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miqos02:
are u a prophet? @ op

LOL! Why you ask?

LadyJul:
I say a big NO to 1 and 2.....y would I think of marrying a man dats has no good income and even living in a face me I face you apartment Tufiakwa!!! In life you don't move backward...,instead you move forward!!! I can never do dat in the name of love....who love help? My papa nor go even approve dat kind marriage....he go just disown me sef....... all dis silly men dat don't know how to keep their di*k in one place na i won con sacrifice for I dey craze??.. I'm not going to take any risk for any man in the name of love.....it's not worth it at all.....like i said b4 who love help especially for dis our generation?

Apparently you must still be a student or without a job...this is exactly the mindset of financially dependent ladies.No insults aburo..just a statement of fact.

This reminds me of an Article i wrote before the guber elections this year.

Tinubu godfather-ism A blessing or a curse to Lagos state.

Political godfather-ism can not be exempted from politics all over the world and this should not be an issue.

What we should look at is the ability of these godfathers to follow due process in ensuring that their choice candidate succeeds in winning the elective position.

In Lagos state,over the years many quarters have held the notion that Asiwaju Bola Hammed Tinubu’s “godfather-ism” is more akin to that of unscrupulous mafia dons.

Tinubu’s “godfather-ism” to these set means candidates for public office of his political party are not elected by popular vote but selected from Tinubu’s bedroom and then imposed on the party. They are then held under a tight leash by the Jagaban and are required to do his bidding on pain of being summarily replaced or impeached.

The question I keep asking the crusader of these funny and seemingly awkward assertion is this; does Tinubu have a hypnotic power to control the minds of these party members? OF-COURSE NOT.

I think what Tinubu does is that he meticulously analyses an individual within the party based on credibility and presents such to the party and does not impose or blackmail anyone to vote for such but uses the apparatus within his reach to foster his choice into coming out tops.

I would say that the "godfather-ism" of Tinubu have come out as a great blessing to Lagos state due to his ability to recognize a credible and efficient candidate as we have evidently seen in the person of Governor Fashola who turned Lagos state around and made Lagos the envy of every other states and also raised the bar so high that APC governors across Nigeria are known for excellent performance

In like manner, I believe that the emergence of Akinwunmi Ambode as the APC flag-bearer and subsequently the next governor of Lagos state will definitely bring about even a greater and more excellent governance.

I will not want to forget the rumored rift between Governor Fashola and Tinubu and if this is true then it even gets better because this goes a long way to show that these presumed “godsons” are not just excellent executives but are not also a push over for any one.

In conclusion, I would say that the “godfather-ism” of Tinubu if indeed it is what people call it,have been a blessing for Lagos and will continue to be a blessing and until we see a reason to discredit it, we will continue to vote for APC to take charge of the affairs in Lagos state for many years to come not because there is a presumed godfather somewhere but because Lagosians have realized that the representatives of this party are result oriented.


https://www.nairaland.com/2047114/tinubu-godfather-ism-blessing-curse-lagos

specco:
Toronto or Chicago? I cant quite remember which one he is associated with.

The toronto saga

klassic:
Marriage doesn't fix a broken relationship! I repeat Marriage doesn't fix a broken relationship! If there's no solid foundation before marriage there won't be any after marriage. Your marriage is a reflection on what you shared before the I do's. If they were cheating and lying and being disrespectful before you got married that will continue after the marriage.
Know your worth! You can't change a grown person that has got to be something they want for themselves. People don't take marriage seriously because they don't go into it being serious about their relationship. You don't marry someone on the hopes of what they can become, you marry someone on what they show you now and grow together. #I rise.

Aki..you are right.

lmm4real:
O lord connect me to my helper, the one that will never hv to test my loyalty.

In my political career,i have observed keenly that those who GOD will use to take you up there are those you will never expect and while Fashola's case involved Tinubu,in most cases,other political bigwigs have climed the ladder with the help of people you will see and regard as inconsequential.

I have learned to respect everybody i ever come across in life,from that oga at the top to the agbero on the street because you never can tell...that person you think is a nonentity may just be the one who will recommend you for a better position in your work place and that "low life" you were kind to in the past might be one of the gang of robbers that will save you in the future.

Don't ever look down on anyone except you are admiring their shoes.

jaymichael:
#propaganda.
#BBOM #bringbackourmoney.

Big time propanganda.


Though cancer is a terrible thing but that shuld not stop here from returning the ooted funds.

i no pity am..just wish her fasst rrecovery.

vivaciousvivi:
Hahahahah Toks oooo! Abeg, I am innocent of all and any allegations levelled against me. My entire body language reads innocence and this will be revealed "in the fullness of time"


Na greet I greet u o. See as u have carried the matter

Thanks for clearing the air...i for cal family meeting on top of the matter.

Udyswerrievanilla...odaroo

halexito:
Erm...... Guys!? Have you shifted the thread to Benin Republic? Even Toks is part of this conspiracy? Or is it 'Frenchspiracy'?
Siamia come and see o! The thread has been stolen............

lol...we just got into french mode...maybe German tomorrow

JustOzito:
There is no politeness in rejection. She'l feel bad and might even hate u.

You guys are nt catching the drift.

Maiking a first move or showing a green light to a guy is never the same as outrightly wooing a guy which i wont advice any lady to do.

Nevertheless,a daring lady can still woo a guy and still comport herself right thereby earning respect,admration and ultimately love from that same man.

sisisioge:
Mr. Tokunbo, how was your trip? Hope oke okun was fruitful. You came rather late cos issue got over-resolved a gazillion years ago! Babe sef is about to change her surname. Anyways, I think she meant it as it sounded...financially responsible

lol...issorite...i wish her the best.

fourfunmi:
Lmao.... Godforbid me to carry last too....where there is google translate... Abeg I no even sabi shingbain!

lol...sharp babe

halexito:
Ehn?! Please, explain your 'shelf'. Lol

As in are youa poet?You have the skills

fourfunmi:
Haaa!!!
Abeg anywhere but that head!!
I'm yet to appease the rockband playing inside.

Parlez-vous le français ?

lol! Nooo not at all..na google translate o..But do you?

ujuvals:
I dont know if this is the best platform to express myself but i just want to cry out as there is power in the social media. I am a young girl of 27 years. I live with my dad in lagos, lost my mum 10 years ago and have been sustaining the family for a while now as my dad's business collapsed due to some circumstances. I am a graduate and very hardworking, i have worked in few places in the past but i want to say i haven't been lucky.

I worked with a transport company in ikeja as at feburary and after working for 3months we were asked to stop with no pay on the note that the company was collapsing and they had no money to pay staffers. It was so painful because i live at iyanoba and have to go through a whole lot of stress and pay up to 700 a day for transport to be at work despite we worked weekends. I felt so used but prayed to God to take control and judge them.

I got another job in september at ikeja i didn't want to take it because i had my fears about salary issue after my past experience but looking at the situation at home where they depended on me for survival i had to let go of my instincts and take the job. It was very stressful, the distance, the constant work on the system and sometimes starving just to be able to save up for transport. Despite the distance i always got to the office by 7:30am to resume 8:00am so you can imagine when i leave my house.

When it got to pay time, i was told my boss travelled and there was no talk on salary till after a long while. i also want to add that on one of those occasions i was going to work i was robbed and my phones taken from me, it was so painful but then its part of life. My female boss eventually took pity on me and paid me for September, i told her i would like to stop but she encouraged me to continue with the impression that i was just tested on my patience. I continued work and now halfway into this month of November i am yet to be paid for October.

The worst part is my boss has refused to show up at work, he avoids calls and sends no message. I eventually got across to him with a strange number and when he picked he said he has a lot of issues his going through but i can stop coming to work; just like that. I asked him for my pay and he said no money at the moment i should stop.

I really feel bitter as i have no one to fight for me and worse is i have debts i incurred in the process of going to work. How do i offset them and start again when am practically cashless. My monthly pay is 40,000 and it can't be too difficult for a man his caliber to pay but i feel he just wants to cheat me knowing there is nothing i can do.

Please nairalanders what do i do? i feel so bad, i don't even know what next to do as am so confused.

Why are the employers taking advantage of the jobless graduates and using them? How bad can it be for someone not working and then after working you get tossed in the bin? I want God to intervene but i need help. Please pardon any grammatical blunders and errors, as i am not in the right frame of mind.

Thanks.

When i read stories like this i can't help but break a tear and i just wonder how this country is gradually drifting towards anarchy if something is not done fast.

Guys and even young ladies now resort to lotto,sport betting just to se if they can win enough money to better their lot..EFCC will be so quick to parade cyber criminals and armed robbers yet the leaders of this country are busy stashing away billions of dollars.

Our churches are not helping matters, every sunday,they psyche members with enticing words that their miracle is on the way yet will not do anything to help the lot of their youths and even some whoi build institutions with tithe and offering can not boast of having a querter of their church member's children in same school..which way Nigeria

Young ladies who should get jobs on merit are now being interviewed ina private suite where the sweetness of their bodies have become the only criterion to get a job as well as retain same job and whenn the employer is done with her,she is sacked and replaced by another willing victim and even the ladies who ought to get jobs even easier than guys are now crying yet these same ladies wil never look the side of a struggling man and would rather prefer a man who is gainfully employed in a non existing company....which way Nigeria

Our entrepreneurs who take the bulls by the horns and decide to start a business are frustrated by erratic government policies and the more you try to help yourself the more you are frustrated by the very system you try to give something into..which way Nigeria.

Nigeria is one country that will never allow you do anything for yourself or for her but would rather make you redundant and make you regret that you were born a Nigeria.

Father lord i pray.raise for Nigeria and Nigerians a new crop of leaders who will have great empathy for the people and are ready to lay their lives down in other to move this country forward in Jesus name...AMEN.

I am moved to ask you to contact seun so that due diligence can be done on you then he can make public your account details maybe you just might get a succor cos i believe that if a hundred Nairalander gives you 1k each,it will go a long way to help.

Sorry dear.

BluePearls:
bonjour le pa? go and hug transformer

Na vivaciousvivi go settle the matter. She go kon explain why you dey call am honey,swerrie,chocolate and even vanilla join sef.

*carries chair and sits down* na here she go meet me.

fourfunmi:
Awwww....Merci, c'est en effet sucré(doux) pour recevoir des nouvelles de vous.

OOOSHE!

3 Gbosas for your head oh sorry for you..

madepatra:
I'm easy on the eyes with a great personality. I love the things most girls don't like, like politics,football and other intellectual gists. I love intelligent people and a great sense of humor, oh, I love to have a good laugh. Great music, family and friends rock my world.

I am about 5.7" tall, not dark and in between slim and fleshy. I love to meet a guy taller than I'm, well read and very financially responsible. He should value family and respect humanity. I'm not particular about colour or tribe. A cool calm and collected you should call me on ......... Password is "prince charming". Thank you.

Please elucidate on the bold lettering.

halexito:
Remember these ; when the desirable is not available, the available becomes the desirable.
And there is a big difference between KNOWING what you want and GETTING what you want.

Ị bụ onye na-ede uri

vivaciousvivi:
Hey dear, I have been reading from the sidelines lately and wondered what happened to u. Pele o. Hope u feel much better now?

Morning all! TGIF o. Lord knows I need this weekend badly.
Where is my Bluepearls?

Vous avez juste a brisé mon heart.How se fait que tu seulement demandé de Bluepearls? Donc, vous ne vous souciez pas de moi? DIEU vous regarde.

BluePearls:
i yam right here baby! yu can i answer with immediate effect and hat in hands
hows ur day going nwa-oma?

Si je vous attrape avec mon bébé. elle est prise par moi

fourfunmi:
Lmao.....
Ghost mode indeed.

Oya ayaff changed it.

Vous regardez doux dans cette image

laurel03:
500m no be small money those records company no fit get dt kind of money...

Read my mind. I just yimued when i read this...If he see 5milion collect make e thank GOD.

fourfunmi:
Thanks Toks2008,

As much as I would love that, the challenge was that plus everything, I had a bad case of eyestrain cum photophobia (thanks to our technology laden lifestyle) but I'm fine now...minus the loud party going on up in my head!

You are welcome sis..

lol..your ghost mode profile pics tho....as in very difficult to view you..

magicminister:
This is sad but true.
90 percent of the girls getting all the attention are light skinned girls.
Dark skinned girls find it a bit more difficult to get the attention light skinned girls get.
Personally, I like beautiful dark or chocolate skinned women.
I dont see myself dating a "yello" chick.

This is also same with guys. I noticed lighter toned guys get more attention than darker toned guys.


Anyway, if you think bleaching would make you feel better and be a better person, go ahead and do it.
Remember you cant reverse it and make sure you are aware of the consequences if any.

The only reason i will "prefer"light skin lady is because im dark in complexion else i am good with dark skin anyday anytime.

Nevertheless,i will go for a very dark skin well endowed lady rather than a straight fair lady anyday anytime

hedonistic:
I'm a graduate, not AM a graduate. Isn't it shameful how most 'graduates' in Nigeria do not know the difference between I'm and am?

By the way, I need a job, not "I need job". Madam graduate, it's a fiercely competitive labour market out there. At this rate you might stand a better chance of getting 'job' by putting your School Cert forward and downplaying your 'graduate' status.

Honestly i have come to believe that grammatical prowess is more of a talent than an acquired knowledge.

sonofananimal:
I once have a vision of working in a multinational firm, I worked toward it for years to another year but still no hope. And now I'm on my own business at least RECEIVING a normal income or less.

Can you still classified this guy as a failure?
Since he drop that vision and started doing another thing away from his target!

Not at all dear,working in a multinational could be a long term goal which you can either give up if you no longer feel ok with it.

Vision can be modified yet still on same path.

There will always be a short and long term goal.

magneto:
Aptly put bro, especially the bold part. I almost wept for joy at the wisdom in those words. Remain blessed!

Here is a thread i created long ago.

[size=13pt]Why do many ladies prefer a salary earner to an entrepreneur?[/size]]

Do you know that many ladies will be quick to pick the entrepreneur but in actual fact they prefer a man that earns a salary from a paid job rather than a vision driven guy aiming to make success of his career?

Do you know that an average Nigerian lady would rather prefer to marry a man who is an employee of a company rather than to say yes I do to a man who is still struggling to be an employer of labor.

It is amazing how an average Nigerian lady will go all out to kill the zeal of a young and promising entrepreneur simply because of the fear of the unseen,she will advice him to take up a job just because she is more interested in having the assurance that there is a regular in-flow of
cash either for her selfish gains or for the sake of the children.

Ok I guess you will be saying in your mind ”this guy don come again” so do me this favor and lets do this real life testing..

If you are a guy who is still searching for job simply call your lady on the phone and tell her “honey wow! guess what? I have gotten a business idea I want to start” and please observe her response.

Wait for another week and call her again but this time say “Honey you won’t believe I got a job” and also observe her response.

And for those who are already working,simply call your lady and tell her “honey I have decided to quit my job to start my personal business” ..i am almost certain you are in for a long sermon on why you should not.

Some ladies are even kind enough to ask you to get a job first then probably raise the money for the business as though they are so certain that all the money you earn monthly from the hopeful job will be saved for your intending business and unfortunately by the time you start a job
you intend spending just few years,you will wake up after 20years to discover you are still stuck up in same job because the employers we have are pretty smart enough not to allow you space for yourself and you will even have to lie in order to attend an interview for another job offer.

Please don’t get it twisted…as a man,there is absolutely nothing wrong in taking up a job if that is what rocks your boat but I am simply laying emphases on some Nigerian ladies who lack vision,those who are mediocre and those who just believe that getting by is more important in life
than attaining a potential maximum IN YOUR CHOSEN CAREER.

Our ladies must understand that just as we have men who are ok with a paid jobs and depend on the employer to gain promotion and more take home pay,we also have men who are visionary,men who would rather want to be an employer of labor rather than be an employee,men
who will stop at nothing to achieve their dreams and men who will later become the Dangotes and bill gates of today and eventually become a owner of a company many see today as well established and many ladies will even pray and fast for their men to be employed there.

This is my point ladies…the choice remains yours but please do not stress our men who are visionary,determined and result oriented. Allow them pursue their dreams.Get a life for yourself,get financially independent and allow this man space to actualize his dreams.

My candid view.

https://www.nairaland.com/2285232/why-many-ladies-prefer-salary

Sparkles003:
Some dont have the heart that comes with taking risk.
Most importantly only always take a decision that will make you happy.
it worked for toks2008 might not work for sparlles003

LOL! You no sabi quote at all..see how you changed my original comments lol!

I can see you are not getting it...we have short term and long term plans so getting involved in a regular job could be a short term plan for some of us and some guys are just ok doing this for the rest of their active years and its perfectly ok if that is what gives him fulfillment.

My point is that a typical naija lady would rather prefer her man to stick to a regular job rather than resigning to take up a dream career,business or project.

magneto:
I agree with u to an extent bro. Even the Bible says dat a man dat can't provide for his family is worse dan an infidel. There's no mincing words abt it, the love in a 'broke' home is not as sweet as that in an 'abundant' home. Of cos dis doesn't mean dat money creates love but rather it can enhance it. I'm glad u got the main lesson from wat ur dad said. Every man should strive to better himself financially in so that the love that exists in his home would be adequately enhanced.
The bolded part of ur post however is not entirely correct. It is definitely NOT A FACT and only a selfish woman would 'hinge' her love and respect for her man 'solely' on his ability to bring home the bacon. That kind of woman is still very immature and doesn't understand the issues of life. I rise

my broda you have said it all...sometimes i just cry in silence for the myopc disposition of our ladies...they keep saying...i want a guy who is financially stable,a guy who is gainfully employed,a guy who is....then i began to wonder if these ladies actually reason rationally.

Nigeria is a perculiar country where the norms in organized part of the world is a fluke here...and come to think of it..it is even easier for ladies to get jobs because of many factors too numerous to highlight.

All a lady needs is a hardworking guy who knows what he wants and dogged enough to pursue his dreams and not necessarily a man who is fortunate to secure a regular take home pay just to get by...there is more to life than just eating and having a regular job that may limit your dreams...

Go round and check the men that are making great success of their lives n you will agree that these are not guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs but guys who follow their dreams and passions.

I am not saying getting a job is not ok but the way ladies hinge their criteria around regular income earners,many guys are losing out on their dreams,many guys are dropping their vision to build another man vision just because an average naija girl will prefer a regular worker in shell rather than a lionel messi in the making...for how long shall we guys continue to lose our identity for the sake of winning the respect of these myopic ladies who look for a financially stable guy for their selfish purpose.

I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

fourfunmi:
I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.
@Toks2008 , there is no asheju in all you've stated and all you listed isn't that bad.
A delectable lady, pleasing to the eyes, with her little income, plus good cook and finally God fearing is the answer to this long wait.....*my beautiful ladies una dey hear? Someone should do the needful o!

Sorry dearie

I had an episode of fatigue but thank GOD im back on my feet....the funniest part is that even if im o so down,i will still find succor in communicating and interacting with people cos of my mad passion for that