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Kachisbarbie:
This is fallacy of the highest order. Personally I don't preach early/late marriage. Even though I married pretty young.

Let me give you the advantages of girls in their early twenties.
1: Women age faster than men, elites marrying young girls isn't just because they have the resources to. They know this fact.

2: Early marriage isn't a guarantee for early birth rate, but medically it's safer to have your kids early. It's also safer financially and physically too. You wouldn't like to raise your kids with pension_ will you?

3: Maturity isn't a function of age. Marriage/relationships on it's own bestows this compulsory maturity on you. Except your case is critical.

4: Who said ladies in their late 20s are more financially independent? With all the age restriction on jobs? I don't think so

5: Based on experience, older ladies are even more aggressive, don't think their meek nature is natural_ more often than not_ it is SITUATIONAL... unlike a young girl that you might nurture_ who would owe most/all of her life experience to you.

6: Ladies in their early 20s never pressurise you into marriage. Unlike the ones in their 30s. Under 2weeks_ they ask you Where are we headed? Zuma rock...lols.

I can go on and on...

I enjoy your well articulated counter view except for the fact that you miscontrue my post in its entirety.

I never delved on late or early marriage but just as the topic denotes.

All you wrote are apparently true for some because i never generalized.

Nice opinionated views.

eni4real:
You are so right with your points. He who marry a woman showing SITUATIONAL politeness should be ready to bear the brunt when wedding is over because the woman's true colour will be inadvertently revealed.

And if she misbehaves nko? Dem tie una together by fire by force?

If a lady becomes pretentious for the sole aim of getting married then let it be known by her that her case will be worse when she is eventually thrown out.

Eniqurl:
Who dash me sexy?

Good to know

EmmaFantastic:
Toks2008, you know what I like most about your writeup? The fact that you did not generalize. You kept using the word "most", which is quite laudable, meaning that things may not always entail like you wrote, and that makes your writeup debatable. You see, bro, I hope you know that virtually every class of people have advantages and disadvantages? Also, decency is more of choice and sometimes, upbringing and not really of age bracket. Now, before you wrote this, did you think of these:
That ladies in their early 20s are more likely (take note, I said "more likely"
*to still be innocent,
*to be less daring and to have the mind to do certain things, especially atrocities (maybe something like traveling round the country doing "runs",
*to still be more trusting of guys, since they may not have passed through too many evil guys,
*to be easier to correct and to "mould" (yes, this especially, is my favorite and I mean it, from all that I've seen),
And that some of the older ladies, due to too many negative "experiences" in the hands of guys, are sometimes less trusting, more heartless and more dangerous in relationships.
Also, ladies that date or sleep with married men, are more among the older ones than the younger ones, yes or no? Did you think of these?
At the end though, it's more of a matter of your choice and individual preferences.

You must be an intelligent person to decipher the MOST emphasy in my write up unlike many pumas that have problems comprehending that most means not applicable to all.

You have a point i must say but pray that the innocent young lady remains innocent.

Gabbyswit:
I also hope u are a good example of guys who marry women who are in their late twenties and don't tag them as old and used.. Most men want fresh fish let's all admit it...

Im 40 for petes sake so a 30year old lady is even a baby to me so i will be an idioto to call any lady in her late twenties old even of recent i have seen single never married mums still looking dapper.

Mindset changes with age.

SylarsMcQuins:
Am 8yrs older and we both cool about it

8 years is perfect so groom her please. Apparently you hold the four aces and if you play well i see her as the mother of your children in future.

Good luck aburo

SylarsMcQuins:
I use to be the baby mama kinda guy stilll I met her, she actualy asked me out wen she was 17 n dat courage alone made me date out outta pity b4 I eventually loved up..

I knws she loves me like crazy coz she went to the extent of tellin me to take an oath with her if dats wats gonna take for me to blive she wil never leave me now or ever.

Go google "how teenagers think and act" and you will understand and if your age proximity is like 2 or 3 years then you guys may not even end up marrying each other for several other reasons i wont elaborate upon.

ib22003:
after she has been used and dump by guys of her choice

See my guy forget this used and dumped thing.

No be another person daughter i don dey with for over 11years? abeg leave matter for mathias.

What i need now is a lady that is sexually alluring to my eyes and with GOD we go risk am. Leave past matter abeg. everybody has a past. Just let me see that babe wey go set as i want and see if i go care if she don sleep with teh whole nigerian guys.

Matured guys don't think that way.

LaRoyalHighness:
I stopped reading when I saw this... "if you check most ladies who marry below the age of 25,you wil be surprised to find out that it was a circumstantial decision as a result of unexpected pregnancy or parental pressures to mention a few."

Rubbish!

Where exactly did you have problem with?the fact that most means there are still millions who are married without attachments or you just want to flex for no justifiable reason. smh

SylarsMcQuins:
I understand buh I'm actually her 1st guy ever, even b4 this thread we've discussed bot dz ova n ova again buh she kept on insisting that its no crime if I'm d only guy ever to go down der. I'm still so worried tho buh she says she's gonna prove me wrong

I was my ex first and only guy till she left after 11years(6yrs of dating and 5 yrs of marriage) and up till date i don't know if other guys have swam in and i sincerely care less and infact if she comes back before i find another chic i will grab her back with 4 hands because no matter how bad e go be i know say if at all another man don reach there,she no go ever don open her legs for more than one guy(Yes i trust her that much) and even at that i no dey there and i no see am and what the eyes do not see do not hurt the heart.

Honestly these past two years have made me appreciate my ex more with all her "madness" because if GOD open our eyes to see what some of these young girls are doing with their bodies,you will faint.

I met one about a year ago and she claimed to be a virgin yet she became a willing lollypop for me and i ws like na wa o,virgin qwa and she just wouldn't allow penetration but any other act is ok but when i discussed marriage with her that im not comfortable with the crazy acts, na that month i see am last till date and i was like so if i never discussed marriage does that mean she does not mind the crazy baseless acts we indulge in?

Honestly right now na to close eyes pick one better girl who is ready to settle down and forget her past otherwise i no go ever marry again.

vfactor:
Op! This thread is just timely. I had a chat this morning with a girl in her early 20s. Took ages to get her to talk, but when she eventually did, she was giving me attitude and "racking sense". I just laughed cos I know I can't have anything serious with that attitude. And she was claiming age is just a number. Imagine!

On the other hand, discussions with girls in their late 20s are usually worthwhile and productive. U learn a thing or two everytime.

See, in these past two years i have realized that i have been in another planet for about 12years.

Sometimes i dey vex say i be believer in christ with all my packaging because these sweet young girls ready to bleep da hel out of you but talk about settling down for where.

I became so scared that with the way these young ladies are,one may end up ending his soul in hell because they are ready to give you expecially from 18 to 23.

SylarsMcQuins:
Mine is actually 18 and in year 1 buh I'm kinda scared she'll leave wen d tym comes coz she's still so lil, weneva I tell her ow I feel she kips on tellin me its nt gonna happy instead of it happening she'll get pregnant buh I'm still worried.

Im sorry o, im not a pessimist but just have the taught somewhere safe in your brain sey she fit waka and this is not about love but its the opium of many young ladies to see different guys before making up their mind to stay put but only few and i mean very few settle down early with a man and sit tight.

markmira:
u banged one pu**y 4 11 yrs? Dude u deserve a grammy award.

Don't mind me o, i be Jesus pickin and keeping a lady is part of me till tomorrow and that's why im carefully looking for another better pickin to do for the rest of my life. I hate philandering with a passion. Makes no sense at all, na same hole but different casing so i must get the best casing for myself.

Thats why i wrote that until women go out and test life, to dey matured go add them, my ex left when she clocked 30 and till date i understand her more than any other person. She needs to text life and see how it is with other guys .Habba from 19 since i made her a woman to 30 with one man, one dck she try abeg. Let her go see the world and i envy her next guy because she go sit put with that one so im also hoping to find a sweet round sexy curvy chic wey don see life and hve realized that good guys are hard to find and that will sit put with me. shikenah.

EmmaFantastic:
@the emboldened...Yes! Thank you for that statement. You just wiped off your entire post with the statement. And that's the major reason why some guys and even families would prefer a much younger girl except in cases where there's an older girl that they have clearly seen that is decent.

You are very wrong dear. When i say most i mean there are still exceptions but stop fooling yourself with these younger ladies. its in their fantasy to try out as many guys as possible and given the chance they will big time.

A converted olosho is far better than an intending one. And incase you are reading extreme meaning to the word olosho..what i implied in this context is a lady who have slept with many men at least more than 3 and not the olosho you are thinking about cos they have grades.

missKiffy:
They will soon come for you

I am planning to woo either Genevieve or linda ikeji.

I need this lady's contact

Greeny02:
there are creams that can give big boobs nd fat ass,exercise and other things can also do so
pretty face...fine body

Cream to increase butt size abeg i no believe. Na wash

Debayurr:
So true.......Get serious with a late 20's and early 30's lady and have some young babes as sidechics..simple and str8

Habba, don't you wanna make heaven?

Gabbyswit:
All these are stories. Every woman's desire is to have a home and settle someday, even though now some other women have other priorities. See, it's never never about age and will never be.

Dear men, if you see a woman who is mature upstairs and you love, who you believe can make a great wife please kindly marry her. Every woman has a season, if now is your season marry if its later then wait for your man to come along someday. Develop characters that can keep a man not just attributes that can attract a man.

Easier to preach. I hope you are a good example.

Flashh:
[color=#225484]Yes! But most of them had tasted too many d**ks. [/color]

IF You start to consider that you won't marry any lady.

All i look for now is a lady that is very sexually appealing to my eyes and that's just ok, i give no hute about her past as long as the past does not hunt the future like inability to get pregnant due to excessive abortions,lies and several others.

AfroKnight:
Pretty face. Very very important. But she must possess a nice backyard at least. I can forgive small front but I can never overlook flat backyard. What is bad is bad.

You must be my other half.

Im not fan of big lower case but curvy with good mold. For the upper case anything below 34c and above 36d is a no for me but the lower case can not be negotiated. Very vital for my sexual faithfulness and cant stress that enough.

MadCow1:
O.P ..


Take one Gordon Spark and Peppered Kpomo for my head..


Most Girls under the age of 25 are good for nothing but sexxx...

But give me a Girl in her late 20's (28+) to early 30's (35) all day Nigga.

I tell you my brother.

Tell them you want to have them for keeps and they will run as far as they can but tell them lets just be spending time together and they are game.

Na wa o.

QTEST007:
Catching dem young is waste of time and resources.
U spend so much money on their welfare and upkeep and then they outgrow u,and dump u for d next tin man,who inturn dumps them,cause all dat glitter is not gold.

TEAM #marriedtolatetwentiesandlovingit.

You are right bro

I Know you will be wondering why i have to write on this again after writing about Bride price in my recent Article.
https://www.nairaland.com/2495212/7-facts-bride-price-shock

I see this particular write up very unnecessary and i would not have bothered writing this new one but for the derogatory remarks i received from guys as well as ladies who were screaming for my head and maintained that its an age long tradition so i went into research,asked the very elderly in all the tribes in Nigeria about bride price from the African tradition perspective and what i learned necessitated this new article.

Have you ever asked your grandparents questions? Please do and ask them the traditional truth about paying Bride price and they will tell you exactly what Biblical verses say in another context.

Bride price is an age long tradition that emanated from a voluntary act of appreciating a bride for remaining chaste till the day of her marriage which simply corroborates the biblical fact that BRIDE PRICE IS PAID ONLY ON VIRGINS.

In-fact according to Africa tradition, after the groom sleeps with the lady on a white bed sheet and is confirmed that she is indeed chaste there will be another round of funfair where the guy will once again go to the parents of the bride with dancers and drummers but if the man sleeps with the bride and discovers she is not chaste,it will be the exact opposite where the lady will be escorted back to her parents house with people jeering negatively at her and all the groom ever gave the parents on the lady with the hope that the lady is what he taught will be refunded and such ladies are usually banished.

Nevertheless i urge guys to look away from the slutty lifestyles of most ladies who no longer have any form of decency about keeping their body till marriage and who have seen sleeping with different guys as a norm and just pay whatever they can afford and not allow any selfish and greedy parent extort them on a lady who have probably been handled in bed in a way you may never even handle her in your marital union.

I am not writing this to bring down the female folks but to educate them and let the truth be known. I am writing this to guard against greedy extortion by some clan who will want a young man to go steal in order to marry a lady who have lost count of the sticks that have gone into her.

There is nothing bad in paying as much as you can on a lady you love and i can pay a billion pounds on any desire to be my wife even if she is a love peddler but my point is about revealing the truth about bride from the biblical angle and good enough,the traditions we all yell about corroborates with the Biblical facts.

Psuedy:
Someone wil jst stay wia he is;think out sumtin as as silly as dis ; den pick up verses dat sumhow corresponds.. Stingy ppl hiding under d shadow of religion.Dat is y it is said dat marriage is for "men" not "boys" .Men who are responsibly ready for all dat comes wit getting married & staying married..very soon dey wil say traditional marriage is a sin and should b stopped ...plss bride price has been & wil always b part of our tradition...

The problem i have with people like you is that you hate reading and most Nigerians have no reading culture but lets forget all these and come back to tradition.


Go and ask real elderly people to tell you the truth about Bride price from the traditional angle then come back and bash me.

MrsPhyno:
I no get o. If I get I go inform you. I'm trying to be one but I wan grow small first

lol
are you that young?

Be a fantastic cook and his personal reckless LovePeddler.
as in

Beamborla:
At first, i was shocked... now I'm laughing.

How can you date someone for 11yrs (see my mixed reaction now)

like who does that?
She tried, she was with you for 11 good yrs before leaving, she gave you the whole of her prime.

You guys were dating for 11yrs? What were you doing in the relationship that you couldn't do in 5yrs at most and get married.

I don't even know how to organize my thoughts. I have a lot in my head right now

lol we had an elaborate intro 6 years into ctship but no trdtnal marriage yet as we both agreed to wait for some rsons but thats history now.

Adaeze003:
Come again

No marriage?

Ada honestly i tire o

No tradtional wedding yet but only intro

Beamborla:
Are you kidding me? You meet her when she was 19 and dated for 11 good years

WTF!

Yes o see my life?

now ladies wont stop asking me jamb questions like

How come you are still single at 40? i just tell them that i was in one chance affair for 11years so now i dey find matured babe wey go don see experience like must have been heart broken,head broken,everything broken by at least 3 guys. Such will calm down.

If a man thinks he has found love with a naive lady then he just might be fooling himself cos no matter how caring loving faithful cute rich or romantic you may be,a naive lady will always believe ther is something better out there while the experienced knows better that a good guy is very hard to find.

Swagk101:
Toks2008 spot on!!!Them go still wan flex since age is still on their side,most of 'em are bed-warmers.#MyOpinion

Gbam. Bed warmers confirmed.

For about two years now i have realized this that most girls in their early twenties are ready to get down with you but not interested in commitment and even careless and i just wonder.

If not for christ in me i go don lose count of how many ladies in their teens and early twenties wey person don use warm body but when they realize they are getting old,packaging go start. We guys are in trouble big time because most of these matured ladies are repackaged oloshos but how we for do?