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OkpaNsukkaisBae:
You're just lusting after the guy. Maybe you should allow d guy to fvck u real good. Daz what you need.

hehehe in her mind/head she has slept with that guy countless times, and she already made up her mind and there is nothing any of us we say that can change that..

She nu even want rls she just bringing this up so to make us feel she is the good girl type...she also wants to fvck the guy even more.

Fear ladies, they like fvck more than guys but are very good with pretending. She know say I they talk truth, I even they feel say that day the guy kpansh am or at the time of this comment she don go do come already.

Sometimes this man dey make sense oooo



Delilah I twale for you

Queen of Slay

ednut1:
If na by prayer why are some pastors divorced. Marriages these days are failing because women are refusing to endure shits their mothers endured. Last last marriage na scam

The fact that some pastor's marriages failed does not in anyway reduce the efficacy of prayers in marriage. Its one of the greatest key to move the marriage to the height that you desire cos God instituted marriage and by praying believing, you are simply telling God come and help us in this institution that you instituted.

The reason for marriage failure cannot be attributed to women alone, there are three parties to every marriage, God, the man and the woman. God's part is sealed so its left for the man AND the woman to play thier part in order to experience marital bliss.

And lastly, marriage can never be a scam, its just human interpretation of it, marriage is still very honourable, for individuals who are willing to the right thing in marriage.

TonyeBarcanista:
You are a man but you can't take charge of your relationship? You admitted that your GF friend is the real boss of your relationship! You had to bring it here to whine? The question is, ARE YOU REALLY A MAN?

In the days of our fathers when men were men, their fiancées and wives look up to them to get approval before taking any action irrespective of whatever counsel they get from a 3rd party. A man must be a man and take charge!

My Dear OP, you have to be a man! You have to call your girl to order to either behave herself or get kicked out! You have NO business with her friend but you can stop her from visiting your girl IN YOUR HOUSE due to her gross misconduct.

Meanwhile, don't even discuss your GF's friend's misconduct with your guy (her supposed bf) because it is demeaning and shows weakness on your part.

Be a Man!

thank you sir, in addendum, I want to say here its high time your gf start to distance herself from her friend and you have to be the one to do this by telling her to choose between you and her friend put her in a tight condition ( cos we are looking forward to wife her not just gf) so mould her to how you want it, you just have to be man enough, be outspoken when necessary, be silent when necessary (cos its golden and the strongest weapon to deal with a woman )and take manly responsibilities.

Also, one of the reason I feel your girl should distance herself from her friend cos I can smell from a far that her friend is the spoilt type, she quickly tied herself to the atmosphere of your rls by having FREQUENT sex with your guy in the name of dating, when you go away for work she may lure you babe into doing same if and only if your babe is not already or have been doing it before cos I always say this to people you can just tell me you are just an ordinary friend to a promiscuous, olosho, sugar daddy gang, rungirls, ( am not saying you girl's friend is all the names I just listed ), but I know birds of same feather fly together .


Op my advice, let her make the choice I presented above and now you are going into a distance relationship knowing fully well you have a good job, keep an investigative eye on her unknown to her, and if you smell any of the above I listed as well as her inability to distance herself from her friend DUMP her ass ASAP.

And you its like you are the loving type take it easy you are a man, let her not see it that you love her too much just Feb and you already in love like crazy, c'mon control your emotions and use your HEAD.

Am still laughing I made sure I read up to 3 pages before commenting, it's a pity that most ladies are proud of their new proffesion ( prostitution), in the name of men are 'natural providers', no shame anymore . Before I continue let me quickly say this to the guyz.

When you are dating a lady who is money crazy, the always give me, give me type all the time treat her as an ashawo, cos there are actually no difference between both, irrespective how beautiful she is, when you give a prostitute money for sex, you have automatically paid for her value, honour and will power, you do and treat her the way you see fit. There was this lady I was shagging and I pointed the widow to her to hung there and position for me and she said I should stop treating her as an olosho I told her to shut up her mouth and do as I say cos the very moment she started collecting money for me in exchange for sex, she has thrown away her worth. Same should be applied to these ladies and even more incase you are dating one. Dont give her the girlfriend treatment.

I had an ex who reside in US then , sister to Nigerian professional football star Gerhnot Rohl first team ( name withheld plz), who till date I still respect cos of the value she placed on herself real woman had all the connection through her brother to be an international olosho but NO, became a hard worker, had mentality like the likes of Guest007 and her likes above...I always use her as a measuring tool to most ladies I come across, a rare breed.

Others just keep trading ashawo as profession with dignity, and it may suffice you to know that most of these give me, give me, type of ladies ( they know themselves) are very broke and lazy and they are the first to hit hard on broke Guyz, a case,study is one they call freshfish651, when I discovered she was aiming to be a corper ( no disrespect to corpers) I just let her be, knowing fully well that this small girl have not seen life cos when she do her mentality will change just pray its not late then.

Continue begging for money ...it is not who you are begging that qualifies you to be a begger but the ACT. Babiallah ten kobo girls

ubunja:
unique so many people think I enjoy writing the Miseducations. How can I? I'm also hurt to have to put this info down cause once upon a time I thought women were pure angels. To be reminded of that era will always hurt. But better the painful truth than the sweet lie .

Don't you think.?

yea I prefer to be called fool once than that name follow me forever.

Indeed you have brought enlightenment to certain minds that are ready to learn. I keep saying this to most guys and I will still repeat same " if you don't know the workings of algebra when you were young, Now given that you are now 80years old, you won't still know it if you dont learn it, cos age will not automatically qualify you for knowledge you are not ready acquire."

This goes to those our old sissy brothers who think they are too old to learn this

shaybebaby:
I normally scroll past this MISEDUCATIONS crap but for the first time today I read one of them.

And oh boy! I have never seen someone with such bad mummy issues it has coloured his entire existence.

UBUNJA, I am sorry your mum didn't love you and favoured your sisters over you. I'm sorry that even today, you still haven't managed to win her approval and that your sisters who are probably more successful than you are also treat you less than you feel you deserve.



I'm sorry that your dad didn't feature in your life as a child, you are angry and blame your mother for this. Maybe rightly, maybe wrongly. All I know is that both parents have a part to play in a child's upbringing and his decision to abandon you is his only, whatever your ma may have done, he should have faced her squarely and not let that absolve him of his responsibility to a child he helped bring into the world.

You are just a lost little boy who wasn't loved enough as a child and therefore angry at the womenfolk. I can understand how much that hurts, but lashing out won't help. It just feeds the hurt and the bitterness till it consumes your very existence.

Who is this one was the piece written for the female folks or for you, u girls are angry that the real truth about your manipulative sef is coming out everyday through a man sent to this generation to free the male folks from claws and manipulative spirit of women.

The truth is boys are beginning to have a sense in thier head, weather you like it or not, those days of falling totally in love over some women without using our head is long gone with the wind, training a lady at the university with the hope of marry them has been reduced drastically, all thanks to some disciples like UBUNJA..

When I read the story of samson in the book of judges in the bible I just feel pity for some men who think with thier dick, you told Delilah what she thought was your secret and she set you up, and you couldn't learn from that you did same again ....so many sissy pussy nigga are like that you take them out and advice them about a certain lady in thier life you automatically become their enemy for life.


Babe go and sit down we dont have you time here cos guys are learning fast and real hard, eg me I am planning on printing out all his write up, spiral bind them,title it my copy of UBUNJA MISEDUCATION and study them over and over again till it enters me ...

Am sorry babe there is no going back so you can cry for Africa or cry me a river I dont care

Sincerely bro, I thought I new alot but with you I feel like I no nothing , nice piece bro .

Some guys will still condemn this that's the one that pains ...well not every guy is expected to be a sharp guy some will forever remain sissy pussy nigga's

Just know one day I will unveil the face behind the name UBUNJA, cos we gonna hang out and do stuff.


Respect !!!

Watch ya back bro babes ain't smiling they can stab u for revealing so much

Do you want to rule for 100years before doing what you want to do, the truth is are you supposed to loot? You are simply slow, dull and inefficient and does not represent the avearge naija man who is known to be a sharp and clever guy.


Go and look at the various embassies in Nigeria and see the crowd there a testimony of poor leadership skill, you have turned almost all our babes to olosho due to harsh economy.


Guy abeg go jare you nu try as president for real after your promises ....you are just a sissy pussy nigga.

What is paining the Association of Olosho is that they hate been called that but like the act.

Even when two Ashawo dey fight na so dem go dey cause each other calling themselves " ashawo ashawo you nu dem shame , or see this ashawo ooo

The fact still remains if you collect money before or after sex you be OLOSHO or better still ASHAWO

Wow how time flies ..I know her very well oo we all schooled together her elder sister & bro were in my set both in primary, secondary and university ..

She was the youngest .

Aimenbenomo's family of Auchi, Edo state ...yea I think I guess right

Aimenbenomo Sophia ..sis

Aimenbenonmo zakary....bro

Chaii this small girl don big finish ooo, still looks cute cos I like them BBW

If you are not married we could hang out though guess u r not reason you still bear the surname.

Women and Dick sef...


So many men still underestimate the power of the D, I just laugh ...it is not enough to have a big D although its advantageous though, but after you have conquered weak organ & rapid release ...then the rest is down to the skills and position you know and you can apply ,very few men have gotten to this level .


For the women note this if you have not been transformed to another world were you speak in an unknown tongue during action and squirted to the extent that you still feel the sensation even till morning am sorry you have not seen sex or enjoyed sex.


I think I will begin tutorial on this majorly for married couples and soon to get married inorder to reduce the rate of divorce ( majorly caused by sexual incompatibility, but they won't tell u) in many homes .

Here is my take on this ....but first things first

1. Is you Dad a womanizer or was he?

2. Your wife how often does she crave for sex, I mean is her libido that high?

You see in life I believe anything can happen if the chance and opportunity present itself, nevertheless, we also understand that some degree of closeness among individuals can emerge when they stay together for a period of time.

For me I won't advice you sit your wife down and ask her why she is now this close to you dad as this might not go down well with her ( incase there is nothing or otherwise ) and send a wrong message ( lack of trust ). Here is my advise you could be smart about this if your mind will not allow you to rest ( reason for opening this thread),don't let what you are thinking in your mind show outwardly both in ur doings and in your face put up everything is fine attitude and smile always .

Come home at odd hours sometimes pretending you forgot something or other excuses, and dont make too much noise when u arrive, at this point you have to be down to earth by putting your ears down to street gist (hanging sometimes in those aboki corner/kiosk adjacent to your street ),cos I tell the neighbors always know something, or the highest you can get yourself a camera pen well positioned in a strategic position, or an audio recoder.

Be that as it may , the above question I asked earlier if YES , to both or even one is the main reason for my advice. Nevertheless, even if both are NO humans are variable and any variable can assume any value.

In conclusion : op but your mind dirty sha but you are not wrong to also assume the worst.

Take care.

vibbb:
Yea, dey are professionals.

Same category with Doctors and Gynecologist.

hehehe of course they are as if the aforementioned are not men and they dont have feelings and preeq, tomorrow you will start crying fowl and open a thread in nairaland disturbing our peace with topic such as

" I never knew our first child of 5 years was not mine, am heart broken now, advice needed "

Guy let me tell u this simple truth, I worked out for close to 15 years, I mean real althetic, model Greek god type of built and I can tell u with all humility women are crazy over these guys they just want a taste even married women just as guys go gaga after sexy 8 shape big ass and boobs babes . ...believe it or not am talking from depth of knowledge, understanding & experience.

Women and dick eeeeeh if only you know ...guyz if you have any slight idea how women cherish and worship dick eeeh you will making shakara

Am not kidding oooo, when I was young and staying with my parents there was this neighbour we had that the wife always complain about the husband misbehaviour on top been broke, she always, always, I mean always complain to my mum, my mum had to ask her one day, so why are u still in the marriage, she immediately kept mute, cos we were there she pointed her hand to the direction of were the dick is located and my mum started laughing I got to know later that she mearnt the dick, and that the man been a slim guy his rooster is second to none


I often tell guys you can have all the money and still loose your wife to a gate man or driver who knows the game. So while chasing money keep your game intact too cos the two are needed to solve the simultaneous equation

Women and Dick are ......

Iamplato wants to kill me with laughter


The stage 3 got me cracking

He said their bum bum go don wrinkle with stretch marks everywhere my ribs ooooooo

Look at your mouth cos of nyash you want to change you faith ...

"Since i missed this opportunity, i want to become a muslim so that i can marry more than one wife, Please what does it take to convert to muslim ?"

Na over spoil dey worry u you too spoil

So you think you will be more fulfilled marrying more than one wife ..ani

Let me tell you this only one woman sef na industry to control am na work talk less of more than one .

If your mama hear this nonsense she go slap yeye commot for you face .

Like one guy said that his problem is with massagers, sincerly speaking I cannot allow my woman to go for massage been done by a dude never

There is nothing you will say that will change my mind , that is free access to romance , unhindered romance.

The babe must react and those guys got the perfect skills to do the needful

Abeg if woman nu do am oya bia nkechi enter house las las u go dey alright ....tufiakwa

Jayslicky:
Some women will be like I don't like men wearing condoms.

jayslicky want to kill somebody with laughter ooooo am still holding my stomach cos of

CreepyBlackpool:
Any and everything ladies mention here as turn-offs would turn them on soon as they see the guy has fat pockets and account

Op this is a common feature in lagos na...dem full mainland sef tire na you go run. Just go get money and I tell you na you go put off your phone

evil1:
women are smart but i tell u even d smart ones hv some fish brain alongside their other brain
trust me i hv read similar chats on my babes phone like someone sending her 'my runaway pussy@ i was pissed at first but what did i do? i marked that mssg as unread.

if u want to marry her the best thing for u is to test her in every area even if u think shes a good and morally right person. these days no good girls again. but if its just for fucking sake do those things i just said

yea bro are right if for bleeping sake I don't care,she can turn her head upside down thats not my problem but for wifey ....this one na serious matter,cos we are talking about the mother of my kids. Have you noticed most ladies at their early stage ( teenage stage and early youth stage ) tend to behave like their mom cos they see her as thier role model. Most retired Ashawo , thier daughters go just take on with the trade with ease.

And old habits sometimes hardly die...op am not saying you should not go back to her am only saying shine your eyes well well 2x....

evil1:
Nigga, i feel ur insecure...
rules when dating a girl:
dont go through her phone
never act insecure in front of her
and act like u dont care even if she bleeps outside that way she can trace her senses back if shes ready, serious and morally fit to be in a relationship that will lead to marriage.

thank me later

guy I don't think this advise is worth it, this is not about insecurity bullshit but shinning of your eyes in rls or else you will be taken for a fool, those rules you gave up there is what is making most men to train another man's child in their home thinking is their child. Yes I quite agree that everybody need space and that nobody can totally 100% watch his babe movement but guys do the best you can and police the best you Can or else you go just marry common ashawo who is still in the game God forbid.

Op listen to me, babes are very smart, infact smarter than guys, yes they are, good at covering tracks, lies looking at your eyes while saying it, their only undoing is their emotions ...I once had a babe who could swear with a bible, one faithful evening I was holding her phone and playing with it while she relaxed her head on my chest and a text message just came in I couldn't help but open it and it read thus " babe chaii this your Toto sweet ooo", am saying the truth from a number not stored and we both were looking at each other, she was dumbfounded, I later found at the individual was a matured man, she had cool hot sex that afternoon but was relaxed as if nothing even happen that day ....chaii I HATED her for that ..

See op dont be fooled by most comment on nairaland, I often tell my friends before marriage it is not bad to do off camera investigation on your babe ( meaning go and check on her when she does not know you are there looking at her, in statistics is called primary observation), babes can do likewise on guys too.

The world is wicked, and as it is we are already facing too much stress ,adding a promiscuous girlfriend/wife is a NO NO for me.

op if you don't have sense, buy one, borrow one or pray for one , by any means get SENSE women are VERY smart . most women are ....... .

DaySpringer:
Don't let these guys and girls up there deceive you poster.

Girls will always defend one of their own. But they will be the first to pretend they don't do things like this.

You are there thinking that you guys are friends and there is nothing she is keeping from you but she is there denying calls in your presence. Why should she have the married man's number? Know who he is and hasn't blocked him yet when she is supposed to be serious with you?
Those Numbskulls up there supporting the girl don't think deep.


I want you to keep something in mind Poster. Girls never tell you everything.
Read that bolded part again.

Your fiancee did not tell you everything about what happened with that married man.
You might even be surprised that she has slept with more married men than that before.

Girls are masters of confessing parts of the full story and making it look like a full confession. They will say that small part with so much reluctance that you will be convinced when they finally say it, that it is the fulll story. But believe you me, it is not.

She might even still have something to do with that married man right now. If the past is the past, why is the past calling her in the present when she is with her future? Why is the past making her reluctant to come clean with someone she wants in her future?

I know you Love her.
But you have to carefully consider everything I have said above and ask yourself whether you are ready to deal with the very high likelihood and possibility that they are true. You can't trust her anymore and you should not go into a marriage with someone you cannot trust before you end up raising another man's child for 20 years.

If you ever take her back, put her under serious surveillance until you are satisfied that she is truly clean.

Don't let someone play soccer on your head.

op respect to you, am a man and a grown up one at that and I have seen life ...pls pls and pls read this write up I quoted over and over again and follow his advise religiously . Try not to think with your emotions go somewhere quiet you alone and read this writeup again and again and digest, he has given you the answer.

I laugh married man when dey your past you still get him number wella,... ...some guyz here commenting are truly kids abeg make Una grow up.


Op abeg I like u use ur head ooo or you go bite your finger later...choi

The judiciary is in shambles

This Reno and his mouth eeeeeeh

ImaIma1:
What bandwagon? Buy gifts... get wet. You must have quoted the wrong person because a person with a sound mind and who should be mature would not have so much assumptions in one post.

Una too like unnecessary argument for nairaland sef, the moniker Oluromantic was trying to say if men can go out of thier way sometimes by petting ladies, buying dem stuff, taking dem out so that the atmosphere (emotionally and psychologically) can be conducive for sex, it is not also bad if the op wife replicate same w.r.t what the op said and I quote " But if I don't make a move 3 days in a row, she would start quarreling with me and everything. She won't ask for it but start fighting me unnecessarily. "

That is he may not be in the mood cos of stuff he stated above the wife should also learn and practice the ideal of putting him in the mood by doing the stuff Oluromantic listed that men do for women so that the pussy can be all wet and ready ( in this case the dick ) .. and I dont think that is bad ideal instead of putting up a fight unnecessarily.

Women and thier entitlement mentality even in sex sef...and pls dont preach the I will start to look outside if am not getting it at home for ordinary 2weeks for me ,abeg na outside dey those women eyes before just looking for justification to showcase their whoreism.

raphretle:
Have mercy on her please...

op mercy for who this one ...I don't think she even believe in that word mercy the way she always spew trash from that her mouth. So picking ...na all dis wan dey jam men when dey use thier dirty pants for money ritual.

The lady with the moniker generationz can't you see her level of reasoning so mature, top notch,all encompassing, and welcoming ...infact I don begin like her finish sincerely ...she just turned me on

But freshfish561 abi na wetin she call herself na to dey reason with pussy everyday mtecheeeeeeew such girls are boring . .

Wizzy will always be wizzy.

Preshy561:
Lifeless man.
You will soon lose that job and go back to square one.
Ungrateful gold digger, you have seen a lady outside and you think the one you have isn't slaying enough for you.

I will continue to say this, don't ever date a broke guy, you don't know what they will become once they start seeing money.
Then, trying to help him financially is the worst mistake you will ever make Because, when the money starts coming, you will look outdated to him and he will then think that he needs slay queens in his life.
This is one of the reasons some of you will forever die poor, especially the gold digging idiots supporting him.


Ndi eriri eri.

, I have been carefully following most of your comments and like someone said why so much hatred in your heart, why are you so bitter, indeed you really need JESUS cos in no distance time this thing will consume you mark my words. Everyday of your life you can't rest cos of broke guys as if they choose the family background they came from or they purposely choose poverty, men are in sizes but life is in phases, many have triumphed over poverty and today they are well to do cos God is the giver of wealth ..I pity u woman, I pity u, I mean I pity your existence and I feel sorry for the man who is going wife u, your reasoning is poor, infact apart from being a broke girl you are suffering mental poverty, and it may suffice you to know that this type of skewed reasoning is common among the poor ones in the society, I have seen rich babes.

The scenario will are dealing with here is a common case in naija and we all know the individuals who are major culprits of this act, i particularly dont support the op but this is common more to the women folks but cos u can't see beyond your nose and reason properly cos of bitterness you choose to display your foolishness always in public. So it is only good to take a broke girl and brush her up but a big NO for guyz.

You are woman and you are not getting any younger is high time you start your using your head (that is if you have one as it is) to reason properly so that desperation and love for money will not be your undoing and had I known and bitting of the finger will not be far from you .


A word is enough for the wise.

I have marked this moniker and I will always have your time...come on get out and go get a life.

chiommy123:
I think you still love her. why not give her another chance but be more careful this time and believe me she will love you more this time

trash trash trash


Op pls for your own interest and your mum so that she will not have Bp ...pls don't follow this lady's advice they are birds of same feather ...

My question is as a nation were are we going to?