pcguru1:


just treat people the way you want to be treated and avoid women who don't value your time, because these days a lot of people don't have integrity, I have had my share of women who are leeches and I cut them off. I've had a lady ask for money and got angry when I said I didn't have to give, she made a silly statement, and till now she is on my block list, those who add value to me, I give them before they ask both guys and ladies.

A lot of those women who focus on cash, I really pity them, because of money they will overlook a quality brother, I will tell a story before I leave, I had this friend who dated this girl for years, the girl came to lagos once and she changed her attitude and broke up with my friend. Why ? Because of the Lagos lifestyle, this guy was the one that had one game centre at ozone, Ibuku Orefuja , I advised him to see it as a good sign, that imagine if this was marriage, the guy did masters in Canada , got a job and met a lady, the funny part was the lady begging him to take her back. But why would he ? he has see what kinda person she is, the type that will leave because of materialism. Alot of these money will come and go, in my 33 years, I have seen a lot of people chase what they presume to be gold, only to lose that which was valuable within their grasp.

I have seen men leave reasonable women for slay queens only to regret it in the future, even as a man, there some ladies that when they call, you just feel angry to pick up the call, because you know such lady is only about hang-out, gist and frivolous things. This Lagos ehn, all you see on Instagram is fake-lifestyle, packaged cash but sadly alot of these girls don't know. It's later down the years they realize that guy was struggling made it in life and they lost such opportunity. anyway sha take care my brother we go all make am.

thanks alot for this..

i pick some few stuff u said and will keep it to mind.

thanks alot for this..

press005:
Love is overrated here..In fact, It doesn't exist in Nigeria. All the above can happen just within the first two months, after which everything dwindles with immediate effect.

At last, the regular routine becomes regular sex and how to yoke the guy with financial demands.

wise saying..
only this experienced and wise one will understand

Biglittlelois:
Just dont cheat, for the ladies, if he's not satisfying you sexually as you want, e.g orgasm, just get toys and masturbate or tell him your fantasies, if he still isn't able to get you there, use toys.

okayy

maj59:
Truth Of The Mata Read and Thank Me Lata . FOOD FOR THOUGHT
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This is Naira Marley in court...if you look closely you'll see his mum and siblings present...if Marley is married you'd also see his wife and kids here too...
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I learnt a lot of lessons here today.
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1 Marley is a musician but no musician present not even Zlatan or Davido who openly made a post that he got his back.
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2 Marley is a celebrity but no single celebrity in his circle this time..
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3 Marley has a fan base known as the
# MARLIANS but no single MARLIAN fan present
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4 Marley's arrest triggered the social media #FreeMarley campaign but not single #FreeMarley campaign team present
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It's just Marley and his small family standing alone.... now my point is this men and women will always cheer you up when you're winning but when you get into mess it's just you and your family alone carrying the cross... so stop investing on irrelevant people...start investing on your family...family is always the real ones around you....they are the only ones who can shamelessly and boldly stand by you in your mess.... the whole love from the street is fake both me and you reading this...we are all bunch of fake ass with fake love...change your mindset today...limit your friends...Build a smaller circle and make sure your family members occupy 90% of that circle...because everybody in your circle are not in your corner....in the end you'll be standing alone...be wise be guided...use your brain...nobody cares when you are in a mess...
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We will only gossip with it and live you to clean your mess alone....
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A word is a enough for the wise

you wanna know who your real friend are?

F.uckup and see who will stand by your side!

the boyfriend of that lady should have it in mind that he doesn't have a gf.. should naira marley come for her now,its going to be a goodbye

daddytime:
W

space booker

Mekuze2:
it's not about sex... I love her.

we know you love her,but that's you only payback..
she wont even do again..
oya start arranging your loads
your rent has expired

you need advise?

just forgive her and forget...

tell her the shit shouldn't repeat itself again

and please marry her

mumu!
okafor's law is a bitch

Holyson213:
I am presently dating one and paying her fees. I refused to change her phone so she won’t use the new phone which I will buy to call her exes and male friends cus she got loads

I was actually thinking of this when I stumbled on this thread, cus Money hard to come by (her fees is about 70k) and our ladies aren’t loyal anymore. I don’t cheat but my woman cheated twice on me couple of years back tho

I am thinking of cutting it short because I just sent the mum 50k and I don’t know what is doing me. As if na Jazz but I get weyrey for head.

May God help us !

just count whatever you have spend for her as ur loss..

reduce the spending on her and her family,observe her while you prepare for the worst.

but chances she's going to stick with you despite your spending is still very very slim..

when she wants 2 cut you off,trust me,she wont have a rethink of what u spend on her, not even N5

and when you try to remind her,you start hearing things like,
"what have done"
"did i beg or force you"
"to hell with you"
"Bleep those who think i cant do without them" na dis one ma ex troway give me hahahaha

Thuglife2020:
Here is one

karmar with hit on her...

you are not going to suffer that alone,her next boyfriend and future husband will suffer thesame fate..

Seniorcitizen:
thank you so much for those who contributed positively towards this post. you guys have opened my eyes.you see,the things we do for LOVE sometimes can be so crazy.one should not pour all his heart recklessly.. I truly love this girl, so beautiful and reasonable but I think I shouldn't rush things to avoid stories that touches the.....

guess what!!!
she just called me an hour ago that she have accepted and have already sign the form. the school admin too have been calling me that she received her form and I should pay for her acceptance fees immediately (40k)

how do I get out of this situation without offending/disappointing her and her family?

ahahahahahahaah...please its better to retreat with shame and your head down atleast for the now..

if you both are serious about this, MARRY her first, like someone said, she should at least have 2 kids for you first

jst try and jokily propose to her first and see the way she go take shock you

Seniorcitizen:
yeah....I want to marry her if possible but am not trying to convince her with that.I just feel like helping her the best I can

if i may ask,dude are your siblings educated? are you parents financially buoyant? you can channel your money and help to them and receive more blessing in advance instead you digging an early grave for yourself..

you dnt want to convince her with the help whatever you are rendering,no probs! but if you are doing it in hope of having a future with her,marry her FIRST!..is she even aware you are thinking of having a future with her??

everybody that made a comment in this post already know the shit you are about to get yourself into but stupidity and love wont make you see it..

can you continue paying are school fees? can you force her to attend class? when school stress comes up, will you be there for her? finally after graduation,what is the probability that she's going to consider or stick with you? knowing fully well she will be more educated than you while other suitors who are still more better than you comes her way.

MissRaine69:
I will wait here for you to write what exactly the problem is.
No rush ........

hahahahhaahhahah

before i got to the middle of the post,i knew the first comment will be awkward

lemme join you jor..

na who no get problem they use english pray.

interested.. thanks alot for this.

Aaaaarghmed:
It's not going to be easy actually in my own case because I have up to 500 pics of me and she and also my parents, even my younger sister wedding she is in most of the pics.in my laptop her pics and videos is virtually everywhere.I need to find a good time to delete all of them,am also an introvert and I don't have much friends coupled with the fact that my work gives me ample time,the maximum number of times I can go to work in week is 3times and so most time am free.what I use to clear my head sometimes is to fuel my car and drive far away to see some peeps and discuss or take a beer or two.she has made me a laughing stock because some of my friends tried to make me cheat on her wen we were dating and I declined by telling dem I have a serious lady for marriage,I feel so empty most times.I even planned on renting an apartment in gwarimpa,Abuja so we can start life there and I thank God I have not done it yet before this disappointment. My dad keeps asking me if we are still going for d Intro this year.its not easy but I gotta keeping moving

bro you are a man..ah swear..

take heart..

with ur comment,u ar going to move on way too quick

na wa shaaa...

Kenturkey048:
Eriga is street oriented and streetly smart...
He speaks so much in slangs,not like this fool that feels Nigeria is one lawless country that you can just promote what is not legally accepted in the society..

Street na general market you fit pick 2.

Even for hell fire devil sit down dey press
terms like dis no be very man decode wetin him yan.

lolxxx..you are very correct

all we needed was one as a scape goat

victor AD and Erriga will soon join the queue

i know their fans will come for my head

SmellingAnus:
Wow... I am happy to know that my diary about " WORDS OF WISDOM MADE A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOU..." THEY SAY THE SECRET OF GREAT MEN ARE IN THEIR STORIES...

IT IS IGNORANCE THAT WILL MAKE SOMEONE NOT TO KNOW THAT THE ROAD HE IS CURRENTLY PASSING THROUGH, SOMEONE ELSE HAS PASSED THROUGH THAT SAME ROAD...

Gospeltruth01 just go through that thread and be wise... When you come out from this current heartbreak , let those words of wisdom sink in you...

dude at a time, your post of WORDS OF WISDOM became my national anthem

everything in that post is fucking real and true..

hat off for you man.

Biglittlelois:


Like I said, go back to my comment on your thread, memorise, ponder and sleep on it, that way you wont sound so dumb and behave like a sissy when getting over a relationship.

This is my last response to you.

lolxxx....hahaha..got u pant down

Biglittlelois ..am one of your fan oh

we dnt have to beef nah

beside,u take shitty things 2 personal and too serious

anyway,thanks for your comment wen i was emotionally down but i dnt have 2 memorise it okay

am stronger now 'NO' thanks to you

hahahahaha

was only jokinggg

i do see ur comments,but never seen you make a very lengthy comment like this
culdn't even defend any of the above list i gave
guess i must have hit you so hard..lolxx

Biglittlelois:


Now 3 months is an ideal length of time to get over a heart break, when it's getting to 6 months to a year, it becomes an obsession, which brings in negative thoughts like wanting to seek revenge or harm the "heart breaker", which in itself is not healthy, hence my first comment, hints to him allowing himself to hurt for 3 months give or take,

you sound very dumb and pathetic with this..

VERY VERY WRONG!!!

not everyone is like you..

even obsession and wanting to seek revenge is also part of the feelings,also part of the recovery process..85% of people are likely going to experience that feelings especially if the sacrifices way too much in the relationship.

Bossjakande:
gosh I think u deserve beta dear it not worth it why be in pains wen u can be happy. dont be depress dear did u need a friend to lean on. I care lot

NA DEM BE THIS OOOH

Biglittlelois:
It took me 3 months to get over a 5 year relationship, I hope yours won't be much longer, you will be fine dude, it's part of life's experiences.

guess simply because you are a lady,
having other options beside him
you dnt even need to get hurt that much if you broke the relationship,
you dnt sacrifices too much in the relationship,
you are a Bleep-girl..
am 70% sure you were still having someone else within that 3months of recovery
jst guessing oo

its not going to easy for him being an introvert.
going into another relationship isn't going to be easy, the time,energy,finance, trust and other stuff he needs 2 channel in 2 build a new relationship.

Op i have a thousands of words with millions of advise to give you but really cant type them

so i take God beg you while on my keens,if its going to take you the entire month to read this links and every single comment, please do, take you being an introvert as an advantage to read them "thoroughly" cause there are alot of wise comment/advise that will guild you..the answers you seek are all there..

i made a comment in this link, look for my moniker on d first page and please go through it.
https://www.nairaland.com/5186025/how-survive-seeing-ex-girlfriend-campus#78384200

this was my post when i lost my gf,similar to what transpire between you and you gf..there are alot of wise comment/advise that helped me
https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me


This will also guild you about other people,your next relationship,never to trust too much,learn to make yourself happy and always learn to walk alone in life.
https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need


o.p na so i fit help you ooo
does who have ear's,let dem hear
for you to know the road ahead,ask those coming back!

#drop_mic

Airtimex:
It will be easy for her now but the regrets will come when she is unable to find someone who loves her like you...


all the same, she is not for you or maybe she is for you but her quest for new nigga won't let her focus on you...

fate don comot hand for our matter, that's why we have broken marriages up and down...


Wish her well and Move on bro

a very short comment with millions of meanings and only the experienced and wise one will understand especially you first 2 paragraph

you sound very wise,nice and very thoughtful of you..

hat off for you man..

bigpriik:


see weakling too dey talk smh ,I may sound stupid to you but am more masculine than you a woman with diiik fool,am emotionally stronger than you you wey dey cry for woman nearly commit suicide because your girl leave you .I fall in love too but I love with my heart and head because in love you should expect anything anytime that's my watchword when am dating a girl I love cautiously because nothing in life is given am very sure if a girl breaks your heart again you will drink sniper.FYI I have being heartbroken before too I handled it like a man recovered in two days because a woman is not my purpose and source of happiness in life I didnt come here to lament like you weakling!am sure you wunt cry that much if you lost a relative but you cry like that for girl betamale.

now you sound more silly and pathetic..

orzuor who dey drag relationship and emotional masculine with you ...how do you having them add anything to my bank acct

OTONDO go get something 2 do with ur abashed n psychotic life..

n pls dnt quote me back cux am not your mate

Explicit1212:
you are answering this dude with "bigprik" as username? From all his comments so far you should know he is very immature.

hahahahahhaha....so you too also know that guy always sound stupid

Ellaheart1:
I see so many guys encouraging those facing heartache to get over it and stop being sissies. Or even bragging about how quickly they got over an ex, but honestly the truth is there's no one size fits all approach to dealing with heartbreak. We all were not present with you during the relationship, we didn't share your emotions and feelings, we don't know how great and deep your loss is so we can't fully empathize. What I know is, just like every other hardship in life you have to be brave and face it head on, it is okay to feel hurt, don't try to pretend like it isn't happening because that's only a temporary fix until someone else breaks your heart again. It is all part of the healing process , and learning to accept and deal with heartbreak will save you in future because the more it happens, and trust me it will continuously happen cause we are all human, the less likely it is to hurt like the first time and the better you will be at handling it.

it won't always be like this dear and one day you'll wake up and you'll be okay again.

I know you loved your ex and kudos for opening your heart up to feel, in this world where we are encouraged not to care or feel that was a brave thing to do, but now choose to love yourself , take care of yourself and build yourself up to be a person anyone would be crazy to risk losing by any standard whatsoever . In the end it's their loss.

KINDEST REGARDS!

very nice,wise and thoughtful of you.

daddyfreeman1:
Then she said thought she's faraway Lagos, I said so? I'm in a long distance how's that your business? She pleaded to me oooo sotey I got bored with her pleading. So I should leave my Gf and accept you back are you okay?

wow! that's very wise and thoughtful of you..this is what i call 'TRUST'..the trust you and your current babe both build,cause it's not easy saying that to someone you once love,someone you still have feelings for..

if itwas some other guys,they did easily forgive her and start bleeping her knowing fully well they are in a relationship,probably taken advantage on the long distance relation...

how i wish you current babe can see the love you have for her,what you did to your ex for her and why she should love and trust you more.

anyway

i did say your ex made a fool of herself,just see how you were able to easily decode what she melt knowing fully well that you are in a relationship ..she s has brought her self down to you,she should know by now that she lost a diamond why picking stones.

if you current babe love and trust you,please for the sake that,you need to let bygones be bygones and stick with her.
if possible let her know what happened btw you and your ex,if she's the type that dnt take thing too personal provided the 'trust' is there.

but dude,being in a long distance is among the cause of not yet getting over your ex yet cause that feelings is still there and she's more close to you than your current babe..

AgreatMan:


Bros but wetin u want gain from lies? There are 260 Weeks in 5 years. And let's say u "meet" ur girl 80 times. 260/80 is 3.25. You guys only did it once every 24 days or 3.25weeks. why are u painting it like it was everyday n u be don?

U too dey lie, that's why d girl broke up with u

lolx...u even get time take they draw stat and even they calculate fvck wey no concern you..

but frankly speaking its the truth man..

we live very close at home,just 1 house/fence demarcating our home,so she usually pass through the back door

a time came it was an everyday thing,that's why i said she was the one reminding me self..

even in an uncompleted building close to us one cold and Hot night..

lolxx..that's for that..

but meanwhile,we broke up not because i was lying but because she was expose to the outside world after she gain admission cux she was once and introvert and that daddy's bully stuff while at home..as a result of that,she met someone who tricked her..they both dnt even last up to 2months

Focusmind:
Kids everywhere. Face your studies and graduate with a good grade and come and face the world.

when you are successful, all these issues becomes irrelevant. I am telling you from example. I had similar experience but decided to make my studies a priority, graduated, secured oversea scholarship, came back and was doing relatively well.

When she saw me years somewhere in Jakande bus stop, Lekki, where I dropped off someone and behold she was at that Jakande bus stop waiting for Danfo. I horned and she was hesitant to come but I had to alight to go and meet her. She shouted, entered my car and we discussed at length. She came for a call center interview near by. She told me she has been job hunting years after our graduation without success. I could see the stress and hustle of Lagos life - No porn intended.

When she got to know where I was working then, see disturbances every where and I was like "see the babe that some how "dealt" with me", now falling over herself to get my attention. After visiting me like four times, she said that the person she is staying with in Abule-Egba, wants her to leave and if I should allow her to stay till she secure accommodation. I said no, that I will prefer to lend her money to find a small room apartment around Ajah, which I did, but she did not bother to pay for the accommodation but continued staying with the friend she claimed wanted to chase her out. I knew the friend did not want to chase her out. She just wanted to come and take position in my house.

So I tell young men, focus on success first and ladies will surely come.

thank you vry much for this sir.