₦airaland Forum

Liciase:
Good morning sir, thanks alot for taking time to answer my question.you opened my eyes to the fact that not every guy who is gainfully empolyed is hardworking. I must confess it never crossed my mind. have a great day.

klassic:
When I was 14/15,my dad sat me down as a son and said"my son, the sooner you realise the fact that you are a man, the easier life will be for u. One day, you will marry & raise a family. You will have the sole responsibility of providing for your family and giving them the best of what life has to offer. If you do this, your wife will love and cherish you, she will forget your name and still call you honey, darling, sugar pie, daddy, baby, etc, at age 60.But remember, you must strive to make things better cos if you fail, you become"Mr. Man, papa John, she remembers your full names and always ask ; y did I marry you, the juju u used for me has failed and you become a useless, good for nothing man, she starts comparing you with your mates, forgetting the good times so soon. If she is totally heartless, she starts sleeping around with your friends and other men who can take care of her needs. She denies you everything the marriage has to offer and you feel worthless before her as she will turn the kids against you.
So my son work twice as hard as your mates, work while they work and work while they sleep. Remember you have loads of time to rest and sleep when you are dead. Even if you die young, make sure you leave enough to make your family comfortable. For in doing all these, you earn their respect even in death. # Our Fathers advice #no woman loves penniless man. #No money no love. #No money no honey. #in a woman world, it's God first, make money and don't stop, cos the only language they Understand is money.

missbronze:
A lady of 30yrs has been dating a guy of 35yrs old for sometime now.


They both have something doing, although not that big.


The Lady wants commitment, and, the guy refused to commit. He gives the reason of not having enough money he wants to have yet. therefore, he is not ready to settle down.

The lady is ready to contribute in everything, and also willing to manage. She is not the materialistic type, she is respectful, even the guy compliments her for that.

The guy told her point blank he can marry even at the age of 50 if he wants, so, therefore, he is not in a hurry to settle down.


Now, this lady wants to quit the relationship. Even though she loves this guy, she feels no need being in something that don't have any direction.


Is she doing the right thing.?

Is she being too mean?

Liciase:
Good day sir, am an observer. read your post and I like to ask a question. how do you tell the regular struggling guy from one that is lazy.

margclever:
your utterance is laced with stupidity you seem to forget that this is a democracy with freedom to talk the talk. Yeye pikin

LocalChamp:
http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/193049-apc-yet-to-fulfill-a-single-campaign-promise-ekweremadu.html

Omotayor123:
What kind of a girl will say yes to your proposal at once. Except of course, if you have been friends for a while!

LouisVanGaal:
Op you are right! Buhari WANTED fashola as running mate..but due to the politics of ethnicity and religious card instituted by the PDP..it made it difficult..
Let me tell you..I have this belief that these govt would have its ministers Struggling to dislodge or outdo each other in performance! This is just a new platform to re-launch and finally endear themselves into the hearts of Nigerians against 2019...
Mark my words, a particular minister would be presented as a RUNNING mate to the flag-bearer against 2019 presidential race on account of his good performance..

DAVIYJONESS:
My name is daviyjones, you already know that but what you might not know is the top 7 list why nigerian BF don't marry their GF. Don't forget I'm the man of list.

1. He has enjoyed every part of you :
Nobody likes to eat rice all the time or beans, consumers always change taste in this case guys are the consumers. He has been straffing you for months and years same pussy, same boobs. The guy got to change taste.

all you bring is your problem or family's for discussion :
Most girls do this, when they start a topic it must be about something the guy has to do for me,mostly financial problems. Sooner or later the guy will run away from liability. As if is only girls that have problem in this world.


you have collected the BRIDE PRICE already. : the money some guys spend on GF is enough to pay her bride price for 20 consecutive years, iphone6 price can even build a mansion in her village.

when you keep male friends like movie collection :
There is probability that out of every 6 male friends a girl keeps, there is a Side-guy or BF amongst them.



when he discovers how promiscous you use to be : you use to be runs girl,olosho,slut and suddenly change when you see him as special guy, trust me when he finds out about your dirty pass he will never let go and will dump you .

when he discovers he is not the true landlord of the honney-pot;
Guys always have ears around their GF even side-chick.whenever he heard you have a main guy from family and friends. He won't dump you but turn you to sex slave and wil never marry you.

if you are beautiful but dumb : average looking girls are more intelligent ( prove me wrong). Men love beautiful girls with brains. Funny you can't have them all. Because beautiful ladies are overwhelmed by their beauty and proposals they get from admirers which make them spend more time on their body than brain.

[i]Written by daviyjones ( the man of list)

udysweet:
Hello everyone! Good to be here briefly. Like I noticed,a lot of pple have joined us here,happy to see that. Hope we're doing great? @nouvelle,how are u ma'am? Thanks for ur kind words. @Toks2008,strongest man ever liveth,ki lo n popping? Strenght is urs o. @Halexito,hope ur day is goin fine?
Promise on my next post I shall adress each by his or her name,lemme go look for paper and pen(dis time I promise,lol)
Enjoy the rest of your day y'all. Plenty hugs and kisses,muah!

fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

ddshow:
I feel you need to establish a principle of natural selection before you walk up to any lady. I don't think you have any reason to have walked that far. The way to go is to make it short for the first time....Just SMILE, APPROACH, CHAT and AIM for a her contact info.

aim5:
You're saying the truth. And Pastor Chris is a Sagittarius.. Sagittarius can someone come off as blunt, uncaring and wild, so that's probably why Anita felt hurt and disrespected. Also, you're right about Pisces women being self- destructive, in fact all water signs as a whole can be self destructive.

Ishilove:
Tokunbo, omo iya, ejo po

aim5:
All of them are Pisces. Pisces women are very feminine and caring, but you're right they are very sensitive and can break when you give them criticism.

eyeon:
I even forget girls who formed hard to get towards my friends; talk more of when they try that with me.

sonofananimal:
yeap! That's why I hate that Facebook stuff.

But anyway! That's OK,

And I also do secretly learn something from you

Nice!

sonofananimal:
It doesn't matter if you have a skeleton or not, is just one may use her pics for advertising on a blog and other stuff, in come case some may use it to fraud. Many of those online pics on some dating website are not really their pics, it was stolen if I may say.

I normally use to view thread on guest mode just to GeT some information. I'm just talking base on my personal view since I have been following this thread right from page 11 and most of the time on guest mode.

Cutehector:
u r very wise.. Except of course we'v been frnds for a while.. Why will I just ask a girl out just like dat...

Ishilove:
No. Romance section shidren most times use the pictures as weapons of war when embarking their brainless e-duels

sonofananimal:
sorry to say but you make a wrong move by posting your pics here, instead on your dp. (Security wise) or rather try to communicate privately. I'm not paranoid but what I HAVE seen and experience. Many here as in starting from page 30, some are not what there seem to portray here.

gratefulme40:
Hmmm...uncle Toks, do people still do this? I mean following a random lady on the road to woo her.

I dont know ooo. Me i dont really take such men/guys serious. In fact, i hardly even give audience sef to such men ooo.

Na when i was a teenager i entertained such......right now, i dont.

36STATES:
Bola Ige said the same thing.

fourfunmi:
Going through your previous posts, I think I understand you.
Though it might seem like rambling, it actually makes a lot of sense.
Many of us are so careful that we start to become "too careful"....and tell me, what's the fun in being calculative?
No lady can take any man by fire by force(she can try but for how long?)We can only steer you guys towards 'a direction'....meaning...we also need you guys' help too.
Its true, we all know what we want....but we sometimes wonder why the whole qualities doesn't come in one package and many people wonder why what should be so easy seem so hard... It is especially hard for we that have a perfect, well-structured picture of what we want. Oga toks, there'll still be tiny winy doubts even when you make that choice...lol... Is this not a mistake? Am i not compromising? Am I settling for less?etc...
Do you fancy bungee jumping?? It involves no strategy; you simply jump!!!
Maybe you should start by telling us what is it you are on the look out for...that doesn't seem a tall order as you've said.
Goodmorning...

ddshow:
You have programmed fear into your nervous system and it's been working like an instinct. You need to change your mindset and be audacious in approaching women. Hence, the first major step is to overcome your psychological barriers.

Secondly, always abide by the 3 Second Rule.

At a point in my life when I was looking into the challenge of talking to someone new every day for 30 days, I read about something called the 3 second rule.

The 3 second rule happens to be the most powerful pickup tool a guy or lady could have and is often referred to in these terms, but it’s a great tool for meeting new people in any context. The rule requires that if you see someone you’re interested in talking to, you have 3 seconds to walk up to them and start a conversation. It’s very simple, but extremely effective.

The reason why it’s so effective is because if you wait any longer than 3 seconds, you’ll probably end up over-thinking it and never say anything at all. With only 3 seconds, you don’t have enough time to let anxiety get the best of you. If you see someone you want to talk to, you must immediately go over and talk to them.

Stop worrying about what to say. Anything is better than nothing.

Plus, you’d be surprised by how much people especially Nigerian women actually like being talked to. And if we go back to the anecdote of being in a room full of strangers, how do you feel when someone comes up to you and starts talking to you? You feel great, right? No one wants to be the person who’s standing alone.

If we look at it holistically, you’re actually doing them a favor by talking to them, because out of everyone you've seen, you specifically chose to talk to them. If anything, they’ll be grateful that you chose to talk to them, not weirded out.

And btw, no mature lady is hard to get...all you need is patience, perseverance and the right attitude.

I hope this will help a bit.

Cheers.

bleble14:
@toks2008, u need to be spiritually guided when it come to marrage cause its very important, psalm 25 vs 9

misspicy:
well i'd say it boils down to personalities i.e the type of person the guy in question is and also their mode of reasoning and environment.....i dare say most guys are brought up with the mentality to do the wooing so have a female put on green light might suprise them,maybe i don't understand what green lights means,can you give me practical examples because i relate written words practically to see how achievable they are.......

Sagamite:
The fuuktard Eddygourdo has never worked in a professional, international-standard corporate environment.

And he would never work in a professional, international-standard corporate environment.

A fuuktard that reasons like that is unemployable.