pkang:
So I have this beautiful cousin sister and she is the dream girl for every man.
She smiles lovely, an intelligent lady and very articulative.
Well I am always proud of her and so the rest of the family.
She has a serious date while she stays with us for her ND and HND program.
Her boyfriend was also a student so they were seen as lover birds. The dude is always seen around this babe and to the best of my knowledge, they were having wedding plans.
I for once wasn't really comfortable with the availability of this dude to my cousin. I believe it is not good for men to be at all times too available for their women but what is my business.
My shocker was when I called my cousin one certain time, she told me she is currently serving at Maiduguri for the one year NYSC program. Jokingly, I told her on phone that this one she has gone to North, she shouldn't marry there and disappoint her man down here o. Her response was a shock to me. That her guy is there with her for about three weeks as I made the call.
Wow, I was like how come this dude be monitoring this girl as if he is a spirit sent from the village lol.
Well yesterday on my cousin's timeline, she is thanking God for safe delivery of a baby girl and guess what, the husband is a dude who is not the spirit that has been monitoring her. Haahahahaha
I think men should spend more time having fun with different babes
But that is the truth. 90% of the time the girl you are serious and want to die for is busy with her life in the hands of an unserious man.

lolxx...what a pity to that monitoring spirit
though what you said is the plane truth..
being too available,
sacrifices too much,
too sincere,
too serious,
too faithful and to trust them is not worth it
it piss them off..i mean,they dnt like it

Chukwudiajibo:
Help me my fellow nairanlanders, my ex girlfriend is pissing me off, I break up with my girlfriend on the 24th oct, 2018 after i discovered she haved been having sex with another guy, she admit that she have been having sex with the guy, i hates her from the buttom of my heart, i told her to stay away from my life, but this nonentity girl has been going around telling people that am the caused, my major concern now is for her to stay away from me and never involve me in any discussion, i swear i just feel like to kill her right now, i swear please how do i make her avoid me permanently, i dont want her anymore, any woman that cannot control her self is disgusting, i want this girl out of my life, she has been tormenting since last year pls help me

hahahahahaha guy no kill her oooo...hehehehe

lolxx...experienced thesame thing..dude you need some time to cool off

totally getting rid of her is easy but its up to you and not her..

do you still have anything about her?
do you still tensionally or go about seeking for what she told others or seeking for the people she told?
do you still pick her calls? reply her text? or even call her yourself,probably to warm her or for other reason?

if yes in any of the above quest, then you are not yet ready to get rid of her

just get rid of any loopholes she's passing through to get your attention even it means getting rid of those people she has telling..

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Preciousgirl:
Many mad people don flood this thread I swear

no one is mad here..

but if you still insist we are, then prov it by telling us how he sent you his di.ck all of sudden?

you think we are babies

i sorry 4 hubby

EVILFOREST:
Are you asking of how you will HANDLE his DICCK....?? Or what

hahahahahahah
guy you worst

Preciousgirl:


I am not a slut u ediat

aunty you are jor..

others giving you simple and nice advise know you are,they just dont want to tell you

how can someone wake up from sleep and send you his di.c.k? ...accept it, you both are into something..

no hard feelings but i shake my head for your husband...

emmysolo2001:
Your friend would be a complete idiot to cut her off,do you know what it means to have a girl with no friends,who keeps to her self. A girl with no friend to confuse her about her relationship, or partying, or skipping school. Damn he would be dump to leave a person with the right mindset.

that's the type of girl want to have a future with...

luvyaself95:
Like seriously how are you dodging her..

hahahaha...lolxx..Franklin speaking, its not an easy task
bt am getting use to it sha..the last time we bump each other,she was about to stop n say hi,seeing her getting close,i just put on my earpiece and walk pass her like i nvr saw her, i dnt look back but i knew she felt embarrass cux she was with her friends...

though it wasn't easy for me to do that cause i still have that strong feelings for her,like crazeeeee...but i have to use it to pass a message to her..we can't be friend's,certainly not now,mayb next 3years or whenever my feelings for her is completely gone..i can't settle for less..

luvyaself95:
Na this same thing am trying to do here and it been hard task to get done since...

the worst aspect is that she live very close to me both in school and at home..#DOUBLE_WAHALA....

luvyaself95:
Dat kind Love dey strong no matter how pesin try to commot am...
we're in the same situation bro...

dude i swear..
i tried to kill the feelings i have for her, ah no fit, its as if am deceiving my self.. d pain is way too much..i jst leave am like that make time heal my heart..
make e heal anytime e like provided i ignore and avoid her..

dairykidd:


Chai! Brotherly u were so deep in love with that ur babe sha.. I can still feel ur hurt. Always let a girl love u more than u love her until she proves beyond reasonable doubt she's all urs then do wtv u got to do to keep her. Its better this way so that if she wan fvckup u go help her straighten the fvckup well for her.

abi ooo...thanks jor

raphemmanuel:
You know some girls don't know the kind of things the put some men (especially the nice ones) into.
I must say this, "it is mostly the NICE GUYS that suffers heartbreak most times".

Imagine investing, trusting and giving it best to a girl, just for her to come up with a FOOLISH UNREASONABLE REASON to end the relationship.

This girls will have one thing to give as a reason the should end their relationship. Whereas on a real sense, this is what they can sit down and discuss to settle it.
I don't know what the think most times? Do they always think u can get a man that is totally perfect.

If you look deeply into this girls, u will still find out that the have their own problem too but this NICE GUYS will still overlook that problem that is found in them and still try to get use it, but this girls will still be looking for loopholes to lay hold on.

I don't give a fvck to this girls, I never pity them when they are dealt with by the BAD GUYS AND SWEET-MOUTHED GUYS.

This girls don't like to hear the truth from the NICE GUYS they prefer to be flattered by lies.

To Hell with such kind of girls which this Op is among them.

you said it ALL!....

luvyaself95:
I think She must be your first love That why you still have feelings for her if yes it happens like that..

yea she is...still love her like mad..

raphemmanuel:
Hello bro, I still remember ur thread about ur ex-girlfriend which I gave my opinion.
U mean that girl that left you for a rich dude that was planning to marry her is begging to come back to u?

I remember u said she canceled her flight with the guy because she was heartbroken after you told her to move on with her new relationship.
I also remembered you said that she told you to take whatever you want each time from her room which you turned down the offer.

Bro honestly, I am happy that what she saw glittering was not gold and she is regretting it.

Bro I swear you are now the King, atleast she will respect you anywhere she sees you and always wish for second Chance which will not come.

This is the kind of thing I love to see happening to all this cheaters.

thumbs up man you still remember..

lolxxx..she came to my lodge,pretending to visit and check on me.,i ask her abt her new life,she just hiss then i knew there was fire on the mountain,she try hiding it,but she couldn't cause she knew she could trust me and i always give her advise that will guild her when we were together,so she had to spill everything out in essence for me to advise her,telling me the said guy has another 3 extra babe, and one was even pregnant for him and that she was lucky not to have go too dip with d guy that she would have suffer..

though i was angry at her for leaving me for that kind of a dude,latter when she left, i nor knw when i take laugh troway ma evening food..

she was still trying to come back through visiting and checking on me until i text her that i appreciate i what we've been through but i DNT WANT TO SEE HER FACE or HEAR HER VOICE AGAIN...up till today, have not heard from her..

though i still love and have feeling s for her,
but things have change
i have to do the needful,
i have to man up and let things slide away no matter how hurtful it is..
am getting better now..

Hector09:
Bro let me tell u something, that girl is using u as a steping stone, once she is done with her education u re gunner, and u we be walking alone, let me share my story with u, i meet a girl some yrs back and i help her gt admission in my skul, knowing that she ve achieve her aim she told her frnd that i'm pathetic, lol and behold the adm list was faulty and the school cancelled everything she started begging me knowing that she cant sort herself out, after i accepr her back and the schoool ve resolve everything and she was re-admitted, after six months this girl start telling me that she is nt the same mary that i knw before, guy dont sarcrifice for any girl

hahahahahahahahahahaha....same thing happen to me

Evercurious:


You should have known that 'advice' in scenario such as this will come with insults just to straighten your brain.. Your response confirms that the message has been delivered.

YOU DESERVED IT BABE

lolxxx...really delivered

Anonny1:

A big fvck u to anybody that insulted me. I asked for advise not insults.
Once again.
Fxxck u

you dnt need advise, you need beating the one that will format your brain to 10years ago..

better dump your guy let someone who is mentally stable and responsible locate him..dnt use your ungrateful hole to block his destiny.

hahaha...

o.p listen to me and listen very carefully..

first, you love that babe so much and from your comment, with the call aspect about ignoring each other for a week, i can sense you are the man in the relationship, controlling her and controlling your feelings/ emotions towards her at thesame time..kudos.!

o.p see,that babe has an "i don't care" attitude,if in case you dnt know(i may be wrong though)..and it might drag you down along in future if you are still loyal to her or still with her of which i know you will cause you love her.,dnt be surprise she may not even be reasoning a future with you self

o.p lemme tell you, that babe isn't cheating "Yet",but i can bet my balls that she's going to cheat, 101% sure..why?
*you are to nice and kind for her,
*you are to available for her,
*she knows you love her so much and you can do the undoable for her, thereby using it to toy with your feeling and emotions you have for her,cause even after doing some shitty stuff,she knows you are still going to forgive her,
*you sacrifices way to much for her, with your energy? time? resources?..its way too much man,

i understand your love for her,i understand you want things to be right with her, but man, frankly speaking from other people's experience, i can foresee a bad end..chances are she's just using you as a step stone to her success..
her family knowing about you,your relationship with her and the marriage stuff isn't yet enough for you to sacrifices alot on her..IT ISN'T oooo!

op you know her better than i do,do you think if things is now okay with her, like no more carry over, project Done, graduated, financially stabled,with rich dude coming her way, o.p do you think she will still look your way? or think twice about you and all what you passed through for her when things were rough with her??

op, op ,op!!! i pity you

all what i said above may be wrong though,but i insist you keep it in mind and apply caution to that babe matter with her aunty problem on the other side..

i may edit and add more adv latter

Kearl:
If you already feel horrible about this, then know what you are about to do is horrible, but I promise you this, you will always find fault with that your man until you clear your eyes with this new guy,

nothing we say here will even matter to you until you cheat on him, he’ll notice the change in you and will later discover your treachery. Your new guy will be fed up of you and will go on to other catches or to his own steady babe. Then you’ll finally blame yourself for wasting ten years of your life in just a couple of months.

you talk like a Messiah..

what happened to me.

broke up with me,our 5years relationship,
went to date a sweet mouthed guy,
a month latter,only to discover the dude has 3 extra babe,one of which was pregnant for him,
babe was trying to come back,
i notice, then push her away,
babe texted me she just wasted 5years of her life

Anonny1:
I am 27, I have been with the man I've always wanted to marry for over 10 years, since I was in secondary school. We have a long term relationship and we have our ups and downs, in general he is a great, loyal, dedicated man who loves me so much, but he doesn't make me laugh at all and I do get bored with him sometimes, he's serious and not fun, but I've always told myself that it ws ok and I we were getting married soon, until recently something terrible happened when I met this coworker, who I never thought I'd like, but after talking to him, which I know is wrong by all means, I fell in love with how funny, charming and amazing he is, I've never laughed this much in my life and it feels weird, he is romantic and he talks about everything which is quite the opposite of my fiancé he even gives it to me hard, just the way I like it. . Now I don't know what to do, I'm completely lost and I don't know what to do. Should I end my 10 year old relationship for someone I've known for 2 months?
I feel like I cheated on the both of them and my first guy is not really satisfying me the way I want
I already feel like a horrible person and I don't know if I can fix my mistakes.
Please help me..

Cc: lilianofentse rocktation

this was exactly how my girlfriend broke up with me...

o.p..dnt deceive your self..the loyal man has already lost you..you are already into that sweet mouthed guy and its just a matter of time before you break up ur with your first man..

o.p you are weak, a fool and a betrayal...

in no time,the loyal man will discover whats going on with you cause trust me when i say you will never and cant hide it from him cause he's going to notice it, things will start changing in your relationship soon, your feelings and emotions and everything you have for the loyal man will shift to the sweet mouthed guy..the loyal with will be heart broken but you wont be cause someone has already sweet mouthed your weak and ungrateful brain
your relationship with the loyal guy will be broken and you both will go apart while you into relationship with the sweet mouthed guy, a relationship that wont last up to 6months or even a year compare to the first guy...
then you come back begging and crying to have the first guy back.

o.p screenshot this comment,cause its all going to happen soon..just watch and see..

idiot,just ask yourself, he makes you laugh,fine! BUT what if that laughter is no longer there??...

may i never meet an ungrateful harlot like you in my life.."AGAIN!"

babyfaceafrica:
you have a loyal and great man..but you fell for a smooth talker who can make you laugh......you are the one of the reasons why lots of men say women are confused!!..please leave the bf...you don't deserve him..he deserves someone serious and better...do you know what people will give to have a loyal and devoted man?..if all you desire at these stage is someone to.make you laugh..please marry bovi nansense!!

you said it ALL!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Strive for success my dear, for u and your family. I'm sure u stronger now

ofcux i will but not because of her...

Exty, i was there for you, always there for you..
when you had a very rough time, i was there for so you dnt feel lonely, things went bad for you, still, i encourage you,i advise you, i sacrifices my life, i time, my job, my money, my friendship with others just to make things go all well for and to ensure your dreams come true..i had plans for us and our future.

i ignore my friends advise, my little sister warning about you and paid a deft ear when mama told me i should be very careful with you..

funny enough,all what they said came to pass..

you crushed my heart, broke the promises, destroy my trust, play and toyed with my emotions, insult me, lied on me and laugh at me because things are working fine for you ,because rich guys promised you heaven and earth, because you want to live an expensive life style i told you about that you should be patient with me..

just a little step to success, you kicked the very person that has been there for you during your rough days..

well, am happy it all ended this way..i wont strive for success just to revenge you, rather,i will let things slide away and focus on myself and family...

oga once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER...
if she love you so much,then why did she cheat on you?

oga focus on your new babe..its better to build something new with her than wasting your energy trying arrange a cheating and cracked relationship. even if you forgive her, i doubt if you can still trust her again..

she's now your past and your ex,let her remain there..focus on your new relationship, let your ex know she lost a diamond while trying to pick up stones..

but op you self enhh...you broke ur ex,you dnt even take time off to cool down and give yourself sometime,you just rush enter a REBOUND relationship with someone else,that's the reason you are still into ur ex

but anyway shaa;Dif you still want to move on with ur ex and break up with ur new babe despite knwing fully well she is a cheater,then its your choice..

millionboi2:
I love ur boldness.

Hope u didn't attach ur life to any gal at d moment?


Girls are somtin else,thy can turn a man's life into somtin either positively or negatively

funny but plain truth

MJBOLT:

that number 1 is extremely disgusting especially that eye lash rubbish
i respect girls who go natural(no make up) or apply little make up.

my ex said she wants to come back,i gave her 5 rules, number 3 rule was more no eye slash again..

i hate that crap..

GutsOverFear:

Thanks.
I'm just curious though because I know she loves me too much to break up with me just like that without trying to resolve things.

o.p i guess this is your first love or first relationship..

sorry to say, you really sound naive..

about her too love for you and the over confidence you have for her, here's a little advice and guidance for you..please be careful.
https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need

GutsOverFear:

why the laugh

dude its now 98% certain that babe is no longer with you...

please before you give her space/time or before you implement the no contact rule or whatever, please try to talk to her to know if everything is alright but DONT beg her, if you must do, just apologise alittle and dnt act wanting as if your life depends on her..

base on experience, when you offended her, you just gave her the excuse and chance she needed to push you away..now, even if you beg her a million times, its a NO NO!..
she can still tell you she love you,she can still cry for you or whatever, which is actually and currently giving you the mindset that she still love you,but deep down her mind,she might or she has already loss interest in you and dont have that much feeling for you again..

dude i might be wrong in all this, but just be careful,the relationship can still be save or still worth saving,its not late,but what ever happens, ensure she knows you are truly sorry just to ensure that you are not at fault if anything happens and DONT hand her your balls man..

well, enough of this my shit jhor

GutsOverFear:

Do u have the no contact rule link?

Plus I'm afraid she might read different meanings to me not actually calling her because she told me not to.

U know with girls u never know

o.p i have the link but i dnt know if they will banned me if i post it..
please just try and google it...its everywhere on google..
it works very very well and help solve lots of problem in relationships.

GutsOverFear:

she said we can behave as friend during this period.

I asked if I should call her and she replied with are you supposed to call or not call your friend

o.p if she really,......i mean actually told you thiss..ahahahahahahaha...

sorry for the laugh...

FZed

sherylbakky:
Don't try dis...u know y? Cos u are d one at fault, two drivers can't drive d same vehicle. I'm actually seeing dis after my other reply. U can only do this if she ask u not to call her.

Do, but don't let it be so much to d extent of disturbing her with it in d process.

lolzz

daft!

she said she need SPACE!!!

applying the no contact rule will benefit both o.p and his babe..

even if o.p call her once/per week, she may think o.p isn't giving her the space she want...

moreover,it wont be easy for o.p to control the urge of not calling her,but O.P,the more you keep on calling or trying to checkup on her,the more you "MIGHT" be trying to push her away...

o.p incase you still dnt understand, go and read about no contact rule.

ubunja:
don't talk rubbish. The girl will come back pregnant with another dude's Baby. Never take back a girl that goes and comes back if you know what's good for you.

am not talking rubbish, if she come m comes back, it's left for op to take her back or not..no doubt she need a space to Zap another guy; D...

but dude,stop being silly over my comment as if na me cause am make d girl leave op