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ConfessionsNgr:
Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

Tmonex:
Compiled by nneka
http://classicandreal..com/2014/06/fifteen-mistakes-you-shouldn-make-on.html?m=0

I know some people dont respect the dating world. They believe it's a waste of time and currency and girls dont deserve it. I mean why should I waste my money on lunch (I might offer to pay you never can tell) if I can use that to get a quickie at the corner of every club.

My brother, you cant continue living like this cause nothing good comes from the corner of every club. Well, this article is for you decent gentlemen. Im here to help you out, make it easy a little for you. Im not promising you anything superb at the end but to save you from getting red wine all over your outfit or having a nagging frowning lady opposite you, these are fifteen first date mistakes you dont wanna make;

1. Do not bring your friend without her consent. You dont know how rude it looks when she walks up to the car and realises she has to move to the back seat. Worse of all she didnt know...Sigh** well it's wrong if common sense doesn't tell you it is.


2.Dont waste her time. Dont stand her up. If it isn't okay for you give a time that is. 'How about we make it by 4' not that you'll be all okay and then waste her time. Dont stand her up


3.Dont go all dirty and talk vulgar. I mean dude im eating. But seriously no dirty talk if she didnt initiate it. Dont start asking questions about her favorite position or asking her to demonstrate how she gives a head...Bro, really


4. Dont hold a pity party and talk about all your exes. We really don't wanna date an attachment Barbie who cries at love films. Besides we really dont care


5. It is not okay to chill at your place after. Take her home don't ask.
6. Your football club is playing and you decide to have the date. Then you cant keep your phone away and you are glued to goals.com or your eyes is on the tv screen. You're even talking about the match and the whole date is about the stupid football. My point? Dont have it when your club is playing


7. Dont order for her. Or try to be impulsive. Dont try to make her have more drinks or more food. Let her have what's okay for her


8. Dont talk about your marriage plans, how many kids you wanna have. I mean it's nice to know you think of getting there but no. Dont talk about it today. Not the first time we are going out


9.If she says I dont want to talk about it, dont push. Don't go all come on, dont make it a big deal, didn't I just tell you about my own, dont try to play therapist. She doesn't wanna talk about it.


10. Do you have a car, are you using the commercial means of transportation, are you letting cab? let her know how your movement is gonna be. We might just decide it's convenient for us to meet you there instead


11. Dont talk too much. Talk, make jokes but not dry jokes and please dont be a chatterbox. You'd probably lie because you are talking too much or make yourself look like a complete idiot. Dont chatter away.


12. Go for what's convenient for you. If you are not used to a fork and knife, finger foods are also available. Dont make a mess of yourself, please.


13. Reduce the volume of your phone, keep it in your pocket and concentrate on her. It goes a long way


14. Do not try checking other girls out. You may not know but its rude to have a beautiful lady opposite you and still look onwards when a girl passes or worst of all turn your head. Really.....seriously.....


15. Compliment her, tell her what a nice time you had. If you have her smiling. I think you were pretty impressive.

Compiled by nneka
http://classicandreal..com/2014/06/fifteen-mistakes-you-shouldn-make-on.html?m=0

remember007:
If u access your guy and feel he's worth it then what's the waiting?... just my opinion though

abbey621:
Are there really any hard to get women? I'm not talking about teenagers or premature university kids. Mature minded people don't play games, life is too short for all that! My personal system has worked for me since the days back at the university. I follow the same steps regardless of how beautiful the girl may be, I always allow the girl dictate how she wants to be treated. If she's stiff and not really the open type, I'll instantly put her in the friendship zone as she's clearly not ready for a relationship but if she's the jovial type and very expressive, I'll be able to relate with her by sharing present and future goals even without sex for the first month, by the second month she would be the one begging not because she's desperate but because she feels secured, she feels ensured and not pressured! A real man plays no games because for he himself is the game

Bibidear:
pls dnt call me that again,if i hug him is there any big deal

Bibidear:
Y wont i,Infact i will hug him when he drops me

pretydiva:
No 11
Pretydiva: net worth $0.00. President n founder pretydiva conglomerate

MrOODS:
Perfect example of wah op is saying...#single Searching! #cute qels, DM

misspicy:
you are yet to ansa my qntn sir. Are men's d1ck diff frm that of boys?

misspicy:
do u mean men have a diff type of d1ck?

misspicy:
fine boys are cheats.

glimpse33:
OP, you should be greatful you are handsome!

let the ugly guys tell you their pains first, then you would be thankful to your creator!

note* ugly guys shouldn't quote me

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]hahahaha....oga fine boy no dey for sex o.

Every guy needs to be well trained in that. [/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Yea. I think that should be the most annoying when it comes to relationships.[/color]

naijaboiy:
Being a handsome or good looking guy is a very wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to be created that way by their maker. The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are also believed to always easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.

But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.

Now let's analyse some of these setbacks or disadvantages together.

1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.

2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don't really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.

3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You'll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn't let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.

4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.

5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren't outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it's a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.

6)Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your "not-so-good-looking" friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.

7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn't want to date someone more attractive than her because she can't use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he's tagged a "player".

8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don't even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.

9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.

10) share yours.

Cc: Lalasticlala.
Ishilove.

Ndlistic:
Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/07/relationship-i-want-to-have-sex-on-my-18th-birthday-will-i-get-pregnant/



What's your opinion about the letter and the reply?

misssclassy:
*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

Written By Misssclassy

animalz:
as if you know, I have really learnt a hard lesson on those species,


I rather remain single than to marry a nigerian woman

ahamonyeka:
Adultery has been yoruba women's birth rite since 1800BC.

An2elect2:
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And Nigerian ladies get the blame for one Nigerian lady's problem. Now who is clueless? Lol

animalz:
I MOST SAY, THAT YOUR VALUE IS WRONG.


IT IS 99.99% OF NIGERIA LADIES ARE CURSE WITH ANIMALISTIC BEHAVIOUR ON MATERIALISM

dre11:
I left him because he did not have a stable job and he wasn’t honest


http://newtelegraphonline.com/jilted-man-bathes-ex-lover-with-acid/




Picture of the lady

ChikezieU:
But truth be told, a broke guy toasting a lady is nuisance

agarawu23:
iranu oshi
and all these ladies are ladies, they can't work for money

tchidi:
Bash da Bash!!!

But na true. No one has a monopoly on setting standards, so make everybody set him own kwa.

ManTiger:
What are your premises and inferences for the above?

sirhot:
agreed, but people here are just a reflection of what is outside. I can't remember when last I asked a girl out!

The interest is not just there... When it's time to marry and everyone screams at me to marry, I'll close my eyes and pick anyone since they are all the same.

Life goes on.

icedbeatz:
Hahahahahaha you're typing about fukin around huh? yeah since you have no pusi that can suffer from loose elasticity then by all means GET/FUK AS MANY PUSI AS U desire but NEVER FORGET CONDOM another thing is that after fukin different types, colours, sizes, depths and textures of pusi you will realize that Pusi seriously just Ain't shitt, REAL LOVE SUPERDEDES all Luis except your lovers pusi bro

gensteejay:
Most times, after reading your posts on this forum, I find myself concurring with your views. Your views are never bereft of sound, logical and practical ideas.

Orkpekyandega:
God bless you and your generation. I have come to discover that some Nairaland girls lost their virginity just because some loose and heartless fellows who lack self discipline on this forum lied to them that virginity is out fashioned and they complied.

LadyBoss1:
I feel,ur pain
Nice meeting u tho