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CityNGR:
Please help me tell Victorian.

I'm not into long distance relationship.

Before u people will collapse ontop my matter.

Smhhhh

That's daughter in-law from the pit of hell!

God forbid!

If I notice my daughter in-law is troublesome, I just tell my son in my inner chamber, Biko carry your wahala dey go your house, as you no wan reason my advice not to marry her in the beginning.

Before I come back,pls I don't want to see her in my house and that's final.

lefulefu:
lol victorian there are some ladies that will be ready to born for a guy and leave d child with the guy if d pay is right.if a son can kill his own mom for blood making rituals or a mother sell her own dauther as a sex slave in europe just cos of money den wetin hard for op's request.its like u dont know how deeply money loving naija has bcome.ppl dey sell their soul for money.if op should up the price a little then i assure u dat more babes go contact am.if i am right two babes don already signify interest for dis thread just dat op reject one based on not being atheist and d other one say she wont play ball if they dont pay her in dollars.

My dear, that's his headache jare.

I'm done with his thread, he can do whatever he feels is cool.

Business thingz on my mind, I can't continue with his matter today again.


It's a free world

CityNGR:
No be Victorian be dis?

Holy Ghost fire !!!!!!

I no know say alot of peeps are obsessed about me on this forum

Up to 14 guys drooling over me? Wow!

All of una, My frosh looks cannot be tainted by any man, Inugo?



And hey! You cityNGR, na who do you like this?


I know your obsession about me Is up there.

Lemme make all of una day. I'm in a good mood today

Intrepid01:
Hmmm, truly "ladies are coats of a weird material", only God alone can understand.

Smiles, yes o.

But I'm not that lovey dovey anymore. I simply replace lovey dicey with jokes and wisdom, so it won't look like am rigid or too tough or stubborn.

bennybaba:
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What's wrong with doing it with a driver or are they not humans too

Lol, are u a driver?

Intrepid01:
Thank God for coming to miraculously coming to your recue through that dream. But let's take a closer look at your statement up there for honest analyses...

From hindsight, have you asked yourself why you accepted to be a sex slave to someone without any contractual agreement (marriage)?

What could have been responsible for such decision, which you later found out to be a wrong decision?

Should you have accepted, like Anna and the likes have, would you blame the guy who sought your consent for a selfish relationship?

I was madly in love with him. He's everything I could wish for in a guy even though he's not rich yet but I simply love his boyish smile, the way he jokes, we talk about almost everything. He's very bold, romantic, not too demanding sexually. He's perfect. He's handsome, tall, dark. And he's a perfect lover.
We talk about everything. We don't get bored with ourselves. And I felt he's the one for me.

I would have accepted like Anna cos I was madly in love. And my business was going so well. The more I spend on him., the more my business progresses. Everything was perfect. I was contemplating opening a biz of his choice for him after wedding. It was meant to be a surprise from me to him.
So at least he will be financially OK by himself

And I won't blame him for making me a baby mama, cos I was so in love, happy and everything was rosy. And I felt our kids will look so cute. And also he's one guy that was bold enough to woo me, face to face with this dazzlingly smile on his face looking straight into my eyes, without fidgeting, unlike most guys that will be scared to even say hi.. Lol.
He's so friendly and charming. Sighs and he doesn't boss me around, at all. In fact then he was also my bestie.

Hmm, that's in the past jare.

My best relationship in the past. Smiles.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
No properly raised Lady would agree to this term. But I'm sure those who love money so much wouldn't mind. Continue searching OK.
Imagine you getting married and the baby refusing to come... Lol

Lol

Don't mind him, he thinks he has everything completely and properly worked out, as if he is the one creating children to appear in marriage whenever he needs one. He will have sex, click his fingers and boom! His wife will get pregnant , 9months time he signed his inheritance papers and then smile to the bank.

lefulefu:
na waoh are u now doin this jus to spite victorian now or cos of the inhrritance na waoh are u now doin this jus to spite victorian now or cos of the inhrritance? see guy more girls will contact u.just be patient.with financial rewards u put up dere they are bound to contact u. but then i will suggest u slack down on the atheist angle cos after all dis is a business marriage. i am just sayin if u tone down on d atheist angle then more girls from nairaland will hit u up.

He's not doing it for me o!

He's getting married , so he can lay his greedy hands on his Inheritance!

It's all for the money!

He thinks women will just abandon their child give am! And walk away over peanuts.

Smhhhhhh

Itzurboi:
Here is the point. cc victorian
Your case was different because you knew what you wanted even though the guy cared less if you become his babymama... You never allowed what you feel for him to cloud your sense of value.
Anna's case wasn't like that; Did she not know flavour had a babymama... How then does she think she would displace her to be his favorite...
I would to refer you to able1993 comment on 1st page, then you will understand the difference between your case and anna's own.

It almost cloud my senses.

And when he requested I be his baby mama, I was undecided and later I said yes I will, with excitement , joy and uncertainty of what the future holds for us.

But that day I said yes and we agreed that I will get pregnant, that night I dreamt about my dead mum whipping me with koboko, and I was crying mama eh! Am. Sorry ma. She then stopped and looked at me with angry glittering eyes, saying so u want to disgrace my name abi? U want to disgrace my memory! By having a kid without wedlock! I will kill you today. She continued beating me and I screamed mama, I won't go through it again o, I promise I won't o! As I was crying, she stopped and looked at me with a resigned look, sighed with arms on her waist, saying but why spoil your life all for that thing u call bf. Then I woke up sweating with words on my lips, mama am sorry.

Sighs.

The next I called my bf and told him its over between us. I can't do this anymore, unless we are married before I can have a kid and moreover my mum is not in support. My mum almost beat me to death in my dream. He said but she's dead nah! Dead people don't talk! I looked at him with sad eyes. I know she's dead but she's watching every step I take. I'm sorry. that's how I withdrew from him and breakup. He was surprised but that's the end of it. Nothing he said made me go back to him.

Anyways na Anna know jare, she's an adult. So she's free to do whatever she likes with her life. Her parents are not even putting their foot down on her. So it's her choice.

SueZuckerberg:
I'm not against your incentives for the lady who chooses to marry you; I see nothing wrong with that. Greed could be involved, but there's nothing in nature that suggests that greed cannot birth love. On the contrary, I'm against your decision to check out. You want a kind of marriage not the marriage the God of Heaven sees as marriage. Even pagans in days gone bye, where nothing of God is known; God still sees it as a legal union unlike yours. To be honest, guy, bury your head in shame.

Don't mind him
He thinks he's smart!

Thank God he's going to delta!

His eyes go clear soon enough.
Silly guy.

GreatResearcher:
Am goin for a business not a date. The state I will be goin to visit the nairalander is Delta state. U are invited. Will remind u once d date is fixed

Lol.

Some guys are weird.

funmisticqueen:
heyy. Good morning

Morning dear, smiles

funmisticqueen:
invite me too o

Funmi baby!

*grins*

Itzurboi:
You are a confused being going by your previous stance on similar issues.

I'm not confused

I'm simply looking at what she's feeling, holding onto flavour as his baby mama.

Have been such scenario before but thank God not as a baby mama.

Like been obsessed with an ex. He didn't want to let go. I didn't want to let go either but I wanted marriage, but he wanted just fun. I was too weak back then to cut off. But last last I cut off and severed all ties. But it took great strength and will power from me to cut off from him.
Assuming he wanted marriage? I would have been happiest woman on earth and married him . I was ready to move heaven and earth for him but thank God, he opened my eyes and I'm calm now, even when he comes calling, I simply told him sorry I can't come back to you or else it will be same cycle over and over again. And he wants is just fun without commitment. Nah I can't.

So that's why I said such feelings Anna feel for flavour is rare in most relationships and marriage. She loves him to pieces without a care if he will marry her as number two or not. And flavour himself no wan leave her hand. Still holding on tight.

Very greedy guy.

Daeylar:
I didn't even read this part of the thread.

I hate guys like op.
Manipulative assholes.
See how he tried to make himself look like a helpless innocent "nice" guy who has problems setting boundaries and who is being taken advantage of by this pushy overbearing desperate girl.

Why did he hide the information that he has been having sex with her in the thread? why didn't he put it in the op?

Now wonder she feels like they are moving towards marriage and feels comfortable enough to ask for a key, She is sleeping with him. Cleaning for him and they are cooking together, but op wants to act like he had no hand in this happening and he doesn't know why she is acting like this.

That's why women have little patience for these so called "nice" guys, manipulative A**holes. Users, All of them.

He is just asking what he will tell her to ensure that she keeps doing chores and sleeping with him even though he refuses to give her the key.

This one he is pretending that he and his girl have known each other for barely a month. If you check well now you'll find that they have been together for up to 6 months.

These so called nice guys
Mtchewww


It's even a new moniker

That's why I always tell ladies, stop giving bfs all forms of sexual styles, front, back and centre! Guys don't appreciate such ladies.
Can u imagine? He can't even give her a spare key! Then whats all the sex all about?

The girl sef no get brain! If a lady gives a guy everything wives gives to their husbands and start doing chores, he won't appreciate it. Even if she's squatting, just place a pause button and make him sweat before having her. A month is too fast in having sex in a relationship.

In fact! Abstinence is the key!

Guys ehn?

Women should stop playing themselves in vulnerable positions in relationships, if not ? she will just be hoping on luck!

Best of luck with your police station date.

Remember to invite me o!

I thought have heard it all, police station Kwa?

O GA o!

Smiles.

lefulefu:
sleep tight

Thanks dear

Goodnight & Sweet Dreams

lefulefu:
forget matter.. His pm box will be overbumming by now from ladies and guys pretending to be ladies.hunger full d land o

Story.

Lol

If e don full up? Why is Op asking his thread to be placed on front page.

Abeg lefulefu, no start your own this night. I'm feeling sleepy already.

Probably she is not the type that gets satisfied easily.

With each taking turns to fucvk her for hours, she will feel happy and satisfied .

She looks content about it.

Wish them best of luck. Lol
She try

zamanii:
Even though I don't believe this OP's story; too many ritualists and scam stories already but una too like story on this platform. Victorian be typing long epistles on top nothing.

We cannot all believe in God. If an atheist cannot convince you to become one, why would you expect him to believe in God because you said so. Live and let live abeg, if you are not willing to help OP in his 'search' goan rest abeg.

I love typing long epistles to pass messages across.

No need getting worked up about me.

It's my Choice

It's Anna life and choice jare.
She loves him too much to be his baby mama .

Such kind of love and passion is rare in relationships and marriages.

And I can bet. She will be so happy carrying another child for him.

Na she sabi. Whatever makes her happy make she do.

Babacele:
hehehehe you are dramatically correct! naso we be...and you forgot the society too would put all the blame on the poor lady hence the fear ....'on their mother's grave got 'me reeling on the floor ( u must have read Hardley Chase).

So that's society and human beings for us.

And Yea I read alot of Hadley chase during secondary school. Very interesting and dramatic too.
Smiles.

GreatResearcher:
Seems u can't make a post without bringing in God or whatever u call him.

Why will ur God give a woman more eggs and another woman just one egg then he is seen as 'a fair and just God'?

That's God for you. We can't question His choices.
And maybe He wants us to value what we have, that's why.

Cause if God gives every woman as many children as we all desire. We won't value children. We won't value what we have. We will be like shebi, we will have more.
But a fellow woman knows there are some women on earth with just only one child. We will be careful with ours.
I have a friend who aborted three foetus in school. Today she's married, very young girl of 22 years married to a 43 years old man but no kids. And this is their third year. The husband is perplexed, shebi she is very young? Why no child still? She has taken so many fertility pills and herbs but no child. She has done all the prayers on earth, still no child, she feels maybe God is punishing her the sins she committed. I simply told her to be patient. One day it will happen as God wills it. Thank God her husband is patient.

I have another friend, she and her husband very rich but they have just one son and they've have accepted their fate.

Clinton the former president of US has only one daughter. That's how God wants it.

So don't worry when your time is up and u meet with God face to face, please ask Him the question, He will probably give u the best answer to all your burning questions. Jeez!

BlackSaints:
lol i don modified am already

Hahahahahahahah, oh Lord!

You are just too funny! Lol

BlackSaints:
loz I'm not in Nigerian.

Lol, Wetin you come be?

faithfull18:
Lol, didn't you read he is doing this for the sake of getting an inheritance.

Someone has a deadline to meet in a few months' time and you expect him to be choosy or picky with all the conditions he has laid out, instead of you to assist him in the ultimate search.

Lol

Nanatrendy:
madam don't get it twisted the fact that I asked a question doesn't mean am interested. First of all I am a Christian from a firm Christian home, mum is a deaconess in a well known strict pentecostal church in Ghana so it's not likely my family will accept op, secondly I know you may not like this but the truth is most ghanaian parents are likely to reject a nigerian in law you have a bad reputation, also it could be a scam or he could be a ritualist, last but not the least why would I wanna move in the direction everyone seems to be running away from? Leaving my well paid job behind for what? Charley all the screws in my head are intact. Am on this forum for the love of nigerian literature not to find a husband abeg. Once again if this is genuine op I wish you the very best in your search, if possible try and lower your standard, I know a couple that one is an atheist and the other is a Christian and they've been married for 10 years and still going strong the most important thing is to find someone who understands, respects you and is willing to take you for who you are. All the best

Oh OK. Thanks for clarifying your stand on his request.

It's well.

Op best of luck! Smiles.

GreatResearcher:
Victorian: how does gettin into a contract marriage means selling of one's future? Explain pls.

Blacksaints: looks, height, complexsion, infact physical appearance is not considered.

Few medicals will be considered. E.g. Her genotype. She must be AA. I'm AS.

OK I will explain.
Every action and consequences we make or take in this life, that has to do with a child, be it good or back bounces back on us or on our generation.

Most of us, the consequences our dad or grand dad or even great grand dad took in becoming the greatest Chief in his time, or greatest Alfa or strongest wrestler or richest man in the family or village by selling himself and his generation and lineage to lesser gods which has been haunting the family till date.
And that's what we call generational curse. Which plagues most homes and lives these days and it will continue if it's not broken or destroyed by the blood of Jesus Christ.
I have mine too but have broken out of the curse.

But why I said she will be selling her future is this : maybe she has been destined to have only one child in this life and she sees your proposal and she is like wow! I love this proposal and I will be rich afterwards, is it not just one child? I will have other children, lemme give him a child from my womb and collect my money after some few years of the contract marriage. It's a great deal.

Unknown to her, it's only one Child that's in her womb and that's all she's destined to have in life. She marries u. Bears the only one Child in her womb unknown to her ,give you and smile away to her parents house after collecting some thousands of naira.
Later she married another man, no child. The man gets angry, in-laws are angry, she's thrown out.
She marries again same thing. No child , she's thrown out.
Cause I have seen a woman like that but thank God she's now married to a divorced man who has 4 children from his first wife. No expectations again from her giving birth. The man knew her story and said I don't need any more kid, so I will marry you cos I love you as u are! He's 50years

Such men are rare except men in their 70s.

But she's comfortable. Now tell me, will such a woman be happy in life? Getting thrown out of marriages because of no child afterwards?

Men and women these days are clamoring for children be it single or married, they just MUST have child or children to complete their success in life, someone to continue their name and generation on earth. Some decides not to marry but that child or children, they must have! It's a must! Only very few don't need children in their lifetime but such people are not common.

Nobody knows how many children God has gifted them with.
So the one u have, or the eggs the woman have. They are not ready to dash it out in exchange for a pot of porridge. Cause we don't know how many God has blessed us with .

That's why I said they will be selling their future, if they agree to your terms. Even Oyibo woman won't agree. When they divorce a man, they carry all their children with them. Not one will be given to the man.

So what else are we still going back and forth for again?

GreatResearcher:
it baffles me how Nigerian ladies will give birth to children then dump them in gutters and road sites and don't see anything wrong in such act but they see everything wrong in getting married (contract marriage) give birth and walk away from the marriage.

I've seen a lot of girls ready to do this but once I see a child is involved they shake their heads and say no.

I know nothing comes easy but I will get one..

Do you know why those kind of ladies will dump their child in gutters and road sides.
It's because the guys they dated and impregnated them, bailed out on them. In fact the guys who impregnated might have said some awful things to scatter their brain and mindset about what's real? And some guys might haveeven beaten them to a pulp and throw them out of his house.
Tell me how do u think such ladies will reason towards the child they are carrying in their womb? A nice boyfriend who came to them with sweet words, sweet raps and buy one or two things here and here. The ladies will feel he's God sent! Not knowing all he wants is unprotected sex, and NOT considering the consequences that she may become pregnant!
Some even promise marriage to these poor ladies and the ladies gullibly accept and believe in their hero, aka the boyfriend. all to feel skin to skin with these ladies. These boys can say anything on earth, even swear on their mother's grave, all to make these women believe, they will marry them.

Then out of the blues of saying I'm pregnant! Expecting to see smiles in their bf or fiance face but no smile was forth coming.
All they saw was instant rage or frown or glittering eyes, with an angry voice saying so u want to tie me down with a bastard!abi? You must be crazy! Now get out! You slut!
Your plan will not work!

And she will be like what's wrong with this guy. A resetting slap from her bf will shock to the marrow, followed by insults and probably beating from her by, thinking the beating will abort the baby, then finally throw her out!

Now tell me, how do u think such girls will feel towards the growing baby in her womb?

She is no longer in her right frame of mind. She will hate that child and throw it away.
Some will but not all will throw away. The ones who throw away and those ones who cannot feed themselves, how much more feed a baby. No money for antenatal, no food but just there waiting for the baby to pop out, so they can get rid of it. A hungry man is an angry man, even with women.

But what u are requesting for? Is that a woman in her right frame of mind and with her having possessions to money from her contract with you, will then give up her baby to you the father?

No Sir! It doesn't work like that. No woman in her right senses will do such!

BlackSaints:
lol fear of the unknown maybe they think the op is a yahoo yahoo boy

Am telling you.

faithfull18:
Lol, you are funny ehn. Most Nigerian ladies are traditional, atheism aside.

No right thinking lady wants to end up in a marriage where you do all marriage rites etc with your family involved , give birth to a child and after some months get divorced without the child.

Even the ones life happened to, would give anything to do it well all over again.

I think the OP should extend his search to ladies outside Nigeria, the whites especially, they seem to be more liberal when it comes to marriage.

That's true.

You are right.

No woman in Nigeria would want to go through such kind of ordeal in the name of contract marriage. Even abroad, the white women will collect their kids after divorce proceedings. No woman will conveniently leave her child behind.

So Op, really think again and restrategise your plans all over again..

Lol