@poster

Most times we ask God for direction when the writing is so clear on the wall and so easy for us to understand!

but who understands the matters of the heart? no one really,
Do you still love him,even after all he did?
if your answer is yes, then you must make moves to secure the legacy (your father left for his children)for your brother and your children.

you should add in the clause that in event of anything happening to you, your brother takes over full control until your children are of age to take possesion of your share!

make no provision at all for him
kos you know that once you are gone, he will surely remarry and may even neglect your kids

Now my note of warning to you personally:
what you saw was small and just the first step, the next step will be to try to kill you
prevention is better than cure
Now you will have ro weight whatever good you think you can see in him with his wickedness and see which is heavier
Dont let this man kill you,physically or emotionally( one will surely happen)
thank God for the beautiful gifts from the marriage( your kids) and concentrate on your futures

Just keep your husband at arms length, dont let him back into your home
if you need to interact with him do it outside the home
and make sure he no longer has access to work within your company
Best of luck in all

this message comes across as being very wishy washy
doesnt sound sincere at all
i hope for once the federal government does what it ought to do and ground them
there should be no more flights until their planes pass an independent inspection and are declared fit to fly.
this should not be swept under the carpet!

@aasog1

That could have been any of us. And that could have been our life wasted. And all this is so avoidable!
We the ones alife can fight for those dead by demanding justice.
Dana must be sanctioned so heavily that it must bring them ruin, they must be made to pay for the lives of those affected, likewise, the minister of aviation, Adaeze Oduah must explain why she must still keep her job.
I am getting tired of so much blood all over the place. You travel by road, a tanker will catch fire and burn you....by air, plane crashes.....You sit in your house, the plane will come and meet you, you go to church or mosque boko haram will attack you, you go by sea, militants will attack, you finally run to your village, kidnappers are waiting for you..!
What the hell is GEJ's job for crying out LOUD!!! Did I vote for this guy to just watch things get worse or better!!!

seconded

@careyetommy

I'm not sure about this but a friend of mine just posted on facebook that there were some people booking dana air this morning

NO they are not flying,on their website they are not operating on the 4th of june,but doing refunds and rescheduling flights

May the souls of the departed rest in peace
and God give the families the fortitude to bear this terrible loss
what a pain to bear,some families have more than one death
my heart is filled with grief and pain

@poster
what about the people(residents) who just stood taking pictures and those who just 'looked on' with the intent to loot?
what happened to the spirit of being thy brother's keeper?

hi
what are your prices
pls email @ toyinzz@yahoo.co.uk

@Op
where do you reside?
email me @ toyinzz@yahoo.co.uk
and lets take it from there
thanks

Wow
was this guy living big in nigeria?
solid case of the evil that men do living after them?
especially in US?

@Op

who are the abokis( friends in Hausa) or the mallams

they are both derogatory names to use to refer to a tribe

back to your question:

Hausa men are like any other romantic tribe in nigeria
there are the good,the bad and the ugly
and yes there are very romantic and generous ones
and good ones too

@GTMORAK

really can not fix your real person with your user name.A fraudster dont have an office,a contact or a whereabout i suppose,but all this i have and can give to you..I will take this as a pure case of unnecessary and intentional blackmail but if truly you exist and if my office is too far for you to pay a visit or come for an arrest,pls call me on 08038302782.

and

I think you might exist as your dates and names mentioned are maeningfull.[b]The case of Niyi my staff and not my assistance who you claimed escaped with your money is not a new story as efforts have already been made to get to [/b]him,details of which i cannot expose here so as not to srammble the mission and the strategy,but if you truly paid any money to him and u want an update call me up and let us meet but u will need to come along with proofs to be sure i am meeting the right person and not niyis person who wants to d plans on ground to get him.

just wondering who are you?

@OP

fabric clothes steamer
last I heard that one can get it with JML
I have heard they have an agent in Nigeria
Here it retails for about £40.
i dont know about the nigerian cost,but hey look for it
it not only removes the offending smell,but also smoothens out wrinkles and ceases
it is worth using

@OP
take it up with western union
especially if the nigerian bank is suggesting that your recalled the money,( if you did there would be documented evidence of this)
The bank manager,seems to be in on the scam( if there is one)
but let western union get involved in it,
and take it from there
dont keep quiet about it
money doesnt just disappear like that
it has to be tracked down
good luck

@OP
good idea
extra tip also have cakes on the side, especially cupcakes,seems to be a very lucrative in thing now

good luck

or email me on
toyinzz@yahoo.co.uk


thanks

@Op
I dont deal in second hand clothes,but sell and supply brand new clothes in the following categories
ladies:tops,bottoms and shoes,bras,perfumes,etc
children: tops,bottoms, pants,shoes,school items and sets
men: ties, cufflinks

all from UK and cuts across UK brand stores
at really cheap prices

Most stock already in lagos
so if interested pls call 08033440359

@poster

I can only imagine how you feel.
However honestly speaking, I think its time that someone stood up to her, she seems to have gotten away with a lot for so long.You have made your stand,stay firm on it.She has to be made to see that she is doing wrong!
Unfortunately the young man is an adult,who basically can make the decision to walk away anytime he wants.He doesnt have to go back to his parents,but I'm pretty sure that he realises he has nothing else going for him in the outside world. Does he have any skills, besides, being a houseboy?
See if you can get through to him,try and build up some confidence on what he wants to do in life,work with him along that line and save towards it.It has to be break and make for him,however how small.He just needs to have something going for him on the outside world.
As for your mother,only she can decide to stop,but you can make her see reason.
One thing I know for sure,is that everytime that poor soul cries out in pain, questions God as to why he was born,every time he sheds tears due to what she's done to him,she is taking one step near to Hell.
There is a song that goes:
'I was cold,I was hungry
were you there? were you there?
I was tired,I was thirsty
were you there? were you there?
and the creed and the colour
and the name doesnt matter
were you there? were you there?'

we should try to see Jesus in every soul that needs help and kindness,when we can
especially as it was given to us in the first place
Be strong.let her be the one to break and see reason
you might just be preventing something bad from happening in the future
if the poor boy dies because of her would you be reaching out to comfort her then?
your action now might be the stitch in time that saves nine
God be your strength and your direction
Amen

chei

Imagine if this magun 'black magic' were used on our Nigerian men?

^^^^


you say what abeg rephrase that bit oh!!!

......going out with a cute girl and having Tons of babes eyein me
some even trackin me rite down 2 d toilet just 2 get my digits and all


its in their feminine gene - dont blame dem blame my good looks

@poster
what about block making

for houses

@poster

I really feel your pain and anger,
it is really frustrating when an investment turns out to be a scam
I understand all that
but you understand where Stagger is coming from
he only asked questions so that people could understand what the scam is all about and that wasnt wrong of him
you have started a good thing by this exposure but you cant get angry when people ask questions
I for one,understand you were scammed but not how?
is it something you care to elaborate more on
do this and ignore insults,it wont make it better for you,but will just add to your anger
and meanwhile it serves as an obstacle for the purpose of your creating this thread.
I sincerely wish you recover your money.

@poster

If any mother can come out openly and insinuate that you should love portion on her daughter just to marry her,i would be very very suspicious of that mother
reverse the coin now
she might just turn round later on and convince her daughter that you are no longer needed as a husband ,though your assets are and bingo na death portion dem go administer to you!
As a person i am very cautious with any one who thinks it okay to indulge in such acts and in all honesty would never want to marry into that kind of family

what's the general saying again? let a bird loose,if it is yours,it will fly back to you,if it doesnt then it probably was never meant to be

@poster

Interested in dating non nigerian black guys from Europe?

what countries are they originally from
and dem get paper?
if yes im in oh

@Johndoe100

really have no advise for the wife cos I don't see what she is complaining about. For the man, if he is in Naija I[b] would advise him to send her away for a while to her parents house. He can meanwhile look for a newer model. Form what the OP said, this woman should be close to if not beyond her sell by date[/b].

why should he be looking for a newer model,if he has only sent off his wife to spend just a while at home? what happens when she gets back home? hasnt more problems been created?
what are you advocating here? That he marry two wivies,or that he engage in an affair while his legal wife is out of the house?
Do you know the values of marriage? would you even like this to be done to you if you were married? or your sister?
pls think before advising

^^^
laugh ke?
I don already faint and revive from laughter
imagine if i marry this kind man with this kind of belief
i don die already de knock heaven door
on a serios note,i hope guys like this few for world oh
men that belief na create the words 'speechless' and 'gaga'

@poster
you seem to be very apt at misinterpreting even the Quran
and seem very deliberately to ignore a very glaring and important word MODESTY

In several religions this word plays a very dominant guideline on a person's mode of dressing, especially for the female.
What made the Angel in the example you gave to disappear what the fact that Mohammed's wife was probably not modestly dressed!
she wasnt expecting anyone to come charging through the door after her husband and moreso there was that element of spantaneous reaction to an instant comand.common! the order was 'cover me' and she removed her scarf to do so,how much of the Prophets'body would that have covered? maybe she removed her wrapper and was just left in her underskirt( my theory oh) and that's was what the Angel saw!

The main teaching of most religions is to be modestly dressed and it does not concentrate on the hair or the deviation of a prayer when hair is uncovered
this is what i feel you should concentrate on with your girlfriend
but bear in mind that Islam also asks that the man too should be modestly dressed also,so bear that in mind if you are going to demand that your partner be dressed as thus,you too would have to refrain from wearing tight jeans and body hugging clothes be they shirts or tee shirts!
good luck
and if you want to get the reason why some Christians cover their heads in church try reading 1cor11:2 onwards
its an interesting read but I fear it might confuse you since you couldnt even understand your own Holy book
Best of luck

an addition
and even in instances where she does work
the husband still assumes all the responsiblities

@OP
I'll tell you what
i grew up in that part of nigeria that advocates all you preach and more
some marriages were sweet others not so
but the thing that came across the most was the complete care of the wife by the man
the woman did not have to do anything to maintain the household( actually i have always dreamed of that kind for myself)
like someone rightly said,love brings about anything.where there is sincere love and respect the wife can do anything for her husband.but one brings about the other.
so the man takes complete care of the home and the womans every need: she doesnt have to work,she is given a monthly allowance ( for herself) she is given food allowance (weekly)
she doesnt contribute towards the kids's school fees-not their clothing or pocket money
she has a maid, a washerman and in some cases even a cook
and in return all she has to do is to give the man she loves her undivided attention
tell me why wouldnt such a wife be happy to oblige the man?

^^^

FYI,
I dont do flowers,Im one of them that appreciates them where they grow and not in a vase in my home
so those who know me,know that as a fact
so that question cant apply to me
you on the other hand
have you ever in your life given anyone some flowers?
and i dont mean those that grow in your backyard where you and your other goatee friends chew on daily?

@OP
hang on
did you not see her hair open when you asked her to become your girlfriend?
I can even bet it was one of the features that enchanted her to you
why didnt you go for those that cover up from head to toe in the first place? You wouldnt have been faced with this problem by now
I feel for you though,unless you can convert her to your way of life and belief nothing goes
On the other hand,which one is your own?if an angel decides to go on prayer collection strike kos her hair is exposed,watin come be your own in the matter?after all, everyone accounts for their actions abi?