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I see her as someone that has been hurt in the past and she's trying to be careful. I won't say she has feelings for you but for her to pick up her phone to call you says a lot. Stop talking to her about marriage, take your time to know her,let her know you and let her see reasons to trust you, she will come around in no time.

Hmnn! When will people learn to keep their relationship and marriage issues away from social media. I don't just get it. @dear op, I know you are hurt but this is not the best, pls settle this at home.

How possible? No contractions, no baby bump, no movement... I don't believe

NgcoboP:
hmm you forgot the level of intelligence.... social relational skills... respect..etc it's not just about some titties and nudies .... it takes more dearie

Abi. Not all men fancy stuffs like dis sha. U will hear waris dis ooo, not even when you have children that can wake up anytime to wee, drink water or just for the sake of waking up. Perfect for newlyweds.

Zedoo:
You have succeeded in writing the longest possible STORY I have ever read on nairaland...kudos...

Meaning...

Seriously, our world is really sick. How we quickly blame a woman for everything that goes wrong in a house never seize to amaze me. So a man masturbating and watching porn is his wife's fault I repeat, dear op, whatever your husband is doing is not your fault and until he sees reason to stop, he will never stop, the best he would do is hide it perfectly from you. Sit your husband down, talk to him and make him see reason why he should stop. And for the single ladies blaming the poor woman, go and marry first before you come back and comment. Marriage is reality in black and white not some telemundo show. Peace.

fumisko:
Wait. I don't even get u. Don't you touch your husband's dick and rub it as pre intimacy before making love? So what's the big deal? when u see him do it, be loving, tell him babe i am here and u dint even call me to me help u with that, Haba...and give him a sweet handjob. before u know it has moved into the real humping knacking of sex. No wonder there are so many married men cheating...women be more open or prostitutes who are outside would take care of your man...so u can't give ur man a Mouth Gig?...the bible said his body has become yours and yours his...so anything is accepted ma, even if you want to eat his shit...relax be open..have sex with him on the floor, in the kitchen, make it fun...even if you are fat and ugly and you spontaneous, he won't see that unattractive part, give him a hand job in the car on your way from an occasion one evening...or in the morning when he is going to work give him a Mouth Action...if he has a personal office at work...pay him a visit...lock the door tell him u where finking of him all day at work and need a 5 min quickie.
Be spontaneous
It's a shame Dt u r there n he is masturbating him self...Wat is your use...if his libido is high is one blowwjob per day too much to give the Man U claim to love if that's what makes him happy? Haba. He shldnt evn masturbate at all cus masturbation should be equal to u giving him a hand job.
My question is how do u even have sex with him because if his touching his dick is irritating u, I wonder then if u ever touch it as preintimacy or u suffer d poor guy
Christainity doesn't stop this Abeg all u over religious women
Safe your home please abeg
Be prayertizing what is not a problem. There are better things on God's table like hungry people n people with cancer
Better safe ur home before he starts visiting ashewo. Thank God he never start
Ur spontaneous acts shld b porn enuf Dt he won't evn remember it

Are you married? As a married woman and mother, you have a lot of things to do and think of. I don't think following a grown man with high libido around, sexing him, giving mouth or hand job at every slight opportunity just for him not to masturbate is one of it. Dear op, even if you have Sex 10 times in a day, a man dat will masturbate will still masturbate. Sit your husband down and have a heart-2-heart talk with him. Tell him how you feel when you see him in the act.

FowlYansh:
Am waiting for my service

The truth is when you are not working,some Nigerian men believe that you are worthless and they act that way not minding how you feel. About the care of your baby, it is primarily your duty to care for your baby, if he assists,good, if he doesn't, pull yourself together and do. Avoid any unnecessary argument for the sake of your sanity. And pls,don't blame yourself for leaving the other guy. He's in the past, let him stay there.

I need a ton of PKN,how do I get in touch

Mimzyy:
Just wondering out loud if we still have couples who have/are having a blissful marriage. Everyday, it's one sad tale to another. Na wah

Oh yes dear, there are lots of people having a blissful marriage. Marriage has its ups and downs. Unfortunately, we don't get to hear of the ups, just the downs. If you are married and you think your spouse is bad because your marriage is going thru it's down, take your time to write down three good things your spouse is doing/has done against one bad thing he is doing/has done. Go over it several times and you will learn to appreciate your spouse.

Yomieluv:
if that, lemme kukuma be carrying the baby myself.. 5k for just petting. women go buy hummer o.lol.

Okay ooo. I didn't even add mummy's food. You know that period, baby will suck so much as that is the only comfort he wants, mummy rocking and feeding arms. Mummy too needs much food to replace the one baby is sucking. 5k is not for only petting.

Yomieluv:
internal scam is allowed at times.

my wife scams me at times, I just laugh.

imagine collecting 2k from me for each immunization, whereas its free,because its govt hospital.. such is allowed..

but someone trying to be smarter than you online isn't allowed..

That is not scam ooo. Lol. That immunization will take paracetamol,lots of carrying, petting and eating. The 2k sef will not cover the stress after immunization,pls increase it to 5k

I seriously feel you should check yourself. You might be getting unnecessarily angry that the closeness between your brother and you is no more. My dear, your bro is a man and has his own family now, the fact that he doesn't do what you want doesn't make him a fool. accept your sis-in-law as your sis and stop seeing her as a competitor. And don't forget that you will also be an inlaw to some people one day. Peace

Lol@sexy wig. Once children come, sense of entitlement must park,they can't just be together. God help us jare

I've been following this thread silently but I need to also comment now. If you have ever been with or have someone like this around you, you would understand that petting does nothing but makes them worse. Yes, they need love but tough love. That kind of love that a mother will finish flogging her child and few hours later, they are bonding again. @Onegai, you are doing a great job. I also did the same for a young girl of 24years when she got pregnant the 3rd time for a 3rd man, all the men are married. I got so angry and told her I was disappointed in her. That was what changed her, she wanted to stop being a disappointment, she wanted to live a normal live, she wanted to be responsible. Today she is almost thru with sch, she went back to school and picked up from there and she is doing great. We need to stop raising over-dependent girls that need a man before they can eat,buy recharge cards or even survive and some chicken-hearted girls that would commit suicide because of a boy friend, we need to raise a generation of confident, hardworking and smart girls. Peace.

JUSTbuchi:
can't help but laugh

Look here mahn, your destined wife would never nag over something like this, she loves you too much to make an issue of that!!


You made a point that contradicts your view, that brain of yours needs to be cleaned

Really?now you just gave me a good laugh. Your destined wife would love you so make to wash your brother's cloth, plate, sweep his room and even run errands for him. That is not love dear, it's called slavery

Lots of comments here makes me laugh. You need to be in someone's position to understand how things should be done. @op, your woman is yours,you married her and the way you take care of her is how you will see her years to come. I don't think it's too much for your brother to assist your wife. Infact a well-trained man would know that he's suppose to assist his sis-in-law. When my bro-in-law was staying with us, he helps me sweep,wash plates and even run errands without asking him, I beg him not to do anything sometimes. A working class man ooo. Now he is married,he does exactly the same for his wife and he has not become less than a man. I respect him so much and I do the same when I visit them. Life is too simple to complicate it with minor issues

daryoor:
if the people in this incidence are yoruba, then the wife should not complain, the culture does not allow you to call the little guy by name talkless of demanding he wash the plates at home. the guy should only respect himself and wash his own plate. then if she's heavily pregnant he should help her out often.


respect your brother that has been with you unconditionally all your life. love your wife unconditionally but in situations like this you need to remember that, that b.itch chose you because of what you have.

do you have to call an innocent woman a bitch simply because she asks for some help. Seriously, I don't blame you,i blame the Op for bringing his domestic problem here. If you have not been in someone's shoes,you can't understand some things.

Seriously@Op,pls leave that school,take your time and decide whether you still want to teach before you apply to another school. I've been in your shoes before but not hot slap ooo, who will slap me sef?i jejely dropped my resignation letter next day, even the parent involved came to my house to beg,for where. I made up my mind before dropping the letter. And pls,if you decide to continue with teaching,you need to learn more patience and tolerance, you need lots of it to be sucessful in teaching.

sosa993:
since when did beating kids become bad, I went to a private primary school and I chop correct Cain and slaps from my teachers, when I was in secondary hmmmm it was the same, worse...... now when I look back am always happy my teachers trained me, whenever I see some my teachers now am always eager to greet them, if not for the constant strokes of Cain I could have become something else.

the wrong thing she did was to keep malice, from the OP's story, it's obvious she's the fragile, timid type. she would be easy prey for bullies sef.

Lol,dont even try teaching in today's schools ooo. Most of them are looking for crowd,not minding the moral aspect of development. They give you rules, right from the point of entry that you should never lay your hands on any child and like one I heard, you should never make a child sad and I just laugh in Yoruba

MzPecs:
[color=#00cccc] Lol
If you know what goes around in a private school, you'll understand my point better! Does the OP know what her HM went through to get those kids registered in her school? Then she comes from nowhere to bring her success down by being rude to a parent.

School is a business and they're all in a competition. Teachers have got this one unique trait and that's patience buh she lacks it! [/color]

Really?? What is wrong is wrong. No employer has the right to slap an employee. And you as a mother would be so comfortable seeing your child's teacher slapped because school is a competitive business. I don't think I get you

The only people I pity here are those innocent children

Cracked:
Good morning good people in the house. Please am here again today to beg for your mercy as tomorrow is the deadline. Please forgive and pardon me if am not going by your rules. It's really hard for me here and it's something i don't want to think of. Please i beg you in the name of God to help me with the money so that i can process my registration today please! God bless you.

Really, you came backmy dear bro/sis, pls learn how to address people properly. Some comments I read thru are not just right. If you are really sincere, it won't cost you anything to ask for the e-mail address of people asking for your details and send it directly to them, I'm sure God will touch one of them to help you. As for me,i don't do online charity, I do face-to-face thing.

@op, going over your wife's mistake and keeping them in your heart is not a good or healthy thing to do. Why don't you take this off here, call your wife and pour out your heart to her, let her also say what's on her mind, some argument might come up but you guys would be better off after. All I see you doing here is entertaining online peeps with your family matter and it won't take you anywhere

@op, pls be patient with your wife as regards the issue of Sex. A lot of women lose interest in sex after giving birth for at least some months. Hormones, breastfeeding, stress of being a new mother, fear of whether her body will ever come back to shape, anxiety of taking care of a child successfully...I can go on and on. These are things a woman going thru dem will not want to share with anybody, they are her inner fears,dat is why you see her with her phone always. I've been there, so I understand perfectly. Telling her how wonderful she is,how lovely her body is now and how excellent she is doing caring for your baby would go a long way in bringing back that woman you married.

Pls think about all the people you would hurt if you kill yourself. When it looks like all hope is lost, just know that you are about to breakthrough. Sincerely, nothing in this world is worth killing yourself for. God will be with you

ella85:
My buddy accepted tha assignment,there was a flag at the end and I downloaded my cert,it's in my Email. I just wonder sha. Abi guys wan begin their usual ne?

Hello, it's not something to bother yourself with. Once you get a congratulatory message on completion of a course,you are done with that course. You would get lots of those mails as you advance. I wish you all the very best.

It's more of a family thing and a visit to another family where dinner is made early could help. I know of some women that make soup every blessed day and they take their time to cook the soup because that is how they cook in their family. Let her visit your mother for some days with the children, once she sees how your mother makes dinner early she would adjust. If she's the type that makes soup everyday, you could also talk to her about making soup once and keeping it in the freezer.

KillerPriest:
That a mother or father had to resort to corporal punishment as a means to right a wrong only proves how much that parent has failed in his/her parental duties towards his/her child. Children are humans, and not beasts of burden. Even dogs don't get beaten!

It's easy to beat your child at the slighest offence, but it's energy-draining and much more time-consuming to correct an errant child lovingly by making him/her see the wrong in his/her actions - through words of wisdom and of love. Many African parents lack the patience to follow through that correctional route, and in their defence they'll almost invariably quote the trite bible passage that says: 'spare the rod, and spoil the child'.

Corporal punishment does nothing but instill fear, and fear only makes the child more careful.

I stated it that spanking is not bad but how you do it and the rate at which you do it matters. Ask any mother that got bitten while breastfeeding their lovely baby if having a heart-to-heart talk with a baby of 13 months will make the baby to stop biting her. A gentle tap on the baby's hand with a finger will work better. I am not supporting unnecessary spanking but I believe a little spanking on the hand or buttocks with two fingers could help mothers a lot.