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There's absolutely nothing you can do to keep a man unless he wants to be kept. No go kill yourself

This is wickedness

How can a woman be this foolish, inconsiderate and unremorseful. You are calling God now after your deeds have been found out? It's the audacity for me. Instead of you to be rolling on the floor begging your husband for forgiveness for your stupidity, disrespect and deceit, you're calling God.

If I were your husband I will not just divorce you, I'll sue you for emotional battery, fraud and whatever I can find to throw at you. Nonsense, it's high time men begin to seek justice for paternity fraud. When one woman has been used as a scapegoat, women will learn to close their legs. Useless woman

Ahah then when a woman gets caught like this, she is remorseful, she looks for where to hide but now this idiot is here claiming the man is overeacting. I no blame you, na cause them never use cord overreact for your body. Nonsense

DyshApp:
Reality TV star, Natacha Akide, better known as Tacha, has stated that in order to obtain the ring they desire, ladies should date three men instead of only one.

video:

stop dating 1 man https://t.co/EutbjXdCeI pic.twitter.com/XSbiwqUbSb

— TACHA🔱🇬🇭 🇳🇬 (@Symply_Tacha) January 3, 2024

The media personality posted a list titled “5 Things to Stop Doing in 2024” on social media.

However, Tacha stated in the video that was uploaded to her Instagram page that women should stop dating a single man and that it is better for them to date three, as one of the three will ask them out.

She advised that it was important for people to stop worrying about what others thought of them and ask their man for money because being a good girl was not the best option.

She also stated that people should stop letting themselves down and not take anyhowness from others in the new year.

Tacha said,

“Stop dating one guy. If you want that ring, sis, date at least three guys. If Martins doesn’t pop the question, Eze would, and if Eze does not ask the question, Femi would.

Stop letting yourself down. Thirdly, who gives a damn if people like you or not? Ask that man for money. Lastly, no gree for anybody.”

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And which ring have you secured by dating 3+ men and billing them excessively? Nonsense

Gadafii:
Two broke people are dating, but na the girl be the understanding one?

What ever a girl means by she built with her man, I need girls to stop that nonsense and stop building themselves as well, because with or without you a serious man will build himself

In my opinion a woman can help build a serious man both mentally and financially, still be a supportive and understanding girlfriend when things are not really going well for him.
However where women miss it is when they fully focus on helping the man build and put their lives, dreams and aspirations on hold.

When the man is finally made and he leaves them they become bitter and cry out because in the end they are left with nothing.

women should learn to be greedy and selfish when it comes to pursuing their goals and ambitions and when you help a man build in the process it should be a selfless and genuine act and not because you hope to gain something out of it.

Jerkbaba:
Everytime i see all these stupid men taking all these regular girls on outings i just laugh! They think they're the first to fvuck that pussy! . They dont know these prostitutes in disguise that call themselves church girl have twice the body count of that of olosho even ashawo & olosho combine together! Regular girls are the worst predenters ever! And for some off you that don't know who regular girls are, let me define that for you! Regular girls (Ashawo in disguise) are the type of girls you find in banks, churches, or any other work place and even homes living with their parents that pretend to be virgins and holy! They are the worst type of females you'll ever meet in this life! If most of them open up to you and tell you their body count, you will never believe it! . That's why i hate them so much! It's only olosho i fvuck when kongi come my way! For you stupid men dating all these regular girls, my advise for you is end it there & now! They're playing you! Know this and know peace!

Did someone break your heart? Why are you profiling an entire gender? If you feel regular girls are worse then by all means go date and marry an olosho make we sef breathe

Animegirl:
"I don't know if I'm the bad person here, but ever since I decided to treat people the way they treated me, I realized most people can't handle what they dish out.

So this guy was the first to approach me, and our chat was going well until he started taking a lot of time to respond to my messages, always saying he was busy. In response, I decided to reciprocate the energy by not responding to his messages and focusing on my own life.

Later, he reached out on WhatsApp to confirm something, but I purposely delayed my response. When I eventually replied after a day, I explained that I was busy with my online classes, which was true.

Now, when I called and texted him back, he saw my message, read it, but didn't respond. I find that attitude unpleasant, and I'm unsure if he's testing my feelings, but I don't appreciate it.

This is just childishness. You should learn to ask questions, what if he was busy with work or he's going through alot at the moment. Try to find out why he takes long to respond, show interest in his daily activities, set out a date for you guys to meet so you can ascertain if truly you guys vibe very well or click. You may be surprised that you misjudged the situation.

Trust me it doesn't take much to get and keep a man's attention.

Felimax:
Till date i swear you won't believe this i still receive in totality every Kobo of her salary into my account. From the moment we started dating. Till date! Even when i was jobless! Do you believe?
The honest truth is there are still lot's of women like that. A lot of guys are so blinded with what they want instead of what they need and that is where their problem is.

When we were dating she was so tiny and yanshles and people often make mockery of us but if you see her figures today, no surgery o. My God! Sometimes i get so out of my mind and soon as i meet her in the kitchen omo leave o, na better rushing.. Lol!

Chaaaaai I love reading comments like this, may God continue to bless your marriage sir. Atleast men will read them and see that not all women are gold diggers and ho.es and that a good woman can add so much value and blessing to a man's life.

luminouz:
Are you sure? 🙄

Lol very very

I think you have been scammed. Transparency is key in business and you don't even know where the location of your business is... Chaaaaai kpele o

pleasureosondu:
Girls do this easily but guys don't. Why?

Any girl that tries this with me will see God. Disgusting

While it is true that women do have cravings during pregnancy and heightened sense of smell, "some" women use it as an avenue to control and make unnecessary demands from their spouse and it's not nice.

In the end, men try to attend to the cravings within your power and make her understand the ones you cannot attend to. I remember when my mum was pregnant for my brother, my dad and I take turns in preparing noodles or even heating up dinner left overs for her to eat almost every night for 4 months. Some of the attributes that make up a good marriage is tolerance, understanding and support.

PerfectJUSTICE:
Good morning guys. I met this lady some years back and one thing led the other we started living together. She is from north central why I am from the east. At first it was just sex but somehow it started developing to feelings (from her end though). The sex was so good that she became pregnant. She finally gave birth to a beautiful girl but we kept staying together. God knows I should have married her but I saw signs that I was very scared to commit my future with her kind...yes..her kind. She was too temperamental to the extent that whenever she's angry she goes for the kill. She once used a knife on my face that left a scare even till today. I can't count properties she has destroyed whenever that demonic anger is on her and she's extremely jealous. Her jealousy have pushed her one time to make me sleep outside in the cold even when I wasn't guilty of her accusation. It got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to tell her to go. I didn't know that was just the beginning of what she has in store for me.

The day I told her to go and that I am fed up, I left for work only to return to an empty apartment. She moved everything from the house and left just the rug for me. I cried. I tracked her to her sisters place and saw her but I didn't see any of my property. I wanted to take it up with her but some people adviced me that it was ok she left with the property than with my life. I left her and started afresh but I didn't stop caring for my daughter who is 5. I was still paying her school fees and still fed her (or will I say them). Truthfully this lady is not from a rich home. The mum and siblings are still in the village struggling.

I woke up to a new year call on the very first day of this year to hear that my daughter is now in the village with her struggling grandma and will not be returning anymore. I almost passed out. How? Why? She said if I needed to see my daughter again I should go to the village that she wanted to live a free life.

See what cohabitation have caused me. I feel depressed. Pained. The village doesn't have access. No network. I can't even reach anybody. I'm so very frustrated. What your advice please

NB: For those saying it's fiction because I wrote the village is inaccessible. A village where you will have to park your car and continue the rest of the journey with a boat is it easily accessible? A village where you will have to come outside before you can make or receive a call would you say that the village have network? Please I didn't come here to right you a fiction. This is real. If I show you a picture of me like now you will understand I'm practically loosing it. I only need your sincere advice hence I wrote this.

Am really sorry you're having to go through this, pls take heart. How ever, what has happened has happened. Pls get enough money, find a way to beg your ex's sister to take you to the village so you can bring your daughter back

If the sister refuses to help try and find out the name of her village in particular, her name and surname. One thing about a village is that everybody seems to know everyone. Get enough money and journey there yourself, ask questions and directions, you will definitely find her family or people who know them.

If your mum is in the city with you, you can take your daughter there and see her from time to time. So she can receive the proper care and education she deserves.

Pls take heart and be a man, all is not lost yet

reddingtonblack:
If the man decides to flaunt his money in her face you can't blame the woman, sometimes we Men can be so foolish when it comes to pussy matter ... even when red flags is as obvious as traffic light at maryland round about

A gurl that is angry just seeing his face will definitely put up rash behaviours that should trigger a rethink in the man's head but some men think "Money" supercedes everything

Men that ignore red flags deserves whatever heartbreak they see, as long as the lady made it clearly she is not interested chop his money naa god sent father xmas

Sir/ Ma read her post carefully, she has only being "rude" to the man which some men see as initial gragra before the woman mellows down. I doubt she has clearly and specifically told him she wants nothing to do with him if not he's not stupid he would have left her alone.

The op is not being honest with her self and she sees him as a mugu all because of his money. If she really wanted him out of her life he would be gone by now.

That a man is generous to a woman financially doesn't mean he should be taken for Granted or as father Christmas. He is just part of the already dwindling population of men who still believe a woman should be pampered, showered with love, care and money and treated right.

Global warming

Men in all thy doings make money, make dem no knack your wife with your consent. Nonsense

Some women no just get conscience

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Seeing his face makes you angry but his pocket doesn't abi? Why then did you accommodate his financial generosity in the first place if you know you never wanted to have anything to do with him? That's not nice.

If you were in your mid or late 30s I doubt you'd be talking about face and height but in the end it's your choice. Throw away a good man, who takes care of you, tolerates you and treats you well.

Pls find a way to let go of him since his physical attributes are a deal breaker for you. I just hope he will be this good and nice to the next girl he meets despite your attitude towards him.

P.S next time if you know you don't like a man don't eat a dime from him, reject his gifts and don't give him bad attitude abeg so you don't ruin things for the next girl.

dauntless15:
Oh, like that auto debit stuff Right.

Exactly, I think that'll be better, you can even use apps like piggyvest, Opay and many others

dauntless15:
The interest isn't much, it feels like a waste of time.

The aim is for you to save "a portion of your income" to cultivate the habit of saving not for their meagre interest rates

dauntless15:
I made over 3million, saved nothing, mind you I didn't keep record of what I made, it's hard keeping track of it, I only record my spending and e pass 5 million, my Uba acc alone is 3mil outflow, and I have six other bank accs, I don't even know how to save, and it's killing me inside.

Fixed deposits should help, from Jan you can start locking small portions of your income every month, you'd be surprised at how much you'll save by the end of the year. I plan on doing same

You should not beat a woman because of fear of being cursed or something but because you have self respect and dignity as a man. Trust me there are other means of resolving conflict rather than beating a woman.

The pen is indeed mightier

eyesoflagos:
As a woman you no need get sense or handwork, just get yanch then you are good” — TikTok influencer

A Nigerian lady on TikTok, who identified herself as Crazy Shock, made a statement about what women need to have aside from sense and handiwork.

In a video that gained attention online, she expressed that as a woman, having sense and handiwork isn’t really necessary; all that’s important for a lady is to have a big backside. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

TikTok influencer.

She made this statement in the video while showing off her body and backside.


https://eyesoflagos.com/2023/12/30/as-a-woman-you-no-need-get-sense-or-handwork-just-get-yanch-then-you-are-good-tiktok-influencer/

cc: mynd44 , Nlfpmod , Seun

Big yansh abi? Until you are broke at 40 because you used the holosho money for wig and handbag, no husband, no kids, men start seeing you as old cargo then you will come back and tell us the use of the yansh. Nonsense!

Jennyclay:
Nigerian is a country where all men are woman beater and rape apologists. We have a sick system.

A woman will endure all manner of physical and sexual abuse in her marriage and Nigeria society will still tell her to remain in that rubbish marriage.

But when a woman is tormenting her man in the marriage/relationship these same Nigeria society would tell the man to send her packing and get a new wife.

Bunch of hypocrites!!

After enduring rubbish from a man in Nigeria and he mistakenly carried me to a society that works, i will definitely revenge a thousand times.

What you have just done is profile an entire gender and that is very wrong... If we are to be fair do you know that there are women who abuse their husbands too both physically and mentally? What do you have to now say about a nagging wife? Is that also not abuse?

If ever you find yourself in an abusive relationship as a woman it is better to flee for safety. That is why it is advisable to look for the red flags in a relationship, even though no one is perfect, know the ones you can tolerate and the ones you cannot before marrying.

Every marriage has it's trying times and there are still Nigerian couples abroad who are living a happy married life and the fact that they don't come out on social media to broadcast it doesn't mean they don't exist

Besides why nurture and harbour hatred for your spouse in your heart waiting till you get abroad to take vengeance when you can just leave🤷 Omo this life na one oo, make sure to enjoy every bit of it

My gender oooo why?

Oh I pity the husband to be, imagine spending millions for wedding only to marry 2 rounds 8k ashawo. God punish her. Nonsense

These are the kind of things men see online and offline that will now make men see us as things to be used and tossed. May God help the few good women still left who knows the value of a good man in her life

Hmmm

I won't just pass judgements immediately, I still have questions to ask

For the one year you guys have dated and even lived together, what has she contributed to your life financially and psychologically, were you more happy before she came or after, why did you force her to announce her intentions of marriage to her people?

For her to confidently tell you she could leave if you're not happy with her in your home means she's still very much in communication with her ex and is willing to throw your relationship in the mud in a split second for another man.... I don't want to assume they have been doing more than just talk and chat

After seeing all these red flags are you willing to accommodate these excesses in marriage because in the end the decision lies with you, you will not be forced or pressured

My honest opinion is if you still love her and see yourself marrying her in the future, for now just give each other space, things are looking forced at the moment, find out more about this ex that she's still communicating with ( you may be shocked at what you find), in the area of cooking exert your will as a man, if she refuses to cook, insist on it if not as you have started it so shall you continue

Don't give a woman the opportunity to play you because she has hot head and can shout, she will see you as weak, use and dump you. Women love men with power and control(not abusive) but a man who exerts his authority as a man and the head of the house.

In the end it looks like you guys are going through the POWER STRUGGLE phase.

smalldivk111:
Please your thoughts are needed….. there is a 15 year old girl crushing on me and I have talked with her we are about to do the do but I’m just having a retrospect about the whole thing


Should I continue?

Statutory rape, pls flee

SeaTrade:
I think marriage was imposed on humans for reasons best known to its creators.
Men want more women,women want more men.
You give this,you lack that ,etc...
Is it something I'm excited about?No.
Will I do it?Well maybe,time shall tell.
Am I scared about it?Yes.
Will I trust my spouse?Well I honestly don't know but I highly doubt it.
It's hard to completely trust a person cos along the line,you'd get disappointed one way or the other,
The only reason a lot of people still trust their unions is ignorance,shine a little light to the dark and all hell breaks lose.
I've learnt to tolerate some excesses and ignore a lot as I grow older when it comes to this whole union thing,just give me my space abeg and don't be all up in my face as I won't do same to you.
If you want to have more,feel free cos I won't even investigate,just don't bring back diseases to pass to me cos I'd kill you honestly.

I think whether you trust or not the pain of heart break is still the same however, you should define the boundaries of what disappointment is to You and you look for those flags in a relationship.
if ever you are ready for marriage be intentional in recieving as much as you give because you deserve it.

StrongAlphMale:
It's beats my imagination how a broke girl doesn't see herself as being broke, she believes the broke guy is the reason why she's broke and hence doing a favour by dating him.

Broke girls are highly delusional.

As a man never let any woman see dating you as doing you a favour, carry yourself with respect, dignity and pride and no woman will ever take you for granted.

Women love men who are no nonsense and are in control of the relationship, money or not. The initial gragra is to test and see if you are a SIMP or not so they will " mugulize" and dump you, no woman will submit to a weak man with low standards.

As long as men keep upping the standards then woe to any woman who keeps thinking that way.

StrongAlphMale:
A broke girl dating a broke guy believes she's doing him a favour.

A broke girl doesn't believe she's broke. she just believes the broke guy is the cause of her misfortune.

A broke girl doesn't see a guy who's rich as a guy above her class, she believes she's on the same level with him.

A broke girl is delusional

Omo not anymore o. Gone are those days when men expect nothing from a woman. Now aways men are now wiser, they have upped the standards, they now see themselves as the prize which is a good thing.

Now girls are not just expected to get a certificate and lazy about but actually get it and find something doing too ( handwork) so now a broke girl seeing herself in light of what the OP posted is just delusional, hunger is knocking at her door unless she's into hookup which is just sad and reeks of laziness and low self esteem.

luminouz:
Why not divorce your bf and lemme marry you ehn? You have a good head on your shoulders!!!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

LilMissFavvy:
Hmm, so you are still waiting for Miss. Perfect?

As for the Op, my advice is that your brother should think of the attributes of this lady. Does she have good characteristics? If she loves him, is well mannered, etc, then he can forgive her and marry her. If she doesn't possess other good attributes, then he can let go. There is no perfect human and mistakes happen.

There is absolutely no attribute to look for here, she lacks respect and manners and this was NOT a mistake.

She even said it's not a big deal, that's just pride and being unremorseful. If she truly loves him she would never disrespect him that way. She will not even compare an Instagram model to her fiance, she will cherish him and hold him in high esteem.

The right thing to do here is part ways and look for a lady who is ready to marry because that girl clearly isn't.

Mysteriousworld:
A younger brother of mine saw a message on his finances phone.
She sent a message to a guy on instagram, telling him she likes his lips and feels like kissing him.
Now shes claiming its not a big deal, that she doesn't even know the guy, that hes just an instagram model...(its true she doesnt know him,and have never met him).
But my brother doesnt feel good about it, he asked for my advice, and i decided to put it here for him to see himself.

Pls is this a red flag... Or not much of a big deal. The wedding is in February.

What nonsense!!

This is the height of disrespect! How can she say it's not a big deal? It's one thing to fantasize about a model in your thoughts but to now take action and send a message is just way out of line...what if he now responds back she will drop her fiance even if it was for a one night stand... Foolish woman

This wedding should be called off ASAP, the fiance should invest the millions he intented for the wedding in a viable business that will yield profit rather than waste in on a hook up girl. He should be grateful he found out this one, only God knows how many messages have been deleted overtime.

A good man should never settle for less.