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Ànother woman calling men fickle. I laugh when I see things like this over and over agaon

StreetPreacher:
Someone is asking me to help deliver an item. I am now having a rethink

Don't ever take a bag for anyone when travelling abroad no matter who the person is.

This is my general rule.

If the person is someone that I cannot disrespect...I usually collect the stuff..and then leave it behind and apologise to the person that my luggage was reduced at the airport.


If someone ask me to bring foodstuffs....I usually tell them I will buy and bring it myself. I then get my trusted sister to buy it than collect from the sender.

This one want someone to bear her burden so she can stop working hard.

If you want a good reason why feminism is one sided...then this should be it.

Nigerian feminism wants men to pay support but they don't want men to be on the receiving end of it.

Divinehealer:
Naija Men and rape and molestation.
This princess self, how come she surround herself woth rapists? Is it that of all the very few normal men in naija none lives in her street? Or is it that the bug of uncontrolled sexual misconduct common among nigerian men is spreading too much. If they arent molesting their neighbours or relatives, they are molesting their daughters

Suddenly all Nigerian men are milesters by your statement.

The fact that there are many olosho doesn't mean all women are olosho ó.

Freshprince777:
I used Sterling bank on the 14th July and i was charged 1,149,435 for 2k deposit though it took one week before i was charged but i got the telex copy that same day. Then you are to pay 15500 extra for the charges. In addition, the 2k£ was converted to $ so it was like 2809.60$ and the rate was at 409$ or 410$.

Hope this helps...

Thank you very much. From your figures...it appeared you were charged at£1 = ₦574/575

Ilekokonit:
Book an appointment to see your MP and get him/her to write them a letter. That should jumpstart their brain as they are always scared of getting on the wrong side of MP's.

And this applies to any body who feels their rights are trampled upon. A visit to your MP may just do the trick as once they see that letter from your MP with the House of Commons letter headed paper, they start getting jittery.

Thank you bro for your suggestion.

I actually sent them a 3 page "strongly worded letter" with the most polite insult I can ever write and within 24 hours of them receiving the letter, the passport was issued and they have sent me a text that the passport has been posted.

Awon oniranu jati jati.

Imagine asking me to send multiple pictures throughout pregnancy of me and my madam, hospital letters to prove right to citizenship when I had submitted birth certificate and record of hospital birth and naturalisation cert. When no be say I dey apply for UK visa..

How do pictures prove citizenship? How does Pictures and NHS letter supersede naturalisation cert and proof of birth?

I made sure to quote in my letter that I will be exercising my right to freedom of information and request every single information, comment, email, thought process of the case worker who is making this stupid request and also requests the number of applicants that they've asked this exact same criterion that they are asking me and I will subsequently be escalating it up the chain of command and through my member of parliament that the caseworker is prejudiced against me.

Within 24 hours - they have responded. I am sure the caseworker thought she was on to some fraudulent case or something. I was so willing to take it to the highest level. Oshisko.

PrinceofAgoAre:
what's his name mke i read him story. U sure xay no be film u dey talk.

This is REAL LIFE. His name is Stephen Wiltshire. He has an MBE. An MBE is similar award to our Nigeria's CON, OON, GCON etc.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Wiltshire

If he was Nigerian living in Nigeria, many Nigerians will call him an "imbe" like one insensitive peron posted earlier on this thread. The dude is autistic but has a brain that is sharper than mine and yours.

Nigeria and Nigerians (of course I am speaking generally) just have a way of putting a damper on your dreams or labelling you incorrectly.

When you see someone differently-abled. Judge them by what they are able to do and not what they are not.

A fish outside of water does not have skills. Does that make the fish incapable?

Charmingrascal:
I never said he should not be seen.
But putting a video of you teaching a 21 year old how to use water gun is not necessary.
It's not bad if she posts him when they are doing other things his age mates do.

Actually it was more of playing in a jacuzzi. The nairaland OP poster sensationalised it.

Please has anyone use form A recently?

I need to know what rate banks are using so I can do a calculation.

Sorry out of the country and can't visit the bank to check hence why I am checking.

Charmingrascal:
Why did she put this online?

For people to mock him or for him to get fake sympathy?

She put it online because she treats her brother as a regular human being.

Same way you or anybody else would put their brother or sisters online.

Being autistic doesn't mean he shouldn't be seen!

KingAzari:
Their Money Spinner.. if you know you know.

This is a very insensitive comment! The way some Nigerians comment and treat people who are differently abled shows how myopic you are.

I know an autistic guy in London who was flown in an helicopter to 'see the whole of London' and the guy drew London City on paper.

His autistic nature meant he is able to capture and retain information. At 1000 times than the brain of the average human.

Please...be compassionate and fair in your talk.

Plus it's wrong to call anyone an 'slowpoke'.it's derogatory and against humanism.

Anyone paid school fees recently?

Which bank did you use and at what rate please?

Has anyone paid school fees recentlytheough any of the Nigerian banks?

If yes...when did you pay and at what rate from naira to pounds?

Ficeo:
If you talk about long story, you also talk about the short story. The lady might be acting based on bad advice and influence. She might come back to her right senses and make a U-turn.
I am talking out of experience.
This is sensitive and must be handled with caution cause anything good does not come that easy.

Which kain sensitive? Ẹ be like say you don't know the manipulation of women.

Someone has nothing to gain in a marriage with a useless woman and you are asking him to allow that same woman back into his life?

What will he gain from her? Of what benefit will she be to him?

Ficeo:
I read this with so much compassion. I will suggest you allow her be for now. If she is yours, she will come back else, you allow her be. If there is a man to pray, there is a God to answer. Go on your knees! Its time to seek God's advice.

Come back where? Poster...ignore this advice. The only bit you should listen to is the 'praying to God'.

You see that 'she will come back' bit Ehn? Run from it.

Which kain come back? Mtschew.

don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
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Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

Dude...you are yet to marry and this woman has your balls in her hand to squeeze as she likes.

When you get married Ehn...you will hear 'wen' in that marriage.

Someone is broke. Does not contribute anything to a wedding but yet want a big wedding...want to make most decision.

Biko lete ask you. As a man...what is this woman bringing into your life?

What value is she bringing on the table and into your union?

Is it sex? If it is...you can get this easily without marriage?

Is it kids? You can have a child without the stress of adding an entitled girl who cares only about herself and how the world perceives how she is seen.

Ṣeé Ehn....men do not gain anything in getting married. It is only women who has a lot more to gain.

So why should you give away your power to her? She is the one that's meant to be in your good books to be married to you! Not the other way round.

You are acting like you have more to lose if the marriage did not go ahead even though really you don't! You are just being influenced by the 'onetitis syndrom' (Google it)

That's why she is using you to catch cruise.


You have to change that game as soon as possible. You need to put your foot down as the person who pays the piper and dictate the tune.

Renegotiate the terms of your union now before you get married. Make it your own way now or the high way.

You are the one paying for the wedding. Yet you are letting her make all the decision.


Dont ever let her back in your life.no matter how much she beg.

Men need to start placing more value in themselves and seeing themselves as prices that should be wọn which in reality is the case.

Men need to realise that women sleep with way more men than they admit to.

Here's another one from Shade Ladi pò who is always known as 'big mouth' encouraging women not to be ashamed of howanyndivks they've bleeped.

Lexusgs430:
Vicas2000 - Give what is caeser's, unto caeser........ And what is of UKBA to UKBA.........

What do you think your strongly worded letter would do?..... It would simply give them an impression, you have something to hide.......

Let's assume you want to start seeking legal redress...... Each letter a lawyer writes, would cost you about £110.00 (just the beginning of charges).....


When I applied for my children's pp, it was only my first daughters, that was straightforward..... For the other 2, rules changed in between and they asked for slightly more documents........ I gave to UKBA, what was UKBA's ..........

Lmao. No problem. I already did this morning before I saw your response anyway.

starbuck:
My gender is endangered

It's not only your gender that is being kidnapped. Don't make this a feministic thing.

You read the story that a certain man (and woman) was killed too.

The Nigerian society has deteriorate so bad that I can't even imagine what many people are going through and no one send.

This government has failed Nigeria and it's very appalling. I don't even know what else to say!

LagosismyHome:
I heard of someone in naija who British and submitted for his child. He was told to submit DNA test ....who know what goes through the head of home office.

You can write a letter or if you have what requested then just send and be on your way... do you have any evidence that a white couple would not have been asked. ..possible but how sure are you

Saw this on Google which appears that the document asked of you is standard

Thank you very much for your response. I actually have no problem providing providing that documentation.

I was just appalled by the reason for the request.

If they are disputing...why can't they say it with their full chest rather than cunningly quoting that they are trying to prove eligibility for citizenship with pictures.

Birth cert and naturalisation certs issued by govt has more weight than pictures.

But I get your point sha

Hello people I need your opinion before I speak to HM Passport office in the language they will understand.

I applied for a British passport for a child who was born in the usa in January this year. We the parent are naturalised British citizen.

We submitted his birth cert, American passport, our naturalisation cert, marriage cert as supporting document which is what their gov.uk website guidance asked for. We also got a solicitor friend to do reference.

Few weeks later we recieved a letter (see attached) requesting for antenatal records and photos of parent during pregnancy to 'confirm' that the child is entitled to British citizenship.

And this is where my brain sparked.

How can you be asking me for photo of mum in pregnancy to prove a child is entitled to British citizenship when we have submitted birth cert and our naturalisation cert.

Does the photos and antenatal notes supersede an American passport....issued by the US govt as proof of iD and a naturalisation certificate for parent issued by the UK govt to proof eligibility for British citizenship.

I am about to write them a strongly worded letter regarding this and thought to ask my nairaland family first.

Question: what do you guys think. I hate these people having one set of rules for white peie and another set of rules for blacks.

Let me know if I am overeacting. Thanks

brownemmanuel43:
I have come to realize that this guy has complex issue. He always rant on colour as if he is the only black player in the team.
He started making sense until he got to that colour aspect that's when I knew that something is wrong with this guy or something is really wrong somewhere

You have not been in his shoes, so you don't know what he goes through. He is vocal about it because he wants racism stamp out of English football. When you are born in the UK, you only need to be "black" to be seen as an incompetent, aggressive, nonentity.

Your skills, knowledge, personality doesn't matter. Just be black.

Rashford has had the worst of racial slurs thrown at him. He is a decent player. Forget that some Nigerian fans don't like him, but tell me....is Harry Kane that spectacular?

The only reason why Kane gets hyped is that he is white. Rashford doesn't get that luxury. As a black man, you have to work thrice as hard as your fellow white.

Rashford is very good at a penalty. Yesterday's penalty showed he threw the keeper off the football scent, only that the ball did not go in.

Remember, he was brought in 3 minutes before the end of the match. No time to warm up. Saka who has NEVER had any international experience was playing a decider penalty. Where was Grealish? Why didn't the coach use Grealish? That is the Coach's fault.

I was watching a commentary on the BBC a few days before the finals, and someone commented that "Our English team are so good, that Messi would not even have a chance on this team. Our Harry cane is on fire".

In my mind, I am like...Harry Kane? Same Harry Kane? being compared to Messi?

The same Messi that scored crazy goals at Copa America. Now tell me...how many shots did Kane shoot in yesterdays final. I am talking of shots o...not shot on target! The ball possession at some point was 71% to 29%.

Martinez39s:
I emboldened the phrase "dating market" to provide context. What men and women are looking for in the dating market differ. Nevertheless, a broke, fat and ugly dude looking to snatch beautiful, fit models in the dating market ahead of high value men is just as delusional as many modern day women. If we are talking about sexual attraction, a fat dude thinking hot girls ought to be attracted to him is just as delusional.

The difference between men and women in the dating market is that men, usually, can shape their expectations to be in line with reality. An average man can understand and admit that he can't compete with the high value men to get beautiful models for marriage, but women, even the below-average women, seriously and stubbornly think they deserve high value men. No matter what, they really think they are doing high value men a favour by dating them and thet they are the prize who should call the shots in the union. Crazy!

Thank you for your contribution on this. I hear you and you are right about it

Martinez39s:
Even average women who can't compete in the dating market think they deserve a high value man. Average women and below-average women don't want average and below-average men. Obese women want muscular and well-chiseled men.

Na so life be.

Isn't that equivalent to a big tummy guy who doesn't take care of himself wanting a model girlfriend who is committed. There is levels to this knowledge.

livingchrist:
Lol she is clueless!

The problem is women project what they want on men. Women easily forget men and women are basically different.

Exactly. I watched the video twice. I was just seeing through her BS and checking all the women I have encountered in the past to see how they've used this BS too.

This is the best way to learn and improve.

The dad is smart for even allowing that conversation and allowing his daughter to talk to the opposite sex.

Most people don't realise that being able to engage with the opposite sex is a way of gaining interpersonal communication skills

Only thing the dad must do when he gets home is to lecture his daughter on her responsibilities and also put boundaries in place.

This video here is so hilarious. Kevin Samuels was dishing out some real truth to this woman about the stupid idea that she was "dating down"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VI6XWGKvUrE

As a man, you will learn some pure truths from this.

MENTORCH:
Lol, is it straight like that. We dated for a year and broke up because of something I did. So she started dating again, and found out the guy was married, after like a month she started begging me to come back. Even when she was with the guy, I saw a lot of subliminal signs about her going through hard times with the break up. The guy even sent a message to her saying that she talks about me all the time, when they were together. Well you are right too. I dumped her after like a month, but she doesn’t want to go.

Then let her know that the only thing you guys are doing is friends with benefit.

You don't really understand women. Women generally are ruthless when it comes to relationship.

She only came back because she doesn't have a better alternative.

Once another guy comes into the picture better than you....she will dump you again and not even bat an eyelid.

A woman for you is someone who will still stick with you even though there are better guys out there. It's rare to have his kind of women.

But then....you are in love and won't even take this advise so make I no stress myself.

MENTORCH:
My ex came back after 2months. She found out the guy she started hanging out with, which was a week after she broke up with me was married she then came back to me after 1month, claiming she couldn’t get over me, I found out through her phone the guy was married, which she didn’t tell me. We are still together, but I’m just confused about the whole situation

Someone made you a second choice and came back when her first choice disappointed and you are confused?

Dumo that girl ASAP right now. If you take her back...she will leave again when she find someone better than you.

I don't know what's confusing you in all of this.

Igbojihadist:
Good day nairalanders there is this very girl I love so much. I have expressed my feeling to her but she keeps telling me she is not ready yet. It has been four years now and am finding it difficult to move on or love any other girl.

Its ruining me as all i do each day is to think of her, atimes I might decide not to call her again within three days or what she would call me telling me is this the type of love I have for her. I am overwhelmed but she doesn't understand how i feel (please i need advice) plz anyone who would remind me of the present economy should stay off as ur problem is not mine.

Onetitis syndrome. Google it. Focus on you. Develop yourself. Make money. Five yrs from now...you will slap yourself why you even bothered to stoop so low to ask her out.

Where can I watch this online please