victorian:
I was like what?

I didn't hear you correctly ! Do you think food is my problem? Are u sick in your brains or what? He replied chill babe! Its not like your pussy is gold or something .
I said my pussy is more than gold ,infact its Diamond !!!!!!!

And no guy touches or fucvks me cos of food ! Are u mad? What rubbish! Did I call u ,I was hungry and I needed food ? See me , see trouble o!

No wonder u wanted to take me out for a meal.

He said but girls are doing it , I won't be the first , neither will I be the last! I just sparked again and I said God punish you! Useless thing ! Do u think I'm those girls u fucvk for a plate of rice ! Nonsense! Ode!

I cut the call and blocked him , till date . Very useless guy! Ode oshi!

As if food is my problem ! God forbid !

Op next time, don't accept any meal from a guy !

supper story..

who know whether u Bleep the guy self..

lemme mind my business

queenice7:
my boo tells me everything that happens to him, so do I... he tells me abt girls tripping on him and doing crazy things to get his attention... I tell him each time I make a new male friend and our conversations, he seem cool with it. we live in different States (long distance relationship). recently I went for a training, after de training I was hungry, so I decided to see a guy that av been bulging me to see since last year, since I wasn't far from his office, this is the second time am seeing him and we haven't really conversed. he took me to a nice restaurant and we got food... we were eating and discussing abt politics and stuffs, only for him to start telling that he's Hot, that let's go to a lodge, I was so embarrassed but I didn't say a word to him, he got frustrated and left me in the place after paying for the food. I had to find my way home from that place since we came with a car so I didn't know de road. I told my boo this, and he got really angry @ me, and am surprised coz he called me names like cheap flirt and said he was gona show me... like he was literary threatening me, said our relationship is on de verge of break up coz of this. I didn't see this coming and I don't know y he is reacting this way, maybe coz he feels intimidated by this guy's profile, unlike de other guys I tell him about. I guess I should stop telling him anything, wah do u think?

lolxxx...extra cheap they worry you...
trading ya relationship for a plate of rice..

lovelybugs:
I'm only curious about one thing. Where the hell do you guys get these type of girls from??!?

sometimes they aren't that type of girl,they look armless and innocent..
all of a sudden,they just change overnight.
so u nvr can actually tell..

please you guys should stop insulting him as if you were never once a victim..

o.p
there is one thing u must know,
you have to forget her and the words she said to you by any means necessary and MOVE ON!

block and delete everything about her in other to abstain frm trying to reach her and dnt ever fucking build or have that mindset of her coming back to you..she's gone,gone way too way far to return back..its difficult to accept but thats the bitter truth..the better and faster you accept it now,the quicker your recovering.

please stay away from relationship for the now and use this period to build and develop yourself..

you will surely bounce back,its just a matter of time..

please i BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD ALMIGHTY, stand up, dust yourself and MOVE ON..there is a brighter life and a well responsible woman ahead of you in future..its not easy,but you just have 2 be a man now..be man enough to learn from from all what you experienced..

madone:
I for fuccking Ur girl abi wetin.u no go fit.even if u meet me in bed with her. U ll only shout.and I get u arrested for intruding and public disturbance.. simple.if u make mistake slap me u go chop beating sir.

which kind oppression and intimidating be this nah

chenzen:


perhaps... but before her eyes go clear... juice for don finish

i like that word " before her eyes go clear" plan truth..her eyes nvr tear

chenzen:
l actually groomed mine into loyalty... l can actually travel to Dubai knowing fully well that her cunt will still remain intact when l return.

bro pls dnntt...i take God beg u..dnnnttt!

that babe hasn't met someone yet..i mean a better man...i swear...

you might be right shaa ooo...but bro.....lemme nor talk shaa

rex i jst love the word you used "naturally cheater"
that's absolutely what they are..
not all though..
there are still loyal ones..
but probability of finding them is 2% out of 2000

SmellingAnus:
sounds more like my link...

https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need (I started it in 2017 I suppose)

hmmmm...went through it.. quite inspirational...

JESUSBOIY:
OK since you done chop, why not move on make another man chop....

am nt dat kind of guy..

she even gave me opportunity 2 still be with her while she date d other guy..i decline!..is either she's in with me or out..i cant share my woman with anyone

HolyTitus:
sorry bro! of course, i know exactly how it feels but believe you me, you'll get over it quicker than you expected - better and wiser; there would even come a time you'd reminisce this moment that you'd feel like punching yourself hard in the face for ever harboring the feeling you have now - it's a gradual process BUT provided you cut connections with her, i.e; don't pick her call, don't reject the call whilst ringing and don't text or text back when she does and don't stalk her on Facebook too - DON'T unfriend or block her; it's kinda childish to do so. Her reactions to the new-you would is the elixir that would heal you quicker. Lastly, set a goal before a certain age and channel more energy to achieving that goal(s). As regards your next relationship; guide your heart properly and let the next girl do the homework to earn your love and trust and not the other way round. Best of luck in your endeavours.

thanks for this but blocking is very very important..

JESUSBOIY:
but did u fuuvk her?

bleeped hell outta her since 2015 naa..
bleeped her abt 60+ times till will broke up
but that wasn't wat i wanted from her...i wanted a future with her..

Trishiana:
am currently going through that heartbreak right now but what hurts me more my ex lives in the same street as me and I do see him with is new girl and that hurts a lot

thats the reason they say dnt date someone who live close to you..other than breakup,there wont be respect..

currently thesame with me,my ex live vry close to me at home and in school..

jst imagine seeing her everyday..hmm..it hurt though.

nnamdiosu:


I know. But the pain is just gonna last for a while. Trust me you'll be better. Keep your head up. Stop thinking abt it. Just move on. Look for other interests. Games, friends, movies, school or work. Slowly, you'll start getting better.

thanks alot...
you are right..
the pain and thinking has gone now,but slowly..

Lipslikecandy11:



I feel u brah...!!! The fact dat the relationship was barely 2 months old Should have atleast given u the much courage to forget her and move on.. I know its tough though... But u just have to do wat u have to do..!!! U don't deserve negative people in your life cause life they say is too short .. Make more friends preferably females and am sure as hell know u will forget her as fast as the speed of light..!!

thanks..

raphemmanuel:
This is one of the problem girls have this days, the love material things more. Same thing happened during my own case. She was the first love of my life and I was her first too, but another man came in, she starts misbehaving until I can't bear it any longer, I have to breakup with her, though she pleaded but I have already made up my mind.

Every time she will chat me up and keep telling me she misses me.

lolxx..i hope i dnt see that "i miss stuff"

have made up my mind and there is no going back..

danpoly60:
Good evening house!! I am bleeding as I write this piece cos I feel like good women are indeed scarce.
I dated a girl for the first time in the year 2014( August to be precise) I so much loved this girl cos I had never kissed, had sex, nor romanced a lady at the age of 24. I so much loved this girl, and I went through her mom and her mom said so long I won't spoil her daughter, I should go ahead, before I made attempt for the girl and she said yes. In fact both of us are virgins. It all started in the year 2017 three years into the relationship when she acts up and I would ask her what the issue is, she would not speak, I am funny, I brainstorm alot, take time to listen and allow others ideas hold sway. She all of a sudden misread my pure intentions and began acting up. I would always call and visit, buy her stuffs, tell her sweet words I mean and I never and I repeat I never had a side chick, I was 100% faithful to her despite the fact ladies kept coming. I personally was brought up well by a single mother who taught us to respect women and care for them, and be responsible, but October last year she continued such that I called her and pleaded with her to open up Her mind and tell me where am wrong, I will gladly apologize but she rather broke up with me three days later. I was devastated, I almost ran mad but thanks be to God who helped my life and put me together, today I am sound But very careful of ladies. Now she messages me alot, wants to talk with me, even wants me to tell her story but am no more interested at all.
Worst of it all, I see lots of them as pretenders looking for good men to destroy, and I am careful not to transfer aggression towards the wrong person. Yet she keeps coming and her birthday is just 3days from today, what do I do cos I dont know her mission again.. And I Desire to get into a new relationship but am so scared and careful of ladies cos the double and fake life many are living today scares me alot.. Pls I need someone to advise me on the right step to take..

dude....whatever advise nairalanders give you,please follow it..they are professionals and almost 98% correct with what they are saying..

please read my story..almost thesame experience with you..
https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me

Telvin7:
wow dats a sad love story.......what u told her is really touching and even if she is with the guy, She's never going to forget u....and she may even start crying....... she's gonna so miss u......coz she still love you and what u did might make the love increase except if some bad friends spoil u for her

she told me she was suppose 2 take a flight with d said guy d next day (cux i told her there is no need hiding anything from me again)..she canceled it cux she was loosing strength dat night..

funny she left me because of money...i just told her that and she knows..

Irenemmeso:
LOL this girl really loves you, yes she loves you so much! and she has a beautiful mind. the problem is that she isn't seeing a future with you and probably her parents or relatives are pressuring her so she had no option to break up with you.....this is mere assumption I'm not sure ooo

lolxx..all this your assumption of a thing self its as if u knw her vry well..

the night we broke up, she cried althrough the night (cause we where together,broke the relationship after i took the phone i bought for her while she was sleeping and checked her inbox, hmm..dear, it wasn't funny)..

she woke up, took the phone from me,went back to bed, i went after her, hug her from behind,told her am fine,sje should move on with the other guy, n that i forgive her n thank her for coming into my life..

she burst into tears..

she couldn't sleep that night,even if she manage to, 15mins latter,she's awake,then the cry continues with "am sorryyyyy" cause i was awake all through.

i knew she loved me,cause even after series of pressure frm me to call off the relationship if she's not interested,i also gave her alot of opportunity 2 break things up with me, but how she couldn't until i went through her inbox still baffles me..

well, am not poor,am jst an average guy born without a silver spoon trying 2 survive like other guys out there, BUT, trust me when i say POVERTY IS A BASTARD..

anyway, i just wish her,told her i forgive her and will keep on adding her in my prayer...that one come even make the cry worst..

lolxx...this life shaa..

lesson learnt..life goes onnn!

Gebbson007:



u brought this upon ur self bro ... UV been a sucker fr er

it can happen 2 anybody especially if its your first time.

Originalsly:


Actions speak louder than words. Does her actions match what her mouth is saying? You are her first love.... that doesn't change... there can be only one first love...and that will always be you. She now has another love.... the other guy... does she still love you?...yes...but not as a lover. Your days been numbered.... from her actions...your days are over. That's part of life...part of maturing...how to handle disappointments.... just like learning to walk..or ride a bicycle...what do you do when you fall.... and get hurt? ...lay down and mourn?...or suck up the pain... get up and be more careful the next time? The babe is telling you in code...she has another man...and letting you know who it is..... that's how women are in these situations... they speak in code. Move on.

have moved on already,though she try friendzoning me..even after d breakup,she called me,said she wanna hangout with me,gave me her room key and told me 2 make use of her food stuffs while she's away..

i jst told her i appreciate her friendship but i DNT NEED IT!

anyway,thanks alot.

Irenemmeso:
Ok, no problem. Its God's will for you and her. She made the right decision for you and her.

Just use this mindset above to judge it ok and don't think you won't find someone like her or you won't love someone else the way you loved her, trust me you will!!..its matter of time.
Focus on your studies, graduate and make money, be independent and ready for serious relationship(marriage) then you gonna find the love of your life

thanks alot for this

crazyabbey:


Lols our lifestyle is just the same, it's very funny. You are still more lucky than me, u are in skul i just finished my NYSC last year December and i am still trying 2 set things up dat is why i am staying at home at the moment. I don't just know what to do.....it painful

easy man..

better days ahead..
the current condition isn't going 2 be permanent.
things are going 2 change as time goes on.

wishing u all d best in future.

stay calm.

crazyabbey:


Morning bro, am feeling a little bit better now all thanks to the little advice you guys gave me. We will get through it bro my only problem now is that am kind of an introverted kind of guy i am always alone at home most of the time and dat is making things hard a little bit.

lolxxx...dude ah swear,its as if after God finish creating me,he created you next
that's exactly me..i fucking love 2 be alone..

dude d bitter truth is that its going 2 be dam hard for you..

try n get something doing or mingle with people..

luckily for me i have resume school after d strike..

you just have to stop being along,its part of the recovery process.

Irenemmeso
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akaahs

and everyone who contributed to this trend, i really thank and appreciate you all for your candy advise and concern towards me..

well, we finally broke up on a cold night.
found out that she was already dating the said guy since early February cux he is rich.

i just told her no probs, let her know i forgive her.

head's high,staying calm and focusing on my studies and the future.

thanks all!

Irenemmeso:
Op, there is 98% chances that the girl would leave you soon! I'm sorry, it hurts
You said you have been dating her for 5years now and you both are still schooling under your parents care. My dear the gal is not seeing any future with you, but she is seeing a future with the other guy who is independent and telling her about marriage.



















Loll don't mind me ooo, this is mere assumption
Face your studies dear, don't let this affect your studies ok

this was never an assumption.
you were 200% percentage right.
we finally broke up.

dudesexy111:
Lol heartbroken i am always ready for anything because all this girl are unpredictable.......

lolxx..true talk ooo

bro hw far have you gone in your heart break mourning... for me,am abit relieved...

crazyabbey:


Damn it!! Dat means am lucky den, because my own is far away from me although we are within d same state. U just have 2 carry eyes away from her side ni o, d best option is for you 2 act like she doesn't exist in your world anymore. because she fit friendzone u later

she's already outta ma world oo

crazyabbey:


God!! you have really done alot 4 dis your Ex-girl, nawa 4 dis our girls o my own relationship is just about 9 months wen its end. I remember she called me on phone and ask me 2 send her money for phone and i said i don't have money, d next thing i see on her whatsapp status is "i will never stump so low 2 date a broke guy again in my life" a week later she bought a new phone and she told me one of her friends bought it 4 her.

Na so my own start her drama o,

no b small thing ooo..

moving has be quite difficult cux she lived very close to me in my area and even school,we still live close..
so seeing her everyday, dnt u see its going 2 b x2 difficult for me?

but ah man,wat to dooo?

crazyabbey:


I just finished reading your thread from page 1-5 and it has been very helpful to me i learn alot. It as if u are writing my story, am just checking out the dating drill link too, how i wish i have seen dis before all dis happens ............anyway life goes on sha, once bitten twice shy

heheheh...dude if u wanna get better,though there is no easy way,jst allow ur self to feel the pain,if you feel like crying,CRY!!!

trust me, i knw u are currently depressed, feeling that revenge spirit, loss of appetite to even drink or eat, stomach cramp as if there is something moving inside.,dude just bare am and feel it.. trust me, its only a matter of time..

crazyabbey:


bro i understand how u feel right now, but we gat no choice we gat 2 move on with our lives.........just keep doing anything dat will make u 4get her, its not easy love is a trap.

lolsss...especially if the girls is damm beautiful

guy runnnnn....i repeat, RUNNNN!..they are snakes in human form..

chances of seeing a genuine and committed one is 2% out of 2000

i help ma babe with her admission for gud 2 times to ensure she enters higher institution when all her mate are already in 300l after failing jamb 2time/sitting out home for 2years without doing nothing..

i pass thru many stress even after d admission,

after settling down,going to class, meet new guys and that free world of higher institution,she started misbehaving

redrew all the love,attention care and everytin that spice up a relationship and stated posting on her status "Bleep THOSE WHO THINK WE CANT DO WITHOUT THEM"..

since that day, everything u saw in my story stated happening..

i just overlooked it and smile..this life shaaa...