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The first lady gave out 50k as grant obidiots called her out. Here is Peter Obi bragging about N10k 😂

Obi 10 kpa 😭 pic.twitter.com/6BaL31ZTF1

— High Chief Lawrence Igbins Okoro (@HighChiefOkoro) June 27, 2026

missing the point. Obi wasn't and isn't in power. Whatever he did, he did out of his benevolence.

Remi tinibu and husband are in power and responsible to the nigerian populance and economy. And they have woefully failed in the space

bestofnollywood:
SOurce:

https://applesbite.com/dna-test-confirms-missing-journalist-pelumi-onifade-died-during-endsars-protests/

Still some idiots would argue 20 oct 2020 never happened. 5 years down the line still no justice, even worse the instigator was voted president. Nigeria my country; where criminals are celebrated and told to start making akara to improve their failed economy

Freshtruth:
President Tinubu’s wife, Remi Tinubu wants Nigerians to praise her husband because he is now sleeping at 3am every day trying to solve Nigeria insecurity problems.
“My Husband Now Sleeps At 3am,

I can assure you, we don’t have Mondays or Sundays. The President is working round the clock to get this matter resolved. At times, Mr President will sleep at 3:00am and God has been faithful".

How many hours of sleep does the First Lady think an average Nigerian gets a day.

What about the kidnapped victims who are in the bush for the past 3 months sleeping under the rain, sun and cold.

What about the fathers and mothers who are awake all night thinking about how to feed and pay their children’s school fees.

The president doesn’t should be awake all night if he has to, to make sure Nigerians are protected.

That’s the kind of Job he applied for.





https://politicsnigeria.com/2026/06/01/insecurity-my-husband-now-sleeps-at-3am-tinubus-wife-says/

His sleep pattern is altered as a result of his looming defeat not because he is trying to solve Nigeria's problem. Iwoyii laroo, tii.... person wey sleep oct 2020 massacre, several kidnapping and kills is suddenly sleepless trying to solve Nigeria's problems. Madam try another lie

lambish:
I am a 28-year-old woman. At this stage in my life, I earnestly prayed to God for a godly man to settle down with. Eventually, I met a young man who seemed promising and spiritually grounded. At first, everything appeared genuine. He spoke about marriage just three months after we met, introduced me to his mother and brothers, and presented me as the woman he wanted to marry. It all felt so real.

But as time went on, his behavior began to change. He started pressuring me for sex and even insisted that I should get pregnant before marriage. I vehemently refused, holding on to my values and belief in doing things the right way. Still, he kept insisting. Eventually, I gave in—not because I no longer believed in my values, but because I truly believed we were going to get married.

Afterwards, I was overwhelmed with emotion. I cried a lot, but he comforted me and assured me that he would always be there for me. Sadly, that promise did not last. His behavior deteriorated even further. He became emotionally abusive and said very hurtful things to me. He began asking me for money and even demanded my entire salary.

To cut the story short, I later discovered that he had deceived me all along. He was already engaged to another woman who had been living with him for five years. The truth shattered me. I felt like I had lost everything—myself, my virginity, my trust, and my finances.

Even now, whenever I think of him, I cry. I feel like I was made a fool of—used, betrayed, and deeply hurt.

Your value isn't tied to your virginity and all the things you listed as lost. You're are more than enough. Also note you may think you've lost things, many of which by the way can be replenished, but in there place you're wiser n stronger. Count it all to experience and lessons learnt

Kindheartedd:
Hi parents.

Please I need help, my 9 years old son is very slow at learning. Not to say too much:

He started schooling at 2 ( from nursery)
I spend time to teach him and when I noticed I wasn't patience with his speed I hired a home tutor.
Aside the home tutor I still personally teach
I am not an absentee mother at allllll. There is hardly a day I don't teach him 1 or two things.


But

My son never assimilate, I teach him 1 thing for 1 year buy na lie he will forget it.


Am sad, am unhappy I have done all humanly possible, he is lazy, reading is had for him, 2 times table is war. To add 2 to 2 is war, I pay home tutors with no results. This is wastage, atimes I stop and I begin again. I pay extra for lessons at school no results.

Am crying and tired, I have no one one to help, am all alone in this. Am in pain, I don't know how long this will go. I don't want him to end up with poor grades and can't move on with school.

Am so scared and I don't know how this will end. Am weak and full of pain concerning this boy.

I need tips, I have used pictures, audio, video, YouTube, everything. I don't know if this is spiritual, I have prayed. Done all I could do. He can't even spell 3 letter words, it's that baddddddd.

Atimes I ask myself how years passed by that he hasn't still improved but looking back, I haven't rested all the years.

Don't be sad, I have a 16 almost 17 year old son who struggles academically yet is the sweetest soul. He has been diagnosed with adhd, but even I his mom, his dad and even his sister suspectibly have adhd too.

Whilst we the parents grew up in Nigeria and were able to navigate our neurodivergency to become successful functional adults, I worry that he is growing at a time and place (UK) where if care isn't given the adhd is seen as a weakness and rather than a superpower. In Nigeria whereas a child is challenged academically and if not doing well enough he is made to repeat a class, here children are moved on in class with the notion that every child doesn't need to be academically successful.

Do note some of the brightest people on earth all have some form of neurodivergency; Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Albert Einstein etc. Finding s child's individual strength is a good way to hone on neurodivergency, it can be a superpower rather than an impediment. Have your child tested for learning difficulties, and work with him to be the best version of himself

I have tried the african parenting of being a tiger mum etc but hr just isn't the brightest nor most organised. I realise that adhd can show differently in each individual, for me and my daughter we're both extremely bright n intelligent, however it comes through in our organisation and in my daughter's case in her tidiness and social skills. The dad on the other hand is also smart, but only in things that interest him. I am.consoled that even the dad recall repeating a class in secondary school, been scolded as a child for been a dunce and that the coin didn't drop in his brain until he was in his 3rd year at uni, when he started trying to associate with the bright colleagues and changed his learning and revision habits.

This is great consolation to me, I realise and accept that each child/person will come into it at different times and stages.

It is not the destination but about the journey, I want my child to live a happy choldhood, one not filled with condemnation and shame.

I will rather guide him with love and acceptance that castigate and pressurise him unnecessarily. It takes a lot of acceptance to get here, but success isn't about gtades, awards, the bank balance, nor assets, a successful adult is defined as one who is happy with his current state.

The financially succesful, thriving top shotters etc aren't exactly the happiest people on earth.

AntiTerrorist:
My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.

Rather than ask the internet who don't know you or your wife. Nor make assumptions that maybe misleading. The truth n solution would come from nothing other than continual conversation eith your wife.

Find out her thoughts and why she is no longer enjoying intimacy with you.
Check if she even ever did.
Find out what turns her on and off. Your supposed best efforts might just be water off a ducks back.
Similarly discusss your turn on n offs.
Plan sex, set the tone, mood etc. What many men fail to understand is that sex starts from outside the bedroom. The intention, sextexting, the thoughtful actions, the compliments, the gifts, the playfulness n stolen kisses and touches, the intentionality, the looks n stares that onky you both understand, the inside jokes and many more all set the pace for explosive, non forgettable
and highly sought after coupling.

And communication, it continues right through, before, during and after the act.

Before is for setting the mood
During is for both questions n feedback. How is this for you. Do you want more or less, with loads of commentary of what you're doing or plan to do to her, plus how she and the whole act is making you feel. These conversations as much as possible should be her focused n not you.

The after, is for feedback again. What worked. What didn't n how to spice things up.

I wish you the very best of luck. You both have got the ability to spin this hitch into something that cements your union and make your sexual relationship and even marriage wax stronger.

GistMedia0:
A shocking scene unfolded earlier today as a young salesgirl was paraded in public after allegedly stealing clothes worth over ₦500,000, along with an undisclosed amount of money from a POS machine.

In a now-viral video, the accused was seen in distress, with what appeared to be a charm (commonly referred to as "juju" ) hanging around her neck. Bystanders speculated that the juju was either used by her employers to catch thieves or placed on her by unknown sources after her alleged crime was discovered.

Eyewitnesses claim that the girl had been working at the shop for some time before she was caught. According to reports, she had been gradually siphoning funds and taking high-value clothing items without her employer's knowledge. However, her luck ran out when an audit was conducted, and the missing items were traced to her.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gg4uT1LZ2jo

This isn't great, but I am.glad to knownthe days of jungle justice, getting naked, beated black blue, sexually molested and possible burning is far gone.

Shows progress is making with the Nigerian psyche, hopefully too that we can and would get there

Kobicove:
I don't particularly believe in the existence of juju but I find it quite strange that such a young child would reject new clothes that were presented to him on three different occassions

My 14yr daughter right from when she could speak doesn't like wearing nigerian cloths. She complains they itch (the sequins and finishing) and are generally uncomfortable. I can understand and relate (no pain no gain is my native motto) and also know many natives I've made for my boys that has been a struggle to get in and out of. We have a going joke that the cloths are constructed by carpenters not tailors. The OPs child might have had similar experiences with natives and is thus running and crying.

Ultimately, It takes one to know one, ie. A diabolic mind will often suspect others of such, and a untrusted soul will be distrusting of others

TimeManager:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/13-us-patients-undergo-kidney-transplants-in-nigeria-shettima/amp/

Typical idiots celebrating mediocrity and running from the truth.

The reason why foreigners would be thronging Nigeria for kidnwy transplant is because organ donation is not regulated, economy is in so dire place that people are optioning to sell their organs.

After Ekumere or whatever that senate head has been prosecuted in the UK of cause others like him looking to capitalise on other people's misfortunes would throng to an unregulated place where such organs can be ontained cheaply and without care to after care and l8fe of the donors.


It is the same way these uneducated fools that we've elected were celebrating detty December like they are they ones that provided the grounds for it.

Losers always chase clouth

abis123:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U0zcqsRW-Vw



https://punchng.com/video-i-had-sex-with-him-twice-but-didnt-use-him-for-rituals-hotelier-admits-to-assaulting-16-year-old-boy-in-lagos/


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbqTwcUkVs4
LAGOS SODOMY UPDATE: Suspect Takes Police To Leuven Empire Hotel & Suites, Ejigbo

The most interesting thing is this guy would be a family man with wife and kids. Lots of closet homos in Nigeria causing pain and havoc to both their loved ones and poor victims. Yet all live in denial and feign righteousness.

Omooba77:
https://punchng.com/suspended-rccg-pastor-iluyomade-unveils-new-ministry-in-lagos/

They keep preaching humility, making sheeples compromise etc, castigating anyone who doesn't follow their orders, however whenever they have discords, they very quickly forget all their commands, immediately fall out n go form their own church.

I have witnessed this so many times, several examples globally most specifically in redeem which i was a part of n still know.

Religion as practiced in Nigeria is nothing different to a ponzi

Kobojunkie:
This man can lie ehn! 😩😩😩😩
Babanla o niro ni man yi (this man is a big-time fraudster and liar abeg)! 😩😩😩😩
😩😩😩😩People feared God, lived morally upright lives, and followed His commandments during which olden days? 😩😩😩😩

➜The olden days before or after the Assyrians destroyed Israel more than 3000 years ago?
➜Abi the olden days before the Romans finally decimated the nation of Judea almost 1900 years ago?
➜Abi the olden days before the Roman Empire was taken apart about 1600 years ago?
➜Or was it during the Dark Ages when Christianity and Islam pillaged and destroyed all those who stood in their way and the world was scourged by war and disease?
➜or was it the olden days before Hitler when right after World War I, the great depression hit and World War II followed?
➜Abi na the olden days after the Biafran war?
➜Or the olden days of Babangida and Abacha?
➜Or was it the olden days when Tinubu was governor of Lagos State?

When?😩😩😩😩

My thoughts exactly.... The man spews lies like a rapper spits rhymes

Jewessgratitud3:
Please I need to know if anyone has successfully removed theirs cos that's the next thing on my to -do list.

Now iv been considering this option as the permanent cure for the Monthly discomfort and sickness that comes with menses. After I watched a documentary on tv where a white female doc said the permanent cure for this is to remove the womb. Just don't have an idea how much it would cost but I'm sure it would definitely worth it.

I've noticed that this thing comes with different sickness each month and its always very annoying having to bear too many things at a time. Anemia, pains, discomfort, smell and sicknesses of various kinds. I don't what its doing for me. So let it just go to the gutters! I'm sick if it.! The fact that I hate popping pills to relieve pains is another thing I don't think I wanna continue with.




I WANT TO REMOVE MY WOMB AND BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!!!

looks like what you're after is a full hysterectomy, which any good doctor would consider your age, conditions and future plans before agreeing to.

I wanted same when I was having my second child at 31yrs, for me I was already having elective CS, certain i didn't want anymore children, anaemic, get serious uncontrollable weight gain for contraceptive, plus to have less places cancel can grow in the future. Like why carry organs you no longer need around. however after much consultations and persuasion, we settled on sterilisation (tubes cut, and tied) instead as a full hysterectomy will onset menopause which you may be surprised comes with it's own vices.

i however who's had a full hysterectomy in her 30s but luckily after all her kids, as her body was often growing very large fibroids that caused bleeding etc.

you know your body and the pain, see a doc and take it from there

mariahAngel:
I watched a food blogger fry her eggs with unrefined Shea butter, and it looked really nice and golden, then I thought to myself this actually isn't such a bad idea, after all Shea butter is gotten from Shea nuts, rich in nutrients, and is bound to be healthy, since it melts at body temperature. Hmm! 🤔

I dare say it can even give butter (animal fat) a run for its money. 😌
Shea butter should even be considered edible first, before any other use.

If I could get freshly made food grade Shea butter, I'd be very willing to try it.

Can you cook your meals with Shea butter?
Would you be willing to eat a meal cooked with Shea butter?

Pictures' source: Google.

I remember as a child my stepmom and cook tried frying eggs with adi agbon (coconut oil) and the whole house rejected the food.

Sheabutter even as a topical cream doesn’t have a pleasant smell, i would imagine that smell will also transfer to the food and make it unpalatable.

I guess when one is used to a particular taste and expectation anything different would need getting used to. But to each his own, especially these hard times wey crayfish bend so

chymer:
I would rather stay with Moses through wilderness, Seyi Law reaffirms support for Tinubu

https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/i-would-rather-stay-with-moses-through-wilderness-seyi-law-reaffirms-support-for-tinubu/%3famp

Says the guy whose family are migrants in another man's land. You for bring your family back to experience the shege you're advocating for

thesilentman:
ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

Ps. Paying the CS cost isn't a sacrifice for her, it's for you and the child. She's sacrificed herself to bring a healthy child to life. The least you can do right now is nurse her back to health with a lot of care and love. She may for all you know be suffering from post natal trauma.

Mummyfour:
There are children that would just do things to provoke you, just like some of us did to provoke our parents, some unintentionally though.

Like I have a son whom I love so much, but he can be playful and absent minded at times.

I teach my children to do chores and they really do that without complaining. My youngest son is like the onion slicer whenever food is being cooked. He is fifteen and when his sisters run away from slicing onions, he will always play the role of the super man, even if it means him screaming and slicing the onions and shedding tears while doing so. Sometimes he even runs to the bathroom, wash his eyes and still goes back to continue 🤣🤣

Last week he sliced scent leaves for me, and carefully arranged it in a plate. I carried the bowl of scent leaves and poured straight into the pot of stew without washing it and by the time I realized it, it was already cooking together with my stew.

I called my son to confirm if he washed it and all he could say was "Eeewooo!". He said he thought he washed it. I said how could he have neatly arranged it in a ready to be cooked way without washing and he couldn't answer me. I was angry. Very angry.

He is a diligent boy, always ready to help fix things in the house, but he is the type that will mistakingly pour sugar into a pot of soup, or if you ask him to cook noodles, would use all the pepper in the house and he will end up helping you to eat it, while telling you "sorry o, it wasn't deliberate" ., And probably offer to help cook another one with less pepper or get you something else.(He tries in cooking for his age though)

If you have a child like that or you did that to your parents, let's share our experiences and laugh it out. Every day mustn't be for politics and tribalistic slurs

Mods please push to front page I beg

He might just have adhd! I have a 15 years son who sounds just like yours... Makes numerously unintentional school boy errors. His intention in never spiteful but he makes mistakes, forgets things etc all the time. He takes the most from.me (energy wise) but I love him regardless. As a parent you just so want to fix them so they can function as adults navigating the world

Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

Love is a beautiful thing and trials such as your genotype issues is just one of the tribulations to test your love.

I'd say go for love above all


I have a friend who also let go of her partner due to same issue but time and love brought them together again.

They did the genetic testing for both of their children and luckily both aren't Ss.

I'm your dynamic your chances are 25% AA, 50% AS & 25% SS. The odds 75% is in your favour... And thankful you don't have to worry about the cost of these tests.. So I'd say go for it and hope for the best.

ifyalways:
There is nothing legal or ethical about Spying jare.
Its a pity people claim to be married but YET can't trust their partners without some level of insecurity and "spying" springing up here and there.what happened to communication lines? lost or non- existing If there is fear in marriage,either from one party or both parties,all they need do is talk.Tell s/he your fears,watch his/her body language,watch his reaction,listen to what s/he has to say,open up your heart in a calm enviroment and think through your suspicion and ur partners defence line,look inwards and study your partner well.Before long you'd be faced with the hard truth which are:
You are simply paranoid/have your own insecurities.
Your partner is actually cheating.

I would rather talk about my fears than letting my fears torment me.

Easy to talk, but some partners would deny everything except faced with core evidence hence the need to spy to gather this…

MissOpe:
Be thankful that you're a skilled writer...
Some want to write but have no skills, some have writing skills but they don't even know how to earn from it...

That said, is writing a skill someone can develop or it's a natural gift to those who have it?

Good question. All skills can be learned and developed. Some people can have an adept natural ability whilst others have to develop skills through training and practice.

dre11:
Curriculum In Nigerian Schools Outdated, Overloaded, Lacks Present-Day Development – UNESCO



https://saharareporters.com/2023/05/03/curriculum-nigerian-schools-outdated-overloaded-lacks-present-day-development-unesco

I have been screaming this to no end.

Imagine Short hand still been taught as part of Business studies? in this time and age of coding!!! How is shorthand PBTD relevant to solving today's issues? I tire for nigeria, Poor students

Dearlove2me:
Have you ever been in a situation where you find it difficult to let go even when the situation is not making you happy?

Have you ever been with a partner with bad behavior and they are not ready to change and you're force to divorce and walk away, but deep down, you wish they could change for good, because you want a better life?

Have you ever been in a situation where you constantly nag your partner out of the house,but still wish they're safe. And want them back safely?

What of living with a partner where love, affection romance and all that are absent because your partner's bad character irritate you?

What did you do?

Could this emotional feeling, be a feeling that keeps people in an unhealthy marriage for the rest of their lives?
Did you walk away or did you stay even when you have no solution?

Does divorce really mean you've failed?

Not at all. It takes a whole lot of balls, self awareness and emotional healthiness to walk away from a bad situation. Things change, whatever the cause, the ability to respond healthy should be applauded

[quote author=AndSunGorilla post=121999920]Just for my education, how do you know they were a perfect match sir.[/quote

Every parent and sibling is often a good match. It was proven in court they didn't even consider the selves at all, they'd rather the burden on another.

HomoSapiien:
If Tinubu was a coward, he would not voice one bit about the implication of the kind of frenzy and panic some elements in the current government are trying to activate on Nigerians.

Before the presidential primaries, it was rumored that Malami was supporting Emefiele to clinch the presidential ticket, hence we can always say, since Abba Kyari who was the former owner of Emefiele, died, Malami has taken over in putting leash on his neck and directing him wherever he so will.

Nobody is against the new naira policy but question is, why didn’t the circulate the new notes since it was printed out in December? Why is it now that it’s just barely a week to the deadline that they’re trying to compel everyone to get it from the banks, when actually they’re yet to distribute enough to the banks?

Why should they try to frustrate Nigerians, why should they cause unnecessary panic in the public?

There was no real fuel scarcity for the past 6 years, how come it’s starting now?

Now, Tinubu has shown that he’s ahead, confident and not a coward the more reason why he voiced out yesterday. If it were some Lilly liver politician, he would remain muted while these elements make Nigerians angry at him, but now that he's voiced out, expect this who thing to disappear in a few days.

The cabals (Malami and co) know quite well that should Tinubu president, it'd not be business for them as it currently is with Buhari, they're scared and they probably striked a bargain with Atiku and they're eager to work with him so they can have food on their table again.

Because you can see clearly how fast Atiku campaign team quickly replied back to Tinubu outburst. They never expected he would be bold enough to call out the cabal and they know quite well that with that outburst, their game plan is going down.

Don't forget it was until he voiced out prior the primaries before Buhari's cabal go down low, now he's voiced out again and they'd have no option that to go down low. Watch out!

Fuel scarcity has been on for ages, not once has Tinubu's campaign spoken up on the plights of suffering Nigerians, but suddenly nearer to elections he's singing foul and attempts to sabotage his victory.

GREEDY SELFISH BASTARD.

Ever questioned why he's most affected by new naira? It's supposed to be an election of the best candidate not best escobat rigger. Let your true good works campaign for you

Chrisrare:
It's possible the girl enjoyed it, otherwise she would have struggled and screamed for help.

Please can you change this mind-set. In saner climes thinking, expressing and acting like this will land you in prison faster than you can say your ABC

Ofunaofu:
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https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/01/alleged-graft-treason-tinubu-atiku-seek-each-others-arrest-disqualification/

May both win.

May confusion continue to reign in both camps.

With their own hands, they shall remove themselves from the race and pave way for the much needed emancipation Nigeria needs

jimmychang:
He didn't say rape.It is not hard to say.You want to take the blame of her or what?

There are women who sleep with their sisters husband most times it isn't rape

You're one or you're in every single encounter to know?

I know someone as a teenager living with her sister. Her sisters husband constantly Sexually harassed her. It was so bad, we used to advise and devise ways to avoid him. She couldn't tell both her sister and her family. The hubby was alao well to do and kinda supporting her the wife's familu. You don't know people's circumstances stop generalising and judging.

Knowing very well too, that Nigeria has different definition for rape.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
Hi peeps,

I'm dating this babe I find appealing and I want to get serious with but I have a few concerns:

1. Her mum was married multiple times, had 6 kids for 5 men and ended single.

2. She lost 2 of her brothers.

3. One of her sisters is missing.

4. Her sister's husband slept with her in the past, though her sister never knew.

5. Her siblings and their spouses don't talk to her mom, she's the only one showing her love.

6. Her younger sister was married 10 years ago...

What do you feel guys?

Yorubas have a saying, ninu ikoko dudu nii eko funfun tin jade. (White pap comes from darkened heartened pots).

Also reminds me of the illustrations of a drunken no good father with twins. 1 mirrored the father because that's all he saw and knew and the other turned out totally opposite and was very upright because he saw the devastating dangers of alcohol on his family and was determined to change his narrative.

It's not what's happened to her in the past that matters, it's who she is now. What's her reflection and views of all these. Is she intentional about changing the narrative for herself?

Your girlfriend should also not be responsible to bear the drudge of families woes.

That been said, I'd be surprised if yourself and your entire family line is without blemish. Count yourself lucky if life has been kind 100% to you and your lineage.

Which i truly doubt, I sense you're setting a standard for her without truly reflecting inwards at yours.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your story and your reaction don't make sense to me, so I am afraid I don't understand your anger at all. Projecting your insecurities on your wife is just childish behavior as far as I am concerned.

2. What exactly was she supposed to apologize for? From your story, she didn't do anything wrong that would require her to apologize, so? Or do you think because she is your wife, she is then a mental illness patient that should apologize to you even when she is obviously not wrong just because she is married to you?

I seriously tire ooh at the blatant entitlement and unnecessary authorDictatorship.

You ask her to suddenly change her plans, then blast off her phone like a lunatic, then complain she didn't respond to your erratic phone calls in time.

Then the person you were supposedly missing finally comes home and all you do is nag, rage and ask her to go back to her fathers house, not without reminding her she's your biggest mistake etc. Then expect 'ordinary' sorry from her for YOUR IRRATIONAL behaviour.

Now that she's granted you your wishes and gone back to her father's house, you're still here ranting, 1st i won't give them a dime, To if she stays beyond jan no marriage again to then accepting that perhaps you might just support them financially.

Oga, you're the one that needs to say more than ordinary sorry. You also need to let her know you'd be seeking therapy, but plead with her to please return because you shall no longer be demonstrating such unreasonable behaviour. She should be calling the shots on you not you on her.

And whilst you're at it learn, a civil person would show they miss their loved by telling them so. A simple phone call, text message, babes I'm missing you and the XYZ things you do. I wish you were here right now and i don't know how im gonna survive till sunday without you. Naa the babe hersef go change return date for her family or leave pikin come collect one quick one.

But you're their forming lord of the rings. Now be Lord in your empty house, marry your pot and mattress

amenn500:
ogbeni, me and my family of 4, i spent roughly 30 million, and still spending till now as we dun finally enter. Omo its not for the faint hearted oo.

Haa haa haa catching up on your I'm confused thread.

I hope as you've japa'd you've also left your primitive, commanding/wife banning etc thinking in naija, because naa laugh i go laugh to read your sad tales if you try that kin shenanigan here.

#Justsaying

frozen70:
If truly you are married to her and you have been a respectful and responsible man
You should be able to take charge of your home and wife

If really she disrespect your order, then she is obeying some one else

Forget about apology, your concern should be how to take charge

You started by giving her freedom
End that nonsense by withdrawing the freedom

Do people truly still think and act these ways ��� it's primitive to have words like disrespect orders, withdrawing freedom etc in a marriage btw 2 consenting adults. It's a marriage not a prison, love not hate.

Hathor5:
Tell her why you didn't want her to travel to this particular event. Is it that you feel that you need to spend more time together, that you need her support, that you have an appointment yourself or whatever your reason is?

If she is reasonable, and your reason is, I don't see why you should not reach an understanding.

Agree, and an understanding doesn't have to be an apology.

Your wife is an adult, and despite your vocal preference, she also would have her reasons for going for the event.

You can't simply ask an adult not to do something and expect obidence. An adult isn't a child or an animal, and even these don't always obey commands mind.