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MzNelly:
I think it's high time you found someone new, and forget about her.

The truth is i have truly moved on long long ago but i dont expect myself to jump on just any lady.

I am the type of guy who does not fancy this womanizing thing cos it pisses me and while many think i come to nairaland to act good guy to get ladies,i just laugh at them cos believe me, having a date on nairaland is the least of my intent. The right lady will come when its time just that i will be involved in total black marker affair cos no time to date anymore.

I will advice nairalanders especially the ladies to take seriously every shitty thread i drop here on romance,trust me,it will do them a great deal cos these are experience i have acquired in my 4 decades of existence.

I have an open book policy to life,i have no hidden stuffs in my closet and you wil nevr see me involved in any messy affair with any lady anywhere in the world,my advice and insights are valuable even when many see it as boring.

MzNelly:
Stop lying to yourself.

Tell us why the last one left.

LOL! I really dont even think she left but she got confused which is perfectly normal for a lady who have spent al her life with one dude from age 19 to 30. Such ladies will always believe there is something better out there even if they are with the coolest dude in the world and only a truly experienced lady will appreciate sincere guy when she sees one cos most times,it takes a heartbreak to value real love.

So if a lady starts teling you she feels caged having spent all her life with you,i will expect that guy to let her go,if she is meant to be his,she will come back and talking about coming back,i really sense she is trying to do that stylishly of late but don't ask me the jamb question if whether i will take her back or not.Lol!

Joavid:
deposits even when she uses a condom?

orishirishi false facts on nairaland.

My sister,some facts sounds like fiction from a movie scene but i repeat YES deposits even when he uses a condom.

Its a crazy fact of sex just like spiritual deposits..no matter the number of condom used,if you make love to a cursed person, you share the curses,if you make love to a nymph,you become one..some things are better left as they are..its like saying you don't believe in Ghosts because you have not seen one.

MissGdope:
Happy Birthday to me! Just turned 18 today. Its still a long way before I turn 30 so this doesn't apply to me

Happy birthday dearie.

Please ignore the talks here that marriage is not important in life cos those who say that find sex important with either male or female,they find procreation important and they would never want a bastard yet they say marriage is not important.

Just live your life decently,if possible don't open your legs to any guy if you have not done so and if you have,then its not too late to adjust.

Many ladies who keep their sexual decency have dignity and such will stand shoulder high among other ladies who will call you names,they will mock you for been sexually decent but inside them they will wish they are like you.

Don't be uptight with your choice of men and learn to be a goal getter not focusing on any man's financial stand and when you eventually marry,dont base your happiness on your man's fidelity towards you cos most men cheat but focus on your life as well as your children,be a good wife to your hubby by being humble,good cook,financially independent,GOD fearing,crazily bitchy to him alone and be happy in your marriage without even bothering about his sexual faithfullness..trust me, you will never be sad in your marriage.

Happy birthday once again.

favourlove1:
Same that is applicable to ladies is applicable to men both in beauty n reproduction so op get your facts right. N if a lady says she doesn't care about marriage its her life so let her be! Don't think cuz ur not comfortable being single someone else should be. So let every one live their lives. Afterall them dey carry husband go grave? This write up is d core reason y ladies feel incomplete cux they are not married while in d real sense life should be enjoyed

I would have gone ahead with my response but the embolden shows that it will be a waste of time.Continue deceiving yourself comparing a man and a woman aging process...even a wise kindergarten pupil knows better.

Joavid:
facts ke? e duro o. it all depends on how a woman takes care of her self, including supplements and the skincare products she use. plus genes!!! great genes!

Ir you like use the best supplements..IF a lady sleeps around with different men,she gets different deposits of crazy unexplained spiritual and biological antigens that makes her age faster and also makes her beauty fade fast...Quote me in Eritrea.

MzNelly:
Toks2008, how come you haven't found the perfect woman?

LOL MOgbe see post UME question..

Thats because i was not looking for one in the first place and please let this stick..I AM A MAN AND I CAN MARRY EVEN AT 50 TO A SWEET YOUNG LADY

Hope you understand.

Vikky014:
After reading comments i came to conclusion that men thinks we should marry at our young age. so for those of you dating a girl of 20 to 25 when you know you cant marry in the next 10yrs...please stop using her brain by promising her marriage. Allow her to go and marry!!!

To my fellow ladies that are not yet ready for marriage due to circumstances beyond your control please dont live a reckless life by jumping from one man to another because it makes you age at the speed of light just be decent and eat healthy food to maintain your good looks, you will marry at the appointed time.

Final warning to the single guys that are not ready for marriage is....STOP DELAYING THAT GIRL BY WASTING HER TIME IN THE NAME OF BOYFRIEND. ALLOW HER TO GO AND MARRY!!!!!


Toks2008 advice your fellow men that are not ready for marriage to stop wasting that girls time.

The most intelligent comment made by a lady so far.

You just nailed it.

A lady of 23 will see a man who wants her hand in marriage but she will refuse bluntly and continue to run after that 26 year old guy who does not even know what commitment is al about then when she is 27 and the guy is still hopping round at 30 she will say men are un-serious,men are time wasters..please help me ask her who in actual fact is to be blamed?

I have written and i will reiterate that most single ladies you see in their 30s are the cause of their single status and i get pained when ladies hide under the phrase "is marriage all there is to life"

I believe many ladies especially the young ones should learn from my numerous articles that seem to be boring to them rather than curse and slander because whether they like it or not,reality will always be what it is "REALITY" and those who claim they don't need marriage usually end up been laid by several men or ends up ib another woman's bed.

For those who ar just unfortunate with men, please i repeat,this is not about you and i respect your situation "If you were truly not the cause" but for the other ladies who are so picky,the miss ideal man,the team #myguymustbe please carry on..its your life.

Signing out.

bezimo:
Some of our 9ja girls would be forming the I know my worth, I cant settle for less untill, they slide into the "old cargo" mode when marriage becomes difficult and far fetched.Then well wishers, family and their friends become concerned and begin to ask uncomfortable questions.

Like a wise man said every girl has her season to settle down and be married, once she passes that season, the chances become slimmer.

Like the Op said. Choose someone that is going somewhere while you have the time. Let God help you with the rest.

Thats all.

Good now lets look at the pics above me and the pics used in my write up.

Ironically,the transformed guy in the far right can still end up marrying the first lady in the first pics used by me and its even more annoying that the man in the far right of the pics above may even see the lady in the middle of the first pics as too old for him so why should any right thinking person compares a man to a woman when it comes depreciating physical appearance.

The best place for a lady to transform is in her matrimonial home and not as a spinster except she is just unfrtnate but the truth is that 90% of ladies are the cause of their situation.FACT

tochimas:
Abeg make I hear word ,fading beauty of a woman, don't men fade? Your only goal is to convince the ladys why they are suppose to be desperate if they are not yet, so they can settle for your likes. Go find your size abeg and stop waiting for when that chick you are eyeing will come down to your level

Calm down young lady,ko faja, relax please and discuss like one who at least finished the sec school rather than display an illeetrate pepper seller atitude.

Unfortunatelyi have realized that most ladies are acutely unintelligent and they find it extremely difficult to comprehend as well as discuss intelligently but i will try for the last time to explain this write up but its up to you to be intellectually sound to grasp.

Ageing is natural both to men and women and ageing can nver be the a yardstick to measure how beautiful a lady should look cos we have sweet looking ladies even in their 50s while we have ladies in their 30s looking so old but this is about the hardly noticeable depreciation of beauty even in a short space of time so pls take your mind off that pics and understand the write up.

I had this lady friend when i was 19 and i guess she was 18 then we lost contact and bumped into each other just about 6yrs latter and i was like..this cant be the lady i knew 6yrs ago cos her body frame has changed from that trimed sweet figure to something else..and that is just 6yrs.

No one is asking a lady to hurry into marriage yet no lady should be overly over picky while thinking she still has time cos in the case of a lady,we have the honey stage where the body looks over fresh even without any cream or body care and that is age 17 to around 24.

At this stage,suitors start trooping into her life with reckless abandon whether she is hot or not and at this stage,about 50% of the ladies misuse this stage by becoming a cheap object for guys to toy with or getting too full of themselves.

Then we have the flower boom stage of age 25 to about 29 where a ladys beauty is accentuated and many ladies who toy with this stage may realize how real this article is.

yes it is no fault of some ladies tho but most ladies have used that myopic mindset that they arte still hot to fool themselves because no matter wat,your natural beauty in your 30s can nver be the same like in your early 20s. while a man of 50 can marry a lady of 25 so pls stop this annoying comparizon with men.

efonat:
[size=30pt]I was expecting a lot of ladies to attack this thread. So they knew? [/size]

MAY GOD BLESS YOU BRO.

I was expecting them to come up with superlative arguments and opinions to put this assertion under the rug but all i have so far are blank remarks that lack substantive content.

Missmossy:
Not too substanial a talk. The way some people are wired to reason just won't stop amusing me. Well, its a free world different strokes for different folks.

And we go again..Blank remarks gosh!

Where are the intelligent nairaland ladies?

ELVISHOT:
A man has cried out for help after staying 11 painful years without having a child with his wife only to discover a hidden secret about the woman he called a wife.


Dear Readers,

I have been married for eleven years now. My wife is a teacher (customer service facilitator). She was into this profession before I met her and married her. Bt I can't really explain what is going on in my marriage. We have no kids yet, but she gets pregnant, before I will know what is going on, I will see her using sanitary pad, saying her period just came out.

What surprises me mostly is that, I have followed her to the hospital countlessly and the pregnancy report reads positive, what l don't understand is how it will come out just like ordinary mensturation. I have forcely dragged her to the hospital myself, but the doctor said she is ok.

I tried to monitor one pregnancy of hers. Sat at home, denied her of her work. It got to three months and that month was when my mother passed on, and I had to rush to the village, staying one week, she called me after 4 days saying she is bleeding, I told her let me call my uncle who is our family doctor, she told me that she can't wait, that she is in pain, that she will visit the hospital close to us, when I returned, she was on pad. My mistake was that I didn't go to the hospital to ask them whether my wife was their patient when I wasn't around. I got so worried that my brother decided to know what she was up to.

So my brother asked his friend to woo my wife, lets know whether he can be able to make her talk. The guy sought for her friendship request on Facebook and she accepted. They went on as friends for 4 months before she could start talking of her married life. I have the screen shot messages with me. Where she told the guy, that she has dreams to fulfill before having a child. That she has been aborting her pregnancy because she doesn't not want set backs in her career. That children are one big headache and set back in marriage. The guy asked her is her husband not complaining? She told him, that she has her ways with me.

That the husband is and illiterate business man, who managed to go to the university. From my childhood I have always wanted to do business, but my father being a medical doctor had a rule, that all his children must past through the university before starting a business. I made first class in Computer Science. It's painful but am not annoyed, but I am terribly shocked to be living with such a woman under my roof. I have not confronted her on this, but I am still in shock. She is 42 years and I am 47years.

Shared by - Cynthia Uju Raphael, a relationship expert and manager.

Source: http://ndubuisiude..com/2016/02/i-been-married-for-11-years-without.html

Eleyi gidigan o..This one pass me

banmee:
Lol. . .the whole write up is a subjective and phucked up opinion on why women must hurry up and marry because they will loose their beauty. How phucked up is that? So the male species will stay youthful forever? You be real village man i swear. I pity your would-be wife/slave. Your prick big no mean say you be man oooooo.

And now i have a reason to believe you are of low intellectual capacity. Remember that its not a must to comment. The painful part is that if you had argued intellectually concerning what i wrote i gues it would have been a different ball game but i stil wonder where you got your misconstrued ideas from and the fact that you kept juxtaposing a man's age to a woman when it comes to late marriage only goes to show how shallow minded and childish you are."Please work on your I must comment syndrome"

banmee:
And there is your problem bro. For some reason, you think marriage means happiness. It doesn't you know. If that were the case, divorce court, infidelity, adultery would not exist. It's just your mentality holding you back.

You must be from a French speaking country.

You can use google translate to clarify the part of the write up you don't understand cos it beats my imagination that you made that first post after reading the article.

Who ever says men don't age? Does simple logic not tell you that a man of 70 can marry a very young adult lady? And where did you get your assertion that marriage means happiness?

All the ladies and men i have known who say marriage is not compulsory end up living a miserable life by my standard cos the ladies keep sleeping around with different men and the guys turn to dogs sleeping around with ladies and when they get to their 40s and 50s,they suddenly realize the beauty of a nuclear family.

banmee:
So, basically you are saying men don't age and stay youthful forever, right? They way Nigerian/African men think is mind boggling. Women are more like slaves than partners or spouses. There is no way a Nigerian man will survive in a NORMAL society with this mindset. God help you all.

How on earth can you reason this way?
? Do you need an elementary school teacher to ring it to your ear that a man even at 70 can marry a 25year old lady?
Please think rationally.

row2ray:
I'm a guy in my early 30s I got married a couple years ago have two wonderful kids

Before I got married my wife introduced a guy to me as her cousin.... long story short.. after we got married I found they weren't related.. she has been working with him at his clinic.. I finally told her to stop after he bought her a phone and paid for a u.s trip for her.. she told me she has resigned.. I was drinking with an employee of the clinic.. and he told me.. my wife never resigned... instead she dropped a letter for leave of absence.. I confronted her with the information... she fought me and made a scene, now I feel I'm done with the marriage... what do I do... I love her but this ish is at the point where I feel I made a mistake... like she says love isn't enough to keep a marriage.. by the way I do everything in my power to keep her happy

Shits do happen in relationships and this is one of them.

It is one thing for a lady to be repentant if found wanting and another to act with impunity over any form of infidelity allegations.

This is my advice,first and formost i would like you to do a DNA test on those children except they all resembled you with serious convincing.
Secondly,if you really love her,sit her as down and throw the cards at her which is to maintain a status quo or leave the marriage and if she decides to leave please let her go,its a free world.

Remember as i wrote, shits happen in life and we all must be expected to confront it head on.

Hope this helps.

lalasticlala i guess thhis will be an interesting FP material

refiner:
am wishing all nairaland a merry new months...and most especially....
dollyjoy!


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toks2008


tho I might nt be happy wif some of dem up dere,buh av forgiven dem tho!....wishing u guys d best dis month...

Thanks bro

Aminat508:
Happy new month

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May this month have a successful start and a lot of great achievements in the end

Thanks

missingrib:
it kinda seem strange being him the ops...

That is the humour side to toks lol!

I no be gadaffi nah

shumuel:
Hmm... Lord save the Nigerian youths.

I wish for a country which would provide the avenue for its youth to gain admission into primary, secondary and institutions, without stress and gain employment immediately after graduating, sigh... Wish Nigeria can be that country.

Its really a sad situation.

You see graduates collecting 20k per month and they will be forced to fashion their life to that amount and the worst part is that these types of jobs do not allow the employees time to get something better but will engage them throughout the active hours of the day thereby trapping them and the fear of hunger will make many stick to that job for years.

Sacluxpaint:
I wonder why the ex-husband divorced this gorgeous woman.

Its difficult to see men divorce gorgeous women but these women are those who usually file for divorce.

missingrib:
lolz.euphoria dey shar.show him ur the egbon..don't mind those pencil trousers guyz

lol

I no blame am jare.. that euphoria of being a graduate and a potential NYSC member can shack person...i know that feeling expecially wen you deck up in your khaki..sambada...e go be like say na you first wear am.

unphilaz:
this makes sense thanks

You are most welcome

Chinks:
I don't think you graduated from my alma mater. You wouldn't have typed like that if indeed you graduated from FUTA. Shame on you!

Lobatan

fulfillbill:
Op na teeey bros oo
You look cute in that pic tho.

lol..thanks

duality:
1, Even if you enjoy what you do. if you can't earn well and live a decent life with it, you'll burn out and even do what you don't like just to earn better.

2, One reason why you'll be doing a job or business for 20 years whether you like the job/ business or not is if it pays the bills very well. you can't do what you like for 20 years if it can't really pay the bills.

sure

Cutehector:
yea yea. Dnt u think if all the Nigerian unemployed graduates could contribute a thousand naira each to build an industry, den all of dem will be shareholders of Dat company and will be receiving dividends at d end of each month without working.. that contributed money will be put into investments dat will yield a lot of profit, especially in d agricultural and manufacturing sector

??You think like me.

VocalWalls:
My problem with graduates is how they reduce themselves to nothing...
how can you got for an interview, you are told you will be paid peanuts, and you decide to take it, so as to outsmart every other person who refuses that little amount?
there is power in unison, if every single one of them have a good self esteem, they wont get offers to receive peanuts... because at the end of the day, Comfort is directly proportional to pay...

I agree bro..expecially in Nigeria

Suigeneris93:
Its easier said than done oga op, if you don't have a choice, the available will become the most appealing.

lol..im sure you did not comprehend.