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Mr.Advocator,'I dont believe anybody is ugly.I dont even categorise people as 'average looking 'etc. Sorry.I think I just answered it the way you wanted. That research doesnt hold, is the point I am trying to drive home.Every woman/man created in God's image is beautiful.It doesnt matter whether they are lame/burnt/scarred.OH YES no apologies.If you disagree ask Him above not me. Another thing Mr.Advocator,I don't get personal at all.You are a handsome young man aren't you? so thank God for that and appreciate His creation.OK? cheers.

"Does being attractive makes you more happier? Try answering this question, and don't answer with YES & NO!

Answer : NO
Reason: From personal experience.Yes I am attractive but it doesnt contribute to my happiness at all. I know what makes me happy.It doesnt give me raise in salary or favours anywhere.I just work hard like every other person. Are models that happy? really ? if they are am going there.

Oh dear God.these westerners will carry out research on anything and everything.See here in Africa we are busy trying to improve economically and look for food/jobs while they are busy asking why they are obese,enjoying life sleeping too much etc.I do research but some things just don't apply to Africa and never will. Lets us read and leave some things where they belong because then we end up really feeling inferior,frustrated and idolising the west. Happiness + Beauty+ Benefits? no i tend to disagree.Check out the celebs. Diana died a very unhappy woman Yet She had it all.

Seriously.It took like half an hour to download ur pic and what do i see? I was getting ready to compliment you. And are you 17 you are still a kid if so.And all I can tell you is that your fearfully and wonderfully made.I dont even need to see ur pic. Physical beauty minus character is nothing. A good woman (sorry girl like you) must exhibit good character in order to be called beautiful.Okay no guy will mention character if all he wants is your body.But when he wants a wife? he wants both.
Do you believe you are ugly? then you are.You believe God looked at you and said 'it is good'? then you are good.  End of story
YOU ARE NOT MAN'S OPINION BUT GOD'S

May the grace of our lord jesus christ and the love of God and the , be with us now and forver more Amen. Everybody has a point.Now that dude must be very confused. weigh the pros and cons and follow your heart. Its your burden anyway not weight.

Sorry dear.Now allow your heart to heal.Tell you what? we all have our hearts broken by several things in the course of life.Good thing is,they make us stronger and wiser to take on the next challenge.Now you learnt that its not wise to sleep with a guy 4 months into a relationship.Theres so much to learn from each other before you even think about jumping into his bed. He is a player.Lift yourself up ask God to forgive you and give him that broken heart to mend.Hey He needs the pieces to be able to do that.
Then carry yourself around with pride and you will get a nice guy that loves you not just your body.
WHEN SOMEBODY BREAKS YOUR HEART,CRY A RIVER,BUILD A BRIDGE THEN WALK OVER IT.It works.

@ kokoye.Your profile pic gave me migraine. makes one dizzy.

Now that is what ails the society. One man one woman is always the best though the probability of that is almost nil.Our ancestors and some societies did polygamy which I even prefer coz its in the open and they take responsibility. Problem with this  'Shark' school of thought is that men and women have become very irresponsible.In the process of playing Shark and Prey we give rise to unwanted babies,spread diseases,break homes and the cycle repeats itself. But I always say we live in the world not in heaven and we all have choices as to how we want to live. cheers.

190 it is in a way. Just to soothe your heart look at it positively and say 'fine my gf loves me soo much she can't stand seeing me talking or standing next to another lady'. Okay that allready spells trouble. But then smbody made a point by saying it depends on the guy too. How does she perceive you? Are you the kind that stands at attention the moment anything in skirt passes you by? Are you strong enough to resist the 'pharaoh's wife' kind of temptation and flee joseph style? I will summarise it this way.
1.Man makes woman feel insecure because of the way she perceives him. Maybe you flirt a lot with women and she cant trust you enough so she becomes defensive/jealous.
2.Shes immature enough not to fully trust you and allow you freeedom to mingle with the opposite sex.who needs a cop anyway?
3.Its natural to be jealous with who you love.Just dont cross border and stop traffic

I would like to comfort you dear before your heart breaks.He hasnt called you? well this is nothing unusual. 99.98% of women complain about the same thing.
I have never understood why men torture women by not calling even to say hi when they know that women crave it. They have no idea how effective that is but its the one thing they are soo poor at doing.
Secondly dear.PLIIZ dont act desperate especially if you havent slept with him. Have our own pride and dignity and dont let your life revolve around him only.Men love women that have their own lives too and dont crumble easily when they dont call. What if its a test? You didnt quarrel so why fret.Men do have their 'periods too' sorry guys but smbody told me that.Wish there was a better name.Maybe mood swings could do?. Keep your mind busy and let him come searching then bring up the issue.If something is yours let it go, if it comes back then its yours, if it doesnt it wasnt. God I hope I helped.

insecurity is a sign of immaturity especially when it comes down to being obsessive with your partner. Infact that only drives them into doing what you fear/imagine.Theres a level in a relationship where you trust your partner to even go anywhere with anybody because of that 'rare' quality called trust. Lets be real you cant keep smbody in a box and watch them 24/7 so the sooner you allow them freedom to mingle with others the less chances you have of getting ulcers. Its also very natural to jealous with one you love.It kind off shows you care somehow in its right proportions. I would love my partner to be a little bit jealous cz if he doesnt,seriously I would know he doesnt give a damn about me.

Did somebody pass on? sorry that wasn't my intention.I guess my grandma beats them all . she wasnt scared.

I wish I knew if you were male or female.Since I see male with female names then my comment would be,just dont be gullible.Take time to know somebody and put the 'friendship' to test before you even make it a 'relationship'.Afterwards test the relationship too. Damn it sounds like a lab test but its true.

hahaha. Well in my village people never kept animals and there was no belief in witchcraft either.Who knows it could have been an Angel in disguise. Come to think of it.I now believe it was.

Be yourself. Problem is we look for what doesn't exist. Nobody is flawless.Ask yourself are you good enough for her then, is she good for you? If you unmarried people approach relationships this way I guess there would be less headache.And seeking is not skyrocket science.Be in the right environment. Go club and get club material.Go church and find both extremeties.(fakes and extremely religious or not good for earth). Good balanced girls are all around you and like smbody said,they dont have it written on their foreheads.Takes time to really find out a true soul mate. That advise form 190 is also not bad.Sorround yourself with female friends and set your eyes on the target.

Tpia, no the leopard was wild. They used to roam the village but the villagers knew they are very provocative. I am from EA by the way. She was walking home at night and met it on the road. So what it does is put its tail across waiting for you to just step on it.Now if you know the leopard well enough you will not dare.you just jump over and imagine all the way home the animal kept playing that game.My grandma jumps the leopard comes infront again and puts its tail across.Till they got home.It then stood next to the door,she opened and entered!! and the animal just walked away!!! I feel shivers down my spine everytime i remebr thet story.What would I have done? okay first am soo afraid of darkness (what the heck would I be doing outside at night anyway) and remebr the darkness of the village is not the same as that of town.You can actually touch it, And if I happened to meet it during the day, I wouldnt even pee on myself,I would explode out of shock the leopard won't find any bits of me left behind

Jungle life.Shaped by the environment of course. From fighting animals to humans and emerging victorious all the time.Standing ovation to all the grandparents anyway.I know a leopard once escorted my grandma (not pa) up to her doorstep.It never attacked her and she knew how not to provoke it.I just imagine wht a girl of this generation would have done during such an encounter. Now lets appreciate the changing times.We arent in the jungle anymore.so what do you expect, and this generalising is nevr good. I have seen very hardworking women doing many things single handedly.Things that their men couldnt/failed to do. woe unto you if your gf cant cook/wash/or raise kids.

Hahahaha.Thumbs up to the person who started this thread.Now my ribs ache.Its like reading a story book from days of old. And at one point it came down to 'who had the toughest grandpa. Interesting.

songs of solomon.keep it real

Eh People ,someone told me that a nigerian can insult you till your turn red. Heavy words.What if you just say 'foolish or silly? or plain ignore?

I think he said 'like it was the throne for the queen' chima.That is what every woman wants to hear from a man. Seek then and ye shall find.Remember your maker as you do so cz only HE can fulfill the desire of your heart.

I like this forum.It really makes me laugh so much.Keep bashing and tripping each other. Now if one needs a barbie kind of wife well they are all over really. I always fear one thing.If you are only into physical beauty,what will you do if say you tie the knot,a nasty accident happens and she gets messed up? Will you leave her for another barbie?You know God can let things happen to just teach you a few life lessons. Point is, physical beauty is just a plus not the most important thing.Of course we all know that.

OH Good lord. ok listen dear.If he behaves this way and you aint even married, you will cry day and night the moment you say I do and the day after your honeymoon he will demand a thank you for favour done.Good thing is hes not hiding his bad behaviour, so now you know and its up to you to decide if you want to be treated that way for the rest of your life. Some insecurity issues that guy is suffering from I don't know why.There are many many men that know how to treat a lady right and they don't brag. Decide for yourself how you want to be treated and remember broken hearts do get healed so dont get stuck.

Is it a way of manipulation or do men/women use it against each other when playing hard to get? Truth is,it works but its manipulation.

EH!!!!!!!!! I pity all the women in your life. really.That includes your future wife. Wish you luck in hunting for playthings. Thank God there are men who appreciate women as partners and women who know their proper roles too which is just too broad to mention here.

I am light so light has never been my choice but sincerely, with clean heart, light man appears soft( can't protect) to me and 'mummy's boy'. its just a mind thing though I know its not true.I have light brothers and they are not soft.

I think everybody should read what BABALAWO posted. I can't comment further.He has put it very very well and its very very true for anybody,whether ,pagan or Godly. That is an undisputed fact.

I guess you are right Anvaller. For a guy yeah it may be too early. But he is still mature.8 yr diffrence is no joke. I am thinking are all guys who marry younger women very satisfied?  What if he settles for a younger woman who will end up driving him mad? Love conqueres lots of things (old age included) but I think that relationship needs to be tested before he can take it to the next level. If it passes the test then why not? Truth is again being in Africa you cant wish away relatives coz they will haunt you forevr and who knows, what if you encounter a problem later in life? My prayer is that they are both honest to each other.

You are both mature. Age does not keep a marriage. I just hope you are working and have some life skills and not still in college otherwise women tend to be very mature at some age.To me friendship and love tops. How many marriages break even when the guy is older? Set your priorities right.If she's fine and truly loves you then who am I to condemn the relationship? And talk of kids shes only 34 not 55.There women giving birth at 45 though I don't really encourage it. Then ask yourself, will you be making decisions based on what people/family say? Who wants to get married anyway? it's you not the family.

Rubber wigs is there such thing? I feel sorry for your women if you nigerian men keep bashing them like this. You will make them look elsewhere and theres lots of men elsewhere that cherish your women