₦airaland Forum

while i will choose not to say anything against pastor adeboye because i respect him and till date i have no reason to speak otherwise, i'd like to say Nigerians are funny people. it would seem the quickest way for a person to be vindicated of any crime is to be a pastor aka man of God. no matter how the crime is starring you in the face people say ''dont judge oh, he is a man of God oh''.the person automatically becomes immune and incapable of any sort of sin. in our society anything goes. any nonsense from these people hiding under the cloak of ''daddy of a church''

while i respect God and some men of God, there are clearly some i have question mark about (yes and some are the popular ones)and it will simply not go away cos ''they are men of God oh'' At least i am a woman of God myself too.

i guess it depends on how they are brought up. i have an aunty whose husband strayed out tho he still maintains his first family. goes over to the other side to sleep from friday to sunday (he does not miss it for the world)
what a life. the other wife cant get pregnant for him and she is relatively young (heard my aunt pronounced a swear on her)
i hate polygamy with a passion. too much wahala

Never did for anything as serious as nysc,school,certificate,passport or job
but to just hide my age from certain people sure i did. That must have been a very long time ago

i would love to be told and i wil tell him if i had to do the same.

hey guy since u got nothing to hide just say it

@poster u are on the path to freedom. keep making excuses y u cant be with him until u can lay ur cards bare on the table and when you do please be firm. it wont be easy but if he claims to love u as he does he will painfully let you go make something out of ur life. Be strong and refuse to accept less for yourself. speak positive to urself esp as the weekend rolls along, resist the urge to go there no matter what. you'd be fine.

on another note i do feel sorry for his wife.somehow i feel she is the real victim here. Nothing she will do will please that man can u imagine such a life. Never fall for a man who has unresolved romantic issues with another woman.

No one is the complete package. even u sef, u are not
i dated someone who was spiritually higer than myself sometimes i wondered what he saw in me
i was just this plain crazy girl but with a good heart (i guess)
i tot cos of me he'd backslide or i'd always be trailing behind spirtitually
but funny enuf over time i found out he was not all that perfect as it seemed, i corrected him even when he felt he was so right and he had been doing that same act for a while thinking it was ok, in my own way and he grew to appreciate me
and we learnt so much from eachother
does she make spite of the religious thing and u think she'd never get around or she is just not up to you yet
give it time, if you love her, you'd see ure not so spiritually up there yourself

finally if its the case of a nagging thing on ur inside telling u not to go on for reasons u cant place ur finger on, then listen to ur conscience and let her go. if not give it a try again who knows

If my wife enjoys a serete life like me, I actually wont mind,

Earlier I might be more possessive about my wife,,, but now I m not !!!

She also have all right to do watever she feels like doing, I dont mind,

this is so so so sad. you dont mind if she cheats as well. dude you've lost it. y remain married then?
one day one day this thing ure doing will hook u in the throat (it always does)

gym gym gym how many nigerians join this gym of a thing sef. talk to him jare with love and concern let him exercise more and watch his food intake. cut back on oily stuff.cut back on snacks and fizzy drinks, remove oil from his beans,eat his fish,meat, and egg boiled not fried(dull huh) lots of veg and fruits and go jogging in the morning. do u act disgusted n feed up with the whole thing? babe nor try am oh be supportive cos if he feels too much negetive vibes from you, he'd just let go and u know say chicks dey queue in line for husband to marry(most nor mind big dude). best of luck

by the way is it a thing that runs in his family?

you'd be shocked the number of people that knew this man was playing her n of course kept mute. including the ones she is saying were family back at home, friends in the states and relations.

its a game baby no one will be the one to rat on him. in some cases the wife back at home knows esp when the man has no papers and d aim is to use a chick to enable the entire family come over. i know a couple like that in my church, he is with his family now abroad. They both paid for it in the process cos step kids are involved now at least they have permanent stay here.

this is so funny chai n on the other hand

poor poor girl

this story story for a man you want to marry is too much. At this stage in ur relationship with a man u want to marry, u should not have fears of this nature. ure still scared cos something is telling u he is covering up stuff, ure still looking out to make sure one bunmi will not keep calling your fiancee (a girl whose calls are a constant worry to you). is all this not too much? when u marry him what you see take it oh. all the best

lol

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Okay-yall gonna leave me alone for not knowing Yoruba. Angry I've heard lo ati wa before-just forget what it means right now. I know how to say hello, goodbye, good morning afternoon and night, come and f_ck me, lol, "your head is not correct"-a few of you have said that to me since I've been on here lo otori or something like that. I know more how things sound in Yoruba more than how it's spelled since no one wrote in Yoruba around me.
Well at least the Naija diaspora life. I went to parties(the most fun was when King Waisu came and sang and put my childs father name in a song while we were spraying him with money-I still have that CD), went to naming ceremonies-had my own naming ceremony, went to mosque and church with his friends, attended christenings, went to weddings, hung out at little watering holes with him, his friends and friends' wives while they drank so much Guiness I lost count, lol.

I mean whatever is possible that you can do with a Naija man for 8 years, I've done it.Okay-yall gonna leave me alone for not knowing Yoruba. Angry I've heard lo ati wa before-just forget what it means right now. I know how to say hello, goodbye, good morning afternoon and night, come and f_ck me, lol, "your head is not correct"-a few of you have said that to me since I've been on here lo otori or something like that. I know more how things sound in Yoruba more than how it's spelled since no one wrote in Yoruba around me.

i should not be saying this cos almost everyone has encouraged u n all but damn all this for nothing na God go punish that man.

Pataki:
What the bloody hell?

I hate this 'modify button'! It should be removed please!

yeah it has its ads and disads.

because I kiss my best friend on the lips to say hello & goodbye, and other little things like that. . . he is gay by the way)

you should not do that my dear even if he is gay
Aint u gona marry this man tomorrow, is this how you wil put your bestfriend before your husband?
one's gota give way for anoda
u do d choosing

na so u go sweat wait for them from university, NYSC, u name it (dey old for one corner)
when dem land that dream job
ure history (make God help person sha)

M40:
I never intended to go with her lifelong of for that matter pretty long,
I just want to see herself settled in her life, than i would walk away &
she would also like to have a distance,

But at the moment she is not in a possition to distant me, she just cannot
do that, she is weak,help, look if i m not there, some other
man would be there, its the human she needs nature, I knew that since very begning

Look when a woman wants a Man in her life she gets one, if its not me, its
some other, so if I m not there, may be the other one take undue advantage of
her, "which I never took, nor i Intend to take", I never indulge into any physical relationship with her, and never intend to have the
same,

At the same time i want to take full care of her,, i want to know what is happening in
her life and want to give solutions to problems she is facing,
If i walk away she would be all alone, ??

Wat to do

dude grow some balls. m beginning to think youre the girl in this scenerio
look at the way youre talking. you ar making excuses for urself to remain n at the same time asking what to do
who told u nobody is there for her or someone will take advantage of her
is she not married? and even if she were not its still not your business
she is not your younger sister
you are a married man
act like one!

Would you go to this extent to seduce your man?

yes i could for that purpose. its kinky and really looks sexy for a naughty night.
wearing it about well no, if ure on a jeans trouser with no belt on,and have to bend down it could show(NOW THAT WIL B EMBARASSING)

allow him go oh
thats someone else's family you are knowingly destroying every chance you get (ur fellow woman)
thats unfair. ure only thinking of urself, me , me, me , me
if he loved you that much, you guys will have gone ahead to marry and pursued the latest medical option perculiar to your situation
una love nor strong reach, please let him be
oya if im get power, let him divorce the wife and marry you now
if he cant ask urself if this is how you want to continue living (or for the better part of your youth) for the rest of your life
let me add if you like have his baby tomorrow and by stroke of luck its AA OR AS
he still will not leave his wife for u (dont ask me how i know)

i just dey laugh. see babe

kobomoje:
My wedding is coming up in a couple of months and my plan all along was to do it in a small way (personally i dnt lik elaborate things), so i planned to go to the registry here in the uk and just gather some friends after that for some chops.

My in-laws all of a sudden said No, that i have to come down to Nigeria to do it, and now its been blown outta proportion.

Now im really scared cos the bills my wife-to-be has been sending to me on things we need to do is too high for me
and i still have a lot to spend on after the wedding

na so the idea is that person when dey abroad get plenty money (this was the same position with my sister in the uk) plus its their time to shine for their daughter esp if she is the first girl or first to get married. you can try to convince them to allow only the traditional while you do the registry in the uk as planned. All the best

Ask him '' who am i to you dear?''

i will rather place his portion seprately and allow people who are hungry to eat.I want to believe my husband wil even be upset with me, if he comes home and meets people waiting for him to first taste one kind food before his wife and children eat.

i eat it. its lovely esp when accompanied with kpokpo garri. any delta chick in da houseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

i stayed with an aunty during my service year. She did this alot especially when it came to soup. you dare not touch that soup until after she and her husband had eaten. fortunately for her, her children were not fans of eba, fufu, pounded yam etc so they could cook whatever they wanted. i had to endure waiting for her husband to eat (or eat something else)since i could not do as her kids did.


personally i felt it was pointless doing this making people starve. my mum would just take a casserole and remove my fathers potion. simple

i nor mind before oh but for naija
well maybe a quick one on the mouth, i nor send dem sef

mushroom, cocoyam plus any sort of soup cooked with cocoyam

the 2nd oneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee(the one in the middle). plantain and fried eggsssss. now i am hungry.

all i can say 2d poster is this (because there is nothing new in terms of advise that will do you any more good, u have heard it all)
one day you will look into the face of your children and weep
when they ask you why, why you made a mess out of their life
y u put up wit so much rubbish n kept exposing them to nonsense as they grew up
because maybe you dont know children get affected later in life

on that day your whole life will flash before your very eyes
how you constantly allowed disaster (that man u call a man)make a mess out of your life(indirectly affecting theirs)
i wish you all the best