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crazyabbey:
Lols thanks i am checking it out right away.

there is a dating drill link someone dropped, go through that link and follow every bit of instruction/steps/warnings and advice and trust me, u might end up slapping your self for begging her

crazyabbey:
Lols thanks i am checking it out right away.

no laugh me oooh

crazyabbey:
Bro, you are 100% right about money. Infact i have made a decision am not going into another relationship until i am finacially bouyant. At least wetin be our gain if girl leave person because of moni and we still no come get d moni again. You are d only one dat can understand how am feeling right now, my ex has been giving me d breakup signs and signal but i kept on begging and forcing d relationship until she clear my eyes finally.

hehehe its as if we dated thesame girl..
the sign and everything..
i was so dumb not to have notice..

https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me

check that link and read my story..

then pay attention to the advise alot of gurus gave me and trust me, they are all working fine..

crazyabbey:
Thanks sister, i will delete all her pics and numbers on my phone just 2 clear up my head a little. I think she was actually having someone else even while we were dating, because she moved on immediately she end d relationship with me. By the way, i was the one who was always trying 2 make d relationship work. With any slight argument she will block my numbers and tell me it is over, i will have 2 be the one begging her b4 she calms down.

lolsss.....begging?? obob u don fuckup...

are lacking behind..

you have a lot to learn about girl...

trust me,u will tempted to go back begging even after the breakup..

dnt worry,i will try and carry u along since we suffered the fate

crazyabbey:
Hummmmmm, you are saying this because you have been protecting yourself from the start and dat was the mistake i made. Me i was thinking my girl is different based on the fact we meet in church and she was promising me heaven and earth i didn't know this girl still want 2 explore life small. Na one yahoo boy she dey follow now posing pictures everywhere!!! Dis life sha

lolss...bro,same thing with my..

no matter the love, attention, sweet words and no matter the sex from morning till dawn, IF YOU DNT HAVE MONEY, FORGET IT...SHE WILL CHEAT..

das 1 lesson i learnt at of 15

crazyabbey:
Am Currently experiencing my first heartbreak i don't want to go into all the details but the most painful thing is that my Ex- girlfriend moved on immediately after She end our relationship which means she was dating someone else while we were dating.

The problem now is: i can't stop thinking about her i keep blaming myself and feeling depressed. I will greatly appreciate it If you guys can tell me how to get Over this feeling or is there something wrong with me.

this is what am currently passing through..
story shot:
i was dating my self for the pass 2 months before i knew she into someone else..

the depression,pain, confusion, and other negative feeling that goes with it is a one kind of a hell..

please guys help us.,how did u get over ittt..

chrisifeanyi:
Bro it pains but the reality is that it will be hard for you to marry that gal. Except you can get a very good job in the next two months, maybe Shell or Total can do that magic. Is not easy. Even if you decide to marry her now, if you are not rich like her suitors the family will drive you away. Is difficult for a man to marry his school mate except you are born with silver spoon and family can give you quick start. Sometimes love isn't just enough.

wow...i love that statement "Sometimes love isn't just enough"!

lint ain't working

vingeophysicist:
Have you asked yourself whether it was desperation that made the mature lady to act so nice and caring.

you may be right ooooo

you guys talk shit here are shapeless dick head...
@op,you can reduce it..
stop or reduce calling him or asking about him often.
turn down or reduce your sex or intimacy with him
try as much as possible to ignore his call,text or chat.
make him go jealous
pretend as if you dnt care about him.
hope this work.

@ candlewax
boss this shouldn't be an issue for you na..
it has happened 2 me once, and for the second time,i had to f.u.c.king handled the annoying shit..

whether you like it or not,bold or shy,business buying or no business buying,have it in mind that you have to sit him down and talk shit into his head and get then get ready for "business buying crash"

you have to talk 2 to him,otherwise i dnt see this ending anytime soon..though you have 2 handle it i a polite way.
tell him you don't tolerate this nonsense,cause from your story,it would have been a different case if he had called you earlier to inform you he was coming with bitch..

tell him you have been reported to your landlord or caretaker and he does not want to see him the next day..

raphemmanuel:
I don't like it hearing that my fellow guy have heart break due to his relationship with a girl.
This girls don't deserve mercy to be sincere. I have learnt a lot from them, so am very smart when dealing with them.

Sorry if I offend any lady on this thread.

@United442 I have once been in our shoes, it is not easy to let it go, but u have to let it go for your good.

Trust me, the girl don't have u any longer in her heart because she thinks someone very important than you have come into her life. Even if you plead with her and she pretends she is still with you, she will continue that way till one day she will surprise u with her wedding card or better upload it on Facebook or her WhatsApp status where you can have a look on it and this time u might think of committing suicide

In my own case I blocked her, deleted all pics both the ones I snapped with her, burn hardcopies of picture, discard every gift from her, though it wasn't easy to erase everything concerning her from my memory. But I overcame all the emotional depression.

So bro for your own good JUST LET HER GO.
Remember there are too many fishes in an ocean, when u miss one, go for another.

thanks for this... highly motivated...
am really going through what you called emotional depression..
am till finding it difficult to erase everything concerning her most especially in my heart..
hope i do as soon as possible..
thanks for this..

elmagnifico411:
This wan doesn't know what he's into yet.. Telling a woman u love her, you cannot live without her, and bla bla bla,, making her feel pity for u and telling u she loves u back. Oga, your time son expire. Of I were u, I'll stop calling, texting, or chatting her. Stop talking about love abi na infatuation. Just focus on your book and graduate well. Gehs wee rush u taya. And all this yeye love cry u won't even remember. Your girl don go. Accept it and you'll be finer dan u used to be.

From experience.

wow..thanks for this boss

ElsonMorali:
You say you are in your final year, I'd advise you to throw yourself into making sure you graduate without any hitch.

Service year is coming up. Lots of girls in NYSC camp.

Withdraw your emotional grip on her and focus on why you're in school. Maybe she's even feeling choked by you or maybe she doesn't like a wimp of a guy...or maybe she has already said yes to the other guy.

Whichever it is, it is time for a change in strategy.

okay..thanks alot for this.

elvhinzey:
Lol. Kindly reserve it.

reserve what pls?

adeboi1:
don't use opera mini oo

okay..

Akinbahm:
Bro, nobody here knows the exact pain u going through right away but Landers can only advise u on what to do but u gonna take the decision urself. back to the matter I keep saying this he who invest more in a relationship become the "Slave" and he who invest less in a relationship becomes the "Master" of the said relationship...
My advise goes thus;
1: Back out stop the chasing that's limit the calling, chatting, caring and the attention uve being given her give her the chance of doing the chasing also.
2: Start giving her u don't care attitude and stop behaving as if ur happiness is centered around her.
3.Focus more on ur studies and give it more attention then try to be more successful (with ur studies, ur look, ur financial status and b more active in school)
4. Make her feel inferior to u by scouting for a promising winger "a beautiful smart lady" the one who have more possession than her (that senior her in all ramifications) this will make u superior over her and send her a silent message that u no longer tolerate a Bleep.
Lastly do it manly and do a lot of girls don't turn to pussy nigga and/or a womanizer... I rest my case

thanks alot for this boss...
i will keep this in mind and do as u said.

adeboi1:
go to manymen.men register with them and ask questions that are bothering u,trust me bro they have the solution to all relationship problems

@illegend

wow.. thanks boss... lemme hit there now.

Opiletool:
Somehow true.

If you're an insecure person, and you went ahead to date a beautiful woman that likes getting attention from men (which is the sad reality), just know that you're killing yourself by yourself.

there is nothing like somehow true.. it's 101% true

Informer155:
hmmm 1st lov drama doesnt alow falin in lov wit anoda girl.only she makes u hapy,only she(5 yrs no b smal!)....it takes time to getova dat.[was a victim]

dat is ennhh..

doctore212:
she is playing BETNAIJA with your emotions.

am sure she isn't...she has bn telling me not to bothered that she still love me..
so am telling she's bn pressured..i really dnt knw..
all.d.way, thankss..

yungz:
Op i gat some little advise for you, but b4 i spill it out let

Me share ma story to u, its kinda similar.


Around last year me and this bae were seeing each other, like we were all ways chatting, calling and stuff like that, unknown to me all i was doing was actually make her lose guard oo....this babe started forming level for me, taking time to answer my whatsapp msgs etc. As a sharp guy i had to just blank out for like 6 month without chatting with her then when i finally came back omo the love was just too much this same babe started pestering ma life like a new born baby lookin for breast to suck.



Op moral lesson of the story

1.don't ever let a girl tame you, cus if they do, my broda you are finished b dat....for God sake you gats to man up


2. Try to make her miss you
Disadvantage of this trick: if u don't know the game, don't do it for too long. U might be trying to do it, b4 u know it one guy from no where will come nd snatch her from you...

B4 i kwantinu...Op you really dey ;Dfunny oo, how can you be apologizing for sin you did not do, to the exent of apologizing for the one you will still do in the future my broda you need redemption and one derica of sense to add to your coconut head.



My advuse to you Op try this and see how things turn out.

Have you ever heard of the breakup prank?

Try it with her to know whether she still has feeling for you bcus women are not to be trusted

Disadvantages of this trick: Op wen doing it, please prepare your mind for the worst thing that can happen to u bcus she might fall your hand and even tell thing you didn't realise wen you were dating her.

If she passes the test then playfully tell her you just pranked her then you tease her.

If she fails, don't tell her anything just jejely let things be. Dating world itself is war to be fought by tough pple not weaking.

Conclusion
Next time when trying out love apply your full weeders(brain) before falling for any girl.

lolxxx
feel tutored now..

bt bro (2. disadvantage) trying 2 make her miss me is the reason have be holding back, thinking i might jst end up loose guarding her 2 someone..

as for the breakup prank, frankly speaking,it has been working whenever i try it...sometimes when am unhappy and thinking of distancing of from her (prank),telling her 2 give me some space and time 2 figure things out, it makes her feel uncomfortable, thereby resulting to always telling me she wont give me any space or time, n that its also dsam thing as breakup, and she's not ready to loose me.

2 be frank,breakup pranking as be working when ever i try 2 apply it..this made me think she actually dnt want 2 loose me and that's the truth ..
but how she just changed overnight even baffles the devil.

i think its going 2 be the first action i will carry out before other previous advise,while i prepare for the worst..

thanks alot for this..

BuddhaPalm:
Nothing you say to her will change the outcome.

Imagine if Beyoncé, from 10 years ago, starts hitting on you, can your girlfriend convince you to stay?

If she likes the guy more, and he’s available, she’ll jump ship.

If she likes the guy but there’s no future, she’ll chop and clean mouth.


Two things though:

1. Bìtches they come they go...

2. The beautiful ones are not yet born...

okay...noted...!
thanks

tracyberry:
Lol speak for yourself, I believe a lotta guy are good in acting, few are innocent.
Sigh.
I wonder who think of love these days, that's not necessary.
Just make a name for yourself and them babes wil come.
Nobody wants a loser.

lolxxx...i will keep this mind..

vingeophysicist:
Guy just make yourself scarce for a while and see how things go.if she really love you she will seek your attention. Guys should try to balance rationality with emotion. Currently, I love a particular girl around where I work but I rarely pour out my emotion. It is only natural for human to take things for granted when the supply is enormous.

i really do not know about balancing of rationality with emotion all this while..

scarcing and distancing myself for a while is a bit helping now..
thanks for this.

luvyaself95:
You're going through alot of pains now sure thing to know
Just Forget her like you don't know her i know is not easy.
it has to do with your mind...
love only yourself just like me...

thanks alot...
just see d poo i got myself into..
am trying so hard 2 forget.. i tryingggg...

luvyaself95:
It happened maybe it was your first time everybody was once like that when you get over it..
you will laugh at yourself for stressing yourself i assure you..
it happened to me too...

okay...thanks alotss

tracyberry:
My advise is you forget it cause if she breaks up with you, these days no one has the time to say "it's over (mehn.... That shit be lame)".
Well I would you focus on your life, keep women and relationship aside and focus your life, when you make it, na them go rush you.
If you know, you know.
*drops mic*

thanks for d advise..working no that now.

plagiarism1:
Op, please don't mind this lady. You must delete her from your life, block her jare, delete her contact joor. You will get hurt, but you will get over it so long you have nothing to remind you about the her. Next time you won't love with your heart but your head.

lolxx....
i really have 2 delete her numb if am to get over it..
tanxx bros 4 dis.

reservd:
Jst make up ur mind to move on n prepare fr d worse dt cld happen either frm u or her then find something doin dt wl occupy ur mind n time so u dnt hv to tink abt her, mayb anoda babe, spend time with frnds, watch movies, dt really works for me, anyhow sha alot has been said already.
PS, ladies wl say d guy shld love more, guys wl say d lady shld love more, is there an ideal situation at all?

thanks too for this..have tried the movies aspect so i can get distracted,really not working for the now..and what hurt me most now is that am the type that hardly mingle and socialize..
never.d.less thanks alot..

lordthree:
Then cut her off for 30 days, don't call or Whatsapp or engage her on social media, if she msgs you or calls don't pick up, make sure in this time you are doing something productive with your life, study , make new friends, go to the gym just make sure you're being positive.

If she doesn't come back to you before the 30days are up then you can move on with your life. This has worked for me time and time again.

highly motivated...
thanks so much for this very one..
i will do as u said..

CyberWolf:
OP it’s obvious that she is gone but not yet official. What I usually do in this situation is to dump her first. Flaunt another babe before her and don’t give a fvck. Once she starts calling to harass you regarding the babe, don’t pick her calls, just blank her.. Then she will be the one begging for your attention. That’s why it’s good as a guy if you’re dating, just keep some close babes by the side incase.

okay..thankss..true truee