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sshola:
Hahahahahahahahahaahah.. .ecerybody come and see o. Twoods yaff show from the blue o
How have you been now? I really missed you bro

haha busy at work and enjoying the spring and summer - road trip time to be honest. Hope you've been "favored"?

With the amount of "God", "grace" and all the other religious mumbo jumbo i read here... one would almost confuse this thread to be a church service of some sort. That makes me wonder, for a country that is so religious, why is it so poor and corrupt?

VajanahDischaj:
u dey reason like APC people? What's the emotion there? He has know the Man I wrote time, the teacher Contributed to what he is today. If na me I go even exchange position when I get appointment letter.

This post makes me really sad. Black people have a problem.

patovicy2k:
What will I say when the VO ask me this question "what is your study plan" ?

You tell him what your study plan is, or don't you have one?

akanbiaa:
1. Jacob against his more qualified brother Esau
2. Hero can mean someone God used to give one a break or life line (He was chosen among many who had more paper qualification )
3. Grace at the right time can bring you out of lack to abundance.
4. This point would have been valid if he had chosen his former teacher based on indices below the minimum job requirements.
You have not told us why you keep hitting the delete button within 5 minutes glance of the applications so others wount make the mistakes you saw and why have a set mind on Nigerians (Kind of no good can come from them) you tested their professionalism and pragmatic prowess by giving them chance of an interview to prove themselves?

I deleted the Nigerian applications asap because frankly they were an embarrassment.

1. PLEASE READ JOB ADVERTS! There is a reason that clear requirements for the job are spelled out. If a job says a masters + 5 years experience or a phd are the minimum requirements, why would you apply if you simply have a bachelor's degree? Unfortunately for the candidates, i do not believe in "grace" or "favor" when it comes to doing my job.

2. Do some research. If you can't even get the correct spelling of the company offering the job then there is no point reading your application. One individual from Lagos even sent me a cover letter whose very heading indicated that he was also applying to another job in a different department! That tells me the individual is either lazy, sloppy or can't be trusted to do a good job. Yep - delete.

3. As the recruitment leader, it is my responsibility to make sure that we recruit the strongest candidate possible who will be a positive influence on the rest of the group. You really don't want to be the guy who recruited your "family" based on "grace" only to end up with an employee whose contribution is far below par.

4. Pay attention to your cover letter. Don't fill it with meaningless buzzwords (a lecturer i know in a Nigerian school did just that - i had to laugh). Be succinct, no one has all day to read a story book. You have basically 2 paragraphs to summarize your skills and tell me why i should hire you over the next guy.

5. Unexplained gaps in your employment or educational history are red flags.

6. Don't put pictures on your resume!

7. Research the company you are applying to first. What sort of applicants do they typically hire? What are their qualifications? Use this to tailor your resume and you have a better shot.

Lagban:
ok thanks for the destructive commment . We are in Nigeria ,pls wake up, the OP took the best decission . Your point is a valid one but it is meant for the developed world. it doesnt work in the Nigerian setting . 9 out of 10 Nigerians will do what the OP has done and you think 1 out of 10 is significant enough to turn things around. we all know the ideal thing but this case is a special one and it is expected to treated in its own way.

I understand your point - 9 of 10 Nigerians are dishonest crooks... which is why the country does not work and perhaps never will. My advice to the 1 out of 10 Nigerians is to simply move out of the country. I did that and have never regretted it one bit.

realone009:
Hello Nairalanders,

My close cousin who was on a student visa just got deported from Canada not to long ago for assault, and he wasn't even done school. According to him, he still wants to travel to somewhere else to study, any ideas of which country he can go to without being refused for the reasons of his deportation? He is thinking of France, Switzerland, or Netherlands. Do you know if these countries will be able to find out about his deportation. Another thing is when he provides a transcript from Canada will they not ask why he left Canada? And if he hides it and decides to start over will these countries (France, Switzerland, or Netherlands) not question the gap years? Please I need some ideas for him. Assist if you can.

He should stay in Nigeria, there are schools there too.

fomelargent:
Hi Guys,

I need some advise please. My family and I are travelling to the US in August primarily for a Family Vacation but my wife will stay back to have our second child. Visas, Hospital and Accommodation have been sorted out - OK. I am now trying to book our travel tickets but I have a concern. I have found a fairly affordable ticket on Emirates Airline but I'm a bit worried with having to transit via Dubai considering the hullabaloo about Donald Trump's Travel Ban (I Know Nigeria is not listed, neither is the UAE but I'm just worried about the current issues in that region i.e QATAR issues).

That said, I just need comments from anyone who has traveled recently to the US via Dubai. Your experience would really help me make this decision as choosing a different airline will increase my tickets cost by almost a million naira. Guys Epp a brother...

P.S.: My entry port to the US will be LAX, Los Angeles CA.

Oshee....

You should be fine. Donald Trump really hasn't changed a thing about immigration rules... for all his noise.

obehivan:
Im so happy. Got my us visa yestrdy at lagos with my mum.. We were nt asked fr a single document.my mum has travld to america bfr n i hvnt. Was givin the visa on a virgin passport. My advice is that fill your ds 160 correctly, have a valid and sincere reason for traveln, pray and be confident

American consular officers don't care for your prayers. If you're honest, you won't need to pray.

Lagban:
GOD BLESS THE OP. God will continue to enrich him in all ramifications . Ignore those who think you did the wrong thing . You will be shocked if they were in charge of the interview. You are a true HERO. You will never lack anything by his grace. God will continue to shower his blessings on you @OP. Dont be discouraged by the ill comments of those whwo think they are MR/MRS PROFESSIONALISM. MAN NO MAN na normal thing .

1. God does not bless dishonesty - obviously you read a different bible. I challenge you to show me where God blessed such.
2. He is no hero - rather he is an example of Nigeria's decline and the lack of integrity among those who call the name of the Lord (mostly in vain).
3. There is no grace to avoid lack - the Lord does not bless evil.
4. Your dismissal of professionalism is why your country isn't going to progress anytime soon. Even if all politicians dropped dead today, Nigeria will not change. The "youths" are just as cavalier with honesty.

Sigh... I just finished reviewing 63 job applications for my employer... many of whom were Nigerians. To be honest, i basically hit the "delete" button for every Nigerian application without more than a 5 minute glance.

Lagban:
The decision you took doesn't depict dishonesty in anyway . it is a favour based on the teacher-student relationship which you both had then. It is a way of showing gratitude. Professional certification is very important tho but in this scenario, you did the right thing .

This is senseless. If this was the OP's private business, where he is free to hire whoever he wants, then perhaps you might have a point. His employer entrusted him with a responsibility based on trust (Proverbs 22:29)... even the bible asks us to be faithful in that which is another's before we can expect to receive that which is ours (Luke 16:12).

The OP has no right to use another man's business as a way to show "gratitude" or grant "favor" to another. His story is the reason Nigeria is in a complete nosedive. What is worse is that we have learnt to couch our corruption in the name of "God".

anthney87:
God has used u. It is now left for him to go about testifying.

Bone that guy up dere telling you it is unprofessional. It is very professional my brother. Imagine someone who did teaching practice wen u were in sec school. Bro now you are a graduate and he is still struggling to get a good job.

Fear God brother. You did the right thing. Even me that graduated 7 years ago and still don't have a job yet was almost frustrated until I decided to go into agriculture.

Imagine that guy own scenario and someone here is saying it is unprofessional. Male I no swear give u o.

God didn't use him...

The problem with Nigerian "christianity" is that it is mostly false. A faith that is not based on the very principles of God Himself is simply empty. For what its worth, the bible is replete with admonishing us about honesty, letting our actions be above board etc.

An "interview" that consisted of 25 minutes of meaningless discussion and 5 minutes to ask him where he worked = to a job, even when there were clearly more qualified candidates? And these are the same people who would whine about how Nigeria is corrupt.

OmoBendel24:
Mall kwa? Use your hotel oh.... Well, I think it ideal that the best areas to book an hotel as a tourist is close to or right around where the attractions are, at least somewhere central and easy to shoot from, they are not always so so expensive as we conclude, you can get some fairly priced ones when you check and search deeper. Sandton for Johannesburg, Manhattan for New York, Central London for the UK, Downtown Dubai for Dubai, etc. Just my opinion though!

You'd be paying through your nose for a good hotel in Trump county.

LadyRia:
Good day please I need help on this over the years I applied thrice and have been rejected tho without my children now I intend to apply with my children husband excluded my mother in law filed for my husband under the f3, married son which has been approved waiting for our priority date to reach. Does it have anything to do with my been refused.
Thank you

Your husband has an f3 application pending. They will simply deny you again.

MsTiitii:
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL. You just proved you are chatting bullshit. Who told you everyone gets the B1/B2 visa, my friend applied this year and got the B2 only. And I have friends that applied for tourism, got the medical visa attached and they have their babies in the Us, no issues with the CBP. You tried so hard to make sense but naaah, it's not working. I will say it again if you have a problem with them authorizing B1 visas without people indicating the need for it on their Ds-160 form, write a letter to the consulate. Don't open your mouth and shout fraudulent. If you have so much problem with how Nigerians storm the US, while not apply for a job with the US border patrol.

People like you validate my decision to quit the zoo called Nigeria. we can blame our leaders all we want, but the problem with Nigeria is the culture and more importantly, its people. Good luck to you. You'll need it in spades.

cumz:
Now, tell me how exactly you felt with response above?, is it mature enough...



Now, mature in this context can be replaced with calm, no ego, free of insults replies.... Do you understand?

I'm still confused but i'll let it go. I read KaptainAfrica's response and there was no shred of ego or insult in it. It seems your idea of "mature" is that people say what you want to hear.

MsTiitii:
If you had sat down to thoroughly read and understand I stated if given the B1 visa also the decision lies with the CBP for her to enter the US.

I have the B1 visa attached to my B2 visa and at no POINT did medicals or health issue come up with my interview. So does that mean I 'fraudulently' acquired my visa. Does that mean I should discard the use of the B1 visa because I didn't ask for it or because it wasn't discussed in my interview?
I will say it again, if she has the B1 visa merged with her B2 visa she can try her luck with entering into the US for childbirth purposes which is also a medical issue
And it's sad that I am having this argument with someone that 'supposedly' lives in Yankee.

Your post is a confused mishmash... let me try again... at the risk of being further abused by you of course...

1. If you had sat down to thoroughly read and understand I stated if given the B1 visa also the decision lies with the CBP for her to enter the US. - this is what you actually said - "Plans change just like the weather. If she has the B1 visa attached to her B2 visa, SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO ENTER THE US FOR MEDICAL REASONS". At no point did you reference the CBP.

2. I have the B1 visa attached to my B2 visa and at no POINT did medicals or health issue come up with my interview. So does that mean I 'fraudulently' acquired my visa. Does that mean I should discard the use of the B1 visa because I didn't ask for it or because it wasn't discussed in my interview? - Actually it seems you do not understand the issue at stake. First, the B1 and B2 visas are no longer separate but are now typically issued together. Whether you wish to go for vacation, business or medical procedures, you will always get the same B1/B2 visa. The difference is in what the VO puts in your record. This record is what CBP reads when you present yourself at the US border to apply for entry. Now if you obtained a B1/B2 visa based on coming for a vacation... when the CBP officer sees you, he/she asks you why you are here in the US. Once you state that you are here to birth (which would also be obvious by the size of your belly!), you immediately put yourself at a disadvantage because that is not what they see on their end as the basis for issuing you a visa by the VO! That is misrepresentation and you'd be lucky to be let in. Even if you get let in, the CBP officer will record that inconsistency against you... when next you apply to renew your visa, the VO interviewing you gets to read that CBP record and will base his decision to renew your visa or not on that.

In your case, your B1/B2 visa was obtained for vacation... as long as that remains your purpose when you get to a border of entry, you don't have an issue.

I think what typically gets lost in discussions like this is that other countries, unlike Nigeria, actually work on strict guidelines and laws. While everyone gets the B1/B2 visa, the bar you need to meet depends on what purpose you indicated at your visa interview. For a tourist visa, you need to prove that you are not an intending immigrant and you have enough ties to bring you back home. For a business visa, of course you'd need to prove that you have genuine business reasons, for medical purposes, the VO must ascertain that you have sufficient funds to pay for your procedure without recourse to public funds. Each time you obtain a visa for vacation and then turn up at the POE for birthing... the CBP officer knows that you did not meet the bar required to obtain the B1/B2 visa for medical reasons... it is why pregnant women get turned back from POEs all the time. I understand that this is hard to understand but not every country is like Nigeria where everything goes.

3. I will say it again, if she has the B1 visa merged with her B2 visa she can try her luck with entering into the US for childbirth purposes which is also a medical issue - I will repeat again... the B1 is a temporary BUSINESS visa and the B2 is a TOURIST visa... neither are specifically issued for medical reasons.

4. And it's sad that I am having this argument with someone that 'supposedly' lives in Yankee. - what is actually sad is that you don't even understand the meaning and/or terms of the visa you claim to have obtained. Considering i don't need visas to enter the US, its sadder that i know about them better than you.

cumz:
A guy can't remember his username now came here, asked a question, said all his life story and all what KaptainAfrika said was Sorry you don't qualify shi, you just killed this guy, there are more mature ways of telling someone, what's thier to guide a fellow Nigerian, why not just calm your egoistic balls down and just tell him in a more comforting way,

I'm genuinely intrigued... what is the "mature" way of telling someone they are not qualified for something?

I'm usually bemused by the misuse of grammar that occurs on these boards.

MsTiitii:
You need to calm down when replying people. Seriously, this forum is now looking childish because of the constant bickering and insults. Most women don't even know they are pregnant until they are 7-8weeks gone, especially if it is her first pregnancy. Someone can take a visa for the sole purpose of vacation and end up using the visa for urgent medical needs such as transplant and so on. Plans change just like the weather. If she has the B1 visa attached to her B2 visa, SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO ENTER THE US FOR MEDICAL REASONS.
Don't you think the VO's realize it's too much for stress for people to have B2 visa then come back again to ask for B1 visa because of medical issue, hence their decision to MERGE the two visas together.
It is not your place to call her fraudulent or bash her, she asked a question if you cannot reply with patience then jump of a bridge. Don't be rude. It's for this reason a lot of people send me private messages because they are scared people like you will bash them on the thread. See I don't know how many times you have entered Yankee or what but it's mostly people with nothing that shout as much as you do. Have a blessed day.

I've been on this forum for a very long time... long enough to remember when the religion, politics and family sections were filled with mature individuals, a time when you'd find lengthy threads filled with substantive debates (and funny fights too). Now all we've got are frauds, the immature and people like you who support a culture rife with mediocrity and a disdain for honesty... no surprise even you realise how childish it is. You simply need to look in the mirror to see the problem.

But i digress... now to your post...

1. Plans change just like the weather. If she has the B1 visa attached to her B2 visa, SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO ENTER THE US FOR MEDICAL REASONS - There are two errors here. First no non-US citizen has a right to enter the US at any time. You should read up on the terms of your visa. It simply allows you to apply at your nearest US border to apply for entry. The decision on whether to let you in or not is decided, not by your visa, but by the CBP at the border. Second, it is imperative that you enter the US for the purpose of which you originally obtained your visa. You cannot obtain a visa for vacation purposes, then change your mind and decide you have the right to enter the US for medical reasons. The US is not your country, you do not pay taxes to it... you have a right to seek medical attention in your own home country only

2. Don't you think the VO's realize it's too much for stress for people to have B2 visa then come back again to ask for B1 visa because of medical issue, hence their decision to MERGE the two visas together. - First, please understand what the visas are for. The B1 visa used to be a temporary business visa, while the B2 is the tourist version. I'm perplexed by this comment. Why should VOs care about the stress of getting a US visa when you can easily have a vacation in your home country and there are standard hospitals where you can have your baby? Even if the VOs care, do you think CBP gives a damn? The visa is only given for medical reasons AFTER you have demonstrated the capability to pay for whatever medical procedure you seek. Obtaining a B2 visa on the pretext of vacation is an attempt to circumvent the normal process of having a VO review your medical correspondence with the hospital and that you demonstrate that you will not resort to public services here in the US.

3. Someone can take a visa for the sole purpose of vacation and end up using the visa for urgent medical needs such as transplant and so on. - unless this was declared during your visa interview, this is misrepresentation and is the reason many get turned down for visa renewals. Please see the birthing thread for numerous painful examples. As is well known, you can get urgent medical needs met in your own home country or elsewhere where health care is actually much cheaper.

4. It is not your place to call her fraudulent or bash her - If a question is basically fraudulent in nature, it is responsible to call you out on it. This attitude is why finding $48m buried in Ikoyi is common place in your country where >70% live on less than $1 a day.

5. It's for this reason a lot of people send me private messages because they are scared people like you will bash them on the thread. - most likely because they are looking for less than honest means of beating US immigration. I for one i'm glad they don't post here. Posts like that make the rest of us look bad, you should not encourage it.

6. See I don't know how many times you have entered Yankee or what but it's mostly people with nothing that shout as much as you do. - I don't need to "enter yankee"... i live here, pay taxes here and follow the law.

i wish you God's blessings too.

Terminalia:
Hello house, pls I'm in a fix now and I need some clarification. my hubby and I got a visa for vacation in February, we really wanted to go for vacation then but due to the dollar scarcity, we shifted it. mid March, I was confirmed pregnant. mind u, I wasn't asked if I was pregnant during our interview and neither did I know I was pregnant den. now, I'm 3 months gone.
The issue now is my hubby and I planned going for the vacation next month (may) den I can go for childbirth later but I was told today at my office that I can't take my annual and maternity leave together in a year.
So now, I don't know what to do. can I go for childbirth later with a letter of intent since I wasn't asked if pregnant then? what are the options available for me now as I'm really confused. gurus in the house, over to u.

Let me get this math right...

You got a visa in february... give or take 4 weeks lead time to apply for the visa, you would have applied around January of this year.

You could not go for a vacation in february because of dollar scarcity... hence you shifted your "vacation", which was the basis for your visa.

Mid march, you were confirmed pregnant.

As at April 18, you are 3 months pregnant... which means you took in around January ending or at worst, early february.

Considering pregnancies do not happen by accident, you were actively trying to have a baby at the same time you applied for a visa for a "vacation", which you mysteriously could not take in February.

Now you would like to have your baby in the US - which, give or take, would be in 6 months time.

How certain are you that dollar scarcity (the very reason you could not take your "vacation" in february) would be over in 6 months?

Now that birthing will cost you at least 3x what it would have cost to have a "vacation" in february... why do you think you'll have the dollars for birthing in 6 months that you could not raise for a "vacation"?

Yes, you were not asked if you were pregnant at your visa interview... but a VO is not obligated to ask you. the burden is entirely on the visa applicant to be truthful at all times.

Well, don't be confused my dear... here is what you should do. You'll be a good christian, be entirely honest with yourself and have your baby in Nigeria. By that time, dollar would be less scarce, you'd still be able to go for a "vacation" (as you originally planned)... and best of all, you won't end up at the POE and be viewed as a fraud who deliberately committed misrepresentation for the express purpose of obtaining a visa by less than honest means. This way, you won't need a letter of intent (which is basically a useless piece of paper by the way) and you won't need to be here claiming to be "confused" and looking for strategies.

There... problem solved! you'll thank me next time...

Pepe27:
Good Pm my dear NairaLanders,

I just heard about this forum and have read a couple of the past trends.

I am quite excited about getting your response on my issue.

Hubby and I just got our B1/B2 visa and we also intend to birth our baby in the US.

Although our intent for the application was Vacation as we just got married.

I am 16wks gone and have heard so many stories of pregnant women being bounced at the point of entry.(Please how do I go about this.)

I have also been advised to write the embassy of my additional plans or go through New york .

My fellow members pleas what would be the best strategy to adopt.

Thanks as u reply..

Pepe 4 Real

You should not be formulating strategies to beat US immigration. Kindly have your baby in Nigeria then go for a vacation whenever you want. Next time, be honest when it comes to your reasons for applying for a visa.

cumz:
Are you God?

The VO is your god. Sorry, prayer and fasting does not grant visas. Honesty, ties and having a legitimate reason to travel are much better reasons to get a visa.

esteeino13:
Pls Guys My Dad And I Are Traveling For My Uncle Wedding(my Dad's Brother Wedding) In Texas, I Just Graduated And Awaiting Service(nysc) While My Dad Is A Technician With Amf Facilities. D Truth Is That My Dad Earn Less Than 60k A Month Bt His Other Brother That Stay And Work In New York Said He Will Sponsor Us. Now My Ques

1. Can I Use Nysc As A Tie?
2.My Father Younger Broda Is The One Sponsoring Us,does My Dad Stil Need His Statement Of Acct?
3.Am 25 And My Dads 60 And We Have No Travel Xperience,except Ghana By Road?
4.Pls Rate Our Chances Of Getting It.
Thank U All

1. Yes you can.
2. Yes, you should ask for your other uncle's statement of account too.
3. You should consider traveling to Chad to establish more travel history.
4. Your chances are closer to 0%. But no harm in trying.

Terminalia:
Hello house, pls I'm in a fix now and I need some clarification. my hubby and I got a visa for vacation in February, we really wanted to go for vacation then but due to the dollar scarcity, we shifted it. mid March, I was confirmed pregnant. mind u, I wasn't asked if I was pregnant during our interview and neither did I know I was pregnant den. now, I'm 3 months gone.
The issue now is my hubby and I planned going for the vacation next month (may) den I can go for childbirth later but I was told today at my office that I can't take my annual and maternity leave together in a year.
So now, I don't know what to do. can I go for childbirth later with a letter of intent since I wasn't asked if pregnant then? what are the options available for me now as I'm really confused. gurus in the house, over to u. lady Guinevere, kaptainafrika etc, over to u.

Your entire story here is basically a fraudulent one.

1. You applied for a visa for a "vacation" in february but mistakenly happened to get pregnant barely 4 weeks later? Since you're 3 months gone in April, it suggests you took in as early as february or earlier... which likely suggests you were actively trying well before your "vacation" plan. Methinks you definitely planned to get pregnant and you should have declared that at your visa interview. Thankfully, VOs now read through these sort of ridiculous stuff.

2. If you could not go for your "vacation" in february because of dollar scarcity, why then are you now able to go for childbirth barely 6 months later... when the dollar won't be any more available and at a significantly higher cost than if you had simply gone for a vacation as you claimed?

3. It sounds like you've learnt the trick - apply for a visa while actively trying for a baby, go for a "vacation" so as to claim to have used your visa for the intended purpose, then send a "letter of intent" to the embassy before proceeding for your real goal - to go to the US to have a baby. FYI - letters of intent are now as useless as the paper they are written on - precisely because of frauds like you who have abused it thoroughly.

4. Yes you weren't asked if you were pregnant at your visa interview... but you knew that you were actively trying, you should have been honest then.

5. You're not confused, you're simply looking for someone to validate your fraudulent actions.

Unfortunately stories like yours are what makes me strangely agree with people like Afonjaboston... the earlier the US does away with Jus solis, the better... if you have a baby in the US, he/she should only get the passport of the birth parents. Soon you'll be here asking if your child can now access "free" medicaid and creche... the things i have read on these pages... why a regular Nigerian cannot be straightforward, ever, is beyond me.

kevweflex:
Hmm, a lot has changed here, or it's just so different here. Way back in the DV section, so much love there. Thank you OmonBendel or whatever the name is.

and that "love" has gotten you were? Your country is a cesspit... despite all the "love".

OmoBendel24:
Where's worry359 sef? Miss you oh! @Twoods, have you seen WORRY lately ?

lol if i knew where he was, i'd tell you.

reniduke:
How is her inquiry now termed fraud when the person is simply asking for information that you know but she doesnt know. You have accused her of fraud when she has not actually done or attempted to do the said act?

Let's be frank, the only reason the "fraud" hasn't happened is because folks have a decent respect of the US system and the fact that you will likely be traced through the system and affect your chances of getting a visa in future. If this deterrent did not exist, far more here would happily abuse the system! The fact that we even think to use a system for free, that you know you have not paid into, is the problem. Spare us the sanctimonious preaching.

Nothing works in your country... and it's this type of mentality that is to blame.

helpyom:
It's well bro I pray God touches our heart as humans.
God knws humanly efforts I have done my best I heard about Germany studies about schs there accepting my grades I saved little i went and did German A1 course language after the A1German language course i did I was told i have to have a blocked acct of €8,000 I turned back cos no one was there to help deposit such still tried applying for Norway wen i heard money deposit didn't push again.

Which effort haven't i made,or is it Canada I applied last yr I got admission for Jan studies in a sch in one of the island.Same issue no help keep asking God how long seeing this dreams want to fade off .

You didn't seem to plan well. Studying hard and making excellent grades in school would have given you a leg up - at least you'd be able to find full scholarships abroad. You remind me of many of my college mates who laughed and partied while the rest of us holed up in the library all day... well as my father used to say - life is a choice... you either study when you should study and play when its all done, or play when its time to study and spend a lifetime regretting your decision.

imperiouxx:
Can you just stop using the crossed word here? It's vulgar and unacceptable among the educated blacks. He said "if" and if yours is legit, I don't see how what he said should infuriates you. And let's get you right, do you mean you can 'clearly sponsor' a student that has to pay about $23,000/yr for tuition? If you mean you can help with a statement of account for visa purpose, SOA won't pay the actual tuition. So this is just a waste of time.

Desperate thread followers should just be aware of this kind of help. It won't solve your problem a bit but only compound it.

Enough said... i find if funny when i read wannabes here use that clearly derogatory term.

AfonjaBoston:
Artefact of a natural process? Seriously?
It is funny how you try to tweak and adjust your motive

How many of such students (not just Nigerians but foreign nationals) stay in long term marriage relationship with these category of "friends" you are talking about?
The truth of the matter is there is data out there that shows only very few foreign nationals; whether on F1 or any other non-immigrant visa stay married to citizens for less than 5years after obtaining immigration benefit

You know how many times in a year i hear people without fear throwing "pay for play" offers in my face . It is DISGUSTING
and Africans are the worst CULPRITS

The moment the government increases the wait time from the average 2years to 6-8years , you will begin to see the chaff in the wheat

Im confused as to why you're getting so hyper defensive. I used the term "legitimately" deliberately. If you live here 5 years or more and you fall in love with an American, is that pay to play? Should you be forced to go back to Nigeria to find a spouse? Your anecdote is just that, an anecdote. My brother has been happily married 7 years with 1 kid, my best friend - 7 years with 2 kids, a good school mate - 5 years with 2 kids. Just because you're surrounded with crooks does not mean the rest of us are interested in bending the rules for immigration benefits. I don't have people throwing such in my face, they wouldn't dare... and most of them are professionals who don't need it, you'd be best advised to change your circle.

uzyfine:
still searching for cheap ticket, that are not smiling at all, i plan leaving by June but that depends a friend promised free accommodation in Dallas but she has to talk to mum in law first, still waiting for her feedback

Considering the number of horror in-law stories I've read here, you might want to consider getting your own place for peace of mind.

AfonjaBoston:
I have no idea what you talking about, it requires an amendment to change it and if DT can put the same energy he uses to tweet in lobbying Congress you will be shocked at how many congressional units will be in support of it.

America is too fucking lenient.

Let this country act like the UK and Australia for once

Be careful. You come across as someone who resents new Nigerian immigrants to the US because you've got yours. If you were Nigerian, would you support this argument you're making?

I agree with you though, that the US needs to toughen up its rules. Permanent residence by marriage is going nowhere, but the idea of obtaining citizenship for a child simply because he/she was born on US soil needs to go.