₦airaland Forum

sojioguns:
Very funny @tallnaijaf. Then let them get some tampons or sumtin.

Oh, I thought I was dealing with a real man, too sorry!  Well, since you've mentioned it in support of @tallnaijaf, will try and get enough tampons for all the females in your family maybe that would help you grow up and put some sensibility in your brainless head.

tallnaijaf:

Its a genetic defect
and its expressed via the stupidity of the typical Nigerian mind.
In this case however, it may be conjectured that it is " that time of the month"

You're too raw boy, too raw and I'm sorry for you!!  Goes to show how timid your are. 

Yes, it may be that time of month and, without which your fat HEAD won't be on this planet earth, think about that. 
Just to let you know it is also that time of month for all the females in your family too. 
Remember, they say - he who live in a glass house must not throw stones and now you had.
Go leak your wound!!

Oh my brothers and sisters, I cry alongside you!!!  Our beautiful country is a mess to the point where the most basic Human Right - food is so out of question for millions of Nigerians families and the politicians are having a laugh at their own peoples' misery - terrible!!!  Nigeria is a land full of COWARDS.  Where are all those macho males of Nigeria who would rather chew their own manhood at the mere mention of a woman taking the mantle to rule Nigeria.  Where are you, COWARDS?? Where are you?  Maybe God is teaching Nigeria some wisdom here - its time for a girl to take CHARGE OF THIS COUNTRY, TO TAKE THE ACCOUNTABILITY of this country in their own hands. It's time you lot back off and give women a chance and support them to succeed instead of sabourtaging their chances.  Enough is enough give us the mantle and see what we can do - turn this Country round because it's ours too and it's been proven time and time again and all over the world that women are good managers and they can manage the country very well indeed.  Evidence of this is every where - Indiara Ghandi, Margaret Thatcher and now Angela of Germany and talk of nearer home our own sister in-charge of Liberia,  Now what have you got to tell us  Shame, shame and shame on to you lot, Nigerian men.  

And to answer this question, well, I would say - successive governments (past and present), who have been taking turns to rule Nigeria since Biafran/Nigerian civil war should all be brought to justice on this if Nigerians are dying of starvation in their own blessed land and these people are living like kings off our own OIL MONEY - and their children all, in foreign Universities squashing our money without shame.  Well, I wonder who's  to blame should Nigerians not know who,  I say blame me, then!

Nigerians should start taking actions instead of talking, talking, talking and more talks. Instead of harrassing and bulling innocent Nigerians who have not only suffered but also self sacrificed their lives to be who they are today -
SELF-MADE MILLIONAIRES, instead of the never ending crime in our cities and villages - by way of ARMED ROBBERY and KIDNAPPINGS of innocent people, the current trade now.  Instead of these, PLEASE, target the broad day light theives and their disciples who had stolen our country under our own eyes and feet.  Target them and their familes wherever they are (and you know where to find them, don't you??) so that they suffer what we are suffering and, more and please, leave innocent Nigerians struggling to make ends meet alone, please, please, please!

Mai Suya:
/you accuse me of placing empasis on  qualifications whereas you were the one who had earlier claimed to be a medical person - whatever that means - perhaps in an attempt to ascribe some credence to your points. However, your contributions so far have largely centered on (questionable) behavioral and doomsday prognosis -  really is it NOW you want to start advising the patient to abstian from sex?

By no means do I deny the place of attitudinal changes in dealing with the AIDS scourge; my point is that there are people specially trained for that. There is a place for objective factual clinically oriented advice - which is what this patient needs now - and and also for sanctimonious shenanigans. Your alleged profession dictates that you focus on the former.

Here we go again! In simple terms, I can not see anything wrong in clarifying from which perspective I view this issue. 
In my commentary, I did not in any way reveal my academic/professional qualifications or degrees and no one is interested or care to know anyway, except you.  Like most people here, I only expressed my opinion on the issue - it might have stung, it might have hurt but that's the realities of 'Freedom of Speech'. Well, as you continued to re-iterate here, my profession not only advocates for the medical model (cure of the disease) but also for the holistic approach to health - (the cure of the whole person) which also includes their social and psychological wellbeing etc if I'm correct.  Yes, you and I advocates for patients' needs but you fail to take into account the underlying issues that need to be addressed alongside these needs.  You forgot that, 'Knowledge is power'. Empowering the public with the information they need to deal with these challenges are far more important than focussing on the cure of one person as we see it here (Deontological ethics applies). Now go analyse this further. Your problem not mine.

Kc0022000:
@Theblessed or Thecursed, Grow up ! if there is need for someone to grow up here , its you with your senseless post. Go to Aso Rock and express your freedom of Speech not just in a forum like NL. Bit you check yourself before someone do the checking for you. Keep your sick opinion to yourself if this are the kind of opinion you have. sau

Well, you've been rattled! Hence the name calling and that supposed to be the CIVILISED ONE among us,

ooooooooh, shame!!!!  Yes, democracy reigns here on NL.  If you don't like what you hear get out of here, simple.

You see, ignorants don't understand that when they post an issue on here, it's an open market and it's called:

http://WWW. World.com anyone interested in the good would price it either negatively or positively depending on the

qualities of the good (if you undestand what I mean, young man).  Nigerians can only seat back and rattle about

democracy but when the reality hit them, they can't hark it because they think it all tastes so gooooooooood!!! 

In reality, its not all that.  So my young man, don't jump out of your pram because of a tip of the ice-berg

DEMOCRACY you'd only just tasted and didn't like.  So, why ask for democracy in this country when people like you

can not handle the simpliest of them all, 'Freedom of Speech, eh??'  Shows your immaturity in these things. 

Sorry, boy! Your intimidation will not stop me.  Will continue to challenge and air my opinion on any topic I fancy here

because it's my 'Democratic right' and I would not let bullies like you take that away from me.  Get informed ok, and

stop trying cos' you will not win!!! So better grow up and accept your reality as 'Freedom of Speech' is here to stay

on NL, right?

Well, Nigeria movies are yet to get there. 

In fact, they are nothing but CRAPS!!!

TASTELESS, UNIMAGINATIVE AND PREDICTIVE

And there are no WOW!!! factors in it.

I mean that thing that engages someone

to it and makes one beg, beg and beg for more

or even cry as it's coming to an end - these are

hardly found in Nigerian films and that makes it

cheap.  You see buddy, they haven't got it yet

because many of the actors/actresses, directors

and producers are untrained and lack acting skills. 

Because, they want to make quick money hence

the rubbish that flood our markets and no wonder

they are 'Achikata ekweonu' here. I mean cheap traps

(50 for 1p).  So if other West African countries are

swearing by Nigerian films, it goes to show how timid

these countries are.  Do you blame them?  No, because

they have no point of comparison and no clue of what

is classed high standards. So, to them, Nigerian films are

heaven.  The so called actors/actresses, director etc need

some education and brushing  up and therefore, should go

and spend time to learn their trade properly from Colleges

and Universities the techniques of making and producing

good films, before hitting the markets with these rubbish

please, tell them so, ok!  I won't say this again!

mufasa:
I had to go check the topic for this thread again to be sure what we are discussing and if i'm correct its about a pregnant lady who tested positive and is contemplating suicide.
Theblessed i think i understand the stance you are taking but if the poster reads your post then we should buy a casket!!!!!

Well, I stand my grounds.  This might sound cold, I am not a cold person but a realist.  I'm sorry about this lady's situation but honestly, no one could help her now.  Medically, all we can do is to sustain her i.e. use the scientific knowledge available to try and prolong her life and others like her but the truth must be told because human beings don't learn their lessons or even listen until it happens to them, and then they look for someone to blame.  Even here on NL, there are many ignorant people claiming they know people who are positive but still sleep with their partners and they hadn't caught it yet.  So, it means go ahead, carry on sleeping around and spreading the disease - haleluiya, it doesn't matter and no harm. Well, I will never be their victim but sorry for those who would.  There's been a lot of education about Hiv/Aids, any ear that would hear will hear and those that won't, don't worry.   It's better to say the truth and save the world than say nothing at all.  It may hurt but thats reality.  As I write, people would ask have you ever exposed myself to risks? Of course, a million times - I have but I learnt my lessons.  If I were in their shoes what would I do? Nothing, as no one could help the situation - just live your life, continue with your prescribed treatments and don't worry hopefully, a cure would be found soon however, ensure you don't inflict the same injury on another innocent person just because, someone knowingly or unknowing transmitted this sh-t to you. As a christain I believe, people  will answer for this kind of behaviour or should I say wickedness when they get to heaven (afterall, everyone is going to die one day and most of us will die in this particular century, anyway!) because, God will ask them what they did with their lives here and they will explain themselves - not me!  So, the wicked can continue in his/her ways until, such time.

Kc0022000:
@Theblessed,  you lack communication skills with others, be calm and learn how to post in public forum

Hmmm! My Chief communicator, is that the least you can write?? And what do you understand by communication, huh?  Or are you just a band waggoner - joining in the band waggon without genuine reasons.  You communicate when you express yourself honestly in what you believe in even though it might stink or hurt others, tough!!!!  Therefore, your criticism has no grounding, all I did was express an opinion and if anyone here does not like people expressing themselves in what they believe in, they better not post any of their issues here because, NL is democratic - you say what you like and if they can not cope with the negative side of democracy, better get out of here. You can not take the sweet side of democracy without the bitter side and that's how it goes! This is the land of DEMOCRACY - freedom of speech ok!  Grow up! And God bless NL!!!

Mai Suya:
Did you say you are a DOCTOR? or what exactly do you mean by 'medical person'? I don't mean to be offensive, but I'm not sure a trained medical professional will be talking like this. . .

I am not here to peruse my qualifications with you.  I'm only here to educate people the best I can.  I understand where you're coming from - Nigerians love to hear about peoples' STATUS (i.e. their social or professional standing) and it's got to be larger than life for them to respect and recognise others.  So, I am not going down that road with you, Mr Senior Executive DOCTOR.

Mai Suya:
Wicked!!!  but seriously Gabby, I feel you 100%, cuz I read the thing like 3 times but just couldn't understand s*** think I'll try the raisins too . . . 

I am not here to peruse my qualifications with you.  I'm only here to educate people the best I can.  I understand where you're coming from - Nigerians love to hear about peoples' STATUS (i.e. their social or professional standing) and it's got to be larger than life for them to respect and recognise others.  So, I am not going down that road with you, Mr Senior Executive DOCTER.

mufasa:
Antiretroviral drugs are free from any government hospital thanks to The American People. I'm a Doctor and i've worked @ an ARV center before. When you start the ARTs try to be adherent ok. I know it aint easy buy you gotta do it. Don't worry about your unborn child she will not get it if you are on drugs and book for Antenatal Care at a good center.
I never doubt the power of God as regards miracles but my sister realistically i will advice you to save yourself all the troubles of going from one Church to another. Use your money for food and other important things. You could join a heart to heart center. Where you meet up with other people living with HIV.
If you need any questions as regards the Antiretrovirals, prevention of Mother to child transmission, HIV, TB and other opportunistic infections drop me a line here or mufasa@37.com

Hmmm!! Please, don't be derogatory.  

Yes, medical people also are spiritual human beings with hearts and emotions too and there is nothing wrong in expressing their feelings in what they believe in and, in terms of this dreadful disease with it's consequences.  All am doing is educating people here to adopt responsible behaviours but in your writting, you are portraying this diesease as one of those chronic illnesses .  Yes, a chronic illness it is but you fail to tell the world it is a chronic illness with a difference - it could wipe out a whole village or country (evidence is available anyway - check East Africa - Uganda if in doubt) but hey, most chronic illnesses are not in this category, this is exceptional.  Also, you try to portray the current drugs in use (ART) as the Messaiah that delivers everyone, really??  Now, ignorants on here are beginning to beleive that there is a cure when you and I know quite well there is none.   WHY LIE TO PEOPLE BY MASSAGING THE TRUTH INSTEAD OF TELLING THEM EXACTLY HOW IT IS?  The world would not come to an end if they hear the truth than to raise false hopes.  The truth is, there is no cure for HiV/Aids, change your ways, stick with your marriages, and if your are unmarried desist from unprotected sexual intercourse with your so called partners.  If you suspect your other 'half' is not getting the messeage, secure your own life otherwise, he/she might take you with them.   Don't trust anyone, as people are not honest as they go sleeping around without protection and knowing they carry this dreaful disease -  that's wickedness that carries a jail term in the West.  You will be put away for a very long time so that you don't have to infect other innocent people, and that's the truth.

Olayinkaoj:
@Theblessed

let me educate you a little about HIV transmission as it this is not the time to apportion accusing fingers on who contacted it first and through which means. When HIV comes, it has come and one sld look for how to manage it or possibly pray for it to go, so stop saying one-minute- enjoyment is the cause thru one of the couple.

We sld have it at the back of our minds that majority of HIV positive men contacted it thru sharp object/blood contact/ blood transfussion while women contact it thru the aforementioned means and sex.   I am not saying men dont concact it through sex though but,  dont start saying here that 5 minutes enjoyment caused it, virgins also have HIV, so what are we talking about.

You may not be surprised that some men out there sleep with a woman per day, still test -ve ( I am not saying this is right in any way) while the non- promiscuous once have HIV. I know of several couples with just one of the partners HIV +ve. I know a lot of women who are +ve and their husband -ve, even after many children, and they still live together. I was when I have not known cases like this that I use to consider HIV as a killer. Only God knows where the virus came from, so please dont aportion blame on who brought HIv to the family.

Look at this experience of a family friend where the wife was pregnant with her 3rd baby and went for a text, she tested +ve and when the husband was asked to do his test, he was -ve and he continued the test severally after every 6 months, still -ve till date, the husband told me he trust his wife to eternity and for the grace that he did not even contact the virus was enough reason for him not to quiet the relationship. God knows why, Please let us all pray to God to give us the Drug, simple

Hey, commentor

Please, stop spreading your negative information it is unhelpful - and there are many who are ignorant here, who would understand it differently.  Yes, HiV is contracted from bodily fluids via blood transfusion, sexual intercourse, shaing of needles (mainly among drug addicts and others) ok!  No, you can not contract it by touching, drinking from the same cup or kissing someone unless you go down their throat, ok! So be careful!!!

HiV can remain dormant in the body for a very long time until such time, the body's immunity begins to degenerate or weakens then it shows up.  This might have been the case with your friends wife.  She may have contracted this dreadful disease from previous relationships before her marriage to your friend and your friend should thank his lucky stars too and be more careful not to have unprotected sex with his wife or anyone else now he knows the score else, he won't be able to count himself lucky much longer, I promise him. What about their children, have they been tested and are they negative too??  In my understanding, Africans regards HiV as a disease that would go away eventually - in their dreams?? No, it will not.  This is a lesson for mankind because of our promiscuous behaviours and there is no cure, get it?  We can sit around and pray and call the name of God to save us from this nightmare but let me tell you, you can not fold your hands and continue in your old ways and expect God to answer your prayers because, he will not.  God is not stupid, ok!  You have to show God your own input, that your are serious and sincere in your heart about what you are asking for, for him to listen to your prayers let alone do something. 
Yes nothing is impossible with God but you have to show some responsibilities on your own part for a miracle to happen for you.  This disease will not go away until we change our ways.  Since 1978 this virus was first discovered, scientists all over the world have been researching for a cure but to no avail - imagine some 30 years on and nothing has happened.  To this end, I prophesy, by the 40th year a cure would be found, by God's grace.  For those who take this disease lightly, I am too sorry for them because they will be the next statistics.  The disease is all over the world but 3rd world countries mainly Africans suffer more than any one else because of poverty and our selfish governments e.g. the disease is EPIDEMIC in Southern African countries like South Africa, Tanzania, Zimbabwe etc and Nigeria is already heading that way. Too bad!!! So if you like carry on encouraging promiscuity instead of educating your people on the importance of not involving themselves in unprotected sexual activities, which is why there's a wide spread of this disease among Africans.  African men do not understand or believe in the use of CONDOMS or other forms of protection during sexual intercourse, though, these forms of protection are not 100% reliable however it's better to do something than do nothing at all, can't you see that And for those, who think it would not happen to them, and continue to live their adulterous lives, I say don't worry eventually, you and your disciples will join the statistics.

oyb:
based on your argument, one should not buy any new item. why buy honda end of discussion when you know discussion continues will be better(and why buy a discussion continues, for the same reason) ? why buy the current  ipod when you know there will be a better model a few years down the line? apologies, but your argument is ridiculous.

the most important thing to do is to try to comprehend current trends, so that your equipment will be as future proof as possible. remember that hoarded money is not doing anything. the real issue is if you insist on hoarding the item after you buy it, or buying the item with the intent of using it in the distant future, rather than right now.

Rubbish!! To start with, there's no such thing as future proof on any thing let alone technology, ok!  You can't compare a car with a piece of innovative item/technology like camcorder - your comparison is absolutely nonsensical.  Cars for their good parts, diminishes in value just as the ink begins to dry off your paper warranty for them but at least, they give you your money's worth however, camcorder is some thing you use on occasions, not all the time.  The only people who can spend that bonkers amount of money on such an item without thinking are armed rubbers, politicians and their relatives e.g. children, brothers, sisters etc because it's not their money they are spending, it 's our money - stolen from us - they stole our money and try to make it look as if it's their hard earned money but God will catch them all up soon so, if you are one of them , just wait your day shall come!! Looking at your profile I can see you have no brains either - what on earth are you doing putting young childrens pictures on here?? Goes to show how ignorant your are - get a life, ok!  Remove those pictures on here, these kids deserve not be abused on here because of your ego, idiot!  If I were one of their parents and you did this for commercial reasons, I will sue your ar-e off this business and you won't have legs to stand.  Go now and remove them from here, silly!

porkpie:
Hmmm!!!! can you please give statistics of plane crash in Nigeria and how many of the plane are women pilot!!!!!!

I can see you are not in tune with today!!!!

Just watch out for an all  female Ship Crew.

Hmmm!! This is not new - we have done it too some 8 or 10 years ago, all women British crew sailed round the world and back into British waters/port.  As you can see, Nigerian women can do it too if people like you will let them be.

philip0906:
Yes oooooo.In their ungodly quest to fulfill d useless saying that wat a man can do a woman can do beta.POINT BLANK RUBBISH.
  OYA ALL OF UNA ENTA KITCHEN ,THAT'S WERE U ALL B'LONG.

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May God give us d fortitude 2 bear d loss.

Well, I say God will give us fortitude to bear your loss, all you primitive things on here.

If you have no clue about developments in the world today, why can't you ask those who know more than you? 

Right, let me open your blind eyes a little bit - aeroplanes now fly on AUTO-PILOT ok!  It means you just set it up and the rest is history and by the time you know it, you are in Murtala Mohammed or Heathrow or JFK or Schipol airports etc.  Now go do a little bit more research about this godamn education I have given you now, ok.  Again, let me remind you once more - this is not the first time Nigerian women have piloted an air-craft, ok!  The first Nigerian woman Pilot - flew from New York to Nigeria in the late 70's and early 1980's (you see, some 30 years ago so, Nigerian women are not particularly doing well in this aspect and it does not surprise me with these negative writings on here, who is putting them down - Nigerian men for they do not like and do not want to hear about our achievements because of their insecurities now, it is the battle of the sexes between us and them.Lol!!!!!.  Now, go ask people who were around then how it happened - they will open your glued eyes and deaf ears a bit more.  Again, since you are still in the primitve age, it has not been long when a woman space pilot flew the space craft into space but insecure men like you and your brothers fearing your egos dented refused her docking the space craft into orbit i.e. space station, what a shame.  You see, she was able to fly it from earth into space but egocentrics refused her to complete the journey, this is the problem we have with men - blocking our chances for the fear of loosing their malehood therefore, we are determined and not going to be silenced, we'll continue to press whatever button we can to express our God given talents until the sheets covering all your eyes eventually scaled off then, you will realise - what a man can do, a woman can do even better !!!!!!!!!!!!! Hear it, buddy!!

Hmmm!! Does it take a bind and deaf person to know that marriage is a 'Covenant'?  However marriage can be a Contract if those in it decides to make it so. You see, marriage is the holiest union God has bestowed on us but some people do not understand what marriage is all about.  Marriage only becomes a contract when those in it permits a third party part-take in it e.g. the inlaws and other people having a say in your maritals when there is a domestic - and worse of all when (for those who indulge in it) concubines and boyfriends come to town in a marriage, just wait for it!! You see, most people are full of pretences about the nature of their marriages and no matter how and what we pretend our marriages to be more than perfect than our brother's, sister's, cousin's and neighbours' - we are lying/deceiving ourselves because there's no such thing as 'a perfect marriage' but we can always try.  Every marriage has its own issues that can break it up - a lot of things can break up a marriage especially adultery from either side however, men in the 3rd world get away with murder because of lack of legal protection for women and the culture that have stiffled women in these areas for so long thus, men in the  West can only dream of the adultreous lifestyles of their fellow men in the the 3rd world.  Women in the West have choices and therefore, men (black and white) can not get away with such NONSENSICAL and sh-t.  They will be flogged where it hurts much and you know where?  In their wallets and everything is 'HALVED', I promise you.   So, next time they see a woman, they make sure she is the one they ACTUALLY married and I like that.  Its good to recognise your own isn't it than taking someone else's.  Although, you may get away with this kind of behaviour in the 3rd world, please men avoid whatever is going to cause the issues that might make your marriages a contract and embrace an everlasting covenant of a HAPPY marriage - my advise to you.

So unfortunate, indeed! Exactly the kind of story I was challenging here last week.  People in relationships taking unnecessary risks - messing up not only their own lives as well as that of people they share life with - husbands, wives, children (the innocent victims), brothers, sisters, mums, dads, uncles, aunties and the list goes on etc.
Name it everyone is affected here just because of one single and selfish idiot.  As a medical person, who deals with this and the social effects of it I am very, very angry, you better believe it!!!
Now, lets assume you or your husband contracted this via blood transfusion or sharing of needles etc I can understand and be forgiving however tell me otherwise,   That because of a 5 minutes quickie with this man/women outside your marriage that this is happening,  does it really worth it Just see how many people  HURTING right now as a result of this unfortunate and selfish behaviour.  Whoever, brought this into this family, you have your conscience to live with for the rest of your life and for me that's enough punishment for you until you meet your maker, then you will be fully answerable.

I am not happy about this situation because, as a medical person I know there is no cure and I'm sure you and your husband knows that too.  Yes, with medications your lives could be prolonged a bit but the reality is that, not everyone responds to these drugs - in a not shell, it does not work for everyone and what if you fell into this category of people?

Please, I suggest try everything possible - but ensure you make proper arrangements for your children (if you have them)  in case the inevitable happens because it will eventually.  We live in a world where people and their associates have to be very, very careful indeed.  It does not matter whether you are in a marriage or not.  The truth is, you can't trust anyone these days because, most people are not disciplined - they can't hold onto their dogs for too long.  So what shall we do , I hear some people ask I don't know, all I can say is, you just have to plan your own life and be very careful who you are dealing with, and for the sake of your loved ones who would miss you terribly when you'd gone!!

Take care!!!

Hey Buddy!

Why spend that kind of crazy amount on a camcorder.  Please, take a leave from people who knows better,

Ask people who knows about technology - these days, you don't need to spend this crazy amount on a camcorder, ok! 

WHY Not ??  I hear you say.  Well my answer is:  In this day in age, Technology changes every two minutes .
You see, this 'your new kid on the block' now, will soon become 'Noah's Ark' tomorrow (if you got my message) and you will be disappointed.  So, invest in technology but don't go mad about it as new ideas emerges and develops every two seconds.  Take note!  I promise you by December, there will be better and more sophisticated ones in the market, I mean another 'New kid on the block' for you.  I wonder who will be sorry then obviously, not me.

Cheers!

Taking into account, our common beliefs, values, backgrounds - i.e. good home and God fearing etc and notwithstanding our tribal and religious differences, which of these Nigerian beauties (Hausa, Ibo, Yoruba, Cross River State - Ikwaibom, Bendel, Benin etc) can any one here honestly recommend as marriage material for a beloved family member?  Please, why so and why wouldn't you recommend any, be honest! 

Reason for this post is that my best friend's brother will soon be heading to Cross River State - Ikwaibom to be precised for a marital and there's been some ruffles as it usually happens in some families on such occasions.
Though, beauties from other Nigerian tribes had been recommended instead, things are at loggerheads at the moment.  What do you think as this is quite serious?

Hmmmmm!!!  You lucky man, you never know what you've got until you loose it! What is sex by the way?  Is sex more important than love, respect and peace of mind in a relationship?  Sex and children are only the icing on the cake in a loving marriage.  So, why should sex be allowed to be an issue here.  Obviously, you've got the children you wanted so what's the heck??  Women do go off sex at certain time in their lives especially when they have had children.  They loose interest or have low libido.  It could be she is depressed or not physically or mentally well herself and needs help.  Enquire very well into your wife's situation and give it time or seek psychological or medical help for her (if you truely love this woman and I'm sure you do otherwise, this situation won't be bothering you here) instead of rushing off to what you consider as the next best thing and in the end, destroy the whole family.  But soon, you'd discover and learn your big lessons, promise.Lol!!!

Please, hold on to what you've got because, there's a tiger out there!!!!!!!

Good luck with resolving this minor family issue.  Cheers!

sleek_p:
I never heard anything so incongruous, so because my shoes were made by foreigners then my country's national anthem should be written by a foreigner. How ludicrous can some people be.
A Chinese, Arab, Indian, Japanese, American even a Ghana man would wear foreign clothes, drive foreign cars, eat foreign food but have a national anthem written by there citizen, why?
Nigeria stopped being a British colony in 1960 why should we Nigerians hold on to words written for us by Brits. As  I asked earlier, can't we find amongst the 140,000.000 Nigerians a man who can compose an anthem?

Hmmm! Ok then, go on, find him!!!  Yet again, a sexist - who thinks only Nigerian men have fingers and capable of writing up our National Anthem.  It doesn't matter who wrote it man/woman.  If it was written by a Nigerian woman people like you would have protested - why a woman?  And now a foreigner, you shouting, why a foreigner?  And I say why not This egocentrism has to stop to enable Nigeria move on to the 21st Century as we are far too behind and immature in embracing avant-garde ideas.  Thank goodness the wise elders did then! And for those who felt it inappropriate, and changed our beautiful Anthem for the new - why stop at that then?  The people who wrote the Anthem (the Brits) also designed the flag can't you see that or were you blind to notice?  If Nigerians are capable of writing a sweet and emotional rendering (i.e. tears of joy, in your eyes ) kind of National Anthem and concentrate on Nigeria as a country without bringing on past colonial experiences that have been buried with time capsule - an excuse several governments have used as a stepping board in ruining our beautiful Nigeria, we won't be here arguing, ok!

sleek_p:
The old anthem  was a relic of British rule, how can our National Anthem be written by a foreigner?  Can't people in Nigeria compose an anthem?

Yeh! What a logical and intelligent man!  But check, the language in which he wrote his commentary - what is it?

A foreign language, and if you check further the cloths and shoes on his feet, have all the hallmarks of foreign ideas.  The cars, lorries, trains, aeroplanes, satellite, etc  in Nigeria are all foreign ideas.  Shame, on their stupid pride!!!

Nigeria we hail thee!  And God bless Nigeria!

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BabyGirl_1:
One can't say you should leave your marriage, Is that wisdom? Without knowing if you're just asked him a week ago to take the test, you should talk with him and persuade him to take the test and he may eventually give in and take the test and your marriage would be saved.

Now you hit town, Meet a "Gentle Man" whose doesn't tell you he's infected, then you get infected, just to find out your husband wasn't affected

Hey, too sorry indeed.  Your attacks suggest nothing rather, a woman that lacks confidence in herself.

You are one of the marriage slaves in woman-hood.  Your writing suggests that you are willing to eat sh-t from your husband for the sake of marriage, how sorry!  Is marriage compulsory? Were you born with a man in your hand when you entered this world?  Who tells you that you cannot make it in life without a man - what a brainwash?
If she did not marry, would it prevent her from being a woman and a human being? Your type is the kind that endangers vulnerable women because of your insecurities and fear of the unknown - girlfriend let me tell you 'change does you alot of good and you must not forget that'. Well, if you had read my commentary properly without jumping into conclusion, you'd have understood what is written.  Obviously, you didn't and hence your attacks.  It goes to show how small your brain is, and you might be the kind that quickly jump into bed with anything that has a sausage between his legs and thus, think you'd found love.  Intelligent and independent women do not act like that, girlfriend. They first of all develop relationship with someone, get to know them properly - talk, discuss, share dreams, plans and aspirations before your bedroom tactics.  It takes a long time to develop relationship girlfriend and by then, you would have talked about every aspect of your relationship with the person and let me remind you and your kind here one more time - no intelligent and sensible person jump into a new relationship these days without taking some sort of test first, except some love starved women - your kind.

The woman in question has been humiliated enough in her marriage and the best thing is to leave that sorry marriage and move on with her life.  Why respect a man who has no respect for you? Infidelity is a sinful act both in the eyes of man and God and men get away with it because of women like you.  Yes, I hear you say, go and beg him to take the test presummably, until the last drop of her blood before she could get sense and get out of a dangerous marriage that would ruin her life eventually and blight the life of her innocent children. This woman had already applied your clever ideas and got no where with this idiot of a man and you still want her to continue begging and begging because in your previous life you were deprived of a marriage hence your stay and die attitude to marriage.

The best thing is for this woman to leave this marriage and make a new start and please, if you care about her wellbeing stop advising her otherwise - Mrs die in Marriage

Please, can someone out there tell Mr President to ''Bring back our old National Anthem'' because it reflects our hopes and aspirations as well as demonstrated Nigerians need for dignity.  For example, the 2nd section cries that 'we hand our children a banner without stain'. You see, Nigerians are very proud people - but, you only have to have a look at Nigerian flag and you know exactly what it represents - our name is rubbish abroad, look at out justice system, corruption is rife - every aspect of government and community is full of it, not to talk of political killings or do I say the neglect of our Social, Health and Education system and so on.  Does this represent the kind of banner it says we should hand to our children? The 3rd section, suggests that 'Nigerians longs for peace and that peace can only bring stability and growth hence a land of plenty and a blessed one for that matter. 

Imagine, the Colonials even foresaw Nigeria as a blessed country at that time remember that, this crude oil that has been a curse as well as a blessing to us had not been discovered when this beautiful and sweet Anthem was written and sang.  Oh, my God, the wordings of this sweet and patriotic Nigerian National Anthem is more than prophetic - reflecting ideas from which our beautiful Nigeria should have been built and developed.  If this had been allowed to happen, many Nigerians living abroad today would not have escaped their own country for greener pastures else where,  what a shame!!!!!  Our God will judge!!  Mr President, please bring back our original, sweet and patriotic National Anthem.    

God bless you Nigeria!

Excuse me buddy! What am I hearing here  That a man in a marriage has been having unprotected sex these days, with all kinds of slags out there and refuses to take a test?  He had no consideration for his own life (obviously he doesn't love himself, how could he love anyone else!), his innocent wife at home (I assume??), his children that did not ask to be born (his victims) and other his concubines - toooooo baaaad!! 

Woman, I think this is a bit late now.  Are you sure you haven't been infected already with HiV/Aids?  Do you love yourself and care about your life and that of your innocent children - who are going to be victims of this selfish act of your so called husband should both of you respond positive to the test (God forbid!!)?.  I suggest you leave this hopeless marriage now and manage on your own before it kills you and put your children in danger, if it hadn't already.  Yes,  there's a tough life out there but remember, one with life has future and hopes - a dead person has no future and do not stand a chance.  Depending on your situation, all the advise here suggesting you remain in this sorry marriage is not acceptable in this modern time perhaps, would do with our mother's generation and not in our time.  Advising you to stay in the marriage and be infected with an incurable disease or what   I do not know.  Do they mean you stay in a hopeless marriage and cross your leg because no other man would find you attractive should you get out, or what  You are a human being (so, is he).  Everybody needs somebody and at one point when you are still crossing your legs naturally, you would experience intense sexual urge - tell me what would you do then?  I prophesy you would run back into his arms, all is forgiven and there he gives you doses of HIV/Aids ''GERM'' you'd been waiting for.lol!!!
You see, these are mistakes women make that always catch up on them.  As you are busy crossing those legs, your old man will be busy visiting his regular joints for his sexual needs, which you failed to meet and, now you are in desperate needs, he will be happy to bring home all he had been saving for you from those women - the disease you have been avoiding.  So lady, tidy up yourself, get out and hit the town - you'd find a man that would fancy  and respect you but this time round, don't take no for an answer and no bedroom  business until you get to know them very well indeed however, always insist on using condoms until you are satisfied with your arrangements with them.  A marriage without trust has no future and causes alot of stress which can eventually destroy those in it. Enjoy your life!  You weren't born with a man in your hand when you entered this world and, when you leave it, you will not take a man with you.  Be happy!, Cheers!!!!!

nethacker:
@TheBlessed, I want you to understand something,Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.One mustn't criticize other people on grounds where he/she can't stand perpendicular himself/herself because "A critic is someone who never actually goes to the battle,yet who afterwards comes out shooting the wounded”Don't criticize what you don't understand, dearie. You never walked in that man's shoes.”

Right, how do you mean by 'lack of ambition' for seeking equality and recognition?  Is it because they are women?  Pity that you and men your kind do not think women are equal and capable in many ways as you.  God created us equally in his own image - got it So if we are Gods image - men and women, we are also equal in many ways  but different. Now, go and die if you're not happy with God's arrangement.  The world is changing buddy.  I have listed examples for your ignorant head to learn from, you better change your ways else, the boat will leave you behind to catch up later.  Women are as equal and capable as men therefore do not lack any ambitions for asking to be acknowledged and respected.  It would take 3rd world men time to get use to this kind of idea and they will, eventually.  It only takes a sensible man to appreciate and respect women obviously, you're not in that category but you will learn soon just as this guy is learning.  Cast away you BIG Ego, humble yourself and deal with your confidence situation - you 'd be fine, ok!!!

Just seek advice from the West because they started it before you some 30yrs ago if not more.  They have more experience in dealing with this kind of thing than you, ok! 

But may I ask, when you receive this advise, can Nigerian Banks afford it, implement it and maintain it?  Hmmm! It is expensive to maintain and whether Nigerian Banks can afford the challenges is another thing because Nigerian is known for not maintaining things.  They like new things - new technology, cars etc but once these things breaks down that's the end of it.  I don't think they can meet the challenges.  For example, they spent millions setting up a Satellite in Space with the help of their Chinese friends when they should have spent that money on something tangible for many Nigerians and now the Satellite is damaged or broken down who will pay for the R E P A I R S?  Someone some where is planning a way of defrauding the Federal Govt money by claiming they will get someone to repair it.  Well, Nigeria has no Space Engineers have they?  Now, we gonna pay someone or some countries millions to do this job when we need this money ourselves to look after our people.  Do we really need this kind of investment? And if we do, have we really benefitted from it and how? Before this Satellite programme, Nigerians still managed their technological lives well alongside other countries of the world and they are still doing so now with or without this satellite - now does it really worth investing more in it?  So, if Nigeria is trying to play with the BIG boys they should ensure they have what it takes to meet the challenges it will impose on them and stop borrowing skills there and tools here when they have not got their own thus, wasting our money and deeping our people severely into poverty and more sufferings.

If all these so called pastors who proclaim the name of Jesus Christ can truely emulate and act one millionth of the way Christ lived his life - all these disgraceful and disempowering stories would not emerge.  Majority of these so called pastors and self anointed Bishops are not truely serving God and people should know that.   They are there for their own greedy exploitations and I don't blame them - I blame those who support and keep their ministries going by tithings/donations.  Those who support such ministries are as condemned as the preachers themselves because without your tithings/donations, they wouldn't have legs to stand and many of them would still remain unemployed and hopeless.  Keep feeding them and that's why they are investing your money very well in Europe.  Please, find a God fearing ministry and put your money in it.  Those ministries that preaches - money and, wealth you should avoid.  Remember, they spend your money on expensive cars and luxurious homes etc but Christ never had a luxurious home - he was brought up in a poverty sticken home with many brothers and sisters, he never drove a car - he rode a donkey.lol!!!  He never wore proper shoes on his feet - he wore Jesus sandals ask anyone.  But check out the so called pastors and Bishops - it takes an idiot to see what they are doing with your money.  Keep giving them your hard earned money and its for them to live like kings, idiots!  Use your brains!  Don't get me wrong, it is good to tithe and donate money for good causes but research has showned that only a small amount of money is used for Gods work and the rest?  I wonder!   Now, go and read Corintians (all of it) it says 'Give generously and, give as you are capable of giving'.  It did not say you should give 10% of your income which many of these churches are always shouting about in order to suck you dry rather, you should give the best you can and if your have the 10%, you can also give because you have it - not when you don't have it , what matters is that you give at least something.  Please, please, and please don't let these wolves pastors and Bishops brainwash and emotionally abuse you by making you feel guilty when you fail to give.  Please don't let them, instead leave their church and find another one - as you can see there are millions of churches about these days which suggests to anyone ignorant of what is happening in churches - that churches these days are money making machines. If you doubt me just set up your own church now and before December, you'd be a millonaire and driving your own luxury car, I bet you.lol!!!!  I have no sympathy for those crookes who use the name of God to exploit vulnerable people because there can't be a smoke without fire besides, there's a proverb that says 'Where a child is crying and pointing his/her finger at - if his/her mother's head is not there, his/her father's head is'.  I know we are all humans but when a human set out to preach in the  name of Jesus Christ - the holliest name in  heaven and earth, he/she should at least act holy and many of these Bishops and pastors in Europe and America have been found wanting on financial malpractices/irregularities and fined or imprisoned so, how can they justify their behaviours and gain our respect, I wonder.

You selfish, evil and destructive woman, your day shall come!!  You set out to destroy a whole family and think this is fun?? I am too sorry for you.  What if a child is produced out of this your wickedness?  How would you explain yourself to your husband, the child (an innocent victim here) and the entire family - mother inlaw, father inlaw, sisters inlaw, brothers inlaw, first cousins, second cousins, third cousin, the hamlet members, the clans members, the entire village and, the town itself.  In fact, your own family (if you have one) can not even imagine the shock - your mother who obviously raised you with values I suppose.  Your father and brothers/sisters etc,   What would you tell them?   That your are sorry or what?  That you were not raised with values and can not tell right from wrong? Too bad!

As for your brother inlaw - he make me sick! You can not trust your own brother nor respect him and it makes me think there's a bit of sibbling rivalry/jealousy going on here but is this the way to go about it?  By cheating with your brothers so called wife, even though this evil woman gave it to you on a plate.  At least, for the sake of blood which  they say is thicker than water, you should have declined her approaches and report her not only to her husband (your brother but to the entire family and village or town). That way the demons in her head would have left her by force but, how am I sure you are not the one that instigated this evil/abomination in your family?  Instead of doing the right thing, you colluded with her to destroy your own blood and flesh, good luck!  It goes to show that the biblical Cain and Abel story are still happening here but without blood on the ground however, the emotional and psychological trauma can be far worse than pool of blood on the ground.

Too sorry for both of you!  I hope you both kiss my a-se on your way to HELL and never show your urgly faces in this world again.  Rot in 'HELL' both of you, your deserve each other!!

Hmmmmm!!!!! I'm loving this.lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A woman earning more than her darling husband?  Far from it!  when will men in the 3rd world learn their lessons?  I'm so glad the world is getting smaller, and smaller each day.   Don't worry the University of life will educate them all - the current economic situation in the world is here to teach most people good lessons - to change their ways and embrace the blessings God has showered on them both left and right.

Again, it's high time men in the 3rd world begin to respect their women and realise they are as capable as men and it's about time they should grow up - all of them.  You see God has told them, shown them, hinted to them in more than many ways that men and women are EQUAL but DIFFERENT yet, most men are as deaf and blind as a bat to acknowledge this broad day light FACT and thus give women their long over due respect.

Yes, my critics here would ask - have you finished bashing men??  To that, I say 'YES' and now I can give my opinion to the question in hand.lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You see, it doesn't matter who earns more or less in a household - what matters are that you are loved, happy with your wife and care about each other, period.  In fact, I hate to use the word 'partner' because you are a husband and wife and not partners. The word partner is suitably used for live-in lovers, boyfriends and girlfriends of sort which you are no where near this category.  So, stop using words like this to describe yourself because you are above this level.

In my view, there is no need to seek opinions of other people here because you already have influencial role models the world over. For example, the Duke of Edinburgh (Queen Elizabeth II 's husband of more than 60 years, the late Denis Thatcher - The British first woman Prime minister's husband, Margaret Thatcher - the Iron lady, the current United states President - Obama - Michelle his wife was at one point, his mentor and earned more than him when he first joined the law firm she was working for, our beautiful sister - Oprah Winfrey and her life partner (Again, I use this word because they are not married, and many more couples I can not even remember here now - take note!).  Although, you did not explain the kind of relationship your have with your wife at home, we assume it's not acrimonous but loving, peaceful, respectful and that you are not 'CHEATING' on her with other women.  So, I can not see why you should feel less of a man because of this - it all boiled down to 'Confidence', so do something about it and cast away this ignorance that is eating you up and embrace the blessings God has bestowed on you and your household - enjoy it and be proud of it!!!!  Remember, not many men are as lucky as you and many are secretly envying you but you don't know.  Enjoy your blessing, buddy!!!

I suggest you leave both of them and move on to greater things.  In my view, you have not explored women at all - your interactions with these two women is not enough to understand relationships, what makes women tick and marriage. Try to explore as many women as possible before making this life time decision, ok?  But be careful, in terms of emotional involvment use your head and not your heart because not following these rules have been known for teaching men the greatest lessons of their lives. 

Right, concerning these two women in your life the signs are already there for you to see but you chose not to see them again, following your heart instead of your head - CHEATING from one, MONEY hungry from another when you haven't even met, oh no,   Your communication and interactions had only been on the phone which is obvious, you don't even know her.  She might not be what you think she is - for what I know, she could even be a drag Queen, and this could give you the shock of your life when you finally met up.lol!!!  Besides, she is a bully and plays on your emotions - plays tantrum if she doesn't get her way.  For example, portraying the most uncivilised behaviour by being rude on the phone when  she supposed to be an intelligent and educated woman - no, no,no! Civilised people do not shut people down on the phone when they can't have their ways, irrespective of whatever the upset, ok! Behaving this way, suggests to me she is an emotional abuser and she has already been abusing you when you hadn't even started, get real, please!  There are millions of fishes in the ocean and one there is for you, believe it. On another note, beware of long distance relationships - it does not always work - to work both must be God fearing and truely in love with each other and in your case, that's not there.

As for the second woman, please forget about old flames!  It's true that the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know however, if the Angel you know happens to have incurable destructive traits, does it really worth it?? Move on and seek neutral grounds please! You see, cheating by a man or woman is never acceptable in any relationship.  A relationship built on that will never survive -  one thing or the other will hit it, watch this space!!! She may love you but you don't trust her so what's the point - a relationship based on pretences and lies,  sorry!
Please, find other women - study them very well before commiting yourself because marriage is a life long investment for happiness, that way you might be lucky to find the woman of your dreams.  As for you, you are not particularly an Angel yourself, are you??  You see, what goes round, comes round too - if not trebble times.  When you cheat someone (you had a girl friend when you met up again with this old flame of yours), another would do same to you and that's the natural code. Good luck with whatever decision you reach in this issue!