₦airaland Forum

Shezkid01:
This house na 17.5m ahh
Omo

Handsum64:
PDP can never recover from the double defeats in 2015 and 2019.
Their goon here is still in severe pains

Birminghamvirgo:
Nothing pain me pass the Barca jersey wey him wear

lastchild:
we igbos are blessed

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Buckeyemedia1:
The moral of the message, don’t wish death on other people. You wish to live but wish death on others? Mumu b
https://www.nairaland.com/6654772/herbalist-predicted-iyabo-ojos-death

Buckeyemedia1:
Will you be alive, that is the hundred Naira question?

Jerryherd:
Why don't you seat down and watch the game

Even Kogi people won't vote Yeye Bello

You know who is in charge once Buhari finally has the balls to let APC have a National convention

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Mangekyo:
If a southerner doesn't become president in 2023, then there will be no Nigeria, starting from that very moment the abokey is announced president �

Jerryherd:
Unfutunately for them it's the President who is the petroleum minister that would influence who gets awarded the oil exploration contract... Am sure if it happens to be Tinubu , Osinbajo or any of the ACN gang that clinched the Presidency then the contract is going to Southern Company

alpha beta oil exploration limited head office Ikoyi Lagos


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Bar1941:
I know Buhari will find a way of seriously dealing with the Kano emirates but I commend and applaud them for taking the bold step. If every traditional leader in Nigeria can do thesame, 50% of problems with those bástards will be solved.

BKayy:
Mere looking at the coffin and the worth go make death dey hungry some people

free2ryhme:
We don hear

DonCandido:
Unfortunately, I do care and will always do.

It is the place some of us call HOME!

Octopusbottle:
Makes me remember wen I graduated then and was looking for job,so I got msg to come write a test by dragnet.i had prepared all night to get to the venue at ikeja side,only for the test to start "thank God I read the guidelines before starting the test,each question required 2 answer,me just weak ,just started doing Baba dada random picking..dey made me look stupid...I didn't even wait to collect pple fone number ,I just left in anger that have waste transport

DonCandido:
Policemen are not aliens, they are Nigerian too.

May God heal Nigeria and save its peoples.

johhnnie:
My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

Romanoff:
Child support doesn't have to go to the woman na. He can pay fees to their schools, pay for health care, buy heir clothes and let the woman and her husband handle accomodation and feeding. She doesn't need to get a dime na.

Romanoff:
This is the reason I called him a deadbeat.
1. It's not that he's incapable of child support.
2. He's withdrawing child support so he can take the kids away.

If man no get, we go gree say e no get.

But like I also said, they them double their hustle and take care of the kids. Especially the wife.

Romanoff:
I also said they can double their hustle and not complain or take him to court.

It's not fair to call them gold diggers and the story we know is the story that we've been told here, so that's all we have to go with. He doesn't need to pay cash to them.

Co-parenting can still be arranged. But to take the kids far from their mother is evil.

Romanoff:
Let the man pay fees and basic health care while she takes care of feeding and housing.

Like I said, they should get lawyers and work on co parenting and child support.

Romanoff:
Milk the man for what?

If they were married and are now divorced, she's no longer entitled to alimony. How is a man caring for his child by laying child support now a get out of jail card?

There are several ways to do it. He can choose their school, last their fees himself, buy their clothes himself and she would just be responsible for feeding them.

How is that hard?

Romanoff:
A struggling mum doesn't equal an incapable mum. I've seen widows and single mother struggle to raise excellent kids.

I'm this case, the father isn't dead, he's just choosing to be a deadbeat so he can take away the kids.

She should stop asking the man for money and double her hustle.

chinchonglee:
Simple!
Women will be dragging kids as if they can take care of them..

@op
Tell your wife to return give the man his children so that he can take care of them the way he pleases

Romanoff:
How is she not capable?

Romanoff:
To those telling him to let the father take his kids, if you were one of those kids, won't you resent your mother for abandoning you?

Wouldn't you ask that "what type of mother will abandon her kids?"

@Op, you knew she had kids when you married her, I know it's not easy, but you both will have to double your hustle. Get other side businesses, cut your coat according to your material.

If you'll need to downgrade their school, do so, if you'll need to move to a cheaper area, do so.

Do all you can to cut cost.

Those kids will never understand or forgive their mum in the future.

Use two side look the matter.

Another thing your wife can do is to take him to court, especially for child support.

Let her get a good lawyer if she wants him to care for his children.

MODIFIED

She can go through FIDA to sort out Co-parenting and child support agreement.

For those coming for me, if you're not capable of talking like a homosapien, don't mention me, cause I no well. I will drag you from here to Timbuktu. So come correct

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

DonCandido:
Policemen are now endangered species in Nigeria.

RIP to the dead.

God heal our land and put an end to the incessant bloodsheds.