Would really appreciate some words of advice please. I'm really sad. No judgmental posts posse.
I conceived my first child when I was dating my boyfriend, now husband and then we got married shortly after I fell pregnant. We had planned to get married even before I got pregnant but when I got pregnant, we then decided to bring the date forward. It was a very difficult period for me because my mum really made me feel bad. I repented to God from a heart of genuine sincerity and sought his forgiveness which I received by his grace. I fell short of the glory of God but God forgave me and had mercy on me.
Fast forward to a year plus after my wedding. My son is now 6 months and we would like to dedicate him in church. We have however been told that the church will not accept him for the regular dedication process where the parents dance out to the front of the church alongside close relatives and friends. What the church has said is that we can only do a private dedication service in a different room after the service. I'm devastated.
My son is innocent and pure. He was conceived from a sinful act but God has forgiven us. I've now been happily married to my husband and father of my child for more than a year. Is it therefore fair for the church to treat my son like he's an outcast and not worthy of being celebrated openly and publicly?
I feel so humiliated and wanted to cancel the dedication and do it in a church where h will be openly celebrated and received as a wonderful gift from God which my darling son is. My husband has accepted it but I'm struggling to do so. The church is supposed to be about love. What is the biblical basis for saying that my son cannot be pubclily dedicated?
Would really like some views here. Should I cancel the dedication and do it somewhere else or go ahead with the private/ secret dedication?
Many thanks for reading.
You've made mistakes and you should move on. Tradition of men is affecting the church. The church probably do not want to be associated with what could look like a scandal. But I see this funny cos if a corrupt politician visits that church, he would be given a front seat. I would advise you to leave where you are not welcomed. People have left churches and nothing evil befell them. You can dedicate the child yourself by praying for him and/or calling matured Christian friends of yours to pray and dedicate him to God. .
MZLady39: This is quite interesting. I must admit that I have little experience with "marine spirits" and "spiritual husbands and wives". I'm not quite convinced about their existence
Wiseandtrue: Charge her to court now This is a country with law and other and not a place where anything goes . Imagine the distance from where she was arrested was it within their jurisdiction She kill person Isn't this an indication of silencing journalism
Imagine their delay tactics
How effective is our judiciary ? Though I'm not a big fan of many MOGs, I think she got what she deserves. Pastors are humans and I can understand the frustration of Ibiyeomie.
i was passin by a particular street and I heard a woman talkin to a boy that beat her son, "u dis were boy, u beat my son dat his head come out wit contour" lol.... WHAT'S YOURS?
Where did you went to ? Where are you people wakaring to ? This Christmas everyone us eating rices and stewes
Ngokafor: ...Nigerian ladies who do not make noise about #teamforeign nonsense or demonise Nigerian males appear to be marrying more and more young and handsome men from other races..
..Nigerian males on the other hand whose past-time is to demonise Nigerian ladies on-line,making hollow noises about #teamforeignladies crap seems to only succeed in marrying their Grand-mother's age-mates whenever they manage to snag a white-lady to marry
...Something is honestly wrong somewhere ..Anyway happy married life to the couple
If you wan marry oyibo, make you marry. It's a free world. We all know that a Nigerian man who marries his grandmother does so for Greencard. Those who grow up there marry classy white chicks.
jumpandpas: Since the military under GEJ refused to give him the copy that is with them, now that he is the president, what is stopping him from bringing it from the military to prove a point?. Are the military still stubborn to bring it?.
skypeme: Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise
My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it
I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl
My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month
My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,
I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her
Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend
Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account
So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira
I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again
I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me
Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?
Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?
She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done
When you marry someone who isn't just working, but a student, you will have to bear plenty expenses. Marriage requires a lot of finance. Since the whole bill is on your head, you won't find it easy. 30k a month is quite much considering how much you earn, but it may not be enough cos she would need to buy clothes, shoes, transport, air time, course materials. That's why it's good to marry a wwoman that's working. As it is now, you need to be firm and tell her to cut her clothes according to her cloth.
TheFreeOne: Can this CPS and his daftus of a boss juxtapose 600 arms/ammunitions with the numbers of farms/properties destroyed and benue citizens killed so far and tell if it's not better to let his people be armed than allow them be continuously killed by Fulani militia terrorists?
Ok o man of peace continue.
By the time Fulani marauders makes total 'mince meat' of your people and you have no one to govern you'll understand the real definition laziness, cowardice and incompetency.
There are some foolish people who do not deserve a response. It grieves me to listen to such thrash . That governor is daft, as simple as that. Have you heard of herdsmen killing people in Ekiti state ?
kilokeys: dont mind those mofos... if you examine the 4 quadrants ; employed, self employed, investor, business owner..
you'll notice many pple are eager to join the bandwagon of being self-employed.. esp in a country with poor ROI.. where u dont much capital to do anything.. at the end of the day.. most self-employed pple barely get by. the dont have the time, money , rest, experience most gainfully employed pple have.
and who told them you cant be gainfully employed and run a business ( with staff) and still do things after u leave ur office?
Some people are just daft. They think they know it all.
Growing up i knew i will never work for anyone in my life
I grew up in a little town in Anambra state, started packing blocks and building materials at construction sites, from there got the money to start buying motorcycle and reselling them, from there started going to China and the USA ,15 years later i Know how much i have in my bank account, no one gave me 5 naira
You live in Lagos, Onitsha, Aba and Lagos and you're still working for someone, you're lazy
Money is the easiest thing to do
Lazy people are the ones who take 9-5 jobs
Selling noodles can make you a millionaire, the question is how do i get the money to start my own business
Again, getting the money for your business is very very easy, i won't teach you what to do, it only takes you being smart and intelligent
Sell your phone for a higher price, buy another phone, flip it for a higher price till you graduate to flipping laptops from there you can graduate to buying stuffs from Alibaba
Money is the easiest thing to make
....but you have a business and employ "lazy" people. Don't worry, lazy people will crash your business.
But the bigger animals often pose a challenge to the carnivorous reptile as the above clip displays.
The footage shows a huge python wrapping itself around a lifeless antelope in the long grass.
With its prey freshly dead, the only struggle is finding the perfect part of the animal to start feasting on.
But the hungry snake makes the mistake of choosing the fallen antelope's head to chomp through.
And it doesn't go to plan.
While trying to open its jaws wide the python's mouth gets caught on the horns of its dinner. The snake recoils in shock as it struggles to rip its lips from the antlers.
For a moment it looks like the reptile's face might get turned completely inside out.
But the python manages to pull its jaws free and quickly slithers off into some bushes to avoid any further dinner drama.
abdeiz: My fellow nairalanders, I'm a Muslim corper from one of the states in the north central serving in a state in the east.
I'm have a conundrum right now, I was lucky to have the opportunity to change my ppa to a new one because of reasons. I have finally gotten a new ppa but the problem is the accommodation provided for me has a dead person buried in it and I do not feel comfortable at all with that(obviously).
The new ppa have claimed that there isn't any other accommodation left which I highly doubt, problem is they furnished the room and provided other miscellaneous just for me to make my stay very comfortable and I'd feel bad if I turn them down.
I decided to wait till when the next set of Corpers are passing out leaving vacancies abound but my cash situation is tight and I can't wait further.
Note: I could accept them and enjoy the place until I get a another new ppa which I'd have peace of mind but I have conscience and I can't do such.
OR
I should reject the new ppa and manage my current ppa with its damning conditions, exercise patience and suffer for a while till I get a better place?
If you believe in GOD, no harm will befall you. I, personally won't feel comfortable in such house but no harm will come upon me. I believe in the supernatural. And yes it is possible for such house to be haunted. But if you have faith in God, it's not an issue.
jeffizy: [color=#004400] Ma, how many lips have you kissed.? Saying something is the best means you're comparing it with others. #mindyourwords #troublefinder Lol. [/color]
EternalBeing: Tackle it medically first, and spiritually. Go for medicals and if they said it not a medical problem, the earlier you go to MFM Church for Deliverance to fire that arrow of impotence back to the sender the better for you. Excesive mastubation caused this permanent damage. Sex is addictive and it has been scientifically proven that excesive sex make people duller and less productive. devil knows this and use this to waste so meny glorious Destinies. There are 2 bloods in Man; the red blood cell erythrocytes carries life-oxygen, the white blood cell lymphocytes carries your protection and defence (spiritually too). Spam is cells; white blood cell. The more you waste it unnecessarily, the more defenceless you (and your Glory) become to microbes and even spiritual scavengers. I've not seen any one that genuinely totally submitted to GOD and regret it later, unless those self-deceiving Christians. Like myself, most of my genuine Christian mates are doing fine now. Unless you are married, abstainance makes you spitually Strong and invincible. To run away from sin is not a favour to GOD but a sure protection for your Glory and Destiny.
What happens when you have frequent sex with your husband/wife ? Will you become duller s you postulate ? There's only one blood in man but there are two types of blood CELLS. Haba
I don't know whether you meant to say sperm or spam. As in spam mail ? So spam or sperm is white blood cell . Na wa. Na wetin I no go hear ?
Franzinni: Sir as a married man myself it is hard to not come accross issues like this, the first thing is it is obvious your marriage is boring... Secondly you seem to have let let go of a lot of things that makes her happy in the first place.... Everyone cheats it could be physical or just a fantasy... You need to lay the cards on the table and let her know how you are hurt... Ask what is wrong and how it can be fixed let her know a fling is always just that but the effect ripples for generation lastly give her the benefit of a doubt but if she doesn't change....
DUMP HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Life is too short for none sense.... Unless you can endure and in that case garri done pass water....
I was wondering if that was the advice you are giving him. Dumping her is not a bad idea since she's still bent on cheating.
Politics › Re: Three Things I Did While In Prison — Obasanjo by vislabraye(m): 8:29am On Mar 27, 2017
. Wonderful !!
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. It happens. U can give your 1st born as first fruit too.
