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rock003:
Be careful how you believe what these women say. They will never tell what they did wrong; they will only focus on what the man did.

I don't think you will just sit down quietly and the man will just be abusing you.

If you abuse a man verbally, you are pushing him to abuse you physically. The two of them are forms of abuse; only that one has physical evidence, while the other only has emotional, psychological effect.

At the bolded , please speak for your self

Some men out there , look good , dashing and all are not mentally OK. They have double personalities . they are not OK upstairs . and that's the truth .
They show off a certain nice personality that a lot of their friends will envy and be like this man is so gentle and meek like a dove ;DD
He cannot hurt a fly .
But when wife starts crying out , everyone will be perplexed . As in what is she saying ? Women sef ! They can never be satisfied ! But this woman is living inside hell in her own home .

May God not allow us marry people who are psychologically imbalanced in Jesus name .
I know what she's going through, that's why am saying this and it will only get worse , if she doesn't swallow her pride and what her parents will say of " we told u so" but u thought our mouth were smelling, now your eyes don clear , abi?
The earlier she divorce that man , the better for her . cause at the end , if she doesn't leave , Na death dey end am . last last.

midehi2:
She was fvcking anyhow, every dick and harry, no wisdom

Honestly ehn?

This youthful exuberance can be destructive when there is no direction or constructive purpose.
Some of the bad girls we schooled with are doing, not so well while some are doing well ,married to a good man and settled .
Likewise the good girls , some are doing OK , settled married to good men ,while some were unfortunate ended up with wrong partners .

So there is no philosophy or golden rule , that states be a bad girl and marry a good man or be a good and end up with a bad man .

Everything in life is wisdom and Grace from God .

Have always been a mummy's girl , a good well behaved one at that , lol and I keep being such , but with years of experience I have added wisdom and wealth of knowledge to it . So the choice is mine to choose which to follow .

For me, marriage is not everything but part of living . What I seek for is peace and long lasting happiness and friendships , then kids and a wise companion along the line to build a family . Cause whether anyone likes it or not , we need family . I need family anyways .

justscorchone:
I'm down with that,I wouldn't mind just being in between myself.

Ugosample:
You know them?

They will be a couple .

I don't know them.

A stranger cannot just slap another stranger of the opposite sex , except they are mentally unstable .

justscorchone:
Oh OK, are you single?

Hmmm * coughs*




Am in between

After taking series of pics together, Kissee and all with pre wedding shoots join, see how they end up disgracing themeselves .


Smhhhh

Ugosample:
true

but still

you would have inquired more and seen how you could be of help to her
her condition must be precarious

I know but she almost turned me into a lesbian back then, if not that I found it repulsive and still see lesbianism repulsive . She turned many girls back then into lesbians . I had to place her at a distance back then. While I watch how she frolicks with both guys and girls . I was the Orobo back then , while she was the slim and sexy one .
So seeing her out of the blues looking old and worn out , shook me to the bone marrows. I didn't really think much of hearing her story and why she was the way she looked .
God forgive me but what was on my mind , was I hope people are not noticing us talking , lemme quickly leave .See where fucvk fucvk carry her reach . God forgive me but that was exactly my thoughts.

Wherever she is , may God help her and restore her back in Jesus name amen .

Ugosample:
wrong choice of spouse and life conditions is responsible for her predicament

Honestly ehn? No be small thing.

How life changes one to either down below or up there , really baffles me .

May God help us all, amen.

Una sure say , this man is not jazzed?

His eyes looks glassy and distant .

God save KANU brother from laura hand o.

Its no longer funny o!

AryEmber:
No mind them jare! That's what they say but do different thing. Although there are some that can but they are rare.

Of course they do different , when its time to cross the bridge .

Men can lie even kill to lay any babe , he desires . thats the truth . So they will promise to stick by the lady but when the time of lemme meet with your parents comes, they start fidgeting , some will even cry crocodile tears, saying they are sorry , they cant go against their parents .
Forget them , focus on either age group or slightly older .

And the very few that can accept, is probably his parents are dead . lol

And u are pretty . don't worry the right man will come .

Let's face the reality .

You all know me , I say it as it is.

In Nigeria , guys can date , Bleep an older lady for a space of time but when it comes to settling down ? They cringe ! Especially when their family place heavy pressure on them not to marry the lady but there is another exception. If she's very wealthy and ready to spend on the guy and all his family . then, yea u can go ahead and marry the guy as a lady . If your money dey flow like water with no end . Be their mother Christmas !
And they will accept if the guy family is highly impoverished !

Hope am making sense !


As for me hell no!

That's pure lie and fallacy .

My school mate who was a bad girl ,back then .

Come and see her now! She looks old , worn out , poor , dragging along 4children with an extra one carried at her back . She was the even the one who called my name , I didn't recognise her at first until I look at her face closer . And I was like wow! Bisola! Jeez! How are u doing ? She smiled weak at me and replied fine . I was like mehn I can see you are married . she smiled again and nod yes . I just shook my head and she was like am I married? I smiled and I mumbled yea.

She said u look good . I said thanks. Then I said am rushing off to somewhere, nice seeing u again. She replied same here .
Mehn i was like wow! As she walked on with her kids .

Na wa o. Bisola of those days .

May we not marry the wrong partners in this life , amen!!!

All thanks to God and power tussle between a polygamous family in lagos and my agent , my bill of last year 1.2million has been written off , just like that . After the stronger section in the polygamous family won control over their properties .

I don't have to pay it anymore !

Isn't God a wonderful God . Its really good to serve God!

Have been so happy since last week , I can't thank God enough !

Jesus I love you too much!

And fasting with prayer still continues till first week of February 2019!

God is great!

All thanks to God and power tussle between a polygamous family in lagos and my agent , my bill of last year 1.2million has been written off , just like that . After the stronger section in the polygamous family won control over their properties .

I don't have to pay it anymore !

Isn't God a wonderful God . Its really good to serve God!

Have been so happy since last week , I can't thank God enough !

justscorchone:
Do you stay within the island?

Nope Mainland.

[quote author=millionboi2 post=75038227][/quote]Kpele o!

How you wish!

Ode!

Goat!

*spits*!

jaxxy:
Lol... Anyone tells u to walk long walks to see him or go out 2geda is a punisher bt it depends sha

However if my ex then had told me this crap this lady said or even asked me then if or not I had car i wudnt be interested or serious cos it’s a shallow statement to me and quite irrelevant. I cud hv a car and choose not to drive. I double my hustle to impress myself.

Thats true sha

justscorchone:
Chinchinni you for be albino.

Well, am not albino

millionboi2:
no wonder dos guys pond ur puna scatter dat time..... hahahahaha


Drivers go don fvk dis ones tire

Mumu! Am not the cause of your frustrations in life o!

Don't go and hustle!

jaxxy:
That’s why if I have my way I will buy my ex a car. That gal dated me when I didn’t even have a car. I pick her up with a cab and we toured arrnd town having fun. I appreciate that. And she was 20times finer than this fugly fake waist babe. Lol

Lol at fugly fake waist!

At least cab is even better . You try nah

Some guys won't think of cab, na to trek or run and jump after bus go dey dia mind .

Years back I went on a date like that.

The guy was so stingy ehn? I trek my life that day! Me, that hardly trek . how much more on a date !

And guess what? We had to break up. Dating him was like , I was suffering. And I sat myself down one day and had to tell myself the plain truth that babe!
This na suffer you dey o? Forget! You no enjoy at all!
Better to be single , than this suffering , lol.

Sighs but thank God for today . I can conveniently drive myself to anywhere I desire

.Guys double your hustles , don't blame the babe !

EVILFOREST:
Honestly acted stupidly.
No one is saying she shouldn’t have SEXX, but should be done with precautions and dignity

Exactly !

That's what she wants . Can't blame her .
She's not ready to be all sweaty running after bus .lol
Or trekking long distance to dates .

Lol

Passionate888:
E b like say them carry toto swear for most Urhobo men... My friend wey serve for Ughelli say those men dey even impregnate 12 year old girls sef.

Not only urhobo men ,Infact 90pecent of men world wide .

She's so shameless .
Smhhhhh


Why do it in the office ? And with driver ?

ibiso1986:
sometimes, the parents will urge their daughter to endure the marraige until its too late.. Too sad

Endure fire!

No family , will tell me such rubbish!

No be only endure !

He had better rot in jail! Useless man!

Best decision . keep it up

Acidosis:
You're the one trying to compete with your husband when you should be working as one.

Your first responsibility as a married woman is to be a good wife to your husband, and by so doing, your children gets to learn the basics of ethical parenting. Your children will learn more from you by being a good wife to your husband. Allow them to learn from the way you relate with your husband.

Children are not dummies, they see everything, learn everything from your own relations with your husband so make that your priority.
That's the best way to teach your children.

Not going to engage you with debates on will and properties because that's not what I am here to do on earth. My first responsibility is to enjoy my life and be happy. I'm not going to live forever, so are my children, so let each sets his/her own purpose why they're on earth.

Only thing I owe my children is a good, intact and loving family. Whatever I leave behind when I'm gone would not be an issue because I don't intend donating sper. m in all six geopolitical zones of the country.

The most important thing you owe your kids are those intangible things they can get from you before you're gone. When you're gone, you're gone; they cease to be your children the moment you're gone, and whatever they choose to do with whatever you left behind is largely dependent on the kind of life you live while you're alive.

If you disrespect your husband in the name of securing your children's future with property, same children can decide to squander everything on mere boyfriends, and guess what? There's nothing you're going do about it. So be wise!

You're more concerned about being a good mother than being a good wife. Not a bad idea however ensure you don't ruin the life of an innocent man with your past. You can make a good mother without necessarily being in marriage, so know what you want and stick with it. When you go into marriage, making motherhood the only or most important goal, you ruin everything because your children are not dummies. You can't frustrate your husband and expect you children to love you because of materials.

I don't wish or plan to frustrate my husband and I don't plan to rub it on his face that have acquired properties . My duty as a dutiful wife and good mother still continues but if he's edgy or feeling awkward that I own properties? Well there is nothing I can do about it . he has to work on his inner self to accept what have laboured to build up for years .
My having properties will not make me disrespect him one bit but he has to remove eyes from my properties and let's focus on making the home happy. Its not hard .

CHoccolaTE:
Reading topics like this gives me headache because you start seeing how many Nigerian men are mentally unstable control freak sociopaths.

Just imagine one fool on this thread saying women should give up control over their lives because they are married.

Don't mind them

The men think they will live forever !

As if they are gods!

Acidosis:
First, your kids do not belong to you alone. Every other thing you wrote are some of the reasons some men and women avoid people from polygamous and broken homes. Your past experiences have so much shaped you to the extent nothing I say will change your mind.

My only recommendation for your man is to share same mindset with you - individually struggle and contest for the heart of his kids.

Some of us do not care today which of our parents spent this or that on us while we were growing up because we saw our parents do stuffs together.

No need contesting for the heart of the kids by buying properties and telling them it's theirs , such act is the height of foolishness.
All you need to do has a parent is fulfil your God given trait as a father and do the needful in their lives , likewise the mother as well.
I don't see anything wrong if a mother decides to will or name her properties on the name of the children .
You know why?

Because I know , I will not bury my children . my children will live after me and give me a befitting burial when my time comes to leave this earth . If my husband wild his properties to the kids , I see nothing wrong in it , even if the properties bear their names , its still applaudable . Nothing wrong in it .

But when some men start fidgetting or getting worked up the properties are named after the children , baffles me. Will u as a man, live forever ? Won't u die one day? Or u want to be burying ypir kids abi?

You men with such foolish mindset should think with your brains for God sakes !

Then lastly. U don't tell your kids UV willed all your properties to them. Its after the parent demise, they get to know .in so doing , they are already independent on their own , not waiting for you to kick the bucket before they start enjoying what's on ground .

Bros! Be wise when training your kids . And fulfil your fatherly role to them , and they will love you . Instead of competing with your wife on who will win the heart of the kids completely . It's uncalled for .

Elder0001:
This fellow , stop saying nonsense!

Everyday isn’t a day for fake stories

Smhhhh!

I have no words for you.

Boss13:
That’s the power of the subconscious mind - ever knowing, ever present. That still voice within. You are experiencing its beauty - keep it up. For some people, they don’t hear the voice but a strong nudge to do or not to do something. It takes practice and with time it becomes clearer.

Some people get to meet someone for the first time and they feel like they have known each other. On the other hand, you meet someone and you don’t feel good. Your subconscious is talking - listen

Smiles thanks .

At the bolded that's so true, as well !

Boss13:
That’s why you dream of them because you miss them. Your subconscious mind is recreating this beautiful scenes with them. Listen deep to what they tell you, your mind is communicating with you.

When you practice this with discipline- you will begin to gain mastery of your life.

Sighs I miss them so so much !

I listen to them and I always remember when I wake up .

they've helped me in solving serious issues in real life when am stuck wit problems . Theyve been a great help to me in this world and they also advice me , which I use on my daily life . sometimes I feel their presence around me in real life . Have disciplined my mind and subconscious in such a way that I get to hear their voice especially if am in a very tight corner and looking for a way out. If not for my mum sharp voice, who told me to quickly stepped on my brakes when I was about to crash and somersault with my car , I would have been in ICU by now . Because there and then I was confused as my car was about to crash but she quickly said , step on the brakes now! And I did. Just few seconds I would have hit a bridge and somesaulted cos I was confused but she came quickly on time to diffuse my confused mind . People watching me from the road just placed their hands on their heads with screams thinking have already crashed but my car stop! With my leg firmly on the brakes. I was in shock! Until a man walked up to me with uncertain looks and calmly direct me to drive slowly to a nearby filling station to park and get my self back!

Honestly I thank God I can still connect with them.