₦airaland Forum

It is widely believed that it is a man's responsibility to take care of the lady in his life and in my opinion i see absolutely nothing wrong in this and i always tell any guy that even if his lady makes 1million naira a month,he should still make it a duty to take care of her and give her whatever he can afford to make her feel happy and also to maintain his place as the man hence the need for any real man out there to understand that taking care of your woman is sacrosanct in order to be a real man and not a figure head.

However,it has become very appalling that many ladies have taken this for granted and have put their hope in getting a man who is financially prepared to take care of them and have totally forgotten the fact that they are also expected to be an independent entity and even more worrisome is the ideology of some ladies that they now prefer to be with a man that has "potentials" as though they are totally hopeless in getting the best out of life.

This write up is not for greedy vultures who despite making a decent living will still want to suck a man dry but for the decent average disciplined Nigerian lady so i present to you 6 good reasons why it is very vital for our unmarried ladies to have something doing that can at least bring in a daily profit as little as N2,000 on the average for a start.

1. You have the confidence to be with a man for the right reasons: I have seen many ladies claim they love a guy they would never have considered in their dreams And this has nothing to do with the man in love with them but he is ready to spend on them and because they are so financially vulnerable,they easily fall prey to a man who has no desire for them but just their body.But if you have something doing that at least takes care of your minimal needs,you will be able to say YES to man for the right reasons and not because of what he has.

2. Unmarried men now prefer a financially independent lady: Yes it is no longer a fashionable thing for guys to crave for ladies who have nothing doing just as ladies have phobia for guys in same category.I am not talking about secondary school or campus romance but if you really need a man who has a sincere desire to make you his,then you better get your ass right and start doing something to earn a living no matter how small.

3.It boosts your self value:Do you know that guys respect a lady who does not ask for recharge cards,money to make her hair,money to buy this or that? Oh Yes that guy may not care and i really don't too but trust me,even if i have to give you a weekly or monthly allowance,you better be making something for yourself no matter how little so that i will give you that allowance with some respect for you knowing that if i don't give you,it won't affect you in anyway.Ladies who are financially independent are hardly jilted by their guys because men see them as great assets and not liabilities.

4.You have the propensity to follow your dreams:Oh yes when you make your money,no man can make you his puppet(Not saying you should be arrogant) because he will hear you when you speak and you can decide to make your own decisions about your life and aspirations but if you depend on your Bfriend,fiancé or hubby for money,you will involuntarily see yourself yielding to his demands knowing that going against his wish is tantamount to being broke.

5.You become a real help meet for a man and not a parasite:Yes GOD made you as a woman to be a help meet for a man and even if no sane man should expect to eat from your sweat.shits happen in life and a man who is full of life,energy and plans may find himself in a crazy situation and at times like this,you play a good role by helping him out while you also pray to GOD to resuscitate his finance and this means if as a spinster you are independent,you will definitely catch the fancy of many men.

Whether you are still a student in the secondary or tertiary institution,you can still be financially independent and YES we know how harsh the economy is but trust me,if you think deep and become more purposeful,you will see something you can do that can bring in at least average of 1000naira on daily basis which is a good start.

6. It will be a sure proof that indeed there is gender equality: This needs no long explanation as we are tired of hearing about gender equality yet the ladies still depend on the men folk to take care of them as well as the children they both brought to the world but when you are financially independent,gender equality becomes a practical thing to reckon with.After-all,what a man can do,a woman can do even better according to the songs of the ladies.


Just trying to make sense and i hope this helps.

abrahambest:
did mine today too...worked perfectly and i was activated instantly....

And i had to fill a form,wueue to submit and waited for 2hours yesterday to link mine at first bank....old papa and mama bank..

benedictnsi:
I sware, that girl fine die!!!

Sorry she no die, I mean "the girl is charming"

This kind fine girl eeh, her serious cry go even be like say she d laugh

If I answer that mgbeke call again make I bend!!!

Ask the girl about Akpororo and you will her stufs like "he is charming,all i want in a man"

Ladies and their lies......I guess if Akpororo happen to be one level 5 civil servant,there is no way she will even give him audience let alone marry him.

Lesson:Guys should pray to GOD to bless their hustle so that they can point to any girl no matter how hot she is and marry her no matter how ugly you are...as in with good money and success,most ladies become point and kill...Quote me if you like.

MosakuAW:
Madness @the highest level.
End time Pastor.
Imagine a church name as 'Breast and Honey Harvest Church'
Oga ooooo. Suru olorun po oooo

And amazingly he has members...like seriously?

gratefulme40:
Hi Toks
How are you? Hope you had a good day?

Im fine my lovely sis.Thanks for your care.

I Saw this great piece of advice from a female nairalander on a thread and i was so impressed that this is coming from a female and i really think every unmarred reading this should consider this wonderful advice..

She wrote..

"Well, I just feel we should discuss some causes of being single at 30s and 40s.

I will blame our economy as the major problem, most guys and ladies wish to marry at least by age 25. but, how do explain that even at age 38yrs and through with school, yet, we can't a land a job. who wants to be a burden? and, who wants to accept a burden?

Truth be told, the rich guys in this country are mostly men in their 50s and 60s.

That all said, does it mean we should now fold our hands and watch the problem of this country hinder us? No..!!!


Let's face reality, we guys and ladies should know is time we come together and help each other. Gone are those days of waiting for one rich man or waiting for one gal from a rich home. Face it, the rich gets married to themselves.


If as a man you have an income of atleast 50k, ( which is the starting salary most coy pays now sef). then, go ahead and marry, if you have found that special person. But, please, let your partner be earning too. Even if its small, it will be needed in the family.

All every couple needs is planning. If a couple is on income of 80k monthly for eg, believe me, hunger won't kill them. they will be comfortable.they should decide to have just a kid for that moment on that income of 80k. not more than a kid oooo. until sometin better and bigger comes. All we need in this life of relationship is planning and understanding. and, not all the whole wealth in this world to settle down.

Abeg, I Don talk my own. another person should drop his own observation and what he/she thinks is the solution.

*drops mic*
*Let me continue eating my rice*"

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sexxydiva:
Am new here

Lets meet you...and see you.

I noticed that many ladies joining this thread are too private...please lets know you and see your pcs abeg.

halexito:
Lol! Toks was only been 'seriously funny' . But d guy never got d gist. He missed a good laugh!

E be likee say you don sabi me fnish...me i go just talk my own forget matter and the next hour i don forget say i talk.

prettyangel10:
[b]Braggadocio.Odoriferous,Malodorous and megalomaniac Crinkum-crankum.[/b]
O serious. On top this matter? Lolx.

Yees o...the guy vex me so i wan use grammer finish am.

pman001:
Good,i hope one can now get job in custom on merit...waiting for that part...God bless Nigeria

At first i frowned at the idea of brinnging an external person to head the service but now im begining to see sense in buhari decision.

lumzybo:
OMG!!! she cut the entire hand why na?

Honestly, I Donno what to say. How on earth culd she justify this cruelty?

I don't even knw the kinda punishment that wuld be appropriate to this devil called househelp.

Chai!!!! poor baby

Lets assumr the dad of the toddler walks in,sees this and goes ahead to cut off the maid two hands,will he be arrested?

iclass1:
“The constitution certainly said there must be
one member of the cabinet from all the states
but the constitution did not say I must have 36
ministries."...

Very true

Meritocracy:
If Buhari should have oppotunity of selling crude oil the highest price ever like Jonathan i believe all the clueless graduate that are depending on parent at 30 and still hailing Jonathan would have gotten job.

Seconded

halexito:
Hello, calm your nerves. This is a thread for decent people and matured minds. Introduce yourself first, let's meet you. It is the rule here. This is never a brothel where you order babes like drinks. Be respectful to others. Being arrogant will get you nothing here. I mean nothing.
This is NOT a thread for desperate men and women. NO!
It's a thread for GENTLEMEN AND CULTURED LADIES.
NOT TOUTS N CALL GIRLS!

lol no mind am..he thinks this is a brothel where he can order for sluts..

omo wobey no dey here o... oniranu and serious alabacha..

Good niight my wonderful people

Rapaltar:
I strongly disagree....my Best friend is a lady...

she's d last person I did ever think of bedding....

and its nt lyk im in a relationship tho she is, we'v been frnds bfr she started dating .....


so O.P I STRONGLY disagree...

Issorite..but are you so certain that she is not secretly into you?

Gojack:
Well i hope a find a gud girl here and she must be working, age range 27 to 30 and based in lagos, if you are interested and ready for a serious relationship hit me up via my details BBM 2BB838D9 OR 09053206913. But if you are looking for an ATM machine , please ignore my details speaking from experience all i seek for is true love and long lasting relationship that will lead to the altar.

Who is this gate crasher?

Bro read your post again and imagine yourself as a lady...will you ever contact such an egocentric person.

If you like abuse me but this is one of the most appalling posts i have seen in a long time. Ladies on this thread are responsible,decent and not desperate so do yourself the honor of restoring your dignity by removing this Braggadocio.Odoriferous,Malodorous and megalomaniac Crinkum-crankum.

If you really want to be part of this thread,you come in the normal way.lets get to know you then interact and if you see a lady you would not mind knowing more about,you can get to know such..you don't just barge into this mature and decent thread to dump a pooh pooh.

Thank you

Skanas:
Lol...I know naa, av bin reading ur posts...
@all hope u'all had a nice day today

Yeah thanks

prettyangel10:
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Henrodah(m): 7:23am On Oct 02

Mehn you said it all! You only left out Sesame street, thurdersub, Danger Mouse, storyland, Mind your language, Checkmate, Beyond our dreams, Ripples, One Kesisheen show(cant remember the spelling, but they dance all through the show...it was kinda our own soul train..it was for Hair cream then Lol).African Nights Entertainment is still one of my favourite books I read, Cyprian Ekwensi was the bomb....Sometimes I wish I could turn back the hands to those days when life was simple but as my Mom always says 'No Event No history". The last time I checked Cartoon Network, what I saw was some appalling graphics and useless stories eg Mordecai and Rigby, but Uncle grandpa is the worst of the all lol. 80's was really a blessed Decade.

Actually, you are referring to Sunday rendezvous. The producers of Kensington shampoo was their sponsors, so they advertise the product during the show.

@ Siamia, nice post.

E je ka mo yin o...lets meet you o,

Skanas:
Nice thread I must confess...been towing behind u guys anonymously for some days now, I think is high time I introduce myself...am Enugu based, fed civil servant/ business man, 31 by Nov 18 (hp u guys will celebrate my b/day for me ooOoo lol) would so luv to join dat Watsapp group....and for pic stuff, for the love of this thread,would put up my pic for the first time (since 2010 I registered) on this forum for some days then pull it down.... minly thumbzup to the op @siamia...@Toks2008 et al you guys are 2much
...God bless

Cute dude...i just dey admire o..im straight o

komek:
I have been with this thread since it was on page 9.

But finally Missbronze has dragged me in. The fact u started above is what is holding our young men. Since Nigeria is a paternal economy where its expected that the man must pay the bills, it makes the men shy away from marriages. In some part of the country, as soon as u indicate interest about getting married even ur family will start making matters worst for u. No help from any angle.

So many things are wrong, but its well.

As for Siama the OP and Toks2008 una maturity just dey too much. The way u guys had been piloting the affairs of this thread is really worthy of giving u guys a resounding applause. To the rest who have been contributing, continue in ur good works we are reading and watching too. Thank u all. This is to officially usher my sef into this group. Thank u

Welcome bro but we no know as you look o...

Hooduhark:
Toks dear, No fear o. Just as we have the "bad gurls" we also have "good gurls". Stay positive...

Thanks dear, honestly me i don comot my mind for good girl or bad girl matter...na to just close eyes pick one and settle down.

misspicy:
early 20s ...why do u ask

Just curious when you implied that people see you as an old soul in a young body..

Really enjoyed the convo...thanks for your time and all the best.

misspicy:
true about me though.....am very good at advising and that is why alot of people tell me am older than my age.... thanks

im forced to ask you your age..

Which age bracket are you?

Below 20
20 to 24
25 to 29
30 and above

misspicy:
may 16 ?

Ok ths is just a brief descripton of you.

Your patience and loyalty are amongst your most defining qualities.

In situations where most people would be frustrated or annoyed, you have the innate ability to keep your cool.

While your understanding and patience are one of your greatest strengths, your loyalty may be
your most appreciated quality. On numerous
occasions, your friends and family have
received your undying protection and
defense. With this being considered, it is no
wonder why you are so deeply loved.


You are organized and hard working in all
your efforts. Although you are not driven by
the spotlight, you are motivated by the
prospect of material or financial gain.

Seeing as your home and family life are very
important to you, security is amongst your
most important life concerns.

With a strong will and discipline, you have
the potential to be successful in nearly any
career you set your mind to.

Your compassion and patience would be well-suited for humanitarian careers such as medicine, teaching, care giving and advising.

On the other hand, your business sense could make you successful in finance, marketing, trade or commerce.

As a creative person you will do well n any career that gives you the opportunity to use your creativity...

let me stop here.

This holds true for people born within April 21 and may 21

misspicy:
those signs are not always true you know

Yeah but it holds true 80% of the time but there must be an exception to the rules.

I dont believe in astrology but when it comes to understanding the personality of people in relation to their birthdday,i will give it to those researchers cos they really tried...

tell me your day and month of birth and tell me if what will post here is not 80% true about you.

Just tell me ur month and day of brth..not year

misspicy:
no why did you ask

This is one of the characteristics of some ladies born within this period

misspicy:
yea it should be what a man can afford no matter how little just to show you appreciate her effort....



someone like me loves little gifts

Were you born in late feb or march?...

misspicy:
wow....when a man realise the pains his woman went thru to give him a child he ought to appreciate God in her life and also appreciate her for being a woman...no matter how little, men should please encourage their woman to want to give birth to 100 of kids....lol







lalasticlala i don make FP...ngwanu come n do d needful osiso

i love that part...no matter how little...

because foolish materialistic money mongers will be dreaming of their hubby giving them what he cant afford.

Jollyjoy:
Truely a 30+yrs old lady have no business being single...

They might pretend to be happy but deep down they wish that special someone come fast,...

Marriage can only last if the two parties involve are close frnds,surely the initial "gragra" will pass after then reality set in...that is where the bond they share come handy,to all those single lady waiting to marry wealthy men,trust me if that bond,mutual frndsip,compartability,love is not there no matter the money that contentment would never be there,marry who you are comfortable with and all other things will follow.










Shout out to all those single ladies @30 and above patiently waiting for that cute,handsome,rich,sexy and what have you,the sooner you wake up from your slumber the better...


Drop mic

nice one