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From the video, you can tell the younger sister takes care of her niece/nephew a lot (while Funke is always working) and that is her (Funke's) way of showing appreciation for her selflessness with the kids.

Well done to both of them. I definitely can relate!

I have a family member who has lost their Nigerian international passport and need to obtain a new one.

Has anyone had experience of this or know of the right way to obtain a new one?

Kindly advise. Thank you.

I hve searched online but seem to see conflicting information.

I have a family member who has lost their Nigerian international passport and need to obtain a new one.

Has anyone had experience of this or know of the right way to obtain a new one?

Kindly advise. Thank you.

emmydee:
Zaidu Sanusi is my own Man of the Match.

Spot on. That guy was responsible for Sallahs nearly non existence on the field of play today. He was composed and played very well.

Aribo surprised me with his performance today. I know he was good...but he did way better today.

My advice to you as a senior man in this game of marriage:

1. Do dna test for your kids. I know you may be apprehensive of what the result will be. But trust me...do this. And since you live in Nigeria....you can do it secretly without her consent. I don't think there is any legislation. In Nigeria that compels you to tell her before you do it (in the usa though.. You need to tell her...so best do it now before you leave).

2. Continue gathering Evidence. Your wife is already cheating on you. You just haven't caught her red handed. You work in a bank. You are very busy. Women are extremely good at hiding stuffs. Pay attention to her chats more. Save screenshots. One day...she and her lover boy will fess up via cht how they had sex and how amazing it was. They will share nude pix.

3. Get. Family lawyer who understands dissolution of marriage in Nigeria. Let them advice you on how to file for divorce and what evidence is sufficient.

4. The hard part: when you have enough evidence....approach the court for dissolution. And use your evidence as proof of infidelity.

I know the mindset you have right now is to try and save your marriage. Get your wife back.

But trust me...your wife has gone far. The more you beg. Plead. The more weak you appear to be before her and the more she will disrespect you because she thinks you are week and can't do anything.

And if you travel abroad....she will be able to even have sex multiple times and when she moves a road....there IS NOTHING! You can do to get her back.

Ẹ.g. If you divorce her After you both move to the US...she still gets the kids and most of the money you both save. And you will even have to pay for child care ontop she was the one that cheated.



Be secretive about your snooping and gathering Evidence. So thT when you start listing it....she will be shocked and won't see it coming.

I suspect you may not take this advice because you love your wife...but trust me..this is the best logical course of action.

Gather evidence before you move abroad and dissolve that marriage amicably with agreement that you both share responsibilities for the kids.

After all....this exactly is Wht she will do if you were the one cheating. She will dump your ass.

Finally...please go on Google and search for this phrase "Tunde and Moyo thomas paternity scandal"

Or even read this link: https://motherhoodinstyle.net/2021/01/09/mom-2-moyo-thomas-caught-paternity-scandal-fcmb-md-adam-nuru-finally-breaks-silence/

For the benefit of those who want to understand how HIV is transmitted through sex...Read this:

1. If an hiv positive (+ve) man have sex and ẹjaculate sperm into a hiv virus free woman. She can easily get hiv from him through this as the virus lives in sperm.

2. If that same +ve man have sex but did not release any sperm (without rule 3 below)It's extremely unlikely for that lady to get hiv.

3. If a hiv +ve man had skin abrasion (cut, or bruise that exposes beneath the skin) on his penis and penetrates the vagina of a woman with that...he can easily transmit hiv to her.

4. Likewise if a woman is hiv positive and she has sex with an hiv free man. If the man has a cut or bruise on his pénis....he can easily get hiv through this too.

5. When you give mouth action. It's less likely to transfer hiv because the enzymes (chemicals) in your saliva disables the hiv virus. That is the major reason why it's nearly impossible to pass hiv through kissing.

6. The biggest risk of exposure to hiv is through anal sex. That is when a pénis is used to penetrate the anus. The skin around the anus gets broken easily because it's tighter than the vagina. So if you penetrate a vagina with a pé is...the thrust in and out can bruise the skin of the pénis and break the skin of the anus too. And if one of the two partners have hiv...they can easily transmit it.

This type of skin breakage also happens during vagina sex...but the lubrication. Of the vagina by a woman's wetness reduces the chances (but it does still happen)



That is why condoms are recommended. Condoms helps to prevent the exposure of skin breakage in transmitting hiv loaded fluid from one partner to another either by anal or vagina sex.

The problem is that condom don't give intense pleasure. Skin to skin sex is 100 times more pleasurable than putting condom on.

Also...due to a decrease in that sensitivity of pleasurewhen wearing condom...most men get soft while using a condom as they can't feel the pleasure of the vagina very well.

So they tend to take the condom off or don't even bother.

As a man Ehn...if you want to have very pleasureble sex....make sure you and your partner go for hiv/std test. If both of you are negative...you can have sex without condoms (as long as you both are not doing it with other people).

Although...there is also the risk of getting pregnant. Which is another issue entirely.

If you live in portharcourt and you can afford it...do everything you can to move out of that state.

A lot of people will be down or possibly die due to respiratory diseases as a result of inhaling black soot.

The lungs will become extremely black!

Stevenson20:
All these actors I no kukuma understand una life oooo. Does it mean that the male actors don't save or invest when the money was flowing in

I don't want to talk about their female counterpart because I already know how they get their money and buy cars and houses that is mind blowing.
May God help una

Jut pray that you don't have health complications that will cause you to beg for support in old age.

You need to realise that these veterans were just popular in their days. They did not make a lot of money like the actors/actresses during this age of internet/social media.

Also - as men - we are always the giver, and end up working so hard in our prime and overusing our bodies. That is why as a man, we need to learn from people before us. Give your body a lot of rest, eat healthily, save up (even if it's a small change) so you won't have to struggle in your old age.

Women usually get more sympathy easily than men. Even in old age. Case in point - people tend to bless women (and even their mothers) more than men (or their fathers).

Filing for divorce due to covid pandemic ����

I have no words whatsoever to this:

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/12/phil-collins-ex-wife-orianne-collins-files-for-divorce-from-new-husband-because-of-covid-19-pandemic.html

Hello, my advise is this - Run to a general hospital asap.

This could be anything. She will need to undergo a lot of blood test including allergy test. Dont get emotional - do all you can to go see a specialist.

Emmynator:
Lmaoooooo, i read the thread, and i was just laughing. If she marries that guy, she will cheat on him definitely. All those "he gets me" na wash.
In this case, the guy loves her more than she loves him, she didn't choose him, she's managing him because he happens to be her best route to securing commitment.
The guy may be totally oblivious to this reality, and when she finally accepts his proposal, he will be eternally grateful to her for it.

Yes. The guy is and will be oblivious of it. If he ever finds out.. It will be very heart breaking.

Sadly....this is the status for most married men today.

But truth still remains that if she eventually marries him....she chose him (even though he may not be what she really wants).

She chose him because she is nearly past her prime and can't seem to find what she really wants....a handsome guy with her spec who gets her.

If you need proof that most men who are married were chosen by their women....then the comments (mostly by women) in this blog post on stella dimoko korkus blog is very telling and revealing:

https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2021/11/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_01989229016.html?m=1

Just read the post and comments.

As a man...just know that your wife chose you mostly for her selfish needs and not because of 'love'.

Women dont actually love. They mostly marry for safety....security....and because they are nearly past their prime and don't want to be left on the sidewalk.

Junnior:
Guys, what will you do if an unattractive girl asks you out?
Skepticus, luminouz, caveadullam, Martinez39z, dierich7, jessepaid, mjbolt, aomine in da house, etc.

Tell her she is not your spec. And move on. Women do this all the time to men without thinking twice.

Eastcaostboy:
not really. Amazon is just an online retailer that helps production companies sell their products but they check quality before they accept your product

And what does this have to do with my comment.

Amiralord:
Mine is the tonsils stones,am tired ,this thing is really affecting my confidence.
Pls any suggestions will be appreciated

Go on amazon.com search for Tung brush and Tung gel. Use it daily. You will get rid of tonsil stones within two weeks of continuous use.

lexy2014:
Since u don't live under d rock, u seem to be having difficulty answering d question:

which way do "many women conclude that all men are predators and proscribe all men as such"?

No further response is dignified!

BLOODYSPERM:
You will know the sign of a very stupid girl when you want to make commitment, she always want to take and take, never does she want to add value at all, even the ones that pretend these their nature will eventually come out

Useless women with materialistic and promiscuous past

Caveat;
Some ladies are very dangerous and they will dissociate from their true nature or past then grip religion, act feminine,act motherly, act wifely, it's until you marry them before you really know them then it will be too late,thread with caution

You are absolutely right on his. Here below is an example of a woman who cares only about herself....selfish...machavielian...only interested in what she will get from the man....just his sperm and his provision....

Someone that never brought anything to the table. Not even SMV but yet complaining of the fact that the man will not provide for her.

Also check comments from the fellow women on that thread. Men....if nothing else tells you about women's manipulation and selfishness....this will.

Stop providing for women who bring absolutely NOTHING to a relation ship. Stop dating them. Stop having sex with them.

https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2021/10/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_01151309908.html?m=1

lexy2014:
which way do "many women conclude that all men are predators and proscribe all men as such"?

You seem to have been living under the rock. Google "cancel culture"

lexy2014:
How did u arrive at d conclusion that "Every woman out there is a predator looking for kids to rape or abuse"?

Same way many women conclude that all men are predators and proscribe all men as such.

Geminiboi:
This is deep

I witnessed some big aunties playing with my neighbors baby boy's penis some years ago. That is sexual abuse and should never be tolerated. Our government need to do more to curb this.

Did you report them to the police? Those big aunties are paedophiles. That is sickening and disgusting and they should be punished for it!

Irises:
It much more clearer via Fifa TV on YouTube

What's the link

Where can I watch this online please

Powerhouse5050:
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

Dear Nairalanders,

First I will like you to know that I am ardent user of this media web and many of the old timers will remember me if I had use my original username,however I chose not to for security reasons and also concerns about the nature of the issue at hand.

More so many of you have read about me online and on all gossips and news website,I also read about it and see various comments from critical people and many ignorant folks.

Secondly,I am presently in prison serving 3 life sentences + 76 years for a crime I do not know anything about and infact my phone GPS showed that I was at different location at the same time of the crime and you will agree with me that it is totally impossible to be at 2 seperate locations ,wearing 2 different type of cloth at the same time.

This is a case of mistaken of identification,the police was aware of this but because I just arrived the country at the time ( Ignorant of the law and constitutional rights ) i was accussed and framed by the corrupt and racist Douglas county police department officers.

Furthermore I have evidences that could proof my actual innocence like ( DNA,GPS,SURVEILLANCE VIDEO,POLICE TESTIMONIES AND ALIBI) but without any serious help ,I may definitely be stucked with all my evidences.

I have gone through 3 difference attornies since my arrest and I currently have the 4th attorney, I have spent roughly $150,000 in legal fees,but i realized it is not just about money, if the good people does not speak out and demand for due process little or nothing may change in my situation.

I have written many independent organisations,few have put me on their priority list but it may take years to reach my turn and some others clearly replied that because I am not American I do not meet up with the requirement.

Nigeria Embassy showed little or no interest,Former Consular Okoliko visited me in jail and he even attended some of my pre-trial proceeding however I believe he had left the embassy or re-assigned.

I recently spoke with Mrs. Okonta ( Secretary/Phone Operator),she has never succeeded in putting me through to any of the consular,it is either they are busy or in a meeting or they have left for the day.

I have no other option than to reach out to the good people on this forum maybe if my story goes viral,somebody may step up to review the evidences.

I have more to say about all the evidences in my possession ( including DNA result) but I will wait to see how this is going before I reveal more or post any of the evidences.

For confidential purpose my e-mail is housepower092@mail.com.

Sincerely

Power House

Did you do high school in Osun state, Ilesha? As i heard something like this happened to someone who has a history with this place.

GenesisParrot:
Nawa oh

What is the problem with these players sef

Mendy of manchester city

Adam Johnson too

What you don't realise is that most times...young rich footballers are targeted by young women so they can claim compensation.

Just pray that a female does not accuse you of something you don't know about.

In the UK a woman can lay accusation of rape or sexual assault against you even though you both have consexual sex.

If you are popular like footballers...you start losing sponsorship....you lose a lot of things.

These girls sometimes target black players from abroad who don't know the 'cancel' culture.

Most white players know what up because they see it happen a lot.

In the UK...if you are famous....you need to actually get a woman to sign a non disclosure agreement before you have sex with them. If you don't...they can accuse you if rape and they will get away with it even if they were lying. I.e. Fake accuses usually don't go to jail for lying.

This is ridiculous. Men please be careful out there

reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.

I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.

My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?

How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?

What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home?

In my own opinion you should have told your wife off right after she said that rather than keeping silent.

Of course I am speaking with benefit of hindsight but don't let I slide again if it happens.

Your wife was shit testing you and you allowed it.

I don't understand why men think it's okay to carry 100 percent responsibilities so they can form boss.

I understand 70/30, 80/20, 90/10 but don't ever carry 100 percent. Why would you even want to do that? To show you are the man?

Then what is your wife investing into the relationship? Nothing. Only for her to gain and you to lose.

Next time...if your wife make a big g fuss about the part she is contributing....sit her down right away and school her on how you carry a greater part without complain.

Stop giving excuses and letting women get away with contributint little tonothing in marriage.

And here s another one.

Lesson: spend that money on yourself. Take yourself out. Or give the money to your papa/mama as giveaway. Stop funding lifestyle of women you are not married to no matter how rich your pocket is.

For men who keep giving and giving thinking they are rescuing damsel in distress....this is for you! These post are by women who share methods they use to get money from men.

Please note that the whole 'I need money for a critical need' is a big lie. These women are so good at sales letter writing and know the male emotions to tap into.

If you like give a woman your valuable resources. They will use it to buy hair...perfume etc

I heard many of them label dangote as stingy as he doesn't gife money out to side chicks.

manontree:
Granted she never loved you from beginning but your money

But regardless she should at least be grateful �. Few men can treat her this way. If she is a good person she should have been grateful for all you have done and the least she would do is treat you fairly

But this ingrate has taken your hard earned sweat and has to show you that you mean nothing to her

People don't usually realise what they have until they lose it

My advise
Give her a taste of her own medicine. Separate from her for a while. Do not spend a dime on her during the separation. Make it a minimum of 1yr
If she battles you for upkeep of the child, battle her with all the wealth you have until she is choked and realises she cannot win ugly with you. Trust me she would use the daughter as a means to keep getting financial fulfilment from you while frolicking with the men she loves during the separation period. You must return venom for venom
That is when she would revert to being humble again and that is when the real negotiation begins

Poster please IGNORE this advice. This will make it worse! And yes take it from someone who is married!

The post in this link proves that AWALT!

https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/9/iretiola-doyle-offers-advice-on-what-to-take-into-account-when-choosing-your-next-of-kin.html

Rubbiish:
As a man if u wan to know the true colour of a woman it is only through challenges, then her true self will show! Reason I will always place my mother above any other woman, a man's mother is only woman that will not abandon him when challenges comes. Forget all these I love u your wife dey talk, na because every where good, make small challenge come your side, then u will know no woman can ever love u more than your mom.

@ Olivertwist1985
Just focus on how to get job & the kids, forget about your wife for now, she won't change so long the money is not coming. Don't think it is only your wife o, 98% of women are like that. So she has not done something unusual.

My advice to the poster - Read the above 10 times. Ruminate on it.

Step 1 - Call her. Find out why she left. Don't beg. Don't even argue. Arrange and tell her to give you time and you will start taking care of the kids.

Step 2 - Go and look for a job. Do everything in your power to upskill yourself and search for a decent job. While doing that, take any temporary menial jobs you can get e.g. Uber (if you have a car). You need this to maintain soul and body.

Step 3 - Look at your house. If it's rented, the above temp job will help you pay for this until you bounce back. I won't advise you move houses right now as moving a house can be more expensive than staying where you are.

Step 4 - Reach out to ALL your contacts. See if they can help you get any job or at least give you some support. N5k here, 10k , 50k, 100k, 1 milla - there is better than nothing.

(Personally - I'd like to sow N10k into your life. Even if it's just for transport for one week only. I'll send you a private message to ask for your account number and pay the 10k to support).

Step 5 - Find someone you will confide in. You need it for your own mental health.

Step 6 - Hustle. Hustle. Hustle

When life shines on you again, here's my advise - Don't ever let your wife back into your life. Take care of your kids. let her retain the post of a baby mama. If you take her back, you just proved to her that she was right to leave you in the first instance.

I hope you will take this advice.

The atthed was posted by someone on my list.

How does physical maturity corresponds to leadership traits?