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a legend once said "In all da getting, get CONNECTIONS"..

Thebwoy:
What depresses me most is finding hard to socialize with anybody, starting from family to outsider's except on social media.
And I think the cause was growing up in village with only my Grandma starting from a very tender age. Even though I have 7 siblings, I just d distance myself from them.
Lol, d only person I d associate with is my father and that's only when I need money.

hahahaha....u are exactly my photocopy...mine is even worst to the extent i even HARDLY relate with my mother.,we dnt flow that much,as for outsiders, FORGET IT

though its affecting me.

o.p trust me, good deeds will come to you...i assure u.

this made me remember how i also lost my phone at gun point right at the back of my hostel back then..

today,i have a brown new laptop and am using a phone 2x better than the phone they stole

though,the phone was the only valuable property i have then of which i used my school savings to purchase,only to be given a knock on my head jst to submit the phone to them ..when i look back and remember, i jst laugh it off

o.p trust me, i will have a far better phone ..na only time.

Blankstare:
Moral decadence in our society,no any descent girl anywhere, even your most loved and supposed loyal girlfriend can still give out to the highest bidder...no true friends anymore, people see cunningness as normal now.

very true...

my introverted nature..

hardly hardly socialize even with acquittance.

no one knows how gentle, friendly, loyal, honest, and lovely i am except they get too close to me.

all finding it difficult to express my feelings for others..prefer to just hide it and it has made me loose lots lots of stuff..

Chrisbeks:
She is cheating and he is the side boo

very true..

o.p its either you are very ugly to the core, you have aged or you have a very low self esteem.

you are someone else prayer point and you are there using an unserious hoe digger as ur prayer point.

keep praying for him okayy
until you turn into rock of ages

Missperplexity0:
Lemme make this brief as possible and please if you want to insult me, envelope the insult with an advice....we dated for 4yrs, we were each other first love, i recently told him in one of our weird conversations albeit jokingly that i want to know what it feels like to have sex with another man, he consented but said would prefer a total stranger so we dont develop feelings for eachother. I ignore his advice and had it wif a close male friend of mine but there was no feelings attached, he suspected something was amiss and i told him the truth. He locked me up for two days, beat me and had sex with me forcefully throughout. We broke up after that but he is begging to come back though am now scared of him. Cant even entertain the thought of staying in the same room with me after all the pain and trauma i passed through.

sound pretty much like what happen to me and my ex..

dated for 5yrs,
she told me abt a particular stuff like you told ur guy,
i jst overlooked it,
low and behold,i came to pass
i knew it myself cux she nvr told me,
though,i nvr beat or arm her,
i told her i 4give her and still need her back (not for other intention like beating her or turning her into sex machine.),
she said NO!
jst left her and count it as her loss.


o.p firstly,
you are a hoe, whether you agree not, you are..okay!

secondly, go back and see his intention, if its turning you into sex robot and beating you become a thing of joy for him, you know what to do(though, you deserve more than that),
else,
you still knw what to do.

kernniejay:
Your bestie should not just jump into conclusion that she is the right one for him. He must be sure that he is not been led by mere sentiments and emotions, and not because the girl has brought a turn around to his business. He must have the inner conviction that she is the right one for him. Even at that, he must take his time to nurture a pure, non erotical relationship to study her closely and know more about her circle of friends and relatives. If there is no red flag and all coasts clear, he can pop up the big question. Nothing is wrong in marrying your staff if you are sure of where your marital journey will lead.

what kind of a great wisdom and knowledge you possess to have made such a comment..

i was almost in a rush to say "o.p marry her" until i saw your comment and have a rethink.

mezarddinny:
abeg masturbation has no side effects, I have been doing it for 3 years now and my life has improved, I get better ideas about things and grab them quickly


the dude that taught me soapy has ben doing it for about 8 years now and he is doing good with himself without no known side effect

dude abeg keep quiet there and say the truth..

3years? you are still a kid in it,i did it for 9years and the bastard is destructive..
even after stopping it for a very long time,am still feeling the after effect.

i will or can tell you what is currently happening to you now and even what will happen to you i future if you dnt stop but you wont agree or accept its the truth and even if you do,i wont tell it to others..

all the shitting symptoms or effect the o.p gave are all correct..

it affect you memory,your ability to simulate and recall what you study, it weaken you Masculinity,makes you way less creative and many more.

dude seriously,dnt u feel stupid or some shame atimes wen you do the shit?
do you smile at you stupidity after releasing? like "wow! what a great masturb "

why i dey even explain to u sef
you still wont agree

@o.p, you can stop okay!
am going 2 drop some hit for you..
but what ever am going to drop,you still need some self discipline.

lolx..o.p 6years?
you still be kiddo in it naah.
well try this..
https://www.menprovement.com/masturbation-addiction/
i have option great ideas that help me stop mine but you may not like it.

thanks alot for this

Freehuman:
Seconded. I always feel like having sex when I read too much . I'll just play with my teddy bear or pillow ,kiss and cuddle them. It makes me sharper and less burdened.
I'm sure I can be like Einstein if I have a pretty lady by my side whenever I want to study. I've always fantasized about sex while reading, like I'm on a chair and she rides me, while I enjoy that sensual pleasure and mental development concurrently.

is either what you are studying at that moment is boring or you are that unserious type..

i knat be having exam the next day and be thinking of soapy while studying

Cioccolata:
[color=#008080]6. Learn to masturbate before going to the exam hall. [/color]

lieessss..! it weakens your memory, your ability assimilate your studies, recall what you study and make you less creative..

thanks alot..
my only problem is no. 3
i will work on reducing it..though its important for me.

thanks alot for this..
i intend opening a cafe business after my service year..

ignore mom warning and sibling advise to stay away from her BUT no! strong head;Dah no listen

went to her hostel,slept overnight in her room after she tried sending me out,but i stayed, woke up at midnight,read her inbox, read the unreadable, she caught me, we cried throughout that night, still, i forgive her,beg and beg and beg and beg her to stay with me with tears all over my eyes, still, she said 'NO' and called off the 5years relationship..

i gave up begging and waiting for, i forgive her, i pick up the leftover of my self worth and move on.

feel so so better and happy nw..

hmmm..love shaaa

lilmax:
you do not confront a girl when you see romantic chats, it makes you a pussy


the moment you see the chats, you remove any thoughts of the relationship going further, you should STAY because she's now what you use in disposing konji, so that there's equality for using yourselves, while looking for a new babe



guys wise up

dude i score u 100/100

chaiii...only if i had saw this your comment on time,chaii omo,i for too go gain am ooohh..

anyway,i will keep it to heart in case of next time

BluePrincee:
Men, I had a good service year, having been posted to government House but after service when allowe stopped coming life started

you guys are scaring me..

i will be going for service soon...but i have this pessimistic mindset of after service year..

MrBrownJay1:
The important question here IS...Why do you even care why she does that?

Live your life and be done with these useless people...

o.p listen to this man..

set your ring tone to a sweet music, when you phone rings and you know its her, just drop the phone and enjoy the music

Thanks alot for this anyway..

but lolxx

all this hearing of 25years old wanting an hasty luxurious life,marry,dream job, having millions and all that is good but i dnt knw why it funnies me atimes

i dnt even have time think of the luxurious life yet momsy still see me as a baby and i still eat her food all day long till death, i still rely popsy chizz despite my business and financial independence and i will continue to rely on it even if i have millions.

lolx.,that aside anyway.

what am trying 2 say is,am very happy those stuff dnt move me

i remember when my friends visited me with different cars at home, abt 4 of them. flashy cars, nice and expensive dress and perf.

the oldest shuld be 25, 22 21 and 20 respectively, non is into legit business and non nvr went to higher institution.

after the visit,i jst happily went inside to continue eating my eba and ewedu soup

thanks for this..

heart break is damn hurtful..

lost the one i cherish and love the most months ago.

one i build my childhood and half my youth age with, one i dreamt of having a future with..

gave me the heavy shock of my life.. menh,i wasn't easy but i thank God am very free,extra happy..

really,"only" time heals!

though i still feel jst the normal little little pains,regret,blame,shame and anger but so so happy.

o.p if you are still reading and haven't recover your contact yet, go and download GT recovery app on google or play and recover "ALL" your contact without one missing and even recover the ones deleted right from the phone product factory and leave all this account backup bla bla bla shit people are saying..all those are medicine after death.

1 and 2. not true "for me"..i cant love more than one,have tried,i jst cant..
when i love,i love with everything,no amount of sex will change that love and no sex still wont change anything either..

5. not one.
10. not broke.
11. far from that.
15. far from being one.
17. i do. but not jst for long
19. social media date is a no no for me..when am with the one i love, others appears ordinary.,no attraction,no feelings,no lust,nothing special.

speaking for my self oh

galantjoe:
For my advise for you.

Sometimes not all sins committed before marriage can Be used against woman or man. She did it before before trad wedding. To show her love for u, she cancel her introduction to her another friend just to marry u. To be it is a big Plus that she loves. Having sex with her ex was to pacify him.

To be a man u have to pass many huddle
go ahead to marry her

Go home!
you are drunk.

holy christ!!!

very sorry man.

how long did you date her without noticing all this?
you should know her better from her past life down to her birth if possible before talking about marriage..

na wa..

fear WOMEN!

fear WOMEN!!

fear WOMEN!!!

single shame,dey no get!

90% of ladies are cheating demons in human form,hiding their ugly and demonic life in human skin..

dnt quote me,just fix yourself inside the remaining 10%..

people get mind sha..
nothing on this planet earth can make me commit shoe-size
no nobody born of a woman can send or put me into depression of thinking suicide is the only way..
i lost one of the most important person in my life (not death), went into depression that dnt even last long, next place i saw my self was suya joint

ayusco85:
Sometimes learn to allow karma deal with people and pay them in their own coin if they wronged you. You are not perfect.

hmmm..that's true anyway.

abayomilaws:
The reason you are seeking advice now is because you did not love her in the first place and what you felt invariably for her is lust or infatuation. The end product of which you want to shirk the responsibility. I am pretty sure the sex and the present relationship was not borne out of love but vengeance . She left you and you felt betrayed and you now came back to get your pound of pussies. I am very sure if your parents are liberal ,they will never criticise you about your choice of marrying a mother of two so far she is your love and choice. The problem I see here is that you don't want to be responsible ...

deep down the o.p's mind,this is the bitter truth but he wont agree

after d sex,the releasing and the pregnancy,o.p eye don clearrrrr

ayusco85:
If the girl now kills him people will blame her. No amount of wrong from the girl should warrant this wickedness.

this is what i intend to do to my ex..if not worst than this..i will ensure i send her to unknown destination of depression that ending her own life will be few miles away from her

some girls deserve worst than this

Emmahunk:
When God is answering our prayers, we hardly know.
Let her be. If she comes back, take her back just because you love her not because your life starts and ends with her. A girl that will not listen to her family and your family IS NOT A WIFE MATERIAL. SORRY TO DISAPPOINT YOU.
Who will resolve your crisis in the future when you are finally married? Don't fool yourself, crisis in marriage is something you must be prepared for because it must surely come.
If you ask me, God is simply saving you from a broken home in the future

oh man! you deserve a million likes for this comment..

what kind of a wisdom came upon up to put up such wise saying like this..

cvibe2:
Nothing new under the Sun...one goes, another comes...chikena!

I bet if the tables were turned, and it was the lady that did the same flirting with guys, calling you her brother etc, you would have kicked her to the Kerb.

She was smarter than you. She checked your phone first before you checked hers.

i nvr wanted to comment until i saw this comment..

o.p if you are still reading further, listen to this man.

yes! you fuckup big time.

you'v done all you could, jst stop calling,texting and sending people to her,it push her away the more..

give are time..call to check on her once in every 2weeks with small pleading

after all you both went through and for the sake of your family,friends and up coming marriage,if she still cant look in that direction, please let be honest,you might even be the one forcing her for the marriage and there may be something in the dark room negative about her you may not even know..

the difference is that she out-smart you..she catch you first