ?


What exactly do you want?

Ximenez:
You didn't read all of his posts carefully, the lady already admitted the daughter is his

She never categorically admitted that the child is his. Op alluded such with conjectures, similar resemblance and pictures from social media. She is riding on the op's emotions probably giving him a test dose of how he played with hers.
Get a DNA if you must but be rest assured that it may not come out as expected.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Abeg shift one side with your emotions laden comment

I'd say that, you are the one with the emotion laden comments

JONNYSPUTE:
...So he should forego his daughter?

He is not even sure the baby is his. Just conjectures and innuendos.
Has it occur to him that he might have been mistaken that the baby is his? What about the lady claiming that he was a sperm donor? He saw pictures.... Lol.
I am just concerned particularly about the potential paternity fraud not what the OP thinks?


My question remains "what do you want ".?

OP, what do you want? This is your last strike.

Because that girl will kill you if you mess up her life one more time. It takes just a little for love to turn to hatred.

koning:
Sad the video to watch. the woman is in for a looong thing because the man and his mulatto son will make life unbearable for her. She will always be paranoid whenever she sees both of them talking in secret or go out together as was the case here.


As for the Igbo dialect. I could not understand much. Abriba/ Ohafia/Afikpo/ Ebonyi and Nsukka dialects are a mouth full. Can't understand shit.

I understand Ika and ikwerre better than whatever the heck language they were speaking yet the ika and ikwerres denies being Igbo.

Hunnybee:
I don’t think it was due to oversight, you said ‘they accept either’ meaning you def knew what you were saying. What’s the good in passing on wrong knowledge and info, plus why is it difficult for you to accept that the info you’ve given is wrong? Since you’ve been here as BlueBeard all you’ve given is wrong info

He has accepted his shortcomings. No go rub am in too much. E dey pepper for body.

emilas1979:
Please I need advice.
I am presently stranded in the village, having spent almost 7weeks in the village.

We traveled from Abuja to East on 25th March in preparation for my late fathers burial but we were held back by the interstate lockdown.

I traveled with the kids because, school closed on 23rd and no one to look after them, we were hoping to return by 30th March.

Have really run out of cash. Moreso the burial has been cancelled

Now, we can't travel back,
We are really stranded here as my wife is a public servant and her job is on the line.

Anyone with useful info on how I can move my family back to base without violating any law should let me know.

Your issue is just lack of cash. If your wife is really a public Officer on essential duty as you opined, it won't be difficult to get a pass from her office, scan and sent directly to her. It will ease your journey especially if you have a private car.
It is difficult to get out of the east now as we have less entry and exit points unlike other parts of the country. Every nooks and crannies are well guarded even the waters.
If you can get yourself to Kogi or Benue through Anam or Omor link road then the rest will be easy but I doubt Obiano won't have that side guarded as well.

A natural phenomenon. I call it the reckonings. The decade of empty nest syndrome. Counting the cost period. Have seen it happens severally to others. The sudden self and mental realisation that she has been using the kids as cushion to bear the absurdities of the marriage for so long. At this point, most women has gained slight degree of financial freedom and independence and can decide to leave or show "him or them" pepper.
They begin to realise how unfairly they were treated by the family and in-laws in the early days of the marriage, it is just human nature to either ignore or seek revenge.
Most women marries too early to understand what their goal in life really is. That, makes it more scary as some may go extremely left-wing or extremely right-wing in search of those goals.

You are sick.

Have you ever had a severe sore throat and difficulty in swallowing yet someone is forcefully force-feeding you a bowl of thick pap? That's aclose analogy.

Randy100:
You still missed the point. Who is talking about killing here? Attempting suicide which is killing of oneself is a crime. A wife owes his man what we call conjugal right brother. The woman who gave birth can still sexually satisfy the husband in other ways, it is all about understanding that is not even my point. My point is that there is nothing like rape in marriage or what you termed marital rape. I have never heard that a man was convicted of marital rape before in Nigeria. Stop blackmailing me emotionally by saying that I have not seen a woman give birth before.

Omoluabi16:
ehen, they have arrived.

Of course.... What do you expect.? Have your cake and eat it? Naaa

CHoccolaTE:
I like what your friend did to her husband.
Men. Especially Muslim men, can be extremely insensitive to the fact that women are human beings too when it comes to this issue of polygamy.
How can he expect her to stay in the same house watching them both having sex and being intimate right in front of by her? The only way a woman will accept that kind of foolishness is only if she absolutely hates the man and sees him as shit or something. She cannot have even the slightest amount of feelings for him and accept such insensitivity.
But they don't care. All they are interested in is more sex for themselves.


The video in op looks like a skit anyway, I don't think it actually happened

No kidding. Serious selfishness. One of the reasons why I don't cheat. I utilize the golden rules in all my dealings.
Chaii, I always check my blood pressure whenever the imagination of my husband being inside another woman comes up. Frolicking, touching and muttering sweet things to each other. Crime of passion is real
I can't even think it.

solmusdesigns:
Dangote is a polygamist and serial divorcee with 4 separate women In his life at one time or the other

At one time not at the same time. A serial divorcee is different from a polygamist.

I am not going to hold brief for anybody but........


Some of you men are heading the same way of some of your fathers and risk being treated like them in your old age.
You cheats, beats and tortures wife, neglects your children, drinks, party with reckless abandon and play all manner of sick games in your prime, and then when sickness and old age comes knocking, you all will start looking for who will take care of you and pamper you . You'll start looking for whom to emotionally manipulate to dance to your every whims. Karma is a bitch
That's when it hits kaboom, as those kids and wives you neglected will give you hell. They weren't stupid to keep quiet when you were the giant but now they have seen it all, the ill-advised and embittered ones won't hesitate to send you back to sheol where you belong. The wound has healed but the scars still remains , no manner of therapy can remove an emotional scar caused by a supposed loved one, religion aside.

Women worships men that loved and cherished them and their kids when the going was good. Do same to your woman and your story won't be like this man.