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QueenSuccubus:
.naaah, this message is NOT applicable to everyone juz bcoz u want to stroke these broke boiz egos...infact, juz go out and see how the earth revolving. U will see there are lot of working class ladies out there with high paying jobs & u addressed them as a BROKE juz bcoz they dont wanna date a broke guy? Really, for real?

The post is directed mostly at broke ladies. If a working class lady chooses not to date a broke guy, its a different thing. But it would surprise you to know that some working clasd ladies are more realistic than the so called slay queens.

5DMindset:
For those of you who keep blaiming Jonathan, it means you do not fully understand America's Foreign Policy machination.

If your country has a President with Vision, that can liberate your country from dependency on the West, your President will be made unpopular by America, they will promote openly the opposition so that a futuristic constructive government will give way to a government that must bring their citizen down to depending on America and her allies.

If your country's opposition is smarter than the government in Power, America's Foreign Policy framework states that America MUST help the non-performing Government in power to crush the opposition totally, so the dummies and Yes sir guys can remain in power as friend and slave of America depending on them for everything.

If your country has educated brains that can help further America's continuous super power egotism, America's Foreign Policy says, offer the brainy guys VISA to come and encourage them to live in US and further America's growth.

If your country has brainy guys in power and have crushed the silly opposition, America's Foreign Policy empowers them to send in spies under the cover of religion, Charity Foundations and even as Embassy works to enter into the country and create wealth to dummies and make them powerful and create opposition to fight the government.

If all fails, then America will have to send in covet CIA and FBI operatives on black budget to come into that country and create drama using the citizens as botnets and when the government responds to the threat, then they activate Trade Sanctions.

As I write this, America has people on every media house and even Nairaland, on the sideline, reading dissent views and will check my IP by contacting web hosts even webmasters to use their botnets to check my laptop if I have my pictures so they can use that to track me and see if I am an important threat to their plans, if I am important enough, then you I will be waited for at the embassy, once I enter US, na from JFK den go take me in and make me offers or literally put accusations against me and pour my photographs all over the internet and destroying my reputation so I will end up being ridiculed if I make statements.

This is America's Foreign Policy and you all, that are castigating your Ex-Presidents have no idea why they wanted Buhari in power, and fraternize with the North and not the more educated and enterprising South.

You all are being used. Ride on in your ignorance.

That's why I'm happy the Democrats lost out. I felt Gej could have employed better strategies. For instance, Jega could have been removed for his compromise.
Well, somehow Gej had a lot of battles to fight.

I just love Toyo baby. She was awesome.

HottestFire:
America and the North can not hide for long on this issue. It was clear that the northerners wanted GEJ out by all means and America was willing to help at all cost.

Devoting your best to your enemy is like throwing your pearls to the swine. Jonathan thought of giving the best to the north but the north turned back at him

You see how karma works, the same America now has Trump against all the high political game play of the Democrats.

GEJ have his own shortcomings that are less acceptable and expected of a leader, how can you say stealing is not corruption...Refusing to see the Boko Haram game plan and lots...

Amanpour of CNN actually tried projecting Buhari's image. He went ahead and made an erroneous comment of 95% and 5% at the US institute of Peace and the rest is history today.

GEJ didn't do what he ought to do. I'm actually pained that he couldn't see beyond his nose. So sad. He made grave mistakes that later came to haunt him

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

You have every right to be angry as a result of the shabby arrangement of the traditional wedding. On the second occasion, she should have explained why she couldn't make it that same day. It show irresponsibility on her part( that's if what you're saying is true. There are 2 sides to a story).
You need to relax and call her. Speak to her why you got angry and see how she'll respond.

Funny thing is that, she should be the one to be eager to get married.

nmreports:
Have you asked her what she would like you to do in other to resolve this?

# Dont mind everyone saying you are not man enough. They are just babbling and they are not perspective.
# Dont also believe or think your wife is doing the right thing... Yes she is unhappy but its you she married isnt it?.
# I dont expect you to force your family to love her... You cant.
# I dont also expect you to fight your family and most especially mum for your wife.
# I believe you must have tried to speak with your mum and family too.
# I also believe that someone is the one sowing this discord in the family but dont resent the person as you could be wrong.

All the above are my personal opinion. What I believe you should strongly do is to sit her down and ask how she would like you to resolve this and do as told.

Good luck delesayo

Good advice...

deleSayo:
Since I married my wife, we noticed signs subtle signs that my family dont like her.

From day one of introducing her to the family, my elder brother's wife treated her with so much disrespect and everyone else followed suit. We ignored this and proceeded to marry.

For trad wedding, I gave money to my parents to help purchase the items for her bride price but on the day,  I was pained to see that the items were significantly incomplete (my wife noticed this too and kept it in her heart). She later told me that she saw my parents looking bored at the church wedding;as if they couldnt wait to leave. I was surprised because I saw that too but thought my wife hadn't noticed.

When we fell pregnant, they failed to acknowledge my wife's pregnancy throughout until the birth of the baby. Furthermore, my mother failed to show up for omugwo, leaving us alone to care for the newborn child.

All these things have built up resentment in my wife. She takes out the frustration on me. Things are so bad that my wife has completely isolated herself from all members of my family. She refuses to communicate with them or attend any functions.

Recently, I got wind that she is making secret plans to abscond with our baby and go live with her mother who is based abroad. Please I dont want to lose my wife. She's the best thing that ever happened to me but I can see clearly that she now despises both me and my family.

The marriage is in shambles. She believes that I failed to defend and protect her. not that I didnt feel the pain. Its just that I didnt know how to handle the situation. Please how can I resolve this?

1stly, why don't your family like your wife ? May be from there you will know how to handle it.
You should also confront your family members about this.
Even though your family does not/did not interfere with your marriage they still need to support you one way or the other.

TinaAnita:
At least dude did not rape his gf so he should drop his pride. Who wouldn't have an erection while carrying a big ass on his thighs? Abeg make he go sidon

Mature response !!

Synord:
mistake ...6,guys ...Probably made the mistake when I was trying to Bring the hot gist to the table..

Again.. u can choose to believe or not... na u know !!!

You sef come social media to reveal wrtin happen. Your relationship go spoil kpata kpata. Lolz. Funny story.

Hotgistnaija247:
Hotgistnaija.com

Inusa Saidu Biu, a police officer from Biu, a local government area in southern Borno state has threatened to kill 200 people if Buhari whom according to him was poisoned but was saved by God, dies.

Saidu Biu described Buhari as the cat with nine lives.


http://www.hotgistnaija.com/policeman-threatens-kill-200-nigerians-buhari-dies/

This is the height of irresponsibility for a law enforcement officer to utter such rubbish.

Ebeleiscorupt:
Jonathan should go and commit suicide if the pain of his lost will not heal.

He was only replying to questions asked him

blackpanda:
Obviously u are commenting based on ur bias or hatred for Obama. What u don't know is that no world leader in his right mind would support the unstable, clueless and corrupt regime of Jonathan. Its not only Obama that prayed for a change in Nigeria, all [b]world leaders [/b]couldn't wait for Jonathan to be booted it. His administration was an eyesore.

And you asked what is wrong with Russia interfering Well, the american constitution is what is wrong. World peace is what is wrong. Security of the international community is what is wrong!

That's a big lie
So what do you think has changed now ?

MsSantaClaus:
. Where did Mark enter this matter? Hypocrits everywhere!! Do you know how many of the great personalities and Stars you worship are gay! How does it change who they are from one minute you didn't know to the next minute you found out?? I'm sure like every Nigerian way back then you were watching Prison Break abi? The Great Michael Scoffield was the hero of everyoone, I hope you all know he is gay too! Yet now Prison Break is back, women and men are still worshiping him, so does his being gay detract from his performance! Mscheeeew!! Let's hear word biko!

Who is this Nigerian gay in the first place ? What talent does he have ? What has he achieved ? Apart from being a famous gay, what else is he know for your ?

Ovokoo:
Popular Nigerian gay rights activist, Bisi Alimi took to instagram to vent at the behavior of Nigerians for treating CNN business reporter, Richard Quest differently despite the fact that he's Gay.

"So I heard Richard Quest is in Nigeria and as usual, my people are drooling over him. These are the same Nigerians that will not allow an openly gay person on their screen, or even give one a job. What is different about Richard Quest that makes his homosexuality harmless but my homosexuality as a Nigeria scary and threatening? Is it that my people think my homosexuality is in some way earth destroying but that is Richard comforting or as a people we just lack pure emotional intelligence to appreciate our own? My heart bleeds for Nigeria, it does make me cry for my LGBT brothers and sisters."

Source: http://ovoko.com.ng/nigerian-gay-activist-angry-nigerians-treating-ccn-reporter-richard-quest/

Shattap and stop whining. Nigerians accepted him because of his celebrity status and nothing to do with gayism. Btw, the same Nigerians welcomed Mark Zuckerberg.

Disappointed to find out he's gay !!

EFCC keep losing cases.

Amarabae:
I am Not from Ebonyi but kudos to umahi,this is a state whose allocation is not up to 1billion,yet they are trying, look at how umahi is transforming the state.
bayelsa with just 8LGAs and huge allocation monthly is owing?shame on fat dickson.
osun? 12 months? nawa o,civil servants there should stop going to work.

Dickson is a dunce

But is there any need for such house ?

Adminisher:
70% of Nigerians know they have NOT made a mistake.
Nigerians know the problem of Nigeria is CORRUPTION.
Buhari is the only member of the elite class who has called it out and is tackling it . Before now it was the lot of social crusaders and activists.
Now you are having 'adult governance' where corporate citizens like MTN and Shell are compelled to face the law.

Who els could have shown the guts to take hard decisions like this?... Atiku?, El Rufai?, Jonathan?
None.

Is he fighting corruption ? What about the N270m used to cut grass ? What about the dollars found in Ikoyi ? Why is he covering them up ?

xxxtedyxxx:
•1 Create the Right Emotions-

It is no news that women are emotional beings. To attract and to keep women attracted, you have to start thinking emotionally. For women, the concept of attraction is wholly emotional, not logical. That is why it is said that " men fall for what they see while women fall for what they hear".

So instead of asking: "How can I get her number," or "How can I get her to sleep with me," or " How can I get her to go out with me this weekend," ask " What are the unique attraction states I can get her into to make her go out with me?"

See for women it's all about states and how you make her feel. There are several attraction states you can create for women: Lust, Love, Laughter, Sadness, Feeling of Loss, Jealousy, Arousal, Trust, Comfort, Intimacy, Connection etc.

However, it is very important to create a balance. Making a girl feels only Lust and Arousal will backfire in the long run because you end up being tagged as a player or she gets to talk herself out of the whole interaction.

Also, making a woman happy all the time and giving her gifts without making her feel Lust, Love, or Arousal, will only turn you into a "Nice Guy". Do you know what happens to "Nice guys" when they try to stretch the interaction beyond the confines of friendship? They get the classic reply: " Can we just be friends," or " You are just like a big brother to me, let's just be friends."

The best stance is to give a woman a feeling of Lust, Arousal, Jealously while lacing it with feelings of Trust, Comfort and Connection.

The question is : how ?

Tallestykk1:
I tell people, especially men that claim feminists that seeds are being planted by women with hidden agenda and these seeds when they germinate and grow will turn men to kitchen husbands.

Women are inherently jealous, competitive, and sometimes insecure control freaks.

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

They've been doing these things to themselves and now they're planning to start doing it to men too and that's the mission of modern day feminism.

Women empowerment program here and there but there's no support for men.
Campaign for girl child education but nothing for the Boy Child.

A look at how women treat their fellow women who are their equal will tell you what will happen to the rest of us when they are completely empowered.

The good news however is that the neglected Boy Child will form a terrorist organization and bomb us all.

. Classic !! Kitchen husband

tochi8888:
3 years ago, I graduated from school, studied Computer Science and armed with a good grade, and a promise not to stay unemployed for more than six months, to me this school has just graduated one of it's best students. Oh!  poor school.
It was a sunny Tuesday afternoon, I stood at the gate of the school with my bags in hands and a mixed feelings of fulfilment and worries.

I was fulfilled that at last I was able to make my family proud that after all their efforts and prayers to get me through school-I made it.

The worries came because I know the next line of action was a job search,  going by the crisis of unemployment in the country and thousands of graduates every year in search for anyhow job.... well, I had just bought a high heeled shoe two months before graduation... maybe it's time for it to get to work now and keep my feet from tears.

I searched for job almost immediately(2 weeks after graduation) I was a hotcake, so i had thought.Requirements I got from prospective employers had to do with me having completed my one year compulsory NYSC program.
Oh!! Maybe those people that cried and shouted about been unemployed are either not with a NYSC certificate or not with a good grade(I laughed at them in my mind)

NYSC

My PPA was a school in a very local part of Ogun State, though I am an Igbo person but my fluency in Yoruba and my socializing abilities made it less stressful. Also as the President of my CDS unit it also made me more prepared to secure a job and also help me improve on my team work abilities, with the co-operation of me and some of my friends we were able to execute a small project in the local government spearheaded by me.
A year passed and am through with NYSC yes!!  Let me see who will say there's no job now
My homecoming after NYSC was like I have just won a reality TV show.. maybe BBN... the difference.. NO #25M price money. My friends and well wishers were around to welcome me. I felt like a hero who had just saved a princess from captivity.

One month later I hit the Labour market once again hoping that this time I am getting a good job. I cleaned and ironed my suit, polished my black shoes and a good tie to match. Having prepared for this interview I set out for the company I was in in high spirit.
I was one hour early for the interview, the early morning breeze from the companies 7th floor window was a trap to make me fall asleep or lukewarm probably, well... I did not fall for that.

The interviewer  was busy answering calls as I was busy answering his questions when he asked "Tell me about yourself" I stopped, He signalled for me to continue. Maybe I was not needed in the first place.... at times he would ask a question I had answered earlier. that hurts. So unprofessional of him.
"Thank you we would get back to you"... He said. Well... I have always seen that response to mean "get out of here that post is already filled up"

And after that, I have tried so many banks, companies, consulting firms, small businesses-even if am to be paid as low as #20K. The only offer I got for a #15, 000 was in a fast food restaurant (but at least you are sure of breakfast and lunch-a voice said to me) from then I knew the devil lies within-I need to move closer to God and silence that voice.

Fast forward to about 6 weeks ago I came across a book I once read when I was in school...This book changed my orientation about school then among other things and also working for someone, depending on things to happen so you can move forward instead of happening to things and moving forward.

This book:- Rich Dad,Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki


If you have read this book am sure you'd agree with me that you are far more bigger than unemployment and stagnation in life. You are bigger than recession and global economic meltdown.  You deserve the best because you now know the principles and ideas to be where you want to be in life.
If you will follow the recommendations and steps prescribed in his book.. Kiyoasaki's ideas will spur you to greater heights.

This book serves as a firm reminder that the more you put into your education, especially your financial education, the more financially independent you’ll become.
One of the book’s major thrusts is the fact that too many people get stuck in a rat race. They go to school to find a safe job with lots of benefits and a high ladder to climb, save their money little by little, pay their bills and expenses, and then spend what they have left over, only to repeat the same cycle for the rest of their working lives. But this hamster wheel never allows them to truly get ahead, or really become financially independent.

Robert Kiyosaki argues that there are other ways to become financially independent. Instead of working for money, you can make money work for you. He talks about real estate, the stock market, and high return-on-investment strategies. If you take the time to really learn a little bit about the finance game, it’s much more of a smart strategy than a gamble.
We all know money won’t make you happy, but it can certainly be a facilitator of dreams and opportunities.

So with this in mind I am saying goodbye to job search and unemployment and stagnation and pity and disrespect because joblessness means lack of everything including respect consciously or unconscious people will disrespect you because you are poor and unemployed not because you enjoy your present situation but because the system does not support and encourage the needs of thousands of graduates every year.
Though assistance is needed... thanks

Some more wise words from Rich Dad,Poor Dad


"Unfortunately for many people school is the end, not the beginning.”

“...One dad had a habit of saying, ‘I can’t afford it.’ The other dad forbade those words to be used. He insisted I ask, ‘How can I afford it?’ One is a statement, and the other is a question. One lets you off the hook, and the other forces you to think.”

“A plan is a bridge to your dreams. Your job is to make the plan or bridge real, so that your dreams will become real. If all you do is stand on the side of the bank and dream of the other side, your dreams will forever be just dreams. First make your plans real and then your dreams will come true.”

"In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk."

You’re only poor if you give up. The most important thing is that you did something. Most people only talk and dream of getting rich. You’ve done something.

"Workers work hard enough to not be fired, and owners pay just enough so that workers won't quit."

"They get up every day and go work for money, not taking the time to ask the question, ‘Is there another way?"

There is a difference between being poor and being broke. Broke is temporary. Poor is eternal.

“Take it or leave it.  I’ve got too much work to do to waste my time. If you can’t make up your mind decisively, then you;ll never learn to make money anyway. OPPORTUNITES COME AND GO. Being able to know when to make a quick decisions is an important skill”

“‘Will a job be the best solution to this fear (the fear of not having enough money) over the long run?’ In my opinion, the answer is ‘no’. Especially when you look over a person’s lifetime. A job is really a short-term solution to a long-term problem” 

“Mind your own business. Financial struggle is often directly the result of people working all their life for someone else. Many people will have nothing at the end of their working days”

Unemployment

I hope you succeed in your business. And I hope that when Shell or Mobil come for you, you will turn them down.
Some people venture into business because unemployment and some as a result of their long term dream. Whichever is your reason, I pray you do well. And also important, leave salary earners alone.

Halfpenny:
This makes perfect sense. No body said that you should sleep with them at all but you should go out on dates until one proposes commitment. This is nothing to do with sex to those shouting slut! It's about meeting other men and having a pool of men to choose from instead of waiting for 1 man to decide if he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Biggest pro of this kinda set up is that you won't be too attached to one man. I will definitely be considering it.

But the first paragraph said "having sex with multiple men" . I think the article is confusing so don't blame people for saying what they said.