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Give her airtime credit if she needs it or what is it she wants u to give her?

I hope u didn't come up with this super story.

I believe you are matured enough to know what to do.

I will say yes.
The reason is the kids in the house and her level of education.She will handle sharp objects around the house and she may not be careful enough with those things.
To those saying no,what if she uses a blade and that same blade is picked up by someone?

U don do give girl belle?
You can get strips for a urine pregnancy test from a pharmacy at d cost of N50 and do it at home.You can also get a blood sample taken at a lab and that costs btw N300 to N700 depending on d lab.

This is too early na.The marriage is barely two years.
It's obvious the guy didn't know the kind of lady he was getting married to and the lady could have married him for material reasons.Their marriage is just like a celebrity wedding...........no deep root.

mutter:
What can a woman do?
How can she prevent it? She either takes it or leaves.
You know this is something that is very painful for a woman, and it makes marriage so difficult. But what choice does the woman have. At some stage you get tired of screaming, shouting, crying, hurting and so on.
You just resign yourself to it so you can have some sanity and energy to focus on your kid`s.

The other question is why should one be in a permanent stage of protecting ones self against imminent danger?

Your second question contradicts your earlier statement.If you resign yourself to it as you said,then how easy will it be staying in that permanent stage of protecting oneself?
There are women who say come what may,I will stay in that husband's house and it's ok for them if that is what they want.
However,the energy and sanity to want to save for the children may not be there because your mind cannot totally go off it and it will keep weighing on your emotions.

Closetoheart:
Uhmmmm. What am I supposed to do? Leave him?

My dad told me that despite all the things my mum did to him (some were obvious to us- the kids), he vowed not to divorce or separate from her. Because his dad divorced his mum and that made his life difficult. He sacrificed his love, happiness an d joy for his kids so that we would not be raised in a broken home. So would that be too much to sacrifice for my children? The only reason I will leave my husband is if he marries another wife or commits any other atrocity of that category. I am not blindly in love, but I am just wise.

I'm not pro-divorce.I actually encourage forgiveness and reconciliation.
However,I do see so many people hurt in marriages(especially women)and it doesn't make sense to keep staying in such marriages.A woman told me of how she recently found out her husband has a baby from another woman.I'm I going to tell her to keep staying in that marriage if she wants to leave?Can she really be happy in that union?
The reality is that your hubby can pick up an infection outside and you could get infected if you sleep with him.You say you will protect yourself but I don't see how a woman will keep having sex with her husband with a condom.
Seek a genuine change for your husband.Encourage him to see a counsellor and better still a sex therapist.

mutter:
If all women divorce their husbands for "cheating", how many marriages will still exist.

I never mentioned divorce.
She's however letting her husband get away with his lifestyle.There are women who condition their minds this way:'as long as he takes care of me and the children and does not bring her home,I'm ok'.It's okay for such women if that is what they want.

Like she said,she should keep protecting herself.AIDS is real.

Closetoheart:
Forgiveness is a choice. My husband cheated on me with his long time gf barely two months into our marriage. I saw the messages... I wanted to commit suicide. I was pregnant at that time. I felt abused, disappointed and bad. He apologised and I forgave him. Eight months later, I saw him send his unclad picture to the same girl. I threatened to pack out of the house, he apologised again, and promised not to do it again.

Now, you know what? I don't care any more. Whether he is still seeing the girl or not is his problem. He is answerable to God. He is a xtian, he ministers in church now. So if he still indulges in such acts, he will have God to answer to.

Do you why I kept on forgiving him? Because he apologised. It still pains me, but I have promised myself that the forgiveness will stand, and I will continue to forgive him, even if he does something worse. Because I cannot continue to bear grudge in my heart. I want to make heaven.

The best I can do is to be wise. When I say being wise, it means protecting myself and my children from whatever inactions or actions of their dad that might want to cause harm to us.

So you will forgive him when he apologises and then he does it again and the cycle continues.......
I don't know what you want or better still I know you want to be in a husband's house but like you said,keep protecting yourself.

Op,if your wife could read your text and get so infuriated,then that text could not have been an advert.
When you marry,you give up that so called 'privacy' you claim.Even if you don't check her phone,i see no reason why she can't see what is in your phone.

I want both of you to reconcile.Try to have a word with her and explain what the chat from the lady was about.You should be more open with each other and always give her reason to trust you.Why do you have your phone passworded anyway?

The whole world knows what is happening if we as Nigerians keep deceiving ourselves.
There is indeed galloping corruption.

baby124:
hmm, na wa o. That is why parents should teach their kids from a young age about sex, abstinence and what is out there. He is too young for all this burden.

Very important.There are people who are still having unprotected sex without knowing anything about the partner's status.

The lady in question could have just had an affair with this boy's dad without knowing anything about his status and the boy's father probably didn't know too.People just think if you look decent enough,you can't have it.

yemmit90:
my heart is broken on hearing that a little boy of 10years old is living with HIV. How I wish I've power/drugs to deliver him.

Many children are living with HIV..........passed on to them at birth or got infected somehow while living with infected parents.

If your late sister was HIV+ and the son is also positive,what is the status of the father?Unfortunately,you might not be able to ascertain the status of the father since you don't have that relationship with him.

Tell him......he needs to know.
Whichever way it turns out,the health of the boy is what matters at the end.

I will not support the boy going to a boarding school.He needs close monitoring.

Wow...just got in here and it's like I missed my way.

Damn

This whole thing is just sad.

Ladies need to fall in love with their heads and not just their hearts.

Simply tell her..........just the same way you will advise anyone to give up habits that are detrimental to good health.
Let her know the implications of smoking especially it's effect on pregnancy and the baby.

#don't know what you mean by carry her baby.

I thought she was the one getting married.

She looks gorgeous.

Another baby mama?
Anyway congrats.

Una pele o.Whatever experience you may have had,you're here now.Make the best of your present and build a better future for yourself.

coogar:
this hubby is hilarious.

"technically, mr ovie spent his residency & passed his board exams on top of my wife - with the consent of my wife"

this is a classic quote.

Hilarious.He still got time for humour.

Poor guy.
He should dress well,exercise to keep fit and wear red pant.

On a serious note,i pity the guy.A colleague at work.......

Give her a bible.She can always read the songs of Solomon and be enraptured.

Ericardo7:
Dan Brown (author of Da Vinci code) embellished a lot of truth in his fictional book. Just a little more digging and you'll find them

You speak about a fictional book and you say truth?
#confused much

The question is how will it happen?

Well,it's the girl who knows what she is hiding.

He simply needs to have a talk with her to know what's up.

Pre-marital sex and pregnancy complicates things!

ROSYL:
Must he upload them or use them as profile pictures on Facebook. Men of God misplacing their priorities since 19AD

In the bible,prophets installed leaders/kings.Moreover,he still remains a citizen with a right to choose and vote like everyone else.
If you follow his antecedents,he has always remained neutral.

Moreover,he once said he didn't have a facebook account.The indifference of religious leaders is partly why the country is in a mess.The citizens suffer in the country - poor standard of living and they then go to the church to pray about it.Isn't that what you want?
Let us dig deep before we criticise.

What do you mean by prayers in these new generational churches are so much of repetition?Kindly cite examples.

By the way,Jesus spoke of vain repetitions.What he meant by that is that the heathen usually prayed routine prayers which were often repetitions and such prayers were usually not heartfelt prayers but 'religious' practices.

What's your name?Maybe coke made too many bottles with your name on them.


11 bottles is too much,you need to work on yourself.

bolliejay:
The YAK!!!
9ja Best striker till date!

What generation were you born in?Did you ever hear of Rashidi Yekini?