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This is not new! It has been done since PCMCIA card with PCMCIA PCI adapter for desktop computer was invented late 1990-2000.

Yes, wireless ethernet PCMCIA card with PCMCIA PCI adapter installed on your desktop computer is another alternative way of internet connection set up as same function as if you hook up ethernet cable wire/cord for wireless/wired router or NIC card. But you DO NOT NEED router/modem where your internet provider send you. Instead of router/modem, your internet provider send you PCMCIA card.

NOTICE>>> PCMCIA PCI adapter for your desktop computer does not include by internet provider. You have to buy PCMCIA PCI adapter from computer village, then opening your computer case to install it manually yourself (or let your engineer/technician install it for you). <<<NOTICE!!!

For most laptop/notebook, you DO NOT NEED TO BUY PCMCIA PCI adapter. Because it is built-in PCMCIA adapter inside your laptop/notebook. Just get PCMCIA card from your internet provider if your laptop/notebook has it own PCMCIA port included.

PCMCIA card takes care of it for you without needing a router and ethernet cable cord.

Still same principle how to set up internet connection after installed PCMCIA PCI adapter and PCMCIA card on your desktop computer that comes with setup CD included.(step by step graphical instruction for beginner who do not know nothing about wireless networking via PCMCIA card.)

Cool! Cool gadget- - -my favorite one!  

Cade:
I thank you all for your wonderful advices, BUT I still cannot log in to my system! it has now been PASSWORDED by a virus. What options do I have, since I can't log in either my name or as admnistrator even in SAFE MODE? What would an enginneer do?

I suggest you trying to follow @cryptosuno's instruction at below link provided:

How Do I Remove Setup Password
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-90465.0.html

If you finally got resolved this matter, but keep in your mind that "TROJAN VUNDO" is still presently affected inside your hard disk drive. Then I advice you to do quickly as soon as possible at below:

[list]
[li]do what @nazzyon say per se instruction how to remove "TROJAN VUNDO"[/li]
[li]MUST INSTALL anti-virus protection software on your computer! ! There are over 1 millions viruses out there you never know to hit attacked again. DON'T WAIT UNTIL TOO LATE!!![/li]
[/list]

That software will automatically detect any virus/trojan/malware affected on your computer/laptop quickly to PROMPT YOU ALERT A WARNING DIALOG MESSAGE in order to remove them automatically for you.

That's why it is A MUST!

@lojik
That's great solution you contributed to help local software programmers and software development companies continuing to succeed their CD marketing promotions.

Nice compliment to say something beautiful how I look, spend quality time with me, treat me romantic dining out, and e-Card are the most romantic gifts I ever had.

Words! @HR.hotness and OMO IBO I concur their postings mentioned above!

With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic”, try to internalize these 10 insights.

1.     You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you’re married. The classic mistake! NEVER MARRY POTENTIAL!! The Golden rule is , if you can’t be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don’t get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after they are married……for the worst!”. So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now, 

2.     You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Chemistry ignites the fire but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love” often means “I’m in lust”. Attraction is there, but have you actually checked out this person’s character? Here are four characteristics to definitely check for:

     Humility:
[list]
[li]Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort?[/li]
[/list]

     Kindness:
[list]
[li]Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? [/li]
[li]How does she/he treat people she/he doesn’t have to be nice to?[/li]
[li]Does she/he do volunteer work? Give to charity?[/li]
[/list]

     Responsibility:
[list]
[li]Can I depend on this person to do what she/he says she/he is going to do?[/li]
[/list]
 
     Happiness:
[list]
[li]Does this person like himself/herself? [/li]
[li]Does she/he enjoy life? Is she/he emotionally stable? [/li]
[li]Ask yourself: [/li]
[list]
[li]Do I want to be more like this person?[/li]
[li]Do I want to have a child with this person?[/li]
[li]Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?[/li]
[/list]     
[/list]

3.    You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goal and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect with another person:

   1. Chemistry and compatibility

   2. Shared common interest

   3. Shared common life goal

Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide.
After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re living for while you are single and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate is a goal mate…two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

4.    You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper emotional connection. To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask; “Do I respect and admire this person?” This does not mean, “Am I impressed by this person?” We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Yes, you should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc but do you actually respect and admire this person who possesses these qualities? Also ask: “Do I trust this person?” This also means, “Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?

5.    You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don’t feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you’re afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there’s a problem with the relationship. 

Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don’t feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There is a big difference between “controlling” and “making suggestions”. A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

6.    You pick the wrong person because you don’t put everything on the table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. 

You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can’t be vulnerable, you can’t be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

7.    You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and economical problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You’ll feel better and your future spouse will thank you.

8.     You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly. This can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud ones mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions. It is not necessary to “test drive” in order to find out if a couple are sexually compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don’t have to worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies on divorce sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main reason why people divorce.

9.    You pick the wrong person because the man doesn’t understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn’t get it. Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of the woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved. To feel that she is the most important person in her husband’s life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. 

This most apparent is Judaism’s approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men have two speeds: “on” and “off”. Women are experience oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things will happen.

10.    You pick the wrong because he/she is involved in a triangle. To be “triangulated” means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn’t separated from his or her parents is a classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you partner are free of triangles. The person caught in a triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You’ll not be their number one priority. And that’s not basis for a marriage.



Ability is what you’re capable of doing. . . .

Motivation determines what you do. . .

Attitude determines how well you do it!

Do what you have to do about your relationship, and do it NOW!

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Source cite: posted by NL member: Jayon.

Women over 30 who still single/never been married are the one blame themselves on the ground of vivid imagination about "romantic" and "marriage".

vivaladiva:
am surprised u havent come up with any previous tittles like this on nairaland
are done searching or are u still searching
my father left my mum when i was young and she never got married
she raised my 2 siblings and i the best she could
she is not dead
if all u live for is a man then thats a big shame
if life bring marriage my way fine
if it doesnt fine
if i get divorsed after marriage fine
tis all good so long as am alive even if i die today without getting married, its all good

@vivaladiva

I am done searching! I have enough with those men! If i do still search, I would be MRS. COUGAR!!!  

I AM ONLY DEAF PERSON in whole my family/relatives.

My parent are happily 43 years faithful marriage. Strong Christianity/church active as deaconess and trustee.
I am not Christian fanatic going to church like my parent do. I had been baptized at age 14. I do believe in Jesus Christ but plain simple humble!!! I am former deaf church choir member and former deaf bible study teacher for the deaf churchgoers. I was involved in women's fellowship and single adult ministry until i left city church returning to my hometown rural church.

My sister and I do not live with my parent since our high school graduation- - -left our own while attending college. That was 20 years ago.

My sister and I are happily divorced single mothers of 4 children (2 mine, 2 my sister) Both was married after college graduation. 2 are grown adult gone to freshman college student; one has 7 more years left toward high school graduation; and the other has 3 more years left to graduate.

My sister and I are college-educated with bachelor degrees/numerous certifications. My sister now is hospital administration personnel. I am entreprenur working at home. Focus on raising my son is HIGHLY PRIORITY for me before I go roaming to travel freely.

My sister has steady boyfriend, not want to get married again anymore! I don't- - -available free like a bird! I had been dated 7 guys in the past. Last one guy 5 yr ago- - -cold feet to cancel the wedding plan 3 TIMES! I let him go!!!

Finally, like Tonim has said it- - -you will understand when you get older to look back- - -laughing yourself what you get into!  I used to be like you rebellious young girl who think grown woman. LOL!!!

My pet peeves are

[list]
[li]people who make fun of disabled people[/li]
[li]people who are extremely lazy being potato couch all day long in 24 hours/7 days[/li]
[li]people who are extremely stingy, materistic and money-spending so recklessly[/li]
[li]people who are selfish, egostic, controlled, know-it-all.[/li]
[li]people who are religious fanatics.[/li]
[li]people who are clueless on computer technology- - -computer illiterates on the jobs that hired by human resources staff- - -i mean lousy inexperienced ones instead of efficient reliable experienced employees. They (Big Companies) mostly lay off those who are 15-30 years experienced employees replacing to young ones.[/li]
[li]people who are anti-ethnics/tribalism/racism.[/li]
[li]people who are players/two-time lovers/beaters[/li]
[li]people who are wannabe-celebrities[/li]
[li]people who are workaholic for life 6 days a week not have time for family/marriage quality as well as one-week paid vacation for years and years more than 5 years even though we have stable home and car- - -nothing fall behind paying bills. Sicko! (found out spending money on gambling addictive!!!)[/li]
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Cayon:
Another pet peeve for me is people who dwell on the past and don't want to let go, 

@cayon

You go ahead having fun!

You both don't give a damn about other NL members who complain seeing SAME OLD TOPICS being recycled over and over!

Go ahead Have a blast fun internet-hogging and web space WASTING disrespectfully! MISCHIEVIOUSLY!!! SLY AS FOX!

Hmmm! Yes indeed @A2J

Oh my gosh, all the postings you talked about Designer vs Programmer that reminded of my online distance education where I earned my BFA degree in Visual Communication 4 years ago.

I enjoyed learning something new visual approach where traditionally programmers/designers fight about each other.

I really was glad that i pursed to advance my 1999 Web development certification into new visual communication bachelor degree (combination of web development, photography, graphic layout, and programming- - -all-in-one) more creative, efficiency, visually, artstically, technically, and professionally in mixed. Still continue learning to follow new development threads everyday as designing change dramatically.

That's where I came in and glad that i don't stay stuck ONLY HTML coder!!!

Sisikill:
I don’t get the question?

Aren’t we supposed to like marriage?

Isn’t it the womanly thing to do?

From the moment we are born our purpose in life is to get married. Oh sure we go to school. . .nursery school, primary school, secondary school, 4 years of undergrad, 2 years of graduate studies, Yes we get jobs afterwards but all of that are just diversionary activities until we achieve our ultimate goal in life. . .to be married! And now you make it sound like it’s a bad thing. Sister Puh-leaze!

Whatever would we do without a man by our side? Oh dear! Thought just send a chill down my spine.

*Swooning*

A life without a man? I’d die I tell you,  Die!

@Sisikill

The poster asks you why Nigerian girls suddenly fell over the heel thinking of boyfriend in the name of marriage DEFINITELY the moment girls date with guys in a short term less than 6 months without sitting down to make wedding plans, look over any flaws/weaknesses/stregthen,strengthent like school teenager at puppy love!!!

Suppose to be slow down to get know each other finding the compatible mate FIRST in a long-term relationship, not FIRST LOVE AT MARRIAGE SIGHT SO SUDDENLY!!!

Poster is that correct what I summarized what you try to say? ? ?

josyisback:
i am wondering why my post was deleted.i just wanted to inform webmasters that asked me to create a wap site thati have done that.it in this same site i was told to create it,y wasnt it deleted then.please uspry be watchful of what you delete. so webmaster, the wap site is ready. just go to wap.joscityweb.com and enjoy yourself

@josyisback

I did not see that post you mentioned about informing the webmasters that ask you creating a wap site you have done.

Remember any NL member has the right CLICKABLE to report to the moderator when I was not at present being moderating at the different time zone (USA vs. Nigeria).

Only i see your posts at phone section. I am so sorry for this inconvenience you might have while i was not at present being moderating this section.

Have a great weekend!

Continue for more post link: "25 REASONS You Might Be A Hardcore Graphic/Web Designer" at below link:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-133126.0.html#msg2244875

@topic

LOL! True almost all of them at least 28 out of total 50 reasons I am a HARDCORE GRAPHIC/WEB DESIGNER!

What a experience I had with my clients in the past! LOL!

@topic

It does not make a sense reading your topic to me about men compete with women on the size of boobs. Do you mean men are jealousy of women's big boobs that men want one for themselves? Then go plastic surgery adding boobs on men's chest! _{(by the way i am aware of have fun here)}

I noticed here NL men compete against women on which gender are the most at below:

[list]
[li]jealousy/possessive[/li]
[li]breadwinner[/li]
[li]intelligent[/li]
[li]romantic[/li]
[li]cheating/players[/li]
[li]divorce or baby mama/daddy[/li]
[/list]

This is not Olympic games competiton to get GOLD MEDALS/SILVER MEDALS/BRONZE MEDALS winners!!!

this thread is so funny that make me laugh felling out the floor with tearing! Whoa! Whoa!

I remembered i used to be like that with silly criteria finding a decent guy i wrote after my divorce finalized 15 years ago! Now the day i cleaned up my 3 piles of boxes opening to check thru sorting them out. I found my old dating criteria listings of finding a guy that blast me laughed so hard.

What a silly criteria I had in the past - - -GOSH 15 YEARS AGO!!! What the heck 3 boxes i left BEHIND FORGOT sitting THERE so long at my parent's property in the family shed storage!!!

Good luck LAKANYE~ finding dream wife in your head!!!

Welcome and explore more informative and educational tools of Nairaland you will find here!   

Don't be afraid to click reading many posts as much as you want!

Please use NAIRALAND GOOGLE.COM finding any existing topic you might look for before posting new topic- - - AVOID RECYCLED OLD TOPIC REPEATEDLY!!!

keybu:
Hi, uspry1
you have said it all.
please,could you kindly send me your email to tee20082000@yahoo.co.uk

@keybu

No thank for sending my email to you! Welcome to NL! Have a good weekend!

Because they watch soap opera, nollywood, and reading romance novels too much to have fantasy about marriage without sitting down to analyze and study their own partner's characteristics, habits, etc finding the compatible mate.

Also because most of young Nigerian girls are materistic type seeking for rich guys who has MONEY, MONEY, MONEY!!!

Young guys at age between 18-30 tends to mess around, not ready for marriage material until they get the taste of experiences first before get serious committed later when they reached maturity at age 30-55 individually.

Some are seriously matured, some late reaching 40-55 matured- - -varied spices to every guys. Don't ask me why? Ask guys who are late married bloomer!!!!

Most of them are players/womanizers/partyhead/pothead whatever who they are while attending college or are not ready for seeking for jobs. Some want to be potato couch or bummer or lazy for long while!!!

Recycled Nairaland threads over and over and over and over! Boring pet peeves postings that list here! 

What Are Your Pet Peeves, Phobias And Things That Irritate You
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-62369.0.html

Women: Nigerian Men Lack Dress Sense
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-73979.192.html

African Americans Vs Africans, Who Is To Be Blamed For This ,
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-12180.96.html

The answer posted at following link: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-133109.0.html#msg2244411

Good luck!!!

Why you accept opening unsuspected strange link, download file, or CD that you do not know what is contained inside the hidden virus file spreading to your computer/laptop?

NEVER OPEN STRANGE LINK that you DO NOT KNOW!!! Often junk multiple PORN sites pop-up WITHOUT ANTI-VIRUS PROTECTION installed on your computer system that contains inside virus downloaded file you want to crack something.

You learn the lesson the painfully remove the virus attack "Trojan Vundo" on your computer!

What happen to your favorite search engine: GOOGLE.COM to find "Trojan Vundo"

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Check out existing NL threads at below:

Strange Behavior
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-104829.0.html

Please Read This, It's For You
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-104818.0.html

System Restarts Repeatedly
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-123250.0.html

Need Help! Spyware Attack: ''downloader'' On A Laptop
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-83478.0.html

Can Virus Damage A Network Card (NIC)?
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-27691.0.html

Why Does My PC (XP OS) Shut Itself Down?
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-14792.0.html

Virus Problems On Windows Systems In Network
www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-17204.0.html

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Best Computer Antivirus Software?
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For me, yes, the honesty is always the best policy in my relationship!

For society, hell no! That is too bad that caused high rate of divorces, domestic violences, and rapes around the world!