daddyfreeman1:
bro you just got my attention... What you wrote here is all about me. This has happened to me before as an introveee. I have a new Gf now, but anytime I remember my ex it makes me lose appetite to eat... Gosh ... Please advice me too

lolxx...hahahah

dude nothing to advise you nah..you already gat ya self a new babe,but if you got this current babe 'the same' month or year you broke up with ur ex,then you might be in a rebound relationship,meaning you are using your current girlfriend to bypass the pains and memory of your ex of which is not fare to your current babe..because if you still feel like losing appetite while thinking of you ex,then you still love her and you probably haven't gotten over her..

if she comes back begging,then you current babe is in a deep shit..

just channel everything you have for you ex to you current babe and you will completely get over her with 'time'.

crafteck:


Long story, just face ur book and hustle..

dude if ur mind,heart,brain,memory,infact if you are not mentally focus after a breakup,just forget about book..
it will take the grace of God to be focus with book especially when its close to exam period..that shit hurts like hell..

even while in hustle,you may not be able to concentrate..

bigpriik:
I can bet this op did not fvck the girl till they broke up a girl you fvcked more than 10 times will not give you much heartache because you will always have that feeling that she lost not you.

dude it's not by that..

i f.ucked my ex nothing less than 50-80times during our 5years dating without cds,pregnancy or abortion

we f.ucked to the extent she was the one reminding me like "love, we dnt fvck today ooh"

dude,after she cheated on me,cried 5years out of my life..
not because i can't see someone else like her 2 bleep,just that when i love someone,no AMOUNT of SEX with different style can make me stop loving that person and not giving me sex still wont change anything either.

dating her wasn't all about sex, i just love her so much and wanted a future with her..

y am i even telling you all this self

no mind me jor..

o.p am currently facing what you are facing now,we broke up 4months ago, school in the same campus and live close off camp..

o.p listen, its not going to be an easy task, so have that at the back of ur mind.,it requires a lot of work about you to be done to avoid and get over her..she wont or she isn't going to be affected cux she has moved on..

op i really dnt knw how to advise you or things to do cux am still trying to work my way out too bt i will tell u the little i can and how have been managing mine..

op if you are an introvert, then its going to be a double wahala cux it will affect you alot..your confidence,self-esteem, emotions, feelings, everything about you both mentally and physically will drastically reduce, you will be painedddd! angry, short of breath, stomach arch, at a time you wont feel like eating anything (especially if the breakup is fresh), infact o.p, you will loose ur self, imaging the pain and feelings you get wen you see her with another guy,imaging that same guy bleeping ur formal hole..abt that,o.p there is nothing you can do again to stop that..

this is where you will need to work on yourself, whatever advise you receive, apply them but know providing this is/must be costant;

*TIME!!...give yourself time...even in nysc camp, u may not see urself getting over her in first 2-3months..
*deleting every single inch about her,
*accept the pain,regret,grieve and whatever is happing to you,its all normal,they happened to me too..
*try and eat well and stay healthy.
*no matter how introverted you are,am sorry o.p cux you will have to break that chain and go out to mingle with females ONLY!..if you must mingle with guys, associate yourself with guys that sleep with girls alot or guys that are very funny lyk comedian..those 2 set of guys can make you forget ur pain.
*o.p you have to improve urself, like dress well, exercise, woo girls,even if they are ugly or even if they dnt accept u, just do it for fun sake, it build ur confidence..
*always smile and be happy when u see her,even if ur mind fly,form or forge the smile

and lastly,please do ur best to ignore her, dnt go seeking for her knowing fully well u will see her at a particular road,store or place jst to get her attention,it wont help u...

cosse:
lol..crazy dudes above me sha......
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really feel your pain...bro.av gone tru this same thing b4......
the solution is simple.....try staying off her....it might be a bit hard now that u guys are still in college together....u would always bump into her occasionally and ur chest will nw start beating and constricting like crazy .....i understand......am talking from personal experience here o...loved a gal lyk crazy a few years ago...and dem boom she broke up.. felt there was notin more to live for... almost ran into depression(lol..imagine!!).....but bro the answer to ur issue is avoiding her like for months(which is why am glad u soon going for nysc).u will be suprised after a few mnths u would forget abt her.......this includes getting rid of her pixtures....not going to her social media profile.....jst anything that reminds u of her should b avoided.....
its like a deep wound....yea..it hurts like hell now but it would heal with tym

op listen to this man...

warriorguy:
Ex wife, husband, fiancee, fiance, boyfriend, girlfriend; it is always "he or she is wicked, a cheat, a devil, evil, dirty, bad, useless, nonsense and so on"...You sometimes may rarely hear good about someone's ex; it is many a times a gist of regret, wasted time, wasted years and so on. But when people fall in love, they talk like they cannot leave each other, they call their partner "the perfect person, my match, my strength, my support, my whatever", but after breakup, they see their partner as "vomit"...

In summary, people don't know what they call love, they think having sweet feelings is what is love. Love goes beyond feelings, love is doing what is right to your partner whether emotion is there or not: though emotion is good! But when emotion is silent, love still acts right....

very true..

when i read my ex conversation with are new guy,i was shock with the lies she fed him

when i confronted her on when and when i made the shitty stuff she said,she was jst looking at me..

i jst told she can say anything abt me BUT she shouldn't condemn me cux things dnt went right with us and i wouldn't do dsam to her, she was jst crying

its been 4months now..

i woke up last night by 2pm and prayed for her cux she called n told me she was having problem in with her exams.

hmmmm...life!

people should stop painting their ex'ses bad in respective of how they ended cux that soul was once ur joy.

o.p i really dnt knw if i should say its normal,good or bad, but i will tell you this,

o.p no matter ur feelings,the closeness,love, family, bla bla bla,infact anything atall, IT WONT WORK!!!!...just have it at the back of your mind...just imaging a marriage where ur father's sister is also you inlaw..

it happen to me,same with urs, we met at our grandfathers burial, throughout the 7days burial, we were always together, we dnt sex oo, cux that idea was miles away frm us..so dnt ever think of that shit..
distance yourself and feelings frm her in a way she wont notice cause that's what i did in my own case..i can't even remember her face or how she looks again cux its been long we met..

like someone said,just love her as ur sister and ur best friend, you should be matured enough to control what ever you have for her, that will make her respect you more should incase things go the other way..

one sunday morning,

i woke up, i never wanted to go to church for nothing sake, i just wanted to relax for that day.

after waking up, abt an 1hour latter,i felt feverish, the whole of my body became so hot, i decided to sit at my bed for sometime, unknowingly to me, i dnt know how i fell back to my bed,

low n behold, i saw myself in the middle to witches, with a very loud cryyy rounded by a vry hot fire..

i instantly woke up, sorry, JUMP UP, ran to take my bath and went straight to church, on getting to church, the pastor took and mic and said he saw a vision that a young boy has been tide in the witch coven..

glory to God i was delivered..

the year after that, i had a dream ,an old woman sold potato to me, i ate it, woke up and found urine all over my bed, urine that may last up 2days non-stop if am to urinate it with my eyes open., something flash my mind n it went straight to my manhood, funny enough, i couldnt feel my manhood again, i tried watching porn,manually arosing it,nothing works,
long story short, i met thesame man of God and he delivered me after 3days..

on the 3day morning, the hardness of my dick woke my up

God is Great..

am lonely and currently nursing a heartbreak and God has been with me, he gave me a shoulder to lean on..

okoroemeka:
Try to find a job that will keep you busy both mentally and physically,u have to much free time to think about depression and suicide,I have friends some are graduates that are taxi/bus drivers,tipper/truck drivers,Keke drivers,loaders,just find a niche were you can fix yourself and be busy,I have a graduate friend,he lives with his wife in onitsha but due to next level,he is planting cucumbers in his village and making big money from it,employing two workers,survival depends on ones mindset ,many people are not meant to survive under intense pressure,only the very strong survives.

thanks for this advise...
some people dnt know others are passing through..
he might even be doing better than those people u jst listed.

fykes:
U want to die and u are writing it online first...oga u never ready.
Cowards everywhere

85% of people that commit suicide do post it on net but stupidity and lack of understanding due to your low pathetic i.q won't make you understand..

Altern8:


First thing, stay away from Instagram, Facebook or whatever social apps that can trigger a sense of underachievement.

o.p this is you first step of healing if you know you involve yourself in social media..

this shit nearly destroy me.

PointBlankFOREX:
Beats me why a person would wanna go through the stress of a workplace when he/she can comfortably work from the comfort of home.. As for me, I remain unemployable..
Ive chosen to break the chains of slavery working a 9-5 job..
I choose to be my own boss..

It's a bloody revolution..

sir the number on ur sign. isn't a whatsapp number

for me, if i can feed myself, take good care of my parents, pay my house rent, settle other little expenses with much left to save,then i talk about marriage

even the bible advised its even more better to remain single.

SmellySperm:
na money still dey keep us.....naija don cast

#i no get work since i finish school,no capital to start up a business....am tired already

lolxx...it's not easy ooo...am in my finale now,am so scared with all this una 'i no get work' matter

anyway, have hope, better day ahead...

"your wife trouble can wake the dead"
chimooooo
this one got me rolling

adecz:

The guy was looking forward to a sexual extravaganza......
See clothes he packed.
Na men cassava dey lead them to destruction.
He is even lucky he wasn't killed..

something must kill a man

NewDelhi:
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Someone said dating a girl after she broke up is a ticking time bomb. There's a probability she will still go back to him . She's just using you as a consolation price to ease her heartbreak.

hahahaha....op doooh...kpelle i feel ur pain

if you can control your emotion and pain when she told you how she lost her virginity, please control this one cause me i kant even stand the girl i love telling me that shit..

about her using you as a consolation, that is what they call 'REBOUND RELATIONSHIP'... you were in a rebound relationship with her... rebound relationship dnt last long.. EX's can get back their love ones who is in a rebound relationship easily...

advice?

normal advise as usual move on with ya life and dnt take the bitch back when she come begging..

lolxx...
dude i can relate with what you are passing through cause am passing through the same thing..

my advise?

dude deep within you, just fucking trow the both fuckers out of your life...
learn/train your mindset to ignore them, block them on social media and anywhere you think you can come across them...but dnt force your self to ignore them cause you will atleast once in a while coincidentally meet them and when you do, no matter how sad you are or where your mind fly go when u see them, guy APPLY HAPINESS,no matter how sad you are that moment, always be happy and make one or two short conversation with them if necessary.. dnt go seeking for them or try to do something to get their attention and make them jealous cause you will loose...

just mind your business, develop yourself, do something else to keep yourself busy.

build/train your a mindset that you dnt know or relate with them anymore.
also have it at the back of your mind that the relationship wont last,so why disturb urself? no be area relationship again? na the girl go hear am

though it wont be easy ooooooooohhh

all in all,just try and mind ur business, keep urself busy, go out n relate with other people, watch movies,play video games, dress well, build/develop yourself not for them,but for ur self.

trust me dude, in as far the relation wont lead to marriage, that relationship with last the end of this year..
apart from the Bleep n pussy, dnt kill urself over a girl

Ultramane:
3. Obsessing about women & sex.

There is nothing wrong with being single or a virgin at 30. Just live your life. Bored? Lonely? Love sick? Engage yourself in creative and refreshing aspects like Music, literature, drawing and painting, sports, video games etc.

Relax, obsession only lead to hasty and poor dating choices. Take your time to observe women at friendship level for several months before asking for number or date. Dating is not just a numbers game.

God bless you for this very one...
i will keep it to heart..

MUS101:
Good day everyone, I have an issue which I need your candid and sincere advice. I will appreciate if it's attended to.. Please pardon any grammatical errors. I will welcome your constructive criticism/advice, thanks.

Before now I had broken up with my girl based on trust and infidelity issues.I hated it when she lied and it was and is a big turn off for me. We came back strong and better with her showing a better positive attitude and signs of a changed person. Before coming back together, I told her about earning my trust again and to avoid things that would trigger any suspicion.

Recently she has been taking me for granted owing to the fact I would always come to terms with her whenever she commits. She would rather play a reverse psychology on me than see the wrong in what she did. Apologizing when she is wrong is now a problem and this was not so from the beginning. Her actions these days make me insult/call her names which I don't like...How do I handle this issue? Your candid advice will be appreciated.

lolxx...i really dnt know if i should say 'good you came back strong'..but before you came back stronger, haven't you heard of OKAFOR'S LAW??

if am not wrong, from ur post, despite knowing she cheated/infidelity stuff on you, i can deduce you were the one who initiated or wanted the come back badly and that has made her or making her toying/manipulating you and emotions or feelings

my advise?

dude,trust? you mean you still want to trust her?

DONT!!! i repeat, DONT!!!

just let her know you trust her, but deep within you, dont fucking trust her!..even for a bit!..you will end up digging your grave if you do..

just activate that i dnt care attitude, dnt care or show her much love..drastically reduce any attention u are giving to her..all this will shield/guild you from any manipulation or up coming breakup..

meanwhile, nothing fucking piss me off than hardly apologize even when you know you are wrong.

and lastly, please stop insulting her,its gonna piss her off, it might make her think you are over looking down on her.
just stop so she wont find fault on you should in case anything happens..

i may be wrong in any of the above comment though

sleepking:
No I don't, but u will only meet ur kind...so unfortunate for u bro, enjoy ur money.

no sister, no girlfriend.
lemme deduce that you dnt have a mother
poor you
lonely prick
now i know where ur mental problem is coming from

i nvr said there aren't, its jst a matter of time before the majority get infected by the virus.

buh meanwhile,
i ordinarily
really think
i mean, on a serious note dude


































Bleep OFF


its too early 2 quote an escaped psychiatric mafo.

sleepking:
I don't have a sister, but I know them, just accept u will never meet sure diamonds in your pathetic life bro.

hahahahahaha....poor you
all of sudden,you no longer have a sister you think you are doing me? crazeeeee! you are doing urself..
dnt let ur sister see this shit u jst typed..hehehehe...

fine!

is your girlfriend one of them?

if no, oga go hang ya self..


































yah yah, i know!
u dnt have a girlfriend
isn't that what you want 2 say?
otondo

sleepking:
Sharap there, not all women, there real hustling women/girls out there but u will never meet them because they no get your time

the question is, is your sister one of them

if no, abeg go kill ya self and stop quoting me, am not your mate

treasureossy:
I for one prefer to give and not just collect from my man. Even if we are not married, we are in a relationship and everything should be reciprocal. Why would a woman want to be a liability to her man. It's not right. A woman can hustle and take her boo out on a date, surprise him with gifts, ask him if he needs anything instead of always waiting for him for get her food, drinks, gift or even pad. This is enough self for the man to lose his respect for the woman.

Women should not sell themselves short. Money isn't everything. You should be ready to stand by your man when he has money and when he doesn't have enough.. You should love unconditionally and be ready to make compromises...

lolx...i really dnt know about you ,but am 95% sure probability of seeing ladies like this is almost impossible now ..even if they exist,its just a matter of time before they get corrupted..that's what we are talking about

but the harlot amongst them will defend themselves with the statement "GO AND HUSTLE HARD"...meanwhile,their parent are old,retired, probably jobless and they themselves cant even boost of a single handwork..the only one they can boost of is the trash can inbetween their legs..they want sit, spread their legs and wait for men to invest and pump money into the trash can...

xendra:
rename this topic: Broke guys rant

oga go and make money, even your family will accept/value you more. God will punish you if you also do anything extra for money and open your rotten mouth to blame women for their choice.

cum bag

you sound stupid

choice what choice are you talking about?..lolxx..
money over trust? love? commitment? even money over money base on highest bidder..you call that choice?

world reclown bitch

the trash can in between ur legs,how much does it worth? trust me,i can order for yours and your bitchy mom, no matter the amount, its still going to look cheap to me

a cute bitch jst left ma room not quiet long, asked her what's her worth(indirectly,like, "babe much u go take buy something for ya self nau?" , the idiot said 2k, her serious boyfriend called and she told him,she went to night vigil..hahaha ....i culdn't help but pitied the poor mafo

FEAR WOMEN....!

Fafesot:
Let's leave the fact that we have female as our mother(s) and siblings ..
These creature don't deserve the respect we give to them..
Imagine a lady stood and opened her dirty mouth dat they (ladies) can't settle with a guy without a loaded pocket.... Don't get me wrong ,,,money is important in a relationship,buh dat shouldn't be the basis you will have to look before you settle down with a man...
Whenever they see you are financially buoyant... Boom,,serious relationship has started..you are nw their husband immediately, they will force you to meet their parents , even if you guys meet few day before...In their life,integrity is zero.
Even the married sleeps with single guys just for money..
And we still respect these people...these lazy being dat are not ready to hustle?.

they are useless and worthless set of creatures

they justify themselves with "Not all women", "there are still good ones", "dnt generalize it" bla bla bla..LIES!
its all of them.

even those saying all this dnt even trust themselves or wont even include themselves among the majority.
i will say those who are still good eggs just lack the opportunity, or hasn't been corrupted yet, its just a matter of time before they do..

if you must have anything to do with them,just use or useless them and kick them outta ya life..

fear WOMEN
if you see a woman and a snake, KILL THE WOMAN FIRST!

tunize:

based on assumption; what if she never told you she had any, are you going to kill her?

i will stop assuming

noted!

tunize:
what if she get pikin u nor know but come marry her?

lolxx...serious?? how can you marry someone without knowing she has a child??

beside all this,of cause it always men.

men hardly have bad friend..just 2 out of 10 compare to women which is about 6 out of 10

MrNipplesLover:




now u are talking...

if u wanna fvck her, u will still have to 'toast' her and spend some resources to get her. you might get lucky and win that pussy as soon as possible.

sometimes, you will have to be patient for a while before winning it.

sometimes, you end up still losing it


since u say you are the shy type, I will suggest u approach her on a "normal ground/level" and tell her that you will like to invite her for a little talk-out over a lunch/dinner. this should be easy since you had confessed your love to her like 2 years ago, so she still sees you are an admirer, probably.
u can only be shy to woo/toast a lady, but u can't be shy to talk/converse with a lady, I think.


so, if she agrees to the lunch/dinner invitation, this is what I would suggest you do after choosing a venue and fixing a date:


get a little bit "Tipsy". I am not saying you should get drunk ooh, just get " Tipsy". This should help to suspend your shyness. then you pour out your mind to her in a "matured" manner.

in your discussion, you should try and emphasize on how you find her attractive that you find it difficult to "TAKE YOUR EYES OFF HER SEXY BODY". I can't type what u should be telling a lady for you, but you have to be flirty with her. Just focus on Flirting while you are treating her to a special Lunch/dinner.

you gotta let her talk too, but your own points should be on her " Body and your interest in her". that's a flirt, bro. an unambiguous flirt.

at the dinner, after eating and drinking, tell her you are inviting her to your place. pls, don't leave that your lunch/dinner seat spot before you invite her to your place.

she might agree on the spot, or fix a date/day by herself, but you don't stress it....
if she finally shows up at your apartment, then ball is in your court.
after parting ways, please, call her if she's gotten home. then remind her about the date you both agreed to meet at your apartment. this will make her see it as sacrosanct, and prepare for the the day.

I'm tired typing, bro. but I'm sure you should be able to grab the tactics and play on it as a guy.
but, if she doesn't give in at all and you still wanna hit her coochie, bro, will have to give her the space, and probably come up with another system.

if you still fail, then forget the pussy and move on, cos I'm not guaranteeing you a win. Just a suggestion



This is a suggestion from a guy who has more than a couple of esteemos, and also, an Olosho hunter/hooker.



stay blessed, bro.

hmmmmm....i hail youuu...MASTER!

YoungG12:
and this is seems similar to what happened to me right now,for the rate of love i have for her to the extent that i submit to her when she said "no sex before marriage" yet still she leaves me just because of issue of past that happened before i meet her,wooing of a lady"

lolx...hahahaha...same here oh

i don comot hand for their matter..

true is,if i must date, its jst for sexual purpose, otherwise am off thing am ready to settle down and look for someone who is serious..