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OP, curious to know how she got your phone number? She'll get over it. A 20 year old's attention span

probably isn't that long.

She doesn't have to endorse him. She did that the first go-round. People know how she stands and I'm sure her mind hasn't changed.

I won't call the OP racist, I'll just say he's, territorial. Although he is getting abused all over the place I don't think his reaction

is uncommon. I've known Asian men who, when they see an Asian woman with a Non-Asian, become livid, same for Hispanic men.

People tend to want to keep what they perceive as their own to themselves. Some African American men, when they see an A.A.

woman with a White man, especially, will practically lose their minds. But the bottom line is adults are free to date whomever

they choose. There's nothing the OP or anyone else can do about it. OP, worry about things you can actually change.

Most of the responses sound like they're coming from men. I'd really be interested to hear from women who are in polygamous marriages,

assuming they are allowed by their husbands to use the internet. How do women who were raised in a polygamous household feel about it.

How sheltered are these women kept? Are they educated women following tradition? No matter how polygamy is justified by its participants I'm

inclined to think there is animosity and hurt feelings among the women. Lastly, does polygamy deter cheating by the husband? Do these men still

seek comfort from women outside of their marriages.

So I was hoping we could put off having kids for about 2 years while I run the degree, but he'll have none of that.

Really? You're not even married to the man and he's controlling your life? ****thinking, run like HE11****Imagine what being married to this conrol

freak will be like! Continue your studies! He doesn't understand the more fulfillment you have in your life the happier you will be as a wife and

mother.

In my experience people are distrustful for 2 reasons,

1) They've been given cause to be by their mate

2) They're still holding on to a bad experience from a previsous relationship

Trust takes time. Just give the relationship time to grow.

Are you certain he likes women? Trying to kiss one of your friends may have been a smoke screen for your benefit.

What is so important about your birthday

My thoughts exactly. I've known people who've forgotten their OWN birthdays.

I've seen MEN who were better looking than this woman.

To each his or her own.

I don't see it as any different from people liking different types of foods, automobiles or house styles. Not everyone is

going to like the same things or the same types of men and women. It's called personal preferences.

He states he can even help me as his family is rich he can help me get my foot in the
door of any thing i wanted and my spouse.

The man is a liar. There are many around. My concern came when he spoke of him wanting to help you get your "foot in the door."

Getting your foot in the door will cost you money. Since he has proven himself to be deceitful, be very careful in trusting him with any of your

finances.

I see Tu as a victim

Really? I see him as irresponsible.

Also true. But saying that a woman should take all precaution implies that a man can slack up every now and then. Both people should take all precautions. (Or even better, save intimacy for marriage.)

True as well. And we both agreed both parties are responsible. However, we see a lot more single Moms than single Dads, or I do. And when there is a possibility or probability all or most of the responsibility will fall on your shoulders, wouldn't you want to make sure things are done as they
should be? Sometimes men don't think any farther than their erec.tions. Does a woman really need to leave such a life altering decision to someone else? Especially someone whose brain is in his under pants at that moment.

Shouldn't be difficult if you know he's not right for you.

Have to let him down easy so he won't go psycho.

Both parties if they are both willing participants

Very true. But it's usually the woman (and her family) who is left with the responsibility of child rearing.

That's why women should take all precaution because, more often than not, it's the woman and the child who will bear the brunt of this bad

decision making.

Though some people are professional 'beggars' and probably make more in one day from their begging than a lot of people make who have legit

jobs, still I normally give to the homeless when asked. Gave this one guy $1 and he told me he needed $5!!

I offered to take my $1 back, he turned and walked away, with my $1. 

Some of them can be a bit much at times.

That person is an ex for a reason and re-visiting ex situation dont work most of the time.

if i ran into an ex today and i noticed that she actted like she wants to get back together i would ask her out right then and there (if i wanted her too) It's not like we dont know each other so i will just ask her out and see what happens

Very good advice. He or she would make it known if they were interested in ressurecting your relationship. They'd ask for your phone
number, ask if you are seeing anyone, something along those lines. If the person says, "Take care of yourself" and walks away, they've moved on
with their lives and you should also.

Have you met his parents? Any of his family? That will tell you how serious he is

about your relationship.

and light in completion

He certainly wouldn't want to have dark babies. People might think they're, African.

^ Good point.

and how much fun you can have with a lot of tall beautiful blonde girls & party life

They see you as a novelty. Like an exotic pet.

If you can provide a service people can pay for, you won't regret living in Europe or North America. Having a job-a-job mentality for too long does not make you financially independent . Work for some time ( 1-6 years ) and set up a business. You won't regret it.

Excellent advice!

Rossikk literally smacked bk.babe around and asked who is his daddy?

Careful, someone in the U.S. may read this and stop sending handouts to your and Rossikk's countries to feed you with!

it's pretty shocking that we hear so little about him these days

And you expect the U.S. to announce their strategy on CNN?

Perhaps bin Laden is already dead. The world can only hope, anyway. 

Thank God the justice system dealt with this one

Indeed!

Good luck and God bless.