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Hello Everyone and Mr Poster,

Please everyone I need your advice.


Infact I was just about to send a Break up text to my so - called girlfriend when I just saw this post and decided to chill for a while , though I can sense that this break up is imminent.

Am so happy to see this post of yours, I dont really know what to say, but women are something else. This girl of mine we met last year September..... after a few dates, I officially asked her out and she agreed. Ever since then all I have been is a nice guy, take her out, buy her things ( I say make I take am steady no rushing)
We kiss etc but she never allow me or even give me opportunity to see her of recent talkless of love making!


December Last year, this girl just begin to change, No more calls, To see her sef na war. If its not lecture, Its something else. And anytime I confront her she go plead, apologize but would never change. Throughout December till now < this girl has called me only twice> This january I have seen her just once, we live in the same Lagos oo. Shes always giving me excuses about Lecture this , Lecture that, Professional exam this and that! I am working so am the one who no dey busy abi. I have talked and talked, Her best friend keeps assuring me she loves me, but I dont see which kain nonsense love be this one.

I really feel she dosen't care anymore, I sent her a request on FB/Instagram she just behaved like she didnt see it. Till date she has refused to acknowledge my requests even after I have asked. I have a few people who say "Guy hold on" Some will say" Guy u be maga oo, omo free this Bit#h'' .

My fellow nairalanders, please I need your advise . I know this is an obvious case, but this girl keeps saying she loves me and shes still interested but no change in her attitude. I no get time this 2016 to be a Learner. I need to know if I should respect this post and keep loving her as a Mugu until one day she go change.

Or

Am I just a confirmed Mugu wey no wan use him brain, waka pass!


PLease u guys should comment and tell me whats up, Am waiting

Skmoda360:
That 14 aint my own, i lost ex cus of over pampering.

McWhillion:
I can't begin to describe how much sense you made with that 15th point.

Vikky014:
dnt even follow these rules ooo. The only way to please any lady is to learn how to say sorry and mean it whn u offend her. forget this your list and be real wt ur wife!!!!...Most men are too proud to the extent dt begging their partner is very difficult



if a guy likes he should treat me like queen Elizabeth i wont be pleased or happy with him if he cant acknowledge his wrong doings and plead whn necessary.

mimibright:
@Op but wait o, so u just sat down , TOOK YOUR PHONE AND ONED YOUR DATA. OPENED OPERA MINI AND CAME TO NAIRALAND TO TYPE THIS RUBBISH!! ITS OBVIOUS WOMAN NEVER DO YOU SOMETHING BEFORE!! CAUSE IF THEY HAVE YOU WON'T COME HERE TO RIGHT THIS TRASH!! IF A LADY DOESN'T LIKE ME FOR ME SHE SHOULD GERROUT!!!!!!!!!! I ANT CHANGING FOR ANY ONE!!

ibedun:
Show me her colour? Me I send am? Never ever believe a woman is "yours", NEVER. Then you have peace.

mimibright:
Rubbish!!!!! I do all these and what DOES she bring to the table, SEX? B**CH PLSSS!!

Ishilove:
Nope, not Pisces. Libra

Well it is your opinion as you have said, and it is VERY far from what the truth is. This 'us' versus 'them' thing is getting really old, Toks. Like seriously.

Every woman is an individual being, with individual characteristics, but you have lumped us up together like pieces of cloned components.

Khan1993:
Hmm. Am an underG, I think I'll just continue studying. When am ready to please a woman, i'll come back to read this. Cos if to please a woman could be 15 and moses commandment to please God is just 10.
I think I'll rather please myself first.

Akalia:
OP u get all the time in d world to even care to do all this to a woman.
All this gals ain't loyal, y would do all that. that's sign of weakness

Ishilove:
Mscheeeeew. Toks, you are not a woman so you will never understand what if feels like to be a woman. All these psychoanalysis is getting very tiring.

Woman is this, woman is that. You lump all of us together with some Dr Phil analysis that does not hold water.

Mscheeeeeeew

Damsel21:
Good day my fellow NLDERS,had to create another account for this thread..
Am a young lady bin in a relationship wit a guy who is based in France for 3yrs now,we met on facebook nd we've nt seen each other till this moment that am writing this,duo he was caring nd supportive,I told him abt my family nd my sisters nd close family knws abt him!but he ver introduce me to any member of his family. Wen I ask he said I shld not worry I enjoyed d relationship wen I was in sch now am out of sch am feelin so lonely,he hadly call or send msg again I will be 27 this year nd my family wants me to get married this year..all my 3yrs of waiting I don't knw anybody wit him,I was thinking one day he will introduce me to him family but he never did..am back home now no boyfriend or fiance,my sis is wailing that I shld bring a man home,am dying nd crying in silent, what shld I do,, how will I overcome this?i don't hav a job yet that can keep me busy,this hurts me the more Pls matured minds help me overcome this my present situation,am dying in lonliness

Toks2008:
The fact is that women are the most complex and complicated creation of GOD and infact i call them the first wonder of the world


-A lady will say she wants a faithful man but will prefer to be with a man every other lady wants.
-A lady will practically friend-zone a man who genuinely wants her and would prefer to run after another guy who does not want her.
-A lady will say there is no husband material but what she is implying is that her own specification of a tall,cute,rich,romantic...is rare.
-Many ladies will talk down on polygamy but would prefer to be the side dish of a rich guy rather than be the only lady of a poor dude.
-And a lady can be with one man,get married to him,have all his children and even grow old with him yet her heart will be with another all the days of her life. I can continue to list several situations to confirm the complexity of women.

The problem is that many men are always quick to bring down every woman because of the bad ones they have come across but this is grossly unfair because every lady is not the same and we must treat any new lady special regardless of the experience we had with an ex.

Nevertheless,i think i have come up with the best way to be at peace with a woman and trust me,if you follow this golden advice,you will always have peace with any lady you choose to be with and here they are.


1.Love your lady with so much passion.

2.Lavish her with gifts.

3.Treat her like a queen.

4.Don't ever raise your hand to beat her or insult her in anyway.

5.Listen to her when she wants to be heard.

6.Shower her with lots of accolades.

7.Give her undivided attention.

8.Be very romantic towards her.

9.Respect her above others.

10.Don't cheat on her in anyway.

11.Provide her needs to the very best of your ability.

12.Don't ever break her heart or make her cry.

13.Be extremely caring.

14.Pamper her in anyway imaginable.

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15.But despite all these,expect the worst from her because she can still turn around and rub all the above on your face

The bottom line is that the man that will please a woman has not been created but the best we can do is to try all we can not to give them an excuse to misbehave but still expect the worst from them.If you treat her badly,she will have a good excuse so just treat her very well so that when she misbehaves,there will be no excuse for her to hold on to and her folly will be conspicuous to the world.

This is the only way you can be at peace with a woman so that if she eventually shows her color despite all your efforts to please her,you will be psychologically ready and will never be a surprise to you.

My candid opinion.

joborskill:
I have been in a relationship with a lady since March last year and all has been going smooth until a revelation popped out earlier today via our chat on whatsapp and it has been troubling my mind. We had a discussion about our past and after sharing series of experiences, she started begging me to forgive her for not telling me this earlier. She claims the month of February has always been a terrible month for her as it brings back some bad memories.

After persuading her for a while about what the issue is, she said she was pregnant for her EX in 2013 and she didn't know until it resulted in a terrible sickness which led to her been rushed to an hospital where the doctor confirmed she is 5 months pregnant. She said the doctor recommended surgery to terminate the pregnancy because the baby was in her right fallopian tube instead of her womb.

She confirmed to me that her right fallopian tube has been removed while all she has now is her womb and left tube. she claims the doctor told her she can only have a maximum of 3 kids when ready due to the surgery. I acted like everything is fine so as not to hurt her feelings any further but i'm seriously disturbed by this.

This is someone i love so much and i intend getting married to later this year. I need advices on what to do next as i am confused right now. What are the implications of having any of the tubes removed? would it affect fertility or child bearing in marriage? Do you think i should move on with my life and look for someone else as i cannot determine the level of damages that has happened to her reproductive system? Kindly drop your comments.

zuma4k:
Alright today's my birthday please show some love

Delphi:
Good innovation!. Some babies cannot rest nor sleep unless they are tied to their mothers' back. So, for the mother to have some time to rest and/or do other chores; this innovation is good. But I pray it is not abused.

viktor01:
At least 2, what of at most?

miketayo:
Plus they have the prettiest girls in Africa

johnydon22:
Hahahahahahaha this one women should be marrying men... I will head to Eritrea and wait t for girls to come ask for my hand in marriage..

#PackingMyBag Am tired of Blaming Buhari #On My way to Eri-paradise

Kx:
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Is Bruce in the senate to throw his questions at the masses thru twitter or to provide answers to burning national issues through bills and laws?[/size]

jtjohn:
After 2 kids she still got her shape back kudos............The husband will be like make I quick close from work make I go dey with my wife because she got everything that will make me relax as a man...

PentiumPro:
Behind every successful looter, there is a woman.

Nkasiobi87:
Good morning everyone. If you have been reading my previous posts then you will know very well how my story has been. After getting a job and trying to ignore My husband'S cheating and other cruel characters towards me, he cheats with a female church member and promises her that he will marry her as a second wife.

After much talking which could not bring any positive results, I decided to let them be And mind my own business. He still enters my room when he feels like doing it with me. Now it happens that am 2Months pregnant after 5 kids. I told him about it he was happy at that given time. I then thought that maybe he will change this time to become a better father.

On Sunday while the morning prayer was going on, I couldn't stand up because I have started showing signs of pregnancy. I was feeling very anemic so I decided to sit down. My husband came out and stopped the prayer and started saying that I sat down because I wanted to show his mistress that am pregnant and that am doing drama for her mistress, something that I have never thought of doing. He started calling me all sorts of names all to calm the mistress down incase she notices that am pregnant. All to show the mistress that he is not happy with me being pregnant. All to make me feel bad and not happy of my condition.

While the congregation and the mistress were watching and laughing. When I couldn't take it anymore, I decided to walkout of the church. one of his workers ran after me and forcefully drew me back which left a mark on my neck. His claim is that I shouldn't move out while his pastor is talking. I pushed him out of my way, he slapped me inside church while my hubby watch. with the little strength in me I fight back and leave the church premises. I was so hurt that I want to revenge on my husband and his worker. how will I be proud of this pregnant now that he has said in his congregation that all am doing is noting but a show how painful. how do I pay him back.I really wish the worst on them now.God help me that I didn't do something unlawful to them.

Go:
There,different folks,different strokes.

OlowoB:
Baba, you are the official love doctor on Nairaland. all your posts are always on point. you have a great deal of experience on so many issues and so at the age of 41, i don't joke with all your posts.

Infact, i am saying it loud and clear, any post by Toks2008 should be an automatic front page material. (lalasticala please take note)


Baba please, there are some questions i'll like to ask you on some stuffs (not on relationship matters though). can i send you a pm please?

cheers.

mordtonia:
You never know. I always tell Ladies, don't have sex with him until reasonable time has passed, you've been through imperfections and he still shows you love, only then should you let yourself go completely, if not you'll just end up with heartbreak. So many fake and shallow guys around.

manee2:
Did he jst say A YEAR?_ like 1..2...3





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Wtf! Modify ur thread brU.

OlowoB:
Baba, you are the official love doctor on Nairaland. all your posts are always on point. you have a great deal of experience on so many issues and so at the age of 41, i don't joke with all your posts.

Infact, i am saying it loud and clear, any post by Toks2008 should be an automatic front page material. (lalasticala please take note)


Baba please, there are some questions i'll like to ask you on some stuffs (not on relationship matters though). can i send you a pm please?

cheers.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

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