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ThreeGEEKS:
I understand what the OPs saying. Even the Bible commands men to love their wives, but then only says to the women to respect their husbands (not love). So I guess that means that the man's love is the most important in marriage and not the woman's. I guess

Ishilove:
The loose screws have begun jiggling again, shey?

Cc naptu2

bfatoba:
To the OP,

nice write up, I understand your point exactly. I would love to add that.. you shouldn't marry someone who doesn't love you with the hopes that your love will show them the way... thats movie type stuff, and not the stuff reality is made of. The potential that time will even kill the love you have for her is much greater. Where did you throw the famous saying "If you truly love her, you set her free". Love is a two way highway, where there are more lanes on the mans side than the woman's. the same advice here goes for the men too... why do you overlook the not so good-looking girl who is all over you because you're in love with the hot girl who doesn't have your time.

BTW
Always have a set standard, whether MAN or WOMAN

if you want a rich man, by all means wait for what you want.
we live in a demand based society,

If you truly LOVE her like you claim you do... you will raise yourself to meet her standards, not tell her to lower her standards for you

if she wants a Car, get it and prove to her that you make her dreams come true and no other man will exist before her eyes

Nnemuka:
i dont know why you know everything bout women and relationshiips yet still single at your age.
irony of life

AfroKnight:
Lol. That's hitting below the belt.
Anyway, maybe he knows ladies so well that he dreads a lifetime with one of them. Fear women. They are dangerous.

AfroKnight:
Toks, you have come again. I don't think a man in love should marry or date a lady who doesn't have strong affection for him. I have been in such relationships before and I know how it crushes the soul to love a woman who doesn't think you are the best thing that happened to her. She would take advantage of you and frustrate you until you breakup.

Love should be mutual. Ladies can be vicious when they know you love them deeply.

JustOzito:
op I am in such dilemma. I have been in love with this guy for more than 4yrs but d highest he has done is to stare at me. I have guys that has good intention coming for me but I always ignore them hoping and praying that one day my crush might look @me and profess his love. A friend advised me to approach him but I can't see myself doing that. how do I get over this guy? by d way am in my finals

skywalker240:
OP pls face reality for f**k sake
in this country No lady wants the ugly,handsome,tall,short and even the biggest an fattest d*ck broke nigga, they are going ga ga for the rich only...be it ugly,short,foolish,small joystick

Thats y many them ar stil single @ 35
The thing about them is just money money money
I knw uve seen girls crazy about their bea but at d end of the day when dey see some1 more contained(let me use dat word) they leaves their bea
its just like dis no money no serious women
And we know what d country is like.

misspicy:
na today you know say woman done suffer for OP's hand
when a man sees a woman as less than nothing what do you expect,the low self esteemed ones too be shouting yes yes when they got nothing to offer a man,all they do is cry for love.
I can see them screaming it all over the thread

Love is a two way thing,I know how I feel when I don't love a guy and he loves me to the heavens,I can't manage a marriage,I'd rather not marry
and its fallacy to say women will develop love for a man after marriage,sometimes its even the other way round from practical examples I have seen,a man who does not love a woman initially finds it easier to fall in love for her if she does things that he really likes but for a woman,she will just be managing a guy who loves her more than she does and thats why you see some women treating their husband like _shit ,sending him on errands,a lady even wrote a thread about how she doesn't like the way her husband over loved her and wouldn't correct her,how he always tries to please her,now this lady is saying she doesn't love him and she is feeling bad about it,etc

ronald4lif:
Before I may be mistaken for an antipathist and antagonistic to the original poster inditings I'd like him to answer with all sincerity if he can marry a woman who's ugly, awfully diminutive in height, and a woman he has no smidgen of love for?

Please I'd appreciate if you can avail me with an honest response before I proceed further. Thanks.

Ishilove:
I wouldn't want to settle with someone who loves me more than I love him. It has to be a mutual thing

Ishilove:
You ought to write more stuff like these, not that Freudian miss of the other day.

XaintJoel20:
Just one among the numerous problems of polygamy...
The lawyer of the family should present the will and not Halima the mistress...

Blackops:
A friend of mine was pained for being ripped off of #400 for a fare which is just #80 after posting it on Facebook people were calling him a broke ass mugger for wailing I looked at them nd just shook my head.

Chanchit:
Real business men no dey waste money anyhow.

vague:
Today you are talking about how to live happliy with a woman. Tomorrow you are talking about how useless they are.

All these wifeless 40something year old PhD graduates in Womantology sef, i don tire for una. I just came from a midweek service and i cannot be wicked so all i will say is may Gos deliver you

dapsylee:
A good samaritan sent this to me. Thought to share

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Maitama
Abuja
Nigeria
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davedpo:
gr8 9ja ladies shuld hold dia men xpecially wen ur guy is greedy

Mznaett:
Our naija guyz don dey take style jealous these Eritrean guyz dem cuz of wetin some girlz dey carry dem do here lol

doyinisaac:
chineke!!!!Bros na you be don jazzy?? the way you carry the matter put for head like say na your destiny is strangely strange.... what is the matter?..even Don jazzy will not take it personal the way you took it ...don jazzy is more matured than that......na wa 4 u oooo, who dem beat who dey cry......

@op by the way hundreds of people including celebrities made the same statement of Going to Eritrea so how are we so sure she was referring to don jazzy particularly??naija bloggers i hail oh.....

Mustiboy:
She has probably discarded the baby who's gonna make her the mother of a millionaire, i hope she weeps the day she realises that. What a heart of stone!!!
Fucck her!!! Lousy foool. She as she take infuriate me sef

mart2k:
do we really need to do all these because of a lady? D answer is NO

sophietosyneabou:
haaa,modaran..i was only joking faa Mr..i have a fiance..tot u wud play along..

sophietosyneabou:
awww..wah a tragedy,m 18

kajoula:
before this ....get to know her person FIRST.
invest your time wisely...it will be a good help to you rather that investing it 100% on someone who will not appreciate you....

make it a 50:50 thing. ...no pain no gain, so whenever she decides to leave u wouldn't feel disappointed.


#mytoken.

Krest3d:
The problem with people on this thread is just comprehension. I don't think any lady or woman will understand the OP because this is an all too familiar situation we guys find ourselves in. If there is something I hate is for a lady I'm in a relationship with to break up with me and pass all the blame to me as the reason for the break up.

Hence OP isn't saying you should worship a woman, he is saying as a guy you shouldn't give your woman a reason to misbehave. Women are unpredictable and usually tend to act up a lot. OP is just trying to highlight some of the 15 things you can do to avoid giving your woman reasons or excuses to start acting up so that even if she decides to start misbehaving she can't push the blame to you.

I am sorry Toks2008, but this is not something that can be explained well enough in writing especially for the crop of individuals on this thread. Only those who understand, understand!

test:
Thanks so much for your quick answer, infact this is my first time ever posting anything on nairaland. Am not even adamant about the sex thing cos this 20year old girl be swearing shes a Virgin, thats why I wanted to go slow and steady.

I just want to ask, is it that this chic has been pretending all this while. All the I love u , love u, na lie...chaii

sophietosyneabou:
op please be my boyfriend..