₦airaland Forum

maynia:
Really

My take exactly and issue with religion. The selfishness, thought and entitlement for the best in life and heaven, just because....

Ericsdm55:
Testimony To The Glory Of God

I am sharing this testimony with you to encourage someone believing and waiting for the Lord to remain steadfast.

For sometime now my spouse has been battling with cancerous growth around her breast. To cut long story, she was on chemotherapy last two years and after then it was one drug to another.

Last year 2020, she started developing serious pain around her left armpit and it got worse as the runs down. The pain around her armpit was so much that we just didn't know what to do again. That evening we were having our devotion and I was led in my spirit to tell the kids to pray specifically for her. We continued like this for the next two days, laying hands on her specifically and declaring God's healing on her.

I noticed the fourth day she slept well with no complain of pain. So I didn't ask her, because at a point I just asked less, because of the emotional stress I often try to suppress. After a week she called me and showed me her chest, but the scary lumps was gone. Also, the excruciating pain around her armpit was gone as well. I am returning all praise and glory to God Almighty.

God indeed does answer prayers. I never visited any prayer house or miracle centre. I am not much of a church goer or a prayer warrior. I am not saying observing those things are bad. What I'm saying is; if you believe in Jesus Christ in your heart and confess Him as Lord and savior, then you are a child of God and have every access to God Almighty as well.

God also saves me from a serious financial burden in one of the worst time of the year 2020. I truly do not deserve this divine intervention and truly no body does, but the Lion of the tribe of Judah has prevail and overcame for me and you . Be encouraged, shalom!

I'm glad visually the lumps are gone and pain disappeared but please have this medically certified rather than self appraisal.

Someone who has had cancer should treat every new symptom with foremost care and attention

Acidosis:
There's a loophole in your write-up bro. The level of certainty you have displayed on the thread is too high to believe the lady is your neighbour. You don't even know her until she moved in with her husband, your neighbour, so where's the confidence coming from?

My point is you barely know this woman. Stop being too confident okay?

It's even possible that the husband is also aware of her AS status before marriage. They got married with the hope of raising AS/AA children. Some couples who got blinded with love took this risk. Since their plan turned out this way, of course, they needed to come up with a story so the world won't blame them.

That being said, you should speak with a medical practitioner if your assertions are correct.

Mr sef come tire come dey suspect op as he's vehemently defending the lady and only wanting to hear the notion he has in mind.

Oga op, abegii trust no one except yourself. Sometimes even you will disappoint yourself if faced with certain situations.

And to be clear, dna doesn't naturally evovle. 7 times blood check is lil much unless there is some underlining suspicion. & finally trust no man but yourself

bukatyne:
While bonding with the children is on the man, let's not ignore that the mother teaches the children to disobey their father by undermining his authority over them.

How can a father call his sons to wash the car and the mother say 'they are sleeping'?

Did they go to the farm overnight? Can't they wash the car and go back to sleep?

If sleep is so important to them, can't they wash it the night before?

And shouldn't a 20 year old help his father dress up for work? Polish his shoes, iron his clothes, help him co-ordinate his wears in the newest fashion?

Let's assume the man doesn't actively seek to bond with his kids (a lot of Nigerian fathers are guilty); can't the mother encourage it especially if they are not in an abusive marriage?

The mother should be the one pushing the kids to wash his car, polish his socks, iron his shirts, pick his tie etc. That way, they would bond and the father can pass nuggets to the sons.

The sons would also learn how to be responsible, co-ordinate/lead a family, note the father's mistakes to improve on etc.

If the OP was complaining about the sons not sitting with their father to watch CNN, I would ask if the father sowed the seed to reap such.

But disrespect on the mother's orders and with her backing? Na!

You ask some seemly valid questions in a typical sane situation and other irrelevant ones (20yr old kids help grown ass man dress, is he disabled)

Both poster and brother seem a little derailed and very entitled in my opinion.

Brother is type that likes his car washed every day, that sound alike border line OCD. how certain are you that he may prefer car washed in the morning than in the evenings?

The fact that they are ones kids and one provides (which is any parents responsibility anyway) doesn't mean the kids need ro be part of that pain.

Also women are often giving the short end of the stick when kids misbehave. It isn't the woman's responsibility to bridge a relationship between the kids and their father.

And the poster, he's married not for love, but just a vessel and means to have kids. And not kids to love, but kids to take care of him in old age. These are all warped mentalilties that lead to nothing but failure and pain.

letskeeptalking:
Is it a woman's job to connect the children to their father? Are they not his children? Why did he not ensure he creates that bond between him and them.

When men will abandon children for their mothers, and be forming big man. . in taking care of your own children. This is the consequences.

You don't know the bond that develops over little things like helping them with bathing them, feeding them, helping them with their assignments, taking them to school e.t.c You think the children know/care who pays their school fees? It's the person who was there for them emotionally that they will love and appreciate.

Nigerians men continue forming big men, but don't cry foul when your own children turn on you!!!

You nailed it. Relegating misprioritisation and relegation of responsibilities to the other party.

To make matter worse, such misconceptions is also setting poster up for failure.

@OP better learn now and salvage your marriage. Also now you know having kids is no security for old age, your nephews are already showing their dad��

frozen70:
Take your bath as regular as you can and drink lots of water

Being a man isn’t easy. When the world’s not telling you what it means to be masculine, it’s telling you how to dress, how to shave, how to smell – no wonder things can get a little sweaty.

Sweating is a fact of life, we all do it, and body odour is part of that package. So, rather than worrying about what others expect of you, take a look at what the cause of sweating actually is and manage it properly so you can say no to bad B.O.

WHAT CAUSES SWEATING?

There are many causes of sweating – exercise, nerves, hot weather. It’s a natural bodily process that occurs as a response to hormones like adrenalin, or to help you regulate your body temperature when things heat up.



WHAT IS BODY ODOUR?

Body odour the smell our bodies give off when they sweat. Everyone is different when it comes to how much they sweat, and what it smells like, but we’re all likely to experience it in common areas like the feet, groin, and armpits.



WHAT CAUSES BODY ODOUR?

Sweat is not actually the culprit behind B.O. What causes sweat to smell is the amount of bacteria in sweat and the breaking down of sweat into acids. Why do armpits sweat and smell of B.O. more than other areas? It’s all thanks to conveniently placed sweat glands that secrete into hair follicles. Bacteria love moist areas and the hair can trap sweat and moisture to provide the perfect breeding ground. Sweat glands are found in other hairy areas too, which is why they often feel sweaty (and potentially a bit smelly).



HOW TO FIGHT B.O.

Now you know why do armpits sweat and smell, and the basic body odour causes, it’s time to look at how you banish it.

GET TRIM

Bacteria and hair follicles are friends, which is why armpits, the groin area, and other hairy areas are the B.O. hot spots. Shaving or trimming down your hair in these areas can help keep things fresh and clean.



CLEAN UP

Skipping showers and proper bathing is often at the root of what causes sweat to smell. Remember to shower every day, especially after trips to the gym. Take your hygiene one step further with an anti-bacterial soap and finish with fresh-smelling deodorants from LYNX.



DRESS TO SWEAT LESS

Perhaps you already shave and shower regularly. So why do armpits smell afterwards? The answer could be in your wardrobe. Synthetic fabrics such as rayon, nylon, and polyester don’t allow much airflow so switch it up and go for some organic options like cotton, wool, and linen.



LEAVE YOUR SHOES AT THE DOOR

Aussies might be onto something with their love of walking barefoot. Socks and shoes make it difficult for sweat to evaporate. Give your toes some breathing space by going barefoot when you can or opting for looser-fitting options.



WATCH WHAT YOU EAT

Did you know that diet can affect the way your sweat smells? The most common food culprits behind bad B.O. include spicy foods, garlic, hot peppers, and curry. Try cutting back on them and see if you notice a change.

BANISH B.O.

What causes sweaty armpits? What causes body odour? Hopefully, you’ve got all the answers now. As much of a nuisance as sweating and B.O. can be, they are a natural part of life. Instead of worrying, learn how to manage them and say no to body odour.

Copied from the Internet. In addition boils may be caused by the shaving or the type of shaving stick that leads to in growth hair then boils. Rather than not shave, better to shave with either good shaving stick, or shaving cream. And pleas euse deodorant, I find sure the best. Try the roll on and the spray. Bug you really can't afford not to shave and use deodorant and expect miracles as a young energetic person and not smell

Afam4eva:
What was your diagnosis before you took the Iron infusion?

Low level anaemia and I was due to have some surgery, so they needed to boost my levels up fast to aid recovery

CaptainZubi:
For about 5 years now I've been battling extreme tiredness . Asides that I sleep alot most especially at afternoons. At night,nonce I sleep around 11pm and not going to work the next day, I can wake up by 10am or 11 am.

During afternoon and night sleeps, the sleep is usually very deep (REM phase or whatever you medics call it, please correct me) and usually characterized by heavy dreams.

Even during work, I'll always take the risk to create some time to have a little sleep. I've been battling this for about 5 years now. What could be wrong.

Have a general checkup. Full bloods etc. You may be anemic, it may be your Vit B & iron levels are low. Supplements and sometimes iron infusions may be necessary to boost your energy levels. i used to be in same shape, spent all day in bed from lack of energy, got easily exhausted from simple tasks etc. Supplements alone weren't helping, but with one iron infusion plus regular (every 3 months) Vit B shots and the daily iron supplements I have been able to maintain good energy levels.

Jogunomi1:
Before our first child, her belly was naturally not flat and she's not obese. After first child, her belly became bigger. I just want her belly to stop getting bigger.

What can I do please?

You can't make someone else's tummy go flat unless she wants to herself. And it shouldn't be you deciding she needs to lose the belly fat either, it's her body and her choice to decide what she wants and when she wants to. Your role is to love and support. I'm hoping her body was not your (only) reason for marrying her.

P. S. Do you have 6 packs yourself? I bet she's equally attracted to buff guys but isn't here on nairaland finding a fast and fatal potion for you.

thebosstrevor1:
It was not one sided, the original post talked about how sexual promiscuity affects both men and women.

Your comments boiled down to sexual liberation and so called women empowerment and i gave my opinion, suddenly you hate it because a man has an opinion about it. But i believe you also have opinions when it comes to how men behave in society. You only hate it when a women's way of doing things is checked.

You claim i judge and i know nothing about the effects of sexual liberation on women. there are books on this topics. It is not about emotions but facts and we see the effects it has on women daily

For every emotional healthy being, whether man or woman, the facts still remains, a man and woman are more likely to bond together when they have less sexual partners and follow the traditional norms of behavior when it comes to sexuality.

I don't know how to be politically correct but i write this,

A sexual liberal woman is a promiscuous woman, facts do not lie, we see the effect in the western world and a promiscuous woman is likely not to be faithful and loyal to her partner.

And a sexually active man is not promiscuous, and will likely remain loyal to his partner even though his dick is not? I'm truly trying to make sense of the validity of your assertion, as this should hold true no matter the gender substitution and context.

I am also confused of your definition of sexual liberation. I am a sexual liberated woman and that to me concludes I am particular about my sexual partners and encounters, meaning I am selective about who and when I choose to have sex, and only do this with who I desire and when. I ensure my encounters are just as fulfilling to me as to my partner. i.e. I will not have sex with my husband if I don't feel like. i.e. I will not have sex if I am not guaranteed a cum.

God777:
Hello are you still into this please?

No, stopped ages ago

omodaamola:
Dear Nairalanders! What's your take on this?

Dropping empty offering envelops in Church, is it bad? I can say that, it is not a crime that you go to a place of worship on Sunday (Church) without offerings (money you drop in offering baskets).

Modern Churches now use branded envelops to take their offerings, once they give you, you must drop it....It is even written on it 'Do not take it home'. Some churches even go as far as giving more than one envelops (regular service, not on a Thanksgiving Sunday).

Nairalanders, if you worship in a Church that you dance forward to drop these offering envelops, and you are probably on a budget to give once or you don't even have at all. What would you do? Drop an empty envelop? Is this bad?

Absolutely fine, by all means return the envelope, if you have nothing to give or the intention to give.

If the Church can give the envelope without checking if you need one, then collect it and drop it back.

If they make people dance forward to give offering, please dance with them and drop your empty envelope. Your dance, praise and worship are sufficient offerings to God not man.

The dancing forward, by force envelopes etc are all reverse psychology created by man to manipulate other men.

Officialhorlah:
https://punchng.com/soldiers-went-to-lekki-toll-gate-with-both-live-and-blank-bullets-general/

Nit surprised The army sent a brigade Taiwo for a purpose, yorubas will lie and sell their birth right. I am yoruba and one of my major issues with my tribe is neglecting the fact that respect is earned not given. Culturally they are most unloyal, and can dance around the truth without shame. Las las they'd explain it away with some silly lame excuse quoting plenty proverbs, idioms and lessons why.

Real Shame in the Taiwo person

CodeTemplar:
. . .

At first they came for the Igbos and Christians in the north during BH infancy but I kept quite because I wasn't one of them, then they came for the innocent corpers during 2011 elections and I kept quite again, they went for the shiites sect and I also kept mum, now they are coming for the group I belong and there is no one to speak for me.

We need a violent revolution that will be anchored on a village by village basis. You enter your village, identify agbada mafiosos who have ruined the society and give them one on one revolution. No guns or broken bottles, just some sugar cane sticks and some fists.

You've quoted/paraphrased one of my favourite rpeoms about consequences of staying silence in the face of oppression.

I also agree with you that a revolution is inevitable and neccesary before we can have any good governance in Nigeria. Many disagreed with me and feel the can preserve all their niceties and comforts, especially with aftermaths of endsars and the looting. I argued everyone must especially the middle class that have stayed silent for too long must bear the brunt

thebosstrevor1:
Must everything be about men vs women, pls read what i wrote again.

Also, i disagree that sexual liberation is empowering for women.

Marxists society(aka liberals, progressives) preach about sexual liberation and sexual revolution and how it empowers women and society.

when you look at it objectively, they are both degrading to women, it promotes the idea that women are just sexual objects also it promote different perverted sexual lifestyles that can affect a woman's emotional and psychological wellbeing and we shouldn't talk about the diseases that comes with these lifestyles.

This doesn't change the one sided Ness of your original post. EMOTIONAL, psychological WELLBEING, diseases that comes with these lifestyles are possible effects to both sexes and down to the individual.

I hate it when someone has an opinion on someone else's sexual preferences or outlook, I hate it even more when it's coming from a man to a woman. Like what makes you a judge or seer on what you know nothing about.

thebosstrevor1:
Everything on tv, comedies, movies and game shows is all about sex and alcohol.

I always find it quite irritating when a woman talk about her sexual life in public.

Anyway, a woman who started to have sex when young will be promiscuous, argue with your keyboard, it is the same for men too, nowadays, promiscuity is now a norm.

How will this woman bond with a man.

so called sexual liberation is doing more harm than good to women but they don't know.

High chance of getting STDs that can ruin your life.

But you're okay with a man talking about his?

What's good for the goose is also good for the gander. And be told sexual liberation is very empowering for women especially, that is the ability to engage with who, when anyhow and not to be shamed about it.

That there is a woman taking ownership of her own, you do you too

sodiqapril:
Lol....scope man..the move is just official tinubu's salary will be paid unofficially, he controls toll gate, his son controls all the signage in Lagos, his daughter controls computer village, his puppet is governor, his stooge is speaker, Lagos state House of assembly, mc oluomo is dere....what else does he need? In fela's voice one day go be one day for those wey dy steal our money for this country one day go be one day..

He also owns and controls alphabets, meaning he receives a chunk and percentage of all taxes paid in Lagos.

thebosstrevor1:
I think some women go there for prostitution that is why they brought that rules. The owners are scared that prostitution can tarnish their brand name

Infact even in the front of oriental hotel, you see women doing prostitution, that is how they diminish the exclusivity of the hotel

Is it fair enough then to also ban unaccompanied men, as if your premise that ladies of the night visit there for client pick, then it must mean their clients are lone men looking to score.

General stereotyping is bad, and not great business virtures

1stbest:
I wish i can explain everything,

I have been suffering since i was little till now , people that supposed to help don't care , have been trying to make a living but no helping hand .

In the middle of this year i get an accident (one man that has no headlight jam me in the middle of night) so , they send me to UNTH Nnewi , because it effected my head and chest, after treatments i spend all my savings,

I have been staying in the house since then because they told me not to do anything hard , so i have to find a way to start seeing change , hunger want to kill me , so i started looking for a way to get a bike but i don't have money ,.

i beg many people non of them takes me serious till one man contacted me that he will borrow me the money ,but i before doing that i have to pay 10500 registration fee because it an organization , so i have to borrow the money from one old mama , promising that i will pay back as soon as possible,

I send the money to this man and he blocked me off , I still have some screenshots from our chats

Since then i don't know what to do again.


I can't go check up again since no money for it , and where i supposed to get some feeding money have also failed , .

I am weak

It's unfortunate that life has dealt you some curveballs and the environment and society isn't encouraging or conducive to easily eke a living. However it's also worth noting that in that same environment there may be others that have had it worse that you have and yet are faring better than you are. The difference would be the mindset.

Look inward and reconsider some of your mindset.

Things like people that are meant to help. No one owes you anything, atleast once you're past 18 years. That someone is related or known to you, and you believe they have the means to help doesn't mean they need to or have to.

Yes man isn't an island and would often require upliftment from others. But again to my point above, help even if it may come may not always be from the avenues we think.

Mental wellness is also from the mind. You may choose to look at the glass half empty or half full. The choice and outcomes is yours.

My assertion from your write up is yes your situation is sad, sad enough that the thought of death to you may be an easy way out, however with your cry for help you aren't on that edge yet. And I pray you never get to it. What you need is help to be meaningfully engaged , and perhaps paraphrasing your appeal that way would have far more reaching positive effects.

I.e.
1)I need a job.
2)This is my background. Thwse are the skills/passions etc I possess
3) these are the businesses/jobs etc I can do
4) These are my limitations(could be funds, training, relocation, ideas etc) preventing me from doing so.
4) these are ways you can help me overcome these hurdles and to achieve my goals/dreams etc

All. Of the above would show you've gone through some thought process and are intentional and proactive about changing your situation.

Do you want to give these a go? I and am sure many others would be able and happy to help if you have a good case.

And should you need help with the thought process, drop me your number via email, I believe you already have mine.

EVideos:
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Whilst the news about the glitch is true and 6k votes were wrongly allocated to Democrats, the differential figures quoted are so wrong. Biden is still leading by over 45k votes.

How on earth you come up with such misleading fake news baffles.

1stbest:
I am having suicidal thoughts ,



have been thinking ways to end this for ones.

If true it takes a lot of courage to admit this and to say it out loud. It could also be a great step in hopefully getting help.


They say a problem shared is half solved, Do you mind sharing why you're having these thoughts or what's triggering them?

444crop:
This your line of discussion is like trying to make me believe in the Bible.... Never gonna happen and yes I am a well groomed Christian

But you click and stay on a thread discussing anal sex? What hypocrisy!!

Nemere2020:
Western Metal Products Company (WEMPCO) Group, owners of Lagos Oriental Hotel, has denied insinuations in some quarters that it is owned by the national leader of the All Progressives Congress (APC), Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

In a statement by Taiwo Alli, Executive Director Corporate Affairs, Wempco Group the hotel’s management said:

“Western Metal Products Company (WEMPCO) Group, owners of Lagos Oriental Hotel, formally acknowledges that there was an attack on our property on October 20, 2020, when hoodlums armed with guns, knives and bottles, forcefully gained entrance to our facility, assaulted some of our security personnel and damaged properties.

“Unidentified individuals whose motives remain unknown to us have gone to town with a rather unfortunate narrative claiming that the Lagos Oriental Hotel is the investment of politicians, thereby exposing it to unwarranted attacks.

“Lagos Oriental Hotel is owned by the WEMPCO Group with 99percent shareholding. The WEMPCO Group of Companies was founded by businessman and entrepreneur Mr. K.F. Tung over fifty (50) years ago.

“The Lagos Oriental Hotel is a flagship in the Nigerian hospitality business but is not a flagship of the WEMPCO Group. It is an investment made by the Group in 2008, but not part of their core manufacturing business.

“At present, WEMPCO Group provides jobs for over 25,000 young Nigerians, affording them the opportunity to earn a living and gain useful experience. It is therefore unfortunate the attempt to disrupt our business and tarnish our image painstakingly built over the years.

“Speaking on the development, the Managing Director, Mr. Lawrence Tung noted that ‘like other responsible businesses operating in Nigeria, Lagos Oriental Hotel is hopeful that closure will be brought to cases of injustice identified in the country. It is however important to protect our businesses from unwarranted attacks by individuals who may not be aware of the facts around our existence.

‘We are fully cooperating with the authorities in their investigations into the remote and immediate causes of the incident that occurred on 20, October 2020 and assure our numerous clients and partners that we are working to ensure that normalcy returns to the hotel.”
https://peoplesgazette.com/please-dont-burn-our-hotel-we-have-no-ties-to-tinubu-oriental/?utm_source=ReviveOldPost&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=ReviveOldPost

Everyone is in denial now, but when you were enjoying the benefits of being associated with Tinubu you didn't deny then.

Who doesn't know Tinubu isn't a fool at money laundering and layering. Just like with alphabets his name isn't on the board of directors, but we all know who the figure head directors were fronting for and who really calls the shot.

Our mumu Don do, enjoy the aftermath abeg

Polg30:
Impersonating black so we get the blame, this people are evil

No be today. That's white privilege there! Picking on the weaken ones, knowing they'd get the blame and unleash!!

Mummyfour:
Honestly I feel pity for two of them and more for the children. Misunderstanding and divorce is a terrible thing.
I don't even know whom to blame between the two, but I just feel that it takes two to tango. No one of them would claim to be 100% perfect. I just wish they settle and come back together as a couple, for the sake of the children and so that shame go catch all the bad belles out there.

That there is advice from hell. Everyone should be in a relationship because both parties (not one) want in, in that relationship and because the other is worth and deserving of that relationship. Never and I repeat NEVER stay in a relationship because of children or pregnancy, and please don't counsel people to either. It's the cause of so much unhappiness and misfortune to the parties and even kids involved.

There was so much to read from their body language.

The girl squirmed and sniggered every time he spoke to her or asked her a question. She only genuinely came alive with true smiles when interacting with her kid. That was the only joyous moment and purpose for her.

The whole thing seemed staged by ffk, the celebration, cakes and what may meant nothing to her.

I could sense a feel of being trapped, she continually tried to be grateful and appreciate, I'm sure she's been coerced into believing she should count her blessings and be grateful for the life she has, but she's probably come to the realisation that all of that is nought. Sad sad situation

oatzeal:
Source:
http://www.theelitesng.com/explosive-the-truth-about-ffk-yemisi-wadas-camp-rips-femi-fani-kayode-apart/





PICTURES OF FIRST WIFE SURATU, SECOND WIFE YEMISI , THIRD WIFE "REGINA" AND THE NEW (FOURTH) WIFE BELOW

Wow, words of wisdom. Every projection and prediction here came to pass for poor precious. From the beating, to nude sharing, to marine spirit and mental illness claims, to attempting to take kids away. Obviously this dude FFK is not only a narcissist but also a lunatic on the lose. If I remember clearly, he used to have several pseudonym here on naira land and regularly interchanged writing in 1st and 3rd party. Very clumsy clunk.

Only in Nigeria is such still roaming free and calling shots