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hand her over to the parents and ask for refund

  lmao Wow, a refund!

They've been together for 2 years, so she was 14 years old and he was 21.

In some countries he'd be locked up! What is wrong with him that he has

to resort to dating children? How mature can a 14 year old or even a 16 year

old really be. The girl is still a child. Maturity comes with age. Though I'm sure

after dating a grown man for 2 years she's probably mature for all the wrong

reasons. Don't like it. The guy's a pedophile, preying on children.

The only way for blacks to earn respect in the world is if they are involved in some kind of heavy machinery, technological, industrial, and military manufacturing.

A good plan. And one best achieved by those Nigerians who left home for universities
around the world returning to Nigeria.

How likely would they be to do so? From the reading I've done it seems these individuals
don't have a great desire to return to their homeland.

I should bang the s-l-u-t in any thread that I see in him

Don't know if I'm cool with the words 'bang' & 'him' in the same sentence so,

Moving on,

black people.

it's doesnt matter WHERE in the world we are
Caribbean, Africa, Latin America, US, UK; etc.
we LOVE drama. We have that 'eat popcorn, take a seat & watch'
mentality!

EXACTLY!!

LOL Da.mn! This should be good!!

Men present themselves as the Savior to a woman he shows interest in. They want women

to think they can leap tall buildings in a single bound, like Superman. My suggestion to

women is not to become too dependent on a man. You can allow him to think that you are,

but you should always have a backup plan, i.e. an education and a job. That way when he

starts to reveal the real 'him' you won't be left stranded.

Just TELL the man. Nothing to ponder about this question. He has deceived you.

What kind of relationship can you possibly have with someone else's husband?!

its like he doesnt have much respect for women

So what exactly are you attracted to about him? Because he is tall,

dark and handsome? That's not enough. If he didn't respect his

first woman he probably, or more than likely, won't respect you either.

Plus you said he is arrogant. More negatives than positives to this man.

All that glitters ain't gold! I'd keep looking if I were you.

Your friend was lucky. He got the warning signs BEFORE the marriage. Most people don't

until afterwards.  He needs to sit down with his fiance' and set some guidelines about

how the money is to be spent.  The woman obviously loves her family and wants to assist

with their financial problems. What relative wouldn't? Also, he GAVE her the money,

he didn't tell her how the money should be spent!  A friend had a similar problem. His wife felt she

should be the Savior for all of her ne'er-do-well relatives. This caused a big rift in the marriage.

They eventually divorced. Family has a way of making you feel very guilty so perhaps finances will be

less stressful once she is employed; once they become a 2 income family because this woman will ALWAYS want to help her relatives.

People moan about slavery but at least the whites were robbing other nations to make their own a better place. We Nigerians are busy robbing ourselves!

Truer words have never been spoken!

Congratulations, this gets the 'Dumb Thread of the Day' Award!

I would assume you are in the United state. And you may have been born there young man. if you ask your daddy the reason you were born in the USA was because of oppression.

His father ran away If he is Black and born in the U.S. apparently his father was not a

very fast runner!! At some point everybody has to stop running and fight! Whether they are

in Africa, Mexico or any other continent or country whose people seek refuge in America. What

were Black Americans to do, hijack boats back to Africa? Back to the people who probably

helped sell them into slavery in the first place? Stop running, start fighting. African Americans certainly DID!

is ian mahinmi , he is from benin republic, he plays in the NBA for dallas.  he is yoruba, but not from nigeria, but from benin republic

I will speak for myself, along with other women throughout the world, by saying,  D.A.M.N. This man looks GOOD!!!! 

Wonderful. Americans didn't see Bush talking to anyone after Hurricane Katrina.

And that happened in his OWN country! So the young African woman should

mark this day on her calendar! Quite a development! Of course what the h.e.ll

is George W. Bush going to do for Africans!!!!!!!!!!

You're not in love with your cousin's friend. I laugh when people online talk about being in love with a person they've

never even met, never held hands with, never kissed, probably wouldn't know if they met them on the street!

You are just enjoying the things he has provided. BIG DIFFERENCE! You're probably not accustomed to

a man providing for you and you are mistaking it for love. Love takes time. However, if he is willing to start a

real relationship, cool, go for it! Hopefully he won't disappoint. Hopefully YOU won't disappoint.

What does it mean when a man says he wants everything but a relationship?

What is there to wonder about? He wasn't being secretive!!! The man put all of his cards on the table.

And honestly, he was more straightforward than most. He wants everything but a relationship = sex,

your time, maybe your money, he wants you to cook for him, etc. He just ain't that into you! Period!

I won't even say he's unstable. He probably just hasn't found the person he wants to spend his life with!

So if you remain in the relationship you can't say you haven't been warned!

No it's not okay Pweety! I'm a stickler for cleanliness. Especially when dining.

Thanks for the information. I think I'll go throw up now! lol

What is?the culture or?

No. Just several people eating from the same dish, using their fingers.

How does one person know the other has washed his hands?

they have personal investigation aid sites and Private Investigators for all of that .

@Mz,

I understand, and the sites you mention usually cost money. But it doesn't even have to get that complicated.

Trust me, men will give out enough signs to let women know.

^When eating 'traditonal' dishes u mean?it's just culture i guess & they say it tastes better that way

Thank you. I thought it was for religious reasons. Well, in that case, that's a little nasty.

I hate it whenever they say african men date/marry AA ladies for green-card, if you say that to my face i'll give u a hot slap on your left check.

They marry them just because they love them.

LOL @Tosinville! Tosinville doesn't want to mess up the Game! He wants the Game to remain

intact! That's okay, Sweetie, I see you and I understand! lmao

I just would like to know if any of you have any insight as to why it is you think so many more African men are hitching it up with AA gals these days and at such an continuous expanding rate?

You answered your OWN question, for a Green Card! And there's that remote possibility
that some of these guys and ladies actually love each other, but usually its for the benefit
of the African man.

Honestly, from some of the deplorable living conditions I've seen in Africa, well, I'll just say,
I understand. I don't condone one human being taking advantage of another, but I
understand!

If he's rich enough, most women will date a 'seconds' man!

Good question. Here are a couple more:

You're never able to spend holidays together. (He has to be available for his wife and children)

You can't call him at home. (He doesn't want wifey to answer)

SINGLE LADIES, read these comments very carefully so you'll know what signs to look for!

Kudos to Nurabela for creating this thread!

1 in 5 Africans have H.I.V. or AIDS, so what's your point?

A little off-topic, but what is the significance of an African using their

hands when they dine, instead of eating utensils? I've often wondered.

A spinster having a crush on someone else's husband? She needs to get

the h.ell over it!! And get on with her life. If she's a spinster, find herself

a man! If she's married, act like it! She took vows, before God, to her

husband. She needs to act accordingly!