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jaxxy:
I’m wondering were her family was when the repeated rapes were going on?

That isnt the crux of the matter, learn to focus and not be derailed.

Amojii:
Afonja...

They have taking this rape madness abroad.

But... Why the girl self no talk the first time
I smell something wrong here.

You see, theseare the kinda silly questions that a would be rapist/pedophile would ask. Victim blaming SMH

Solsix:
When will Nigerians stop disgracing themselves abroad bikonu?? God do miracle for you, you escape this country, you still allow village people know your location. Tueh

Because you can take the horse to the river but you can't make the horse drink. Until people let go of their primitive ways and thinking, their flaws follow them. In a country where the rape victims are further victimised "there was no force" "she asked for it" "what was she wearing" "what were you doing in his house, car etc" "she doesn't look/act her age", all these kinda statements and thinking means the products of such a country will never be refined enough for a sane society.

OKOATA:
See the stupid questions grown up people are asking, God knows if I am caught cheating with a married woman no man born on earth will video me and me asking m nonsense questions like this.

It's a very perverted society. The accusers are even worse than the accused. Only he who is caught is labelled the sinner.

Imagine the line of questioning, wtf is your business with who is sleeping with who, when or how SMH!!. Leave it to each individual.

���� This story gets even more interesting. Even the surety provided is a suspected fraudster. Whoever will stand in for him has to be as squeaky clean as a church mouse. But if by their flocks you know them, can there be any without sin within their cohorts??!?

bluebay:
Heart breaking video but truth been told, That girl sha looks older than 14 years old and moreover, Any who like woman a lot, can fall for such trap coz with the look of things, the girl was asked to sit close to the man when no one is at home and on a norms, it’s not done anywhere, for a 14year old girl to sit with a man on same sofa when no one is home ....
that doesn’t mean the man won’t be punished for his act, but not as a rapist but a molestor...

Peodophile alert!!! By thy words you'd know them.

Let it be clear to you:

*Penetrative sex doesn't have to occur for sexual harrassment to occur
*any form of unwanted sexual advance, whether touch or even catcalling is sexual harrassment
*any sexual act with a child (under 18yrs) with or without consent is a crime

And btw
*this child definitely did not make advances at him, the adult advanced the child
*she severally resisted but he persisted
*he would have gone all the way with her, had the circumstances permitted
*he is obviously a prolific abuser, within second he was into it. Looked around to ensure the coast was clear etc. Who for gods sake re-acts a 7yrs ago action in a heartbeat without s thought
*,Very harsh and strong consequences will serve as deterrent to other Peodophiles and closet Peodophiles like you (depending on where on the spectrum you are)

pekisdgee:
the bible says train up a child the way he should grow... base on what i saw baba ijesha never rape her... the girl was even ready for it... The girl needs to be flog she even went closer to him....the girl don dey shine congo bfr... baba ijesha never force her... No case on this matter.

Peodophile alert!!! By thy words you'd know them.

Let it be clear to you:

*Penetrative sex doesn't have to occur for sexual harrassment to occur
*any form of unwanted sexual advance, whether touch or even catcalling is sexual harrassment
*any sexual act with a child (under 18yrs) with or without consent is a crime

And btw
*this child definitely did not make advances at him, the adult advanced the child
*she severally resisted but he persisted
*he would have gone all the way with her, had the circumstances permitted
*he is obviously a prolific abuser, within second he was into it. Looked around to ensure the coast was clear etc. Who for gods sake re-acts a 7yrs ago action in a heartbeat without s thought
*,Very harsh and strong consequences will serve as deterrent to other Peodophiles and closet Peodophiles like you (depending on where on the spectrum you are)

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

You remind me of a joke I read a long long time ago in readers digest

Consultancy fee is the fee you pay for the same advice your wife/secretary has given you for free.

You don't know the value of what you have, I really question you sense of judgement and reasoning. Unless of course you're joking.

SamJed:
My dad is a good man, intelligent, intellectual, and very influential everywhere he finds himself. Back in the village, they always consult him before taking decisions. Here in town, he is highly respected. Now this is the problem, as the days go by, it keeps dawning on me that people are looking up to me to "follow in his steps" as the first son. In fact, most people know me as " son of (his name)".

But I don't want to, I am a tech nerd, don't like gatherings, enjoy my solitude, very reserved. He always want me to "come out", see people, meet his friends, associate, and I very much dislike those.

Honestly, he has the connections to set things up for me, but I feel satisfied when I achieve things my way. I am sure he wants me to take over his business, and stuffs like that, but I am in no way interested in those.

While I am writing this is because, it's beginning to look like I am rebellious or stubborn. But I am not, I am just not interested in what may be termed "normal".

How do I go about this issue? I don't want to look like a bad son, but at the same time, I don't want to engage in what I derive no pleasure in.

Btw i should be done with my nysc by next year. So I need to take my decision fast.

Your feelings and thoughts are very valid. Just simply have the discussion with him that you'd like to take a chance and plot your own paths. You appreciate all his efforts and endless opportunities available as efforts of his goodwill, however you do not and will not be fulfilled living in his shadows. Let him know you take more pride and comfort from your own efforts. Assure him you're aware and conscious of the journey ahead, and that at times it may be hard and steep, may not even work out well, however taking it's of your own free will, you believe you'd put in the dedication required for success. To make him even feel better, let him know you're not undermining him or the possibilities that can come from his being, however if and when you feel stranded you'd deep into his very knowledgeable knowledge and experience.

Any father will be well proud of a son that's can think through and articulate the above

BelovedofLord:
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There's readymade swift solution!

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[quote author= post=100194684]In Saner climes, whether an underage girl consented to sex or not, this is called statutory rape in the court of law.
He will spend almost the rest of his life in prison, and per adventure he comes out of it, another kettle of fish for him till the end of his miserable life!
He will be registered as a sex-offender FOR LIFE.
And once you are registered as a sex offender, you are as good as a walking corpse!
Kapish!

For some of us wondering the difference between rape and statutory rape,
Here you have it.......

Statutory rape and rape are very different crimes.
Rape requires force, fear of other intimidation in order to complete the act of sexual intercourse.
Statutory rape is merely the act of having consensual intercourse with someone who you know or should have known is under 18 years of age.

SAY NO TO ANYTHING RAPE!!


13 years old girl handled una well?!
See stupid talk!!
And you are not even ashamed to pick up ur palasa phone to type this eyesore?

We pity you and your miserable and low-life friend.
This your post will put both of you in serious gbege very soon, after then, you will be careful of the kinda rubbish you post online.
Pedophile everywhere![/quote]Please shout it out!

The ignoramus displayed isn't surprising because it's members of the jungle isn't it!

A 12yrs old having erotic feelings or satisfaction is just plain boilogy. Nothing wrong with her, That's how humans have been created. The issue and bone of contention is who she is doing it with. She is below 18 and he is over it. She may be physically able to enjoy sex, but definitely not mentally capable to make good and such emotional decisions. The man in this case should be charged and he alone is at fault.

BelovedofLord:
Kindly contact me for swift & prompt solution!

You'll be amazed at the speed your prepaid meter is brought!

See my signature, please!

What areas do you cover and what exactly are you offering? Does this include Eko Electric jurisdiction?

plot697:
Are they still selling? I applied a long time ago without success till now

Same here, applied online since last year, even happy to pay of someone would response

rman:
I received mine free of charge three weeks ago

Referral please. Especially if Eko Electric. I have a pending application since last year

bet9ja:
My Meter was installed 3 days ago for free. However, I was extorted by the lady who came for inspection.

Which of the distributors is this? Eko Electric or ikeja. We still have a pending prepaid meter application since last year

Cornerstone2018:
it's actually so touchy when our neighbor called us to that Rooney our dog has refused to eat since yesterday because myself and hubby travel for a wedding, it's amazing and funny that Rooney who can eat a house has been starving and has even been sleeping at the gate waiting for us.

Is he currently with the neighbour or familiar with your neighbour? Or do they just go check on him? I'm guessing It is separation anxiety. He's probably used to having someone around and not been left alone before.

Mikester:
[color=navy]So many modern women have nothing interesting to say. All they want to do is to exploit their sexuality for material or societal gain. They do not create anything of objective value.

This is the sad thing about women's rights.
You cannot out of kindness, fairness and modern thinking grant them a few liberties, preserve society and be done with it. Oh no. Once the foot's in the door, it never ends. They will push for more until the universe itself explodes.

It starts with "we want freely available access to birth control and the right to work, and choose who we marry"

And it ends with frivolous divorce, broken homes, widespread misandry, feminine sons, masculine daughters and the complete demonisation of any & all things masculine. What gain have Feminism brought so far even to the women it claims to help?

Patriarchy nurtures women, emancipation harms them. No protection. No provision. Stressful careers and decision making. No guidance. Insecurity. Mental damage from promiscuity. A string of regrets. Women are family creatures. Hyper individualistic autonomy is damaging for them.

Patriarchy is nurturing and protective. The backbone of civilization. No advanced society can survive without it.

Furthermore, paternalism is God's love in man.
You have daddy issues when you didn't receive enough paternal love. It's that simple. Independence isn't the answer to that, no matter how much you brand it as freedom or liberty and turn to degeneracy to cope. None of that will save you.



Happy International Women's Day.[/color]

Never seen so much hogwash in one post. I see an entitled man afraid of losing his undeserved privileges.

iamDrRhymes:
Truth be told, you didn't act like a daughter of Zion but they themselves didn't correct you with love. I pray God bless them with children in Jesus name.

Only God or zion knows his children, and only the children would choose and decide how, what and when they act as they deem fit . It is not for any one to Pass judgment, rather it is a private matter between the 2 parties involved; in this case zion and his child

iamDrRhymes:
I used to have this roommate who was a member of one of these Pentecostal fellowships back then in campus. He had just graduated and was actually doing his clearance when I joined the room to replace him who was considerably older. So it happened one evening as we were getting to know ourselves better. He asked if I was truly born again with the evidence of speaking in tongues which I told him that I do not. He went ahead intently to tell me if I know that I can be baptized by the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongue right there in our room. Well, I must confess that I wasn't buying his idea then because I didn't know what speaking in tongues will do for me and secondly, I was of the Jehovah's Witness' stand point as I had been welcoming their teaching for years earlier.


He swiftly went to close our door from behind as he saw my readiness to give his 'Holy Spirit' a try. He prayed in tongues for while and after, he laid hands on me hoping that I will fall on the bed under his 'claimed anointing' but I could only encourage him to try harder with my theatrics. He tried and tried until I willingly granted his request and he felt better but became even more intense with his ritual. This 'Spiri koko' brother will then ask me at intervals if I have the urge to speak in an unknown tongue and I will always give him an outright 'No' till hot sweat covered us both ([/i]he must have been figuring out what could be wrong with this Pre Degree Student[i]). After about an hour of his unyielding exercise, he just told me to speak anything that comes out my mouth without refraining myself. So for the fact that I can't wait to leave that tinny room for a deep breath of fresh air, I voluntarily granted his request again. I spoke one of these popular gibberish- 'skibobobo' .... and he said [/i]'Yes! That is it! that's your tongue! Continue!'[i]. He became very happy and even worshipped God for saving a soul while I was having a good laugh inside of me. After that day, he will always ask me about how many hours I have spoken in tongues each day and of course you know, I will always give it to him so as to discharge myself on time.


Well, the above story was a funny experience I had more than 10 years ago and to the Glory of God today, I have shredded out doctrines and believe systems that deny the power of God. However, I still question the much emphasis on speaking in tongues by many churches today.

Jesus Christ said in March 16:17-18: [/i]“And these signs will accompany those who believe: In my name they will drive out demons; they will speak in new tongues; they will pick up snakes with their hands; and when they drink deadly poison, it will not hurt them at all; they will place their hands on sick people, and they will get well.”[i]


Note that Jesus Christ made mention of other signs that will accompany those who believe, not just speaking in tongues. So why can't we have people like my former room mate say: Are you born again with the evidence of driving out demons? or with the evidence of healing the sick or any other signs mentioned in that Mark's Chapter?
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Speaking in the tongues is part of the 9 Gift of the Spirit mentioned in 1Corinthians 12:8:11. The chapter also says that the Spirit Himself give as he determines- that means that any of the 9 spiritual gifts can attest to presence of the Holy Spirit even though it is possible to operate in more than one or even all the gifts (Ephesians 1:3). Why is this singular emphasis on speaking in tongues? What happens to the gifts of interpretation of tongues? Why is the relegation of other spiritual gifts?


Infact, the gifts of tongues appear to be the least in all the 9 gift of the spirits? (Matthew 23:23) Peter never spoke in tongues before he rose the lame man at the entrance of the beautiful gate, did he? Did he speak in tongues before he rose Dorcas from the dead? Did Paul speak in tongues to restore Eutychus to life. Where exactly can we find it in the bible where signs and wonders were performed through praying in tongues?


Is it a lie that speaking in tongues has be abused or hijacked by strange spirits in the church today? You get to a church and you will see everybody muttering the same incoherent syllables in the name of speaking in tongues (Matthew 6:7). Could it be that they got their own speaking in tongues using that my formal roommates style? How does the spirit of God come upon someone who do not have the true knowledge of God? God can not be mocked! Even unbelievers already know popular lines of speaking in tongues incase they find themselves in same corner I found myself 10 years ago. You will enter a church these days and you won't even know the prayer point because nobody is or can actually interpret their 'claimed tongues' (1 Corinthians 14:28). Again, why the emphasis on speaking in tongues when other spiritual gifts like prophesy are been left unattended to?


Please note that I never said that speaking in tongues isn't real, Infact I believe in the reality of the tongues of angels because I have experienced it before (1 Corinthians 13:1) but my point here that, is speaking in tongues not just a gift amidst numerous gifts in the bible? Why will speaking in tongues be the only evidence to prove the Holy Spirit? Our emphasis as Christians should be in godly characters i.e the fruits of the spirit which are: Chastity, self control, modesty, faithfulness, gentleness, godliness, long suffering, peace, patience, kindness, joy, charity (Galatians 5:22-23). Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 7:15-20, by 'their fruits we shall know them'


Do you even know that speaking in tongues is not only a Christian phenomenon? Somethings are connecting as regards to the Christianity we practice in this age. May God grant us the spirit of discernment (1 John 4:1).

Very intresting question and valid view point.

I had a similar experience about 16years ago with a redeem pastor couple when I was leaving in Cardiff. I had a car and jejely offered to drop the car less pastor couple off at home taking the centre used for the church service was quite a walk away from town or nearest bus top. When we finally got to the car after waiting around to clear up and their post church pastoral services, they said they wanted to pray on the car for me, taking I just recently bought it. They go into prayers then tongues. Me I'm jejely muttering my English prayers. They asked if I don't speak on tongues and I'm like no. What they didn't know is I wasn't a newly converted Christian. Infact then many now pentacostal Christians come from baptist, anglican or Catholic backgrounds. But me my family had been part of the 1st wave of pentacostal Christians, they ones labelled Scripture Union (SU). So my walk as a born again Christian wasn't new. As a 10year old I used to speak in tongues, then their were periods in my teenage years where I didn't even believe in god, post teenage and around uni I on my own accord found my way back to God. No pressure, no preaching no shame!

So for some pastors to guilty trip me into faking something that was crystal clear in the bible that it isn't for all, but exclusive to some at God's remit. As you rightly quoted the Bible stated to some he gave the gift of tongues, interpretation, faith etc. Now my faith till date knows no bounds, but the pastors didn't consider that.

So they prayed and prayed and prayed but dear old me didn't break out in tongues. At last we embarked on the journey not without them ladenning me with scriptures to read and ask God for the gift. And sincerely I did, in my quite times I'd pray and ask, but nothing came to me and I wasn't going to form something in fakery. Everytime the pastors saw me, they'd ask if I've received the gift yet and each time I said no.

Months or a year later. I was seeing someone, he was Muslim but got along like a pack of cards. He lived in a different Town too, so some weekends I'd go see him but he spent most of his weekends with me. I had been away a couple of weekends back and after church this day, the husband pastor appeoa he'd me about my essence. I thought it was a good time to up about this serious relationship. So I said, yes, I been away to see my boyf. He then asked, is he a Christian (meaning born again) and I go No. He then goes into the tirade of not been unequally yolked etc. Then he asked what branch of Christianity did he practice, then I go no, he is Muslim. He then thought this wasn't a standing discussion it required sitting and digging into the books. So that we did, sat down and opened up our Bible. During this, he said 'if I may ask are you in intimate relationship with him". I could have lied but I saw no reason to do so in order to satisfy him, so I said Yes. Take it that if my father and God, the men I had the upmost respect for already knows I was having a sexual relationship with my boyf who the hell is a pastor not to know.

Anyways, as soon as I admitted yes, this man started to not just judge me but administer punishment and consequences without even consulting the god he claims to serve or represent. He said no wonder I haven't received the gift of the spirit (tongues). That I should please not help out or work in the church force anymore so the wrath of God would not come upon them. These same pastor couples had been married for 12 years then and did not have any offsprings. Would it have been fair to say perhaps some sin in their lives is why they don't have kids? Abii the god that has not fulfilled the prayers from their mouth would fulfil their prayer from then to me to speak in tongues?

Long winded story, ended marrying my boyf, I didn't even tell them or invite them to the weddeing, even though it took place in Nigeria some other church members on holiday around same period all came down for the wedding. On my return, the pastor Mrs approached me and said I heard you're married. I'm like duh, yeah. And she was like I don't think it's right for me to have told "my mother and father in the Lord" I asked who gave them appointment letter. As I can't remember endorsing any. They said by attending the church, I am invariabky their sheep, tuh! When we had our 1st son, even though they like every other church member received the text notification announcing the birth, and even though it's typical in the church to announce new births, for my child the Sunday announcement was "we do not recognise births of kids who's parents marriage is not recognised by God". That there was the straw that broke the camels back and I never returned to the church.

Met then years later at a a festival of life, pastor Mrs was all ove me, Sister T how are you? I indesatnd you have another child now etc. But there they were and still are about 25years married, yet childless and here I am, married to the person I live and adorable children and we all thriving.

ABANGWABOI:
Couldn't believe a lady said this deep truths to a fellow sex..
Had to click on your profile and Alas, it was so, considering the fact that the account has been created since 07 and also based in bristol, Uk..
Really surprised..

Haa haa Haa. Because feminism is a 2 way street, many choose the parts that favour them.

And also because I am an well experienced realist.

Iamafinegirl:
Sex doesn’t change a person. It won’t change me neither would it change him

If you've not had it how do you know? You cannot talk about what you've not experienced and worse still don't speak on behalf of others. You're so immature girl. You must be very early 20s

Iamafinegirl:

These things wld still b there wit or without d sex. When sex tire am...or nothing fascinating about my body again. It would still raise up its ugly head back

Having read both threads, you're obviously immature and a lil selfish. I'd tell you as a woman your virginity is nothing and should not be used as a bargain for a man to love you eternally. If your withholding sex was for chastity or religious purposes I'd understand, but to you it's a tool, so 'he won't use and dump me,' 'when sex tires am'. What keeps a man isn't sex or the fact that you were a virgin but rather what you bring to the table in terms of total package.

Even your responses on his thread shows pettiness. He is petty yes, but you girl are the Queen of petts. As highlighted you also truly don't like him, you've made it clear he toasted you for 1.5yrs, it took the world intervening to give in to a relationship, you stated you only gave in because he buys fuel for you and pizza at unholy hours, now being in a relationship you're withholding sex moreso whilst in the relationship despite living with him, you're not pulling your weight and expect him to shoulder more of the responsibilities even though you're living rent free, working in same office and earning equally. No other words for you girl, you're a USER.

Best bet, walk away from this relationship, you guys have different idealogies. Evaluate and work on yourself before venturing into another relationship. Because as you currently are, you have no business in relationships

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

She's obviously a liability. Pls advise her that in the new world a woman who wants respect must hold her own and hold it equally too. The 60:40 share sef is too fair. Something for you to be conscious about, Equal financial split works well when the house chores are equally split too. I'm hoping you're not leaving the cooking cleaning, washing etc to her, because then it'd be you eating your cake and still wanting to have it.

She's showing her true colours and so is marriage with her going to be. If it's not what you want, then borrow yourself brakes now.

Re: arguments, it's common especially when people start living together. Some people experience it especially after marriage if they didn't live together prior to. As you are currently living together differences will highlight, but how you go about resolving conflict is what's most important. In a loving, nurturing way, not combative and insult hurling. You guys need more relationship counselling.

Toks2008:
The word Silhouette means the dark shape and outline of someone or something visible in restricted light against a brighter background.

Recently the trend has been on Tik Tok and many ladies and even some men have taken part in the challenge but the reason I'm writing this is to show my disdain at the unnecessary hype it is getting with the rate Nigerians have condemned it and I began to wonder at the level of misplaced priority. Is it a shadow body image that is now our priority when there are more issues of serious concern.

Out of curiosity I went on TikTok to see and I was even more confused cos all I saw was 99.9% of ladies and men showing a shadow figure of their body in their underwear and not actually naked so why is this an issue if anyone decides to display a shadow image of his or her body?...and even if they are totally nude, I still wonder how a nude shadow should be given any hype when we see semi nude ladies in broad day light every single day. ladies and guys go to beaches and swimming pools almost naked so is it a dark image of a body that is now a problem?

I am not in support of nudity in any form but I don't think it is worth the hype they are giving to it ...There are more important issues to deal with than hyping a mere online challenge that will soon be forgotten.

Because Nigerians are a perverted lot and sex-centric. It is a really warped environment with misplaced priorities at all levels from the individual right up to the govt and leadership. Religion makes the matter even worse. The society is so engulfed with who is sleeping with who, when, where, how or who is wearing or showing what. It shows that in the next 25 years this cases will be our accomplishments whilst others are celebrating living on the moon.

There is an audience for almost stuffs, however I really don't get the fake pious-Ness, yet their fingers and eyes went to find the same materials they condemn.

Ericsdm55:
Testimony To The Glory Of God

I am sharing this testimony with you to encourage someone believing and waiting for the Lord to remain steadfast.

For sometime now my spouse has been battling with cancerous growth around her breast. To cut long story, she was on chemotherapy last two years and after then it was one drug to another.

Last year 2020, she started developing serious pain around her left armpit and it got worse as the runs down. The pain around her armpit was so much that we just didn't know what to do again. That evening we were having our devotion and I was led in my spirit to tell the kids to pray specifically for her. We continued like this for the next two days, laying hands on her specifically and declaring God's healing on her.

I noticed the fourth day she slept well with no complain of pain. So I didn't ask her, because at a point I just asked less, because of the emotional stress I often try to suppress. After a week she called me and showed me her chest, but the scary lumps was gone. Also, the excruciating pain around her armpit was gone as well. I am returning all praise and glory to God Almighty.

God indeed does answer prayers. I never visited any prayer house or miracle centre. I am not much of a church goer or a prayer warrior. I am not saying observing those things are bad. What I'm saying is; if you believe in Jesus Christ in your heart and confess Him as Lord and savior, then you are a child of God and have every access to God Almighty as well.

God also saves me from a serious financial burden in one of the worst time of the year 2020. I truly do not deserve this divine intervention and truly no body does, but the Lion of the tribe of Judah has prevail and overcame for me and you . Be encouraged, shalom!

Your post so resonates with this

maynia:
Really

My take exactly and issue with religion. The selfishness, thought and entitlement for the best in life and heaven, just because....

Ericsdm55:
Testimony To The Glory Of God

I am sharing this testimony with you to encourage someone believing and waiting for the Lord to remain steadfast.

For sometime now my spouse has been battling with cancerous growth around her breast. To cut long story, she was on chemotherapy last two years and after then it was one drug to another.

Last year 2020, she started developing serious pain around her left armpit and it got worse as the runs down. The pain around her armpit was so much that we just didn't know what to do again. That evening we were having our devotion and I was led in my spirit to tell the kids to pray specifically for her. We continued like this for the next two days, laying hands on her specifically and declaring God's healing on her.

I noticed the fourth day she slept well with no complain of pain. So I didn't ask her, because at a point I just asked less, because of the emotional stress I often try to suppress. After a week she called me and showed me her chest, but the scary lumps was gone. Also, the excruciating pain around her armpit was gone as well. I am returning all praise and glory to God Almighty.

God indeed does answer prayers. I never visited any prayer house or miracle centre. I am not much of a church goer or a prayer warrior. I am not saying observing those things are bad. What I'm saying is; if you believe in Jesus Christ in your heart and confess Him as Lord and savior, then you are a child of God and have every access to God Almighty as well.

God also saves me from a serious financial burden in one of the worst time of the year 2020. I truly do not deserve this divine intervention and truly no body does, but the Lion of the tribe of Judah has prevail and overcame for me and you . Be encouraged, shalom!

I'm glad visually the lumps are gone and pain disappeared but please have this medically certified rather than self appraisal.

Someone who has had cancer should treat every new symptom with foremost care and attention

Acidosis:
There's a loophole in your write-up bro. The level of certainty you have displayed on the thread is too high to believe the lady is your neighbour. You don't even know her until she moved in with her husband, your neighbour, so where's the confidence coming from?

My point is you barely know this woman. Stop being too confident okay?

It's even possible that the husband is also aware of her AS status before marriage. They got married with the hope of raising AS/AA children. Some couples who got blinded with love took this risk. Since their plan turned out this way, of course, they needed to come up with a story so the world won't blame them.

That being said, you should speak with a medical practitioner if your assertions are correct.

Mr sef come tire come dey suspect op as he's vehemently defending the lady and only wanting to hear the notion he has in mind.

Oga op, abegii trust no one except yourself. Sometimes even you will disappoint yourself if faced with certain situations.

And to be clear, dna doesn't naturally evovle. 7 times blood check is lil much unless there is some underlining suspicion. & finally trust no man but yourself