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Hero, I'm 98% sure your fascination fixation with Nigeria preceeded your marriage to your wife.

In fact, you probably dated her because she's Nigerian, not in spite of it.

When you're ready to talk and tell the truth, let me know.

On her anti-Nigerianness, thats you people's personal problem, as far as I'm concerned.



Obama's wife doesnt feel American, yet her husband is running for president.

care to state why you think you should get the job?

Am just curious.

where is kobojunkie to give us a "deeper" and "more balanced realistic" view of this knife crime problem in London?

maybe the knives and juvenile criminals are being shipped over from Nigeria?

abi what other explanation for this inexplicable kind of thing in the sanctified streets overseas?

oya, kobojunkie, come and give us your take on this situation.


Or maybe its all a lie and there's no knife crime in London.

Must be a fabrication by the Nigerian press.

thank you oh @ sisikill and estefi.

The fact is : if you're a Nigerian woman looking down on someone because he's from a broken home and therefore not good enough for you, know that when or if this same man goes abroad, 97% of the white or Black American women he meets, wont care if his parents are together or not. They'll marry him without batting an eyelid.

So when you're single and going on 40, thanking your stars that you didnt marry someone from a broken home (or maybe you're miserably married to/divorced from an "unbroken" home guy), the first guy from the broken home may be enjoying his own life where he is, with his two or more kids and his foreign wife who didnt hold him accountable for his parents lives.


One of my relatives who can't even speak standard Yoruba talkless good English, went abroad and today is married to a foreign woman who speaks better English than he does. Am sure in Nigeria some girls would have been looking down their noses at him for whatever reason.

right.

You can never have problems in marriage as long as you choose a lady whose mother you admire.


Like I said, all these standards apply only when a Nigerian is marrying or dating another Nigerian.

The Nigerian bylaws and marriage guides mysteriously vanish when a Nigerian has his eye on a foreigner. In those cases, its the hair or skin color that's more important, not background. Even if the woman slaps you multiple times on the regular, na play.

just wondering- do girls teach it better than boys?

@ Huxley

Where would Africa be today if African had not adopted some of the European & Middle Eastern cultural heritage (such as Christianity,  I-slam, formal education, writing scripts and alphabets, etc, etc)?

Where would Western Europe be today if the Europeans had not learntr and adopted aspects of Middle Eastern culture, Greek and Roman Culture.

Where world the world be today if we had not adopted the concept of the number "zero" from the Indian culture?

please ask them oh.

There are some vocally insistent folks who believe we'd all be better off swinging from trees.

never mind the fact that intertribal warfare preceded the white man. Whites exploited it- they did not invent it.

Nigerians are too rigid when it comes to cultural issues.

yet when they date or marry non-Nigerians abroad, all these cultural norms and mores get thrown out the window.

But let them see a fellow Nigerian, then all the shakara comes into play.

"This one is from a broken home , so thats why I'm better and have to put up with their behavior, that one's mom or dad is a divorce/e, therefore I'm far better since my own home was a loving one, all that anger and rudeness is because s/he is from a broken home, even the way this person eats, is because thats how they eat in a broken home etc etc".


yeah right.


Most people abroad (foreigners), who are from broken homes, do not have any distinguishing characteristics that set them apart from others, as adults. In fact, many serial killers come from unbroken homes.

with all the unbroken homes in Nigeria, the political section is still full of people cursing and insulting the place.  And praising and blessing the west which is full of broken homes as well as kids and leaders who are the products of broken homes.  Isnt it these same people who are worshipping Obama?

na hero them promote to hotcake dey fight over like this? na wa.

he must be enjoying the attention.


Lord knows he hasnt gotten too much admiration from Naija girls here. They normally light a firecracker on his insolent behind.

Maybe the Spaniards have this Memim Pingiin character in mind?

http://www.kvue.com/news/state/stories/070808kvuememinpinguin-eh.356f6ca9.html

this is why I'm confused.

Going by location alone, I'd think the Ogonis are affiliated with the Ijaws.

How were all these regions grouped under the British?

some guys dont like following their girlfriends to go see the pastor.

The guy may also wonder if you're too dependent on your pastor- like, is he the one controlling you.

You may have only good intentions but surely your pastor should understand and pray for you from a distance until if or when your guy comes around.

So you two dont share the same religious beliefs. hmm.

Abagworo:
Ijaw and ogoni are not thesame.Ogoni is an actual minority consisting of about 3 local government.Ijaw on its own is a major ethnicity balkanized into smaller group and made minority.They are actually the 4th largest group in nigeria.

thanks.

side effect of polygamy, irresponsible sexual habits and the worsening (global) economy maybe.

I watched The Breed last week. About a pack of dogs harassing people on an island.

Not too bad, really. Its supposed to be a horror flick but the horror parts werent too freakish. Even funny, in a way.

[quote author=kay_pumpin link=topic=149467.msg2480608#msg2480608 date=1215566460]yeh vadra ha(promise)[/quote]I'm with you on The Promise.

at least it makes me pensive. and its just about the only indian movie I like.






others include Titanic, Runaway Bride.

Say Anything I found very disturbing, I don't know why.

Gone with the Wind.

_{and many more.}

I think most religious avoidance of pork is based on a metaphysical (ie spiritual) reason, not necessarily the physical aspect.

So to such, the pig surroundings wouldnt matter- I'm not sure but is eating pork supposed to send you to hell or what?

I heard this story about a girl who accidentally almost ate pork when she dined at her friend's place. She ended the friendship because of it.


The way some people feel about pork, is the same way religious Hindus feel about beef. taboo.

aurevoir:
Renouncing your Nigerian citizenship is like divorcing your ugly wife.

That's the way I feel since I did exactly that, Now, I feel a sight of relief, It still hurts adding Nigerian educational qualifications to your CV, employers in the West think it's 419.

aurevoir:
Nigerian population is such that the Govt and UN has no idea of the population figures so, one person down makes no difference.

Go to one of the southern states and see how many children are on the street, accused by their families of withcraft. The parent are proud of their actions and what is the government doing to protect those children and prosecute those parents.

Like 419, Nigeria is now the capital for Child sales and women trafficking. Talk to the Nigerian Authority and they say, it's not their jurisdiction. They told me recently. So whose is it. UN?

The population is so high that no one counts, Even the Nigerian Embassies abroad don't have a count on the population of Nigerians in their respective countires and there are no support for them.

To prove Nigerians abroad don't count, they are disenfranchised in elections. They simply have no say in those elected to govern their country.

I want to see those kids in the south (as young as 1year old) being accused by their families of witchcraft and abandoned in the market square as shown by the foreign media to receive proper protection by the Nigerian Government and parents prosecuted.

My daughter's son was sold for 490 USD by[b] her grandmother (my ex-girlfriend)[/b] without my consent. The Boy is now about 7 years old, her grandmother is keeping my daughter hostage and all mobile phones disconnected. She has threatended to kill me if i step my foot in Nigeria.

The child sale involved a doctor and a barren woman. A contract took place and money was shared. Doctor took N40,000, the grandmother took 10,000N, I was made to believe that the child was being taken care of by a relative and when I wanted the children to unite with me abroad I was informed about the secret.

All attempt by UNICEF Geneva to rescue the child or get the Nigerian Govt to investigate the case has failed as the Govt is not willing to take action.

I have written to every officer in the Govt (president, ministers, ambassadors etc) and received only one reply from the police in Abuja saying it is not under their Jurisdiction. Case closed.

Considering the fact that your original reason for starting the thread was to rejoice over your citizenship of wherever, may I ask why you didnt post your story before now.

The order in which you stated your claims is very suspect.

And you said you contacted officials in the federal government. Have you also contacted the officials in YOUR STATE GOVERNMENT .   I believe each state has a police force, and that's where you were supposed to start from?






You've never read stories like this in the media?

http://allafrica.com/stories/200806180122.html

On June 9 a man identified as a medical doctor was arrested by the officials of the of the Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) for allegedly converting his maternity hospital along Zik Avenue, Enugu, Enugu State into a home for breeding of babies for sale. Also arrested at the hospital were 22 pregnant girls aged between 15 and 18 ostensibly waiting to be delivered of babies who would be displayed for sale. A woman who allegedly bought a baby from the hospital for the sum of N340, 000 was also arrested.





Baby Sale Is Wicked And Criminal

http://thenewsng.com/article/712

Arinze Orakwue, Head, Media and Communications in the National Agency for the Prohibition of Traffic in Persons and Other Related Matters, NAPTIP, speaks on the menace of the booming sale of babies and trafficking. He spoke with OLUOKUN AYORINDE and DESMOND UTOMWEN in Abuja.


Q: How big is the racket of selling babies?

A: [b]Sale of babies is big. You recently heard about one in Lagos, where teenage pregnant girls were picked up, kept in a home and when they delivered their babies, the babies were used for rituals. What is surprising is that we don’t know what happened to the case and the woman that ran the home in Lagos. As if that was not enough, some other bigger tragic things are coming up. We had actually alerted the nation long ago that babies are being sold. This vice is booming because the units and agencies responsible for the control of these acts are not doing their job. What happened to the child adoption unit and the laws? What about the Health Ministry which gives licences for the operation of clinics, maternity homes and hospitals? They are not monitoring the operations of these companies. There is no place in the world where you give licence and allow it to run for eternity without regulations, checks or monitoring. Many illicit things happen in these hospitals, clinics as well as the orphanage homes just because they are not being checked. It is wicked and criminal for doctors who are sworn to an oath to take care of these children to turn around and use them for all sorts of unimaginable things. I must tell you that as much as we would like to fight the hydra-headed menace head on, we are limited by some sections of the law which place some of the responsibilities under other agencies and departments. So, we don’t have the right to prosecute some cases and what we do is transfer some of these cases to other bodies with the right and power to do so. However, we are going to handle this case of sale of babies in Abia because it involves the sale and sexual exploitation by the doctor. That is why we are still seeking for amendment in our laws.[/b]


Q: Is the trend a reflection of the poverty level or sheer moral decadence in our society?

A: Some people have tried to adduce poverty as reason but I don’t believe this is really poverty-related because it has to do with value for human life. It appears we have lost shame and guilt in our society, and that is a big problem. There is actually another dimension that is rampant in the Akwa Ibom and Cross River axis and that is the mindless collaboration of churches, individuals and families to brand children as witches. These children are then cast away and in their homeless state, become willing tools in the hands of the traffickers. And when you look at it deeply, you will find out that these are wicked acts and norms being meted out on children who don’t have the instruments to defend themselves. As I am talking to you now, Nigerian children are endangered. This runs counter to the African norm of loving your neighbour as yourself. This is inhuman. Even animals protect the weak and young among them, why are humans now losing value for life? If these vices are not tackled via concerted efforts, we will be in great danger. Tell me, what else is crime if the traffic in humans, sexual exploitation and sale of babies are not criminal? For now I can tell you that this case of sale of babies must be prosecuted and NAPTIP will not relent.

Your daughter's grandmother sold her grandson, according to you.  If she is threatening to kill you if you ever set foot in Nigeria, then have your relations file an official complaint with the police.

Assuming the grandmother actually sold her grandson and its not that she's hiding the child from you. There's obviously far much more to the story than you're revealing here.


Neither is it clear why people as individuals are given a free pass to do all kinds of degrading things ( eg prostitution, selling babies, etc), and then Nigeria as a whole is then forced to take the rap.  Are the community leaders not aware of what goes in in their towns and villages, and what are they doing to stop it?

Re: Can You Marry From A Polygamous Family?  

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-149642.0.html



I'm From A Broken Home, How Am I Different?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-37476.0.html



On other forums: foreign ladies complain all Naija men are cheaters, players and unreliable, based on their experiences with their Naija lovers,




@ topic: regardless which kind of home you're from (broken, unbroken or whatever), when you're messed up you're messed up.

Trying to blackmail someone emotionally just because they're from a broken home, is very narrowminded and totally uncalled for.



Richyblack, and Ch3Co, take note.

@ OP:

good for you.  I'm sure Nigeria also heaved a collective sigh of relief at your exit.

If your Nigerian qualifications are embarassing you, then go back to school and get some British degrees.

nino213:
@ caruso,
if u can link me sha , i will be happy.boy u think say i be monk, my merge(privates) dey work.infact ijust got laid some hours ago.boy this babe is a stunner.big boobs and all.but she black

wetin person no go hear for this world.

have you been laid again since then.

clearly, na ogogoro dey talk.

nuttyKachi:
WISH HIM LUCK,BUT I WONDER IF HE WILL BE ABLE TO BEAT THE POLICE WOMAN IF SHE bleeps UP

Wife beating is NOT COOL!!!!!!

you see?

How do you even know what you're eating most of the time.

lol

He's been expecting his wife to get pregnant for the past 8 months.

That's why he's noticing everything and worrying about it now.

@ topic:

either you dont know how to make love ( ie you're not fully penetrating), or something is blocking your sperm up there.

Dont just assume its your wife though. The problem could be you.

no cheeseburgers sef.

very true.


You're also supposed to avoid having meat and milk at the same time. They shouldnt even be put together in the same room, I think.

Kosher dietary restrictions are quite strict on these matters.

Halal laws are also similar to the Jewish ones.

Wokeyim:
These days Catholic masses are almost as long. I went for a 10.00am mass at 10.30am and they had already started, but mass didn't dismiss till 1pm on Sunday. I really felt bad. I like my church because it's meant to be a 45mins stuff and u're out, but these days, its one launching or the other in Church. I wonder if they do this in Rome or it's part of our Nigerian mentality. My Sunday should have been fun as i walked into the Church in the most elegant of clothes. People couldn't stop turning to admire me. But service overtayed and one after the other, people started to waka. It's not in my character to leave church before the end of mass because I love GOd so much and can dedicate all day to him - for a good cause- so i stayed on. The annoying thing is i dozed off while they were doing their series launchings and announcements and before i knew what was happening, i leant and fell on the person sitting by my left.    Was i embarrased? I woke up and was happy to discover that it was a younger girl, so no offences, besides the church was almost empty by then, so i just covered up my sin by dozing a little more. After Mass, i just begin dey waka far dey go my way. That is what my sunday was like.

funny.

My cousin attended one Catholic church in the US and said the one hour mass was too short. As if oyibo get business with long church service. She was also shocked at the casual dress code there. 

I had warned her beforehand oh- that Naija church service is mostly found among Naija people.

TOH:
Only chicken and turkey for me tpia

gosh, chicken isnt always easy on the body oh. Especially the fried one.


and I wish those smaller size turkey wings sold in Lagos, could be found overseas.  Tastes better too, I think.

but beef hot dogs are very good. Even without the bun.

if you don't eat pork for religious or personal reasons, make sure you buy kosher or beef only hotdogs.