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Romance / Ladies, Protect Yourself From Rape by theplanmaker: 9:32am On Dec 01, 2017 |
The issue of consent has been playing up for a while now. I just thought I should add a little to the debate here. As a lawyer, I know what constitutes rape, and what consent is. I have heard some ladies argue fiercely on this issue. One went as far as saying that she can decide to sleep naked on a guy's bed, and not give consent for sex. Even if she kisses and carresses the guy, it is still not consent. Well that is what the law says in theory. A lady can withdraw consent at any time she feels like. Anything after that is rape. Well only in theory. I have defended two people accused of rape in court, and won in both cases. So I believe I am in a good position to dish out this advice. Take it or leave it. Our ladies should realise that we are in a morally decadent society, most men and women have no honour anymore. Sex is a frivolity. If you do not want to have penetrative sexual intercourse with a man, DO NOT go visiting him in his house at night, or even attempt to sleep over, avoid anything remotely suggestive while you are alone, such as kissing, smooching etc. In this situation, 80% of men will assume you are down for sex. Because truthfully, 80% of women in this situation are prepared to have sex before doing the above. If a guy rapes you under these circumstances, it ll be extremely difficult, if not impossible to prove a case of rape. Take him to court, it ll just be your word against his, with his word appearing more valid than yours. You will not be able to prove beyond reasonable doubt that he raped you he ll always have a stronger case than you. In theory, it would not matter to the court that you consented to other forms of intimacy, but in reality, that thought is just hanging on everyone's mind including the judge and that is what the defense lawyer ll harmer on. As long as the guy maintains that you both agreed to have sex, and you even agreed to visit him and spend the night, you cannot prove that you withdrew consebt at some point. The kind of rape that is easy to prove is the type that occurs with force, usually with no prior relationship or intimacy. There are perverts everywhere. Social media campaigns and ranting won't change their behavior. Some cases of rape are difficult to prove, so the law nay not be effective in helping you. Please protect yourself from these predators. If you don't want to get raped, don't visit him in his house alone, or spend the night. Do not consent to any form of intimacy. A word is enough for the wise |
Family / Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by theplanmaker: 2:13pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
thorpido: Do men derive pleasure in beating women? I think women provoke their husbands to violence, and then the men lack self control, or a naturally bad tempered. The result is this 42 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Gender Equality: What Do Our Women Really Want? by theplanmaker: 6:00pm On Mar 27, 2016 |
lalasticlala make we add pishure of snake? |
Romance / Re: Gender Equality: What Do Our Women Really Want? by theplanmaker: 5:58pm On Mar 27, 2016 |
jadekitana stupedinluv julietcutie pucelle rocktation I'd like your opinion |
Health / Re: JOHESU To Embark On Nationwide Strike by theplanmaker: 7:21am On Feb 18, 2016 |
otswag: But doctors started it! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Health / Re: JOHESU To Embark On Nationwide Strike by theplanmaker: 7:19am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Lalasticlala Dominique oya do the needful abeg |
Health / Re: Unfortunate Deaths In Our Hospitals; A Nurse's Perspective by theplanmaker: 6:25pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Lalasticala ishilove dominique.... Time to put foward anoda perspective, lets b balanced 1 Like |
Politics / Beware Of Quacks Called 'auxiliary Nurses' by theplanmaker: 5:17pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Famous pen wrote 14th of May 2015, Nasiru Ahmed a 45yr old diabetic was admitted into a private hospital after symptoms of hyperglycemia. He was subsequently placed on insulin. However, something happened after a few days. Nasiru started shaking and sweating profusely. He appeared disoriented and confused. The 'nurse' on duty assured him that he would be ok. But his condition worsened. There was no doctor immediately available. The 'nurse', apparently confused decided to administer more insulin. Mr Nasiru entered into a coma, from which he did not recover. Another news sufficed sometime ago on the internet, about a 'nurse' who chopped off a baby's joystick in the name of circumcision. Sad stories like these have continued to emerge from our private hospitals, both in the rural and urban areas. Nobody seems to take note, until they are personally affected. There is an adage that if you see a fowl scattering faeces with it's legs, chase it away because you do not know who would end up eating those legs, it might be you!. Any of us or someone close to us may need medical care someday, and may fall into the hands of these killers in uniform. Nursing as a profession in Nigeria today requires three years of education in a school of Nursing for Nurse assistants or five years in the university, after which one must pass series of professional examinations. During training, like physicians nurses are exposed to courses like anatomy, physiology, medical biochemistry, pharmacology and pathology. As well as skills necessary to carry out certain routine Nursing procedures. These courses are designed to help a nurse make sound clinical judgements after careful observations, using certain guidelines known as the "Nursing process" . Hence, a nurse is bound by certain moral and ethical principles that have been developed over time, and frequently reviewed. This therefore entails that nurses are continuously trained, and sit for exams to bring them up to speed with current trends modern realities. Sadly however, in an attempt to bridge cost and make quick money, doctors in the private sector aided by certain Nurses with low moral integrity have resorted to training and employing quacks who pretend to be Nurses, at the detriment of patient's safety. These quacks who are termed "Auxiliary Nurses" are responsible for countless harm done to patients on a daily bases, as well as the negative image currently being suffered by the Nursing profession today. One may ask, is the job of a nurse so easy that a secondary school drop out could be trained to work like Nurse? The honest answer is a big No. In a country like Nigeria where a lot of things go unregulated, impersonating any professional is quite easy. We would not forget so easily the story of a man who impersonated a doctor in the ministry of health for up to a decade before he was caught. Visit the rural areas today, there are male nurses and 'chemist men' who pass themselves as doctors. Even bricklayers and foremen pass themselves as engineers and architects. These often go unnoticed until disaster occurs. In every profession, one could learn a handful of the basic rudiments and impersonate, until he or she is faced with a challenge that requires professional judgement. These "auxiliaries" are often young secondary school leavers or older ones who have nothing else to do. They are recruited by private hospitals, and trained for six months, were they are mostly thought how to give injections, check vital signs, dress wounds, and in some cases they are allowed to take deliveries of pregnant women. They are given nurses uniforms and used as nurses. This is done under the assumption that there would always be a doctor around to give orders and control what they do. But herein lies the real danger to the patient. As in the case of Nasiru, there was no doctor around when the emergency occurred. He was left at the mercy of an uneducated slowpoke, who had no medical knowledge to make sound clinical decisions at that time, even if she knows how to give injections. Mr Nasiru simply had hypoglycemia Probably due to insulin overdose, or failure to eat after taking insulin. Even a first year nursing student would have anticipated and identified the symptoms and acted accordingly. Two cubes of sugar or a bottle of coke would have kept him alive pending further intervention. Even in cases where there is a doctor or a Registered nurse supervising, the danger is not reduced in anyway. It does not change the fact that the Auxiliary holding a syringe is uneducated and unqualified to do the job, and hence is unaccountable for any error made, making her more likely to make grave errors. 8 days prior to the writing of this article, i spoke with a man who had a bad leg. He had been like that since he was 9 years old. How did he lose his leg? A nurse in a private hospital injected him right in the middle of his buttocks, Probably injuring his sciatic nerve leaving him paralysed for life. A simple knowledge of anatomy would have prevented this grave error. Even when no lasting damage is done, these quacks misinform patients and expose them to further complications. One once told a pregnant woman that she could deliver her baby without ceaserian section, even after a doctor had told her it was her only option. She was eventually admitted into a private hospital to be delivered. She was fully dilated when she was moved to the delivery room. After unsuccessful attempts to push, there was no fetal descent. It was a doctor who later arrived that palpated her abdomen and discovered that the baby was lying transversely. She eventually went through casearian section This pieces is intended to sensitize the public to be on the look out for these quacks. Countless errors have been made, lives have been lost to the activities of these quacks. The hospital owners are very good at covering up these incidences, or offering evasive and untrue explanations. According to the act establishing it, It is illegal and criminal to practice as a nurse without a license from the nursing and midwifery council of Nigeria or engage the services of such an individual. It is also a criminal act to train, or claim to train individuals as nurses, except in accredited institutions. A word of caution also goes out to the doctors in the private sector who undermine the lives and safety of their patients by training or engaging unqualified personnel to impersonate. One day, the Nursing council will wake up to its responsibility and tackle this menace head on. Whenever you or a loved one checks into a private hospital, be weary of the 'nurses' that attend to you. It is your right to know the qualification of any nurse that attends to you. You could ask a simple question "Are you a registered Nurse?". Your life would be in serious danger if you leave life and death decisions about your health in the hands of an 'Auxiliary nurse ". They are uneducated and unlicensed quacks who have absolutely no idea what they are doing. You may be better off being looked after by your mother at home. Nigerians Beware! Dicefrost
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Education / Re: Improving Nigeria's Basic Education System........ My Suggestion by theplanmaker: 10:43am On May 27, 2015 |
dicefrost: Seconded, lalasticlala, abeg move it to front page lets dedicate this to Nigerian children nd d incomin administration. Ishilove olawalebabs , Fynestboi , Richiez Oya do d needful pls |
Family / Re: **Nigerian Men Who Are Scared Of Successful Women Possess Low Mentality** by theplanmaker: 6:51am On Apr 29, 2015 |
Twaci: You are free to draw your own conclusion. But the truth is you fo not know the guys intention. I have dated a girl who is very rich. Her father was a politician, she was a successful doctor. I never felt inferior, even if i was a fresh graduate with no job. I even drive her car sometimes. She was more than ready to sponsor our wedding too. But i had to end the relationship at a point. Why? She forgot that she is a woman, and that her man is supose to be in control of the family. She is never open to suggestion, and she tries to give me instructions! Even my parents warned me. Did i break up with her because i felt inferior? Far from it. She was just not wife material, and her money made her so. So my dear, the truth is that for most wome, as ttheir social status grows, so does their ego. If a man percieves that your ego has grown to the point were you cannot becontained, he will walk away. A man would not marry a woman who he cannot control period! 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Brother-In-Law Is Tormenting My Life by theplanmaker: 8:33am On Feb 15, 2015 |
cokacoola: You deserve wat u r getting. .... Nexxxxxt |
Romance / Re: Blades And Roses...i Need Help! by theplanmaker: 8:31am On Feb 15, 2015 |
Bro, u r hurting ursef. She clearly doesn't want u anymore. She is stayin out of pity. I bliv dere is someone else in her life already. So spare urdef d heartache, walk away |
Romance / Re: You Men Cheat On Your Wives All The Time by theplanmaker: 8:28am On Feb 15, 2015 |
khiaa: I don't justify cheating, but you should know that a man's cheatin is difrnt frm a woman. A man can have random sex nd not even remember d woman's face. Its just wat it is, 'sex: notin more. But b4 a woman opens her legs, her emotions has to b iinvolved. Except prostitutes, women dnt fvck random strangers. So if ur wife cheats, it isnt just sex, u v lost her too. Hence its easier to 4giv a cheatin man dan a cheatin woman 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: When Can We Say A Guy Is Disvirgined? by theplanmaker: 8:22am On Feb 15, 2015 |
funmilayoB: Ejaculation can occur as wet dreams, with out sexaul activity. So u position is definitely flawed. A guy is disvigined wen he inserts his jt in a hole |
Romance / Re: CAMPUS DATING: 10 Categories Of Girlfriends In Nigerian Universities by theplanmaker: 8:09am On Feb 15, 2015 |
Dating in the university is a waste of time and money. Babe go just dey chop u 4 free., dey divide ur pocket money |
Romance / Re: The 7 Secret Signs That Reveal A Bad Relationship- What To Avoid! by theplanmaker: 8:06am On Feb 15, 2015 |
You can't have it all in a relationship, you jist have to talk and compromise |
Health / Re: How Heart Disease Killed My Sister - President Jonathan by theplanmaker: 9:44am On Jan 24, 2015 |
Nigeria lost its only professor of neuro surgery because health workers are on strike. They are on strike because this same government refuse to meet agreements it entered. Should i feel sorry for him? He should bow his head in shame that his sister jad to be flown to ghana, when we have more than 30 tertiary hospitals |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 9:35am On Nov 29, 2014 |
jackpot: You sound really angry..... .. But i agree, d boy is childish and a low-lifer. is the girl a saint? 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 9:26am On Nov 29, 2014 |
I heard a story like that, don't know if it's true o. It may be fiction. A guy dated a girl for 2years, both of them were students then. He loved her so much, and even offended his mother and sister just to please her. Her dad died along the way leaving her stranded. The guy in question practically extorted his well to do parents to pay her fees and keep her in school. One thing led to another, and he discovered that the girl was cheating. He broke up with her, and she kept begging and sending people to beg him. Eventually she was forgiven. The same thing happened again, this time it was with a friend of the guy. She pleaded again, and the guy was stupid enough to forgive. Infact, he introduced her to his family. He eventually graduated and left town, but kept hearing rumours that she was dating one doctor infact they were engaged. all the while she was still collecting money from him for project seminar etc. She collected close to 70k. When he came back to town he confronted her about the cheating, and this time she did not beg anymore, she just said she wanted to break up, that she has found someone that wants to marry her next year, and since the guy still has law school and service in front of him, he should look for someone else. He knelt down to plead with her, even sent the same people she sent previously to beg her. He offered to marry her after law school, but she just refused. So the guy accepted his fate. One day he went to her house, after talking they ended up having sex. She didn't know that the guy had set his phone to capture everything, and even took some pictures when he was pretending to answer a call. He sent her the video and pictures on bbm the next day. And he didn't contact her again until he left for law school. The guy isn't interested in blackmailing, or making the video public, but then as she is getting married, let her leave with the guilt that someone somewhere has secrets that could destroy her. While he is managing a broken heart, she should manage a troubled heart. Scores are level, no hard feelings. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 9:26am On Nov 29, 2014 |
jackpot: Once again, I'm not the one! |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 1:15pm On Nov 28, 2014 |
dicefrost: Wise advice, dost sensible so far. Folo it or gudluk wit d police. .... Abeg nairalanders I'm not d guy 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 8:49am On Nov 28, 2014 |
taryour: Honey you are just assuming that he is someone who can be pushed around.... Lol, there iz something called 'law' it is a tricky thing, but some people are trained in the act of wielding it. Soldier ko soldier ni 6 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 12:17am On Nov 28, 2014 |
modelmike7: It's her fault, she was a serial cheat, took d guy 4 granted cos she tot he was a fool. I gues d guy is in control nw 2 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 12:09am On Nov 28, 2014 |
modelmike7: Lol u tink its everyone d police can just arrest and toture? Wat if dey find nothing on him? Or u tink he is so dumb? Judt let naughty lady pay 4 her sins jhor 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Help Me, He Has My Nudes. by theplanmaker: 12:02am On Nov 28, 2014 |
When you hurt some so much, it's only fair they take a bite from you too. He ll just blackmail u 4 more sex, being d biitch u r, I'm sure u won't av a problem wit dat 13 Likes |
Romance / Re: Who Is The Most Popular Girl/boy On Romance section by theplanmaker: 9:45pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
You can actually become popular in romance section by opening and commenting 9n senseless threads. Someone has a thread with 90k views and 1k comments in this section |
Romance / Re: One Wrong Turn......true Story by theplanmaker: 7:32pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Equado: Lol, i stay in the hostel with dicefrost, i c him typing the story so boss go nd die 4 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: One Wrong Turn......true Story by theplanmaker: 3:43pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Equado: I wouldn't normally insult anyone online, but mheeen you are slow! You were much better when you were following silently. After all the best way to cover stupidity is to keep quiet. But now that you have spoken, you have exposed the dept of your stupidity and buffoonery to the whole world. Please dig a hole and hide. 11 Likes |
Sports / Re: BREAKING: Ghana And AC Milan Star Michael Essien Contracts Ebola Virus by theplanmaker: 6:27pm On Oct 12, 2014 |
this is a wicked lie |
Nairaland / General / Re: 10 Reasons No Man Wants To Marry You by theplanmaker: 9:13am On Oct 11, 2014 |
this space is occupied |
Nairaland / General / Re: Army Col, 10 Officers Set Nigerian Tankers Ablaze, Pave Way For Boko Haram by theplanmaker: 9:08am On Oct 11, 2014 |
it is these ones that deserve death |
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