₦airaland Forum

Doctormarvin:
we are all here to learn dear and I must confess,your write up is sensible but please I would like to know the area in life that you personally have been cheated and robbed of opportunities or your valid opinions discarded due to you being a female and not a male...i feel like I have soo much to learn from you

Blackhawk01:


Finally! The "women bashing" threads paid off after all.

Look up the meaning of gossip tho, oko Iyawo.

If you say it paid off, it actually did.

But on a serious, it's not something new so I sometimes wonder why you do those things as a matured lady.

Anyway, I no need check dico jawe.. I know say you sabi English pass me

Blackhawk01:
Tosin and I aren't new to each other. I don't have to go through his comments to know his stand. He is a misogynistic dictator.

Blackhawk01:
Tosin wee nor listen. Lol

You ehn... I see as una take dey gossip about me up and down both online and offline. So tey you go quote me begin whine me indirectly.

You know say I be very smart guy and I dey see those indirect attacks wella...

I don't know if it has now become something weird for two adult to get entangled

Jupxter:
Tosin wasn't authoritative he simply stated his points saying that it comes naturally for a woman to do somethings. Its the backbone of the argument, submissiveness isn't slavery, the man shows his woman love, the woman in turn respects him, how hard is this to understand ?

My brother, I don tire for these ladies jawe. They have a lot of problems and I know the kind of men they usually end up with.

What do you even expect from people who are mentally unfit for marriage? Isn't it obvious?

Ask them how many marriage counseling they've attended and you will be amazed that all their knowledge about marriage is only limited to what they read on Nairaland

Damdeyz:
You Turn Pastor?

Sometimes, e dey make sense to pray for people

ReinaFarine:
[s] Okay, y'all clamouring for respect and submissiveness and humility from your woman.... Equality asks, do you respect her? Are you humble enough to accept when you're wrong and she's right? Do you truly love her?

Hmmmnnn

Respect is earned.... If you act like a real man, you won't be having shallow arguments like why didn't you wash my clothes and everything...... If it is the love I know, taking care of your man isn't a big deal.... It becomes an issue when you make her washing your clothes a rule. I am your woman... You reflect me to the outside world... Thesame way I reflect you... I will want you to look your best.... It becomes slavery when your wants are interfering with my needs....

Slavery means I have no choice because I was bought to please you and what I want don't matter.....


You want your clothes washed, you want a warm non-microwaved meal thrice a day, you want a clean home, you want cultured children, you want an agile woman to bleep when you get back from work... You want.... You want.....

I need to go to work early, I need to further my career... I need time for myself...

That's why jumping into marriage or commitment of any kind on the basis of chemistry and sexual attraction only is the highest form of stupidity.... If both of you can't make compromises.... Like a house keeper,
Or holding up on having kids until one of you is settled enough in his/her career to create his/her own schedule, or doing the chores together.....
I thank God everyday for the man I am lucky enough to be with.... He doesn't see the big deal in cleaning up the room while I'm cooking.... He understands I have a career that will not come second to his....

You respect someone for his/her accomplishment, ideas and actions not for his/her sexual organ.
If you think you must be the dictator in the house, please, go and marry a village illiterate with neither book nor street smarts.... Then only your opinion, actions, job, ideas, hell, only you will matter...

Leave feminists alone, real men are not threatened by their woman's success... [/s]

Safiaa:
A wife is NOT legally obligated to cook for her husband. Just the same way a man is NOT legally obligated to provide financially for the family. Will he go to jail if he can't ? It's simply a expectation that may or may not be met due to circumstances. Understand the difference.

So tosin let me ask you, if your wife cannot meet your household expectations, does that make her less of a loving wife? I think the problem with you is understanding. You're not willing to listen to anything unless it's suits your views.

Safiaa:
Darling, is the woman staying at home watching tv all day? She's most likely going to work and may also have work on her shoulders. You want joint financial responsibilty, but everything else must fall on the woman. This has nothing to do with feminism but mutual understanding and maturity. You tone your words like your wife is legally obligated to wash your clothes and cook for you. It's wrong. Your wife can gladly cook and take care of home responsibilities but realistically she's not superwoman. You can as well have as much responsibilities in taking care of the house, washing your clothes and cooking food. It's not her birth right to come home from work, to wash your clothes, cook for you, clean the house, take care of the home whilst you sit and watch football. Marriage is a companionship, you work together as a team. Your comments come off as very aggressive, like a woman has no right to disobey her husbands orders. Its very disgusting.

Jupxter:
When we mention Meekness, humility, submissiveness, faithfulness and helpfulness, they say we are looking for slaves. No problems. When they end up single as the ones they look up to in the society, they can employ handymen to service the engine and pay them for what they would have got good men to worship them and love them.

My heart is offended by their comments, i'm sorry for their foolishness. Bros, without submissiveness, politeness, humility, faithfulness, loyalty, what's left is a proud cocky divorcess waiting to happen. If they happen to marry by luck, their haughtiness will push them our of marriage.

They are unfit for marriage, they are not designed for marriage. Even they are not prepared to stay with a man. They can tag along with themselves for all I care, as for me. No more love for feminists.

ToyinDipo:
So true, honestly, I have got to chat with some of them offline on this subject, what they seem to stand for is a society/relationship where they are at least allowed to express themselves, probably based on what some mothers have experienced. It's totally different from the 'warrior vs hulk-hogan' theme, they sing here.

Jupxter:
Bros, let's all find a good, down-to-earth lady, for some a good Christian lady will work perfectly.Not these descendants of Cain

ToyinDipo:
A lot of them ain't half of what they proclaim here, in terms of feminism, or what it takes.
Or do they live in another planet, that we don't get to meet them.

Safiaa:
Tosin, this comment is very disappointing. Some of your comments on NL are just ridiculous.

ReinaFarine:
Hi Darling.....
I can say for a fact, I am happily, over the top in love with my man....
I have job satisfaction... I love what I do....
And at this moment, I'm happy....
And shockingly, I am a Feminist....
I'm not advocating for ballslicing, dickchopping, I can do it all alone feminism....
I'm advocating for equal opportunities....

But... You might be able to change my mind being the 'superior species'
Just tell me what you did to come out with a tiny dinky between your legs that gives you that superiority you're fighting for....

What did you do differently that makes you think you're allowed access to education.... You're respected for your opinions... You're compensated for your actions .... And most times I'm not?

Please tell me what those medals between your legs that gives you the effrontery to rule the world and I'm subjugated to the kitchen are for?

What makes you smart enough to make your own decisions and I need you to tell me how to look and what to say?

I respect my man for what he had accomplished not a part of the body I'm missing...

So Mr. Tosyne2much.... Tell me how that makes me a sad, depressed, arrogant, unsatisfied or fulfilled woman....

I'm willing to listen and learn...
Teach me I pray thee....
Most supreme being of God's creations...

Jupxter:
I've yet to met an unconfused feminist. They have a mixture of pride, arrogance, depression, confusion with choices and well definied standards, they can't, even the most brilliant feminist can'tboldly give a clear and defined declaration about what feminism means.

Jupxter:
Tosyne You're a genius. Today i know why you're the relationship genius. From today,i'm changing how i treat this ladies. It will be how Nigeria treats foreign coach differently from local coaches

Thanks for the compliment bro

Can't stop laughing @ From today,i'm changing how i treat this ladies. It will be how Nigeria treats foreign coach differently from local coaches dice

Jupxter:
I'm watching them, i decided that this week, to follow every feminist, i want to see what becomes of them

Jupxter:
People marvel at my typing speed. I'm called a machinery. That's what i'm saying bro, they end up not getting married to good men, because they kept selecting, choosing, discriminating, until the good men went away, and they ended up with shafts. That's why i told a guy, mark every feminist, and watch how they end, you will see depression, saddness, bitterness, divorce, lack of satiety and all forms.


Only few people recover from making a bad choice

May God bless you my brother. I pray that wisdom will never elude you.

I made this same comment on a thread yesterday night and you need to see our so called Nairaland feminists came for my head

kozmicity:
Its now I believe what tosyne2much is saying..."Almost all Nigerian feminists are pained & heartbroken woman"
@bolded,where have you ever seen or heard a man clamouring for more rights??

Please park well and stick to facts...what are you talking about??
Stop throwing tantrums to feel good about yourself...

Jupxter:
Yes. And you're wise. You supplied the answer i was thinking on my mind. Typically, the uy would have assumed it was his problem. But i assured him the lady was indecisive about expectations. I have seen ladies made mistake in 20s and till 40-50 they never had the opportunity to correct those errors. Many times, these errors are tied to this same indecisiveness, he's too nice, too soft, too emotional, and they move on and get something else and wished they hooked up with the previous dude. Life is a lesson. I've personally learnt to be careful with decision making.

Thanks Toss

The truth is that most ladies don't end up getting married to their imaginary type of men. Forget about all the forming you see online, when things don't go the way they've always fantasized, they end up embracing what life throws at them


BTW, your typing speed is astonishing

Jupxter:

God Bless You Tosin. Because, this is the kind they would say they wish for, they get it, and then they are indecisive about what to with it?, pure indecisiveness. I believe this is what you mean if i'm right.

But what happens to guys that fall into this category, how does such a guy snap out of it?

NightHound:
, So if your babe points a gun in your face, you will simply raise your hands in surrender and say "And thus, I go!" You won't make an attempt to smack her in the face? And ladies, if you hear that that's how your brother met his untimely end, would you be happy? Come on, let's be real.

Humility017:
that guy is really starved....
and when you tell him to get married nah....he will raise eyebrow..
at least in marriage...he can sure enjoy it from dusk to town....at least 2 days a week.